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i think i might have a crush on a gay guy -.-''
so there is this guy in my history class, we're all juniors, and hes obviously gay. but somehow i always find myself staring at him and trying to talk to him whenever i can. and from all of my experiences with childhood crushes and acting like a total idiot in front of guys to get them to notice me, i'm acting like i'm crushing this guy. i know nothing could ever happen because, as i said, HE'S GAY.
how do i get this disfunction to stop? i'm embarrassed to even have to ask this question, but i dreamed about him the other night and now i'm thinking i might need a little bit of advice.
i'm 17/f, by the way. thanks for any help. :)
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Keep telling yourself "He is gay" the more you tell yourself that the more your mind will eventually be convinced that it can't work out. Instead of staring at him all the time just walk into class and sit somewhere else and try not to stare at him. The more you tell yourself something the more it will stick with you. The guy is gay, He likes men...You can't just turn someone un-gay. I wish it worked that way..."I've known some really cute guys too" but hey it is what it is.
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Figure out what it is about him you like. Is it that hes cute and you're physically and emotionally attracted to him or is it that you are more attracted to his personality and quirks?
If it's the first one then your best bet is to try and focus your attention on something or someone else because the more you find yourself attracted to this guy the harder its going to be on you in the long run. And it won't be likely that you can simply be friends because you will fall for him the closer you get. If it's the second one and you are attracted because of his personality/quirks then you will be able to become friends. A gay guy is easier for a girl to relate to than other girls because you are not feeling any pressure or jealousy or competition from him. You may find that your attraction is one of admiration and it could lead to you aquiring a new best friend!
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