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boyfriend + other girl.
My boyfriend & I have been together over a year.
A couple of years back, he really liked this girl Cindy & his feelings were not returned. Thing is, they were really good friends then, and, because he never told her, are still good friends now.
However, it really brings me down whenever he mentions her. I guess it's partially because I've heard that Cindy looks a lot like me, and partially because I know he has more in common w/ her than w/ me. And my paranoia is probably playing a big part in this, too.
So is it normal for me to feel this way? If not, what should I do about it?
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a male perspective: is it normal to feel threatened by another woman? only if you think your relationship is on shaky ground.
He is with you now, for over a year so both of you have invested in this relationship.
Acting paranoid, protective, needy, or jealous will not strengthen your relationship, it can only weaken it.
Your most healthy attitude would be to convince yourself that your b/f made his choice a year ago and you are going to enjoy being that choice. He is allowed to have female friends just as you are allowed to have male friends. So what if he talks about a friend? Yes, talking to your present girfriend about a former girlfriend is somewhat insensitive, but all that means is that he doesn't give it much thought (remember, guys are simple that way).
If you cannot trust each other, the relationship will not last anyway and the decision will be made for you both.
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Have you told your boyfriend how you feel? How it brings you down when he talks about her?
If he talks about her ALL the time, I can completely understand why you would feel this way. As it would be WRONG of your boyfriend to be so focused on another girl rather than his own girlfriend. If she is what he's all about, Then you need to dump him. You could maybe try all hanging out together, It might help ease the feeling for you a little bit.
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