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I got a cold sore for the first time last Friday. I'm not sure how I got it, but Friday was also that time of month. I'm not sexually active at all.
It started out being a tiny round blister-looking thing at the corner of my lip and I didn't know it was a cold sore at first. It wasn't noticeable when I closed my lips. Then I guess it was a cold sore, it got a little better (started scabbing) and then it got worse and spread to more than a little round thing. It's now like 1 cm wide on the corner of my lip and visible when I close my lips. It started crusting/scabbing, so I'm assuming that's a sign of it getting better?
Is there a way to help it heal faster or anything I should avoid? I've been putting chapstick/vaseline so it doesn't dry up and crack again (cause it bleeds a bit when it does).
Thanks in advance!
18/F (link)
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Vaseline will help it
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so there is this guy in my history class, we're all juniors, and hes obviously gay. but somehow i always find myself staring at him and trying to talk to him whenever i can. and from all of my experiences with childhood crushes and acting like a total idiot in front of guys to get them to notice me, i'm acting like i'm crushing this guy. i know nothing could ever happen because, as i said, HE'S GAY.
how do i get this disfunction to stop? i'm embarrassed to even have to ask this question, but i dreamed about him the other night and now i'm thinking i might need a little bit of advice.
i'm 17/f, by the way. thanks for any help. :) (link)
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Keep telling yourself "He is gay" the more you tell yourself that the more your mind will eventually be convinced that it can't work out. Instead of staring at him all the time just walk into class and sit somewhere else and try not to stare at him. The more you tell yourself something the more it will stick with you. The guy is gay, He likes men...You can't just turn someone un-gay. I wish it worked that way..."I've known some really cute guys too" but hey it is what it is.
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Well I love my boyfriend of 3 yrs next week with all of my heart im 13 and want to do something more than hold hands. I want a more sexual feeling. I get turned on when ever I am with him. BTW I am gonna be at a club meeting and I would like to do it in the van I have 3 questions
1. Would it be odd if I put my hand on his jeans where his dick is?
2.Any ideas as to what I should do
3.Should I kiss him (link)
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3 Years is a long time I agree
However, Lets back up. You are only 13, You are young. In my opinion a little to young to be thinking about sex. Sex is a very serious thing, It is something you share with someone special, You can see yourself with for a long time. You are only a virgin ONE time, I would wait until you are older.
Anyway, If you DO decide to do it USE A CONDOM!!! Babies are costly and very expensive. Whatever happens don't be fooled by the pull out method either because this is usually why babies are born.
You can spice it up by NOT having sex, You can kiss him, Hold hands, Hug, there are a lot of things you can do WITHOUT having sex.
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My boyfriend sometimes twists my wrists and pulls arms, hair, etc. But he says that he is only "playing". About two months, while playing, he dislocated my shoulder. All my friends say I'm to blame. If I wasn't rude to him, he wouldn't have to put me in my place. But all I said was that I wouldn't get him a soda!
I really love him and he's not mean or does anything to hurt me emotionally me. But I'm afraid that someday he might do something that will end up with me in real pain. (link)
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Yes
Playing or not, He has absolutely not right to assault you. I agree with Razhie because you are his girlfriend DOES NOT make it okay for him to hurt you. Twisting your arms, Pulling your hair, name calling etc. Is all signs of abuse.
What you should do: DUMP HIM
"Playing" is just an excuse, They know what they are doing is wrong so they just need to cover their asses by saying "well I was just playing" Plan bullpoop. If it were me, Your boyfriend would of been gone without hesitation. Trust me, I know what abuse is I've been down that road. DO NOT give him the impression that it is okay because it is not okay AT ALL. Girlfriend or not there is no difference then if he were to go up to a stranger and grab their arm because he was "playing" It is NOT funny and it is NOT okay. You stand your ground and you tell him flat out, If you are going to treat me in an abusive way then you are GONE. Don't say it weakly, be upfront and stern about it. Frankly, I wouldn't even give him a second chance. Anybody that dislocates my shoulder is going to get a low kick and certainly isn't going to be seeing me again. Guy sounds like a complete A-hole. Kick him to the curb!
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Can a relationship work out if both people really love each other and are willing to put in a lot of effort to make it last EVEN IF the guy's friends don't really like the girl? Or will it be too problematic?
It's okay if you honestly don't think it can last, I won't get upset, I just wanna know before I get all too invested.
Thank you! (link)
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Yes it's possible
A relationship shouldn't be what other people think, It should be about the happiness between you and your spouse. The relationship is about the two of you, Not you, him and all his friends. If you two make each other happy then let it happen. Who cares what his friends think, It's not about them.
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19/f
Thank you for reading and deciding to help! First and foremost, let me tell you a little bit about my previous eating disorder. When I was 17, I was diagnosed with anorexia. I turned to excessive dieting as a way to cope from a difficult break up. I was eating about 600 calories a day and working out for about 2 hours. After being anorexic for about 6 months, I was weighing close to 80 pounds. I'm 5 ft. But, after over-doing it for six months, my body couldn't handle it anymore. Without any control, I started bingeing. Mind you, my parents didn't have enough money to put me into therapy. The bingeing was so much harder to stop than the dieting because it became a habit. My body was so weak and all I could think about was eating. Eating all the things I hadn't eaten for months. Before I knew it I was at 106. I thought I was HUGE. Truth is, that now I realize I wasn't. I thought I was super fat then and tried to do everything possible to be at least at 96. It was all about numbers and I lived in this world, trapped. So, I tried the dieting again trying to remind myself that it was only 10 pounds. But, every time I tried it, I kept bingeing and then it was a vicious cycle: binge, purge, starve." Now, the last time I weighed myself I was 118. I have stopped bingeing and excessive dieting. But, I need to feel good physically and there's no way I can feel good weighing this much. This is not my weight! I got laid off my job a few weeks ago, and this week I've been having a bit of a relapse. I just want to eat really unhealthy things. It's really bad. I get very emotional if I don't think I can eat what I want, because it feels like I'm punishing myself. I don't want to punish myself. I just wish I could be at least at 110.... where my clothes fit! Where I feel really good working out. This is not like before where I thought I was huge and i wasn't. I KNOW i'm not huge... I'm a size 4 and I have a 26 waist. I'm not HUGE. But, honestly, I think this had something to do with taking birth control. I feel swollen and I just don't feel comfortable going on a diet because I'm scared of what happened last time. Is there anything I can do, other than exercise because I already do that, to lose just 8 pounds... so I can feel like me again?
thanks guys! I love this site and I think that everyone here has always been very kind and answered everything whole-heartedly. I'm blessed to have found it x3 (link)
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Weight management is all about mind control.
For starters I'd like to say YOU ARE NOT FAT, 110 is NOT fat. 120,130 even 140 IS STILL NOT FAT.
96 pounds at 5 foot, Is underweight. I'm glad that you have attempted to try and get better. I'm not a professional and I don't know everything about eating disorders. However I can say my sister suffered from anorexia as well. If your parents can't afford therapy then I would seek group meetings/support from friends etc. As anorexia leads to hair falling out, liver failure, rotted teeth, and eventually downhill from there. You don't need to loose weight, You are perfectly fine the way you are. My sister got so skinny her ribs were showing and eventually she found herself hospitalized. Thank god she realized that everyone was right and her eating disorder got way out of hand. Support from friends and family helped her to over coming her bad habits. Eating 2 slices of pizza is NOT going to kill you. It's normal and the healthy recommendation is eating 3 meals a day. Your body needs nutrition, vitamins etc.
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14 f.. bf 16 m
WEll..to start off..my bf isn't a perv, or just want's me for my body. We have been dating for awhile and i know that he doesn't just want me for sex..we both like to talk about it..but it's not ALL we talk about. We talk about how he can't wait until he gets to see me next year, and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He acutally proposed to me..its not offical of course...>.< he just asked "dont freak out, but i want to ask you something." So i said " ok?" and he said "what would you say..if i asked you to marry me." My heart started racing and I felt myself get all shaky. i said " i would say yes." than he said So..will you marry me..??" I said " yes." Than he freaked out and was like "omg, finally somone who wants me for me..and who won't ever leave me." Many girls before left him..and one ..;/ his first love..well she died in a car crash..and now he has nightmares of me leaving him. I don't ever want to..but to the question is..i sent a sexy picture to him..he told me i didn't have to at all..and he could wait..but i wanted to..i wasn't naked..i was hidden in his jacket..u could see the middle of my chest thts it. I can trust him with that stuff though..he never broke my trust in anyway. We have been dating for a while now..months..he knows the exact date ..hha I don't remember..i told him thats all im sending nd he said "good because i don't need these.I can wait for as long as you want me to." He's very good to me..we do..have the phone sex..>.< rofl but it was my idea..and it just..happend..We both are sexual like that..and we only share that stuff with each other. He is so much like me it's surprizing. He doesn't have a good homelife..;/ he doesn't have any parents so he lives with his grandmothers and they don't want him. Even though he makes them dinner and cleans the house and what not..he just recently got grounded for no reason..right after making dinner for them. He respects them..and does what they say..he also had a rule where he can't talk past 9..so he has to sneak to call me. ;/ I'm really stuck on this guy i just recently got dentention because teachers saw him hugging me , nd giving me a quick peck after school. He always use to meet me after school, but now he doesn't because he doesn't want to risk me getting introuble because of him. He cried and cried after it ..it really made him feel bad. ;/ You can tell he cares about me..and i wouldn't be the same without him.
Do you think we are doing ok..in our relationship.. ?I always get upset because my parents and his..try to split us up because of our age diffrences..>.< makes us both upset.
please don't be harsh..>.< thanks you.
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The age is really not that big of a difference, If you were 14 and he was 18..Then it would be wrong.
However, You are young. In my opinion to young to be thinking about "marriage". Sending pictures to your boyfriend that are revealing despite naked not not. I would be VERY careful, You say you trust him and everything but anybody is perfectly capable of showing pictures, videos etc to anyone. If you two have sex I highly recommend using protection or birth control. If he is living with his Grandparents HE has to respect their rules. After all he lives under THEIR roof. If that means not talking after 9pm then that means not talking after 9pm. I think you two have an okay relationship, I'm going by what you said above the only thing I might be so so about is you are young and I don't know how long "awhile" is that you've been dating him but don't rush into things.
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Heyy guys, I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for three and a half years.. hes great, i cant see me with any other guy, when it comes to being married that is. He is what every girl wants, a sweetheart, nice, caring, everything! But since June we havent been the best.. let me start from the start..
We started dating when I was 15 and he was 17. I never thought it would last as long as it has, the years just flew by. Hes everything I know and ever wanted. I graduated high school in 2009, and this past summer we broke up, got back together,broke up and i dated another guy and we are now back together.
But lately I have been feeling that I was never a teenager, and I missed out on what a normal teenager girl goes through.
Im so confused its unbelievable. I tried talking to him tonight about, and he understands what Im saying, but he says "just live for right now and not worry about the future" but the problem is idk what i want right now. I want to be a normal 18 year old girl.. Going out with her friends, talking to other guys, flirt a little, but at the same time i know when it comes to being married, hes the right guy. I told him I dont want to take a break bc im feeling like this bc im worried he wont be here again.. I told him I wish we didnt find each other soo young..
idk what to do? should we take a break? stay together? im really confused, has anyone had a similar position like this? (link)
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Personally, I think everyone feels like this from time to time in a relationship. It doesn't mean take a break, It's part of being committed and being in a relationship. If you need too go out with your friends, Make plans etc. It's good to have time to yourself and with friends. Just because someone has a boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't mean you need to sell your soul to them and be around them 24.7 you are still entitled to having your own social life too. This could very well be the issue, Also keep in mind that you are young. A lot of people think it's healthy to date different people, Experience new things etc. Do I think so..well I'm not going to say yes and I'm not going to say no. This is up to you, You either want to be in a relationship or you don't. If you don't you need to tell him. Communicating is the key. YOU need to decide what you want. If you need a break for awhile then take one.
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so my gf started actin really weird when her ex's girl was comming over to see her and her son....she told me there wasnt no one but yes to feeling she was sorry. I went to get my stuff hopin if i took it away it would help her think more...but she rushed me outa the apt cuz her ex pulled in when i was walking out. she tells her roomate i kno i fucked up dont keep rubbing it in. she says she couldnt have sex with her and her roomate said you can tell she hasnt slept and she mopes around and looks like shes been crying. i rode there over the weekend and her exs car was there. if she regrets it why was she there? i tried to talk to her today and she wouldnt talk to me. i kno im stupid for wanting her back i wouldnt jump back into it it would be awhile but whats going on? A few days after all of this I went to see her son and to give her some things back she was giddy and her son missed me. She was talkin bout in the past how things happened and how i used to delete all my text messages except for the ones she sent.( i didnt or wasnt hiding anything). And she said that people just up and drop relationships overnight... But she was nice to me and was honest about saying she hasnt slept with no one, her ex but she did kiss her ex. why would she be telling me this? i realy do miss her and maybe she just needs space because she got her new cell phone and gave me the number and I havent tried to talk or text her in 4 days so whats goin on and whats best to do if i still wanna be with her?
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This question was already posted once before.
Here is my answer AGAIN.
MOVE ON
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ok so im a 16/f and my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and a half, we always have fought quite often but lately over the past 2 months its gotten alot worse.he smokes weed and hes been smoking lately more.when we fight it seems he is the one who escalates it twice as much. his anger is crazY he claims he has a handle on it.he calls me a bitch,says im not enough,i dont make him happy..etc then after he says he loves me so much, i love him so f'in much HELP............ (link)
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I agree with the last person below me 100%
A guy that calls his girlfriend a "B**ch" is simply a jerk. You can say (I love him) but that is just disrespectful and him doing weed is absolutely no excuse. Immature is what I would call it, You are 16, young and there are a lot of guys out there. This is not going to be the only guy you date, As much as you don't want to hear it your boyfriend is verbally abusive. Move on
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Okay so my laptop is an Acer aspire 3662WLMi. I bought it off ebay and yesterday resetted the whole operating system and changed it to windows XP professional instead of XP home.
All the games i have keep automatically closing. Sometimes it lets me play for 5 minutes but neatly all the time i doesn't even let me get to the first level. This is with EVERY game i have(games like diner dash, and other dash games, etc) so they aren't big games at all. I've tested them on my boyfriend's laptop and they work fine, his computer is vista and these games play perfectly and they are originally meant for XP.
Here's the details of my computer:
System:
Microsoft Windows XP
Professional
Version 2002
Service pack 3
Computer:
Intel(R) Celeron(R) M CPU
420 @ 1.60 GHz
1.60 GHz, 1.87 GB of RAM
I also have Avast anti-virus and Malwarebytes anti-malware(and malwarebytes keep saying Error(722,09) every time i do scan.) There's no virus on my computer as i know so i have no idea why my games and internet explorer keep closing.
Dad said i have shared memory, so i don't know if i have a good built in video card/grahics card or if i even have them at all! oh and sometimes my internet explorer shuts down by itself, its taken me 10 minutes just to get to this webpage home!
I thought by completely deleting the system and starting from scratch would fix it but it didnt. I thought it was maybe something to do with Service pack 3, because i used to have a DELL laptop service pack 2 and these same games worked 100% but dad keeps saying its not that. My dad put small flash games on there, you know, like reaallly old small flash games and they seem to work.
Does anyone know the problem? this is driving me crazyy. and this computer is only 3 years old. Previous owners didn't say anything about this when they put it on ebay. (link)
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I've always been iffy about ebay and this is one of the reasons why...
People don't always put the truth about the product they are selling, As the whole point in putting on Ebay in the first place is to sell it and make money.
1. You can try to defrag your computer.
2. You might want to try a system restore (Start-Programs-System tools-System restore)
3. If you don't have a video card then this very well could be the problem, If you are playing games that require high graphics (Example: Last Chaos, World of Warcraft) etc. A computer cannot run games like these if you are just running it of of the built in card.
4. Make sure the fan is working in the computer, Dust built up in the fan will cause it too lag, overheat and a million other problems
If these don't work, Then I don't know what else to tell ya kiddo...
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i've been dating my boyfriend for almost six months now. we've gotten in MANY fights however most of them have been because of me. about a week and a half ago he broke up with me because we were fighting and hooked up with a 17 year old girl in the back of her van (he's 15; he met her on myspace the day before) it's the first thing he's really done wrong, but it isn't even that wrong because we wern't dating? anyway, i forgave him and everything's seemed perfect lately.. did i make the right choice? what could i do differently to avoid fighting? what's a good idea for a sixth month present for a guy that his parents buy him 349838348 dollars worth of clothes everyday, and he doesen't need any cd's or anything. i just can't think of anything haha
oh and by the way dennis, if you know who this is, call me tonight?
(: (link)
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Whoa back up...
Even though your boyfriend broke up with you, He went and "hooked" up with some other girl? Well, If you ask me isn't that cheating? Although you two weren't technically dating at the moment you two WERE dating and the fact that you two were broken up for such a short time makes the issue so bad. Basically it's no different than him thinking "Well, I hooked up with this girl from myspace so now I"m going to dump my girlfriend so I can do whatever with this other girl and she can't call it cheating" The red flag is there, It's NOT okay. The fact that you forgave him... (In my opinion) you just told him what he did was okay.... Sounds like a jerk
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I'm 18. In high school. I live with my mom & grandma.
I've been having serious issues with granny lately. She is ALWAYS in my business. And not like typical parenting stuff.
She goes through all of my stuff.
She looks through my notebook, pulls out tests I did poorly on, and bitches to my mom about my grades. (And I'm a damn good student. One 80 isn't going to kill me) She finds dates of upcoming tests and discloses them to my mother as well (who doesn't even care to ask me about them).
If I leave the room, I have to turn my monitor off or she'll read what's on the screen.
If I have a friend over, she comes down every three seconds to see what we're doing.
I have no privacy.
She also does shit like yelling at me in front of my mom. She is desperate to be in control of the household despite the fact that she makes absolutely no money and jsut...well, lives here. When she has a problem with soemthing i did, she says "IF I WERE YOUR MOTHER, I would ____" when my mom is clearly in earshot. Indirectly telling her what to do.
She yells at me over everything. If I wear somethign she doesn't like, she yells. If I stay up late, she yells. She threatens to wake my mom up and tell on me. I wouldn't give a shit about this except:
1) my mom works two jobs and has trouble sleeping. I comply when my grandma is having a bitch fit over something minor because i think it is just TOO CRUEL to wake her up.
2) if I don't comply, my mom yells at me, angry because she was woken up, and just makes me obey my grandma so she won't have to put up with her yelling and get some sleep.
She is convinced she knows everything. It's ridiculous. She is SURE she knows my friends and their habits better than I do. "Your friends don't stay up late." "Your friends do all their work on time." "Your friends don't dress like this." "Your friends do better in school". There's no arguing with her. And she uses these "facts" against me when telling my mom on me.
She bitches at me constantly when I'm not doing work. Funny thing is, I would gladly do my work were she not bitching in the first place. It's just that her yelling stresses me out and I can't concentrate. So I put it off. But if I don't do the work, she bitches more. Which causes me to put off my work more. And so on.
She doesn't know when to leave a person alone. If I ask her to please stop talking, she doesn't. She keeps HOVERING and yelling and bitching. This, of course, angers me, until she's yelling at me and I'm yelling back at her to shut up and leave me alone. ...And then she tells my mom that I yell at innocent little her for no reason.
She causes an intense amount of stress in the house. She immediately jumps to conclusions and causes problems that shouldn't be there. Once, I got a pimple near my upper lip. She freaked out, called my mom, and told her I had herpes. My mom came home from work panicked and angry. I had to explain myself to her. This could've been avoided if she just shut up and thought RATIONALLY for a second.
She literally has a problem with EVERYTHING not done her way. It is not normal.
This shit was okay when I was younger, but I'm an adult now. I'm going off to college in a couple of months and I will NOT be able to make the transition if I have this old lady breathing down my back and controlling me 24/7.
I've tried talking to my mom about this. She doesn't listen. She only sides with me on this issue when my grandma is bitching at HER over something and telling her how to live HER life. Otherwise, it's "you have to listen to her. my house, my rules."
I'd have moved out the second I turned 18, but I don't have any money. I have like $2k in the bank. I need that for college.
How the hell do I deal with this? (link)
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Have you sat down and talked to Grandma about how she is acting has effect on you? If not, Then I recommend doing so.
For one, This isn't just a controlling Grandma, It's invasion of privacy. Unless you have given her a damn good reason not to trust you. This is wrong, You need to talk to her, Either that or sit down with your mother and talk to her about her behavior. Sit down and explain to her how you are an adult, Let her know that you are not happy with the fact that she is invading your privacy. For all you know she might not even realize it. (I highly doubt she doesn't though) What you can do is put password protection on your computer, The way to do this is to go from the "Start" menu at the bottom..Click the "Control Panel" Enter "User Accounts" and go from there. It would really suck if you had to get a key for your bedroom door... but if that is what it leads too then let it be so.
EDIT: You might want to start looking into people who need roommates. This might be your best alternative.
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i broke up with my boyfriend of two years because i found out he was cheating on me for the last 4 or so months of it. then he went out of his way to turn people against me and break me down with all my weaknesses he knew, it was hell. but now his mom is in the hospital and not getting better. i was tryin to be nice and tell him shel get better n itl be ok and all. he went off on me, it just hurts i went out of my way to try and help them but now im hurt again.. how do i just give up on him? i love his family i dont want any thing to happen to any of them. what do i do? (link)
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That was a shitty thing of him to say to you, However I guess I could understand if his mother wasn't getting any better that he is probably having a hard time dealing with the issue. However, He is your ex for a reason. They say that if you marry someone you don't just marry them...You marry their whole family. If you divorce someone, You also divorce their entire family as well. The best thing for you to do is to stay away from him, Stop trying to help him. Obviously, He doesn't want your help. I know you love his family... but sometimes you just need to let things go. How do you just give up on him? ... Honey you need to cut contact as that's usually the way to do it.
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If a couple has been together for ~1 year, how often should they see / talk to each other? Yes, every relationship is different. But not talking for months at a time is clearly .. not good, and neither is calling each other up every two minutes of the day.
So what's the happy medium? (link)
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It really depends on the relationship, Are you two close?
If someone has been with someone for a year, I'd like to say they would talk on a daily basis and see each other a few times a week. As the whole point in being in a relationship is wanting to see and spend time with your other half. Not talking for months at a time and never calling your spouse...heck you'd like to say you don't even know each other if it got that far. The "Happy medium" would be talking on a daily basis, As 90% of any relationship is about communication. Without that there isn't no relationship at all. Being happy with each other, Communication, Trust, Honesty is usually what it's all about.
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My boyfriend & I have been together over a year.
A couple of years back, he really liked this girl Cindy & his feelings were not returned. Thing is, they were really good friends then, and, because he never told her, are still good friends now.
However, it really brings me down whenever he mentions her. I guess it's partially because I've heard that Cindy looks a lot like me, and partially because I know he has more in common w/ her than w/ me. And my paranoia is probably playing a big part in this, too.
So is it normal for me to feel this way? If not, what should I do about it? (link)
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Have you told your boyfriend how you feel? How it brings you down when he talks about her?
If he talks about her ALL the time, I can completely understand why you would feel this way. As it would be WRONG of your boyfriend to be so focused on another girl rather than his own girlfriend. If she is what he's all about, Then you need to dump him. You could maybe try all hanging out together, It might help ease the feeling for you a little bit.
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Okay, so Im a f/19. My bf is 27. For about a year now ive been wanting to have sex with a girl. But i want it to be really specific. I just want to get F***ed by a girl with a strap-on.
My boyfriend is cool with it, and he wouldnt mind throwing another guy in the mix, but we dont know how to go about finding someone. I would prefer to find a girl who looks a little more like a really pretty guy? If thats possible.
Does anyone know any websites or anything where i can find this arrangement? Please help!!! (link)
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This is a question we cannot provide answers for on this site.
However, I can say as I heard from a friend who once did the same thing according to her experience it can be mentally damaging to do something sexual with someone other than your partner. My friend had feelings of guilt, regrets and confusion. If you DO decide to go through with this make sure you think long and hard about it first. I personally agree with Solid, I think sometimes curiosity really needs to stay that way. This is something you could very well end up regretting because things don't always turn out the way you want them too.
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15/f
Well,here's my story...after so many failed relationships(I've been hit,cheated on,lied to...the list goes on),in a row,I began to realize I couldn't care less about having a boyfriend.Now,when some of my friends even mention love and relationships,I feel sick...it makes me wanna throw up... I don't believe in love anymore...the more love I gave,the more I ended up being hurt.Don't say "You're really young and you have a life ahead of you".... I know that... but I've been disappointed too many times.I've even developed a fear of entering a relationship ever again.I feel as though my heart is slowly turning to stone.Then yet,deep down,I want to find someone who will love me unconditionally...but I keep closing up,more and more as time goes by.Also,I've tried to date a few guys but we broke up because I was too suspicious.I mean,how can I trust anyone after being cheated on so many times? Am I supposed to feel like this? (link)
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Sometimes when someone's feelings have been stepping on repeatably it becomes harder to trust people. You stated you've been cheated on and lied too. Those are the two most hurtful things someone can do in a relationship. You're feelings are understandable. However, I don't want to lecture you but you are young. At your age, Relationships working out and lasting "forever" are very low. The feelings you are experiencing now is normal. I went through the same thing when my first boyfriend had mistreated me. It's what a heartbreaks feel like, You are still hurt and sometimes it takes time to get over it. As much as you feel you can't date again...In time you will. The saying "It happens when the time is right" Is very true. There are many guys out there that will treat you right, You just have to find them. I'd give yourself a little more time to heal first though.
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well damon is 18 and im only 14 which is against the law how i wish he was younger but my mom doesnt know about him and i hate keeping stuff from her because me and my mom are really cloes well anyways i really like him to me he is different. he is funny, sweet, and lovable, he will do anything for me but at the same time if any one finds out about us he will get locked up. he is pulling away because of that situation what should i do? let him go and move on or risk it ?
:( signed by nicole (link)
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If you two date technically he can't get locked up, As long as you two are NOT having sex. However, If you know your parents well enough that they will disapprove then hun that might be a sign to move on. You are a minor, He's an adult. Your parents would have the right to press charges against him. To be safe, I would let it go. There are many more guys in the sea and many that are more your age.
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Well I am in eighth grade and it is now March almost the end of the school year and I have had this crush on a boy named Mike Chamberlain but I don't know if he likes me too and I found out in Febuary that him and his girlfriend Dine broke up and now they are dating again. So now all I do is think about him and don't know if we should just be friends or what and I need to know if he likes me too because he always flirts with me! I am 13 years old and I am a female. (link)
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I don't know how old he is, but assuming he is around your age.
Wait, Give it some time. Patience pays off in the long run. If his girlfriend and him didn't work out once before then it probably won't work out again. I'm sure you will get another chance, Try talking to him become his friend. Don't try to break them up because that could end up hurting your chances of being with him. Talk to him, Say hi and smile. (I'm pretty sure he will get the hint) Just be a friend and in time things could change.
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