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how can i know if my boyfriend is serious to me?
my boyfriend and I are in a relationship for 1yr.& 5 mos..were ok..i know that he loves me but sometimes i felt so unsecured coz he has no plans for us, He always said that we dont know what the future will bring us,i dont even know his parents or his friends or his home..im 27 & his 26..sometimes i want to breakup with him but i just cant coz i love him so much & i know that he loves me too..what can i do?
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What you want is for him to propose to you, do I have that about right?
Well, he isn't interested in that or he would have done it. Rather, he is happy with the way things are now and would like to keep your relationship on the footing it is at present.
So now your choice is:
1) Accept it
2) Break up with him since it isn't moving fast enough for you and you are concerned that you may be wasting your time.
3) Give him an ultimatum.
4) Propose to him yourself.
Now these all carry risks with them. Personally, if you did number three I would tell you to hit the road because I don't do ultimatums. And I would say no to four because I don't do marriage, either and probably then break up with you for reasons I'm not going to go into here.
Your choice toots. Do what's right for your value system and goals in life.
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It either sounds like is afraid of the future and doesn't want anything to change or he doesn't know what the next step is. Have you brought up the idea of taking the next step like maybe marriage or at least just a proposal? Maybe showing little hints and sending him in the right direction might make him act. Or at least consider it. It sounds like he has had a rough past and he is afraid that if he makes plans, something will happen to break them up. Sounds like he is living in the moment instead of looking to the future. Relationships are all about honesty so you should just talk to him about. Tell him you don't know if you can keep pursuing not knowing what their future entails. Send me an inbox if you have anymore questions.
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