ok so im a 16/f and my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and a half, we always have fought quite often but lately over the past 2 months its gotten alot worse.he smokes weed and hes been smoking lately more.when we fight it seems he is the one who escalates it twice as much. his anger is crazY he claims he has a handle on it.he calls me a bitch,says im not enough,i dont make him happy..etc then after he says he loves me so much, i love him so f'in much HELP............
A guy that calls his girlfriend a "B**ch" is simply a jerk. You can say (I love him) but that is just disrespectful and him doing weed is absolutely no excuse. Immature is what I would call it, You are 16, young and there are a lot of guys out there. This is not going to be the only guy you date, As much as you don't want to hear it your boyfriend is verbally abusive. Move on [ OhMyLucyDarling's advice column | Ask OhMyLucyDarling A Question ]
braytak answered Sunday March 14 2010, 11:13 pm: Life is too short to have this much drama over a boyfriend at 16.
You are probably going to say "but i love him so much...". While that may be true, if the love is not returned in kind, you are just going to be miserable.
As hard as it may seem, it may be time to reflect on the fact that there are a ton of guys out there who will treat you with more respect and decide whether it is time to confront your b/f with an ultimatim or just suggest that you need some time apart. How he reacts will tell you what your best course of action is.
update to your response about having to mother him: you are suppressing your needs for him. i think most of the females on this site would tell you that they have seen this in some guys and that you deserve better. this is called co-dependency. below is a website on co-dependency which may be helpful or may be over the top, take it for what it is worth, hard to tell from a brief message where you are really at, smile. all the best to you....
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