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in "the circle" what are they smoking? like are they lighting insense(SP) or somthing because they always get f______ed up and i dont know what there on

they're smoking pot. it was big in the 70s so they had to put it in there.

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why do some people cant cry even though they are really sad?

there's a lot of different reasons... cried to much & can't do it anymore, feel numb, hasn't completely hit them yet, have a lot of pain..

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what are some really good dares or like group dares for truth or dare?

this site is amazing! makes for a really fun night haha
http://www.getdare.com/todarchive/dare.php

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About a week ago my boyfriend fingered me. I was with him for at least an hour before this and I know that he didn't jerk off or anything. But I'm not sure if he jerked off before then and if he did he probably would have washed his hands. Would this kill sperm? Is there any chance I could be pregnant?

you can't be pregnant... chill.

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what are the best lubricants, and also flavored lubes, for oral?

Lubes - most popluar is KY but there's other kinds sold at spencers or sex shops.
flavored lubes...probably something fruity like strawberry, grape or banana.

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okay well my grandparents have a yaht and we jump off the top which is a little ways down into the water and i'm going on it this weekend but i'm almost positive i will have my period which means tampons, which i don't use to many of but would i be able to jump off without it going way up?

since they are inside of you, it will stay where you left it, no worries.

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Sorry for the length please consider helping me.

I'm 15/F my bf is 16
So I started going out with this guy Tony from school. Tony is a stubborn and cautious guy, of anything, not just girls. He has this wall, like mine, just way stronger, he says it's to keep from hurting anyone, not getting hurt. Well we started going out, we fought about it on Friday but we finally started going out. I didn't see him/talk to him over the weekend at all so I sent him a message on Facebook and I said, " I miss you. =] " and his response was, " ok...so how did your weekend go. " I just responded back as quickly as possible and my message back to him was,

" Uhm thanks for not saying it back.
It sucks cause I thought about you all weekend.
So yeah
How was yours?
Are you still gonna hang out w/ me tomorrow? "

Well today he didn't hang out with me but when we were friends he did all the time in the morning, he also gave me hugs, but today he didn't, don't know why. He usually talks to me a lot at lunch since we have both lunches together, and I sit on his lap all the time, even when we were friends. Today I came over and sat by him and he got up and walked away. Some kids locked him out of school so I opened the door for him and he just walked past me. He didn't say hi to me even, just completely ignored me. He came over by the group of girls I was with, looked at Melanie ( his friend/ my friend ) and looked at Karen, and walked away. No eye contact between me and him. After lunch, as we're going to class, I was going to stop him and ask him what was going on, he just stormed off. Said not one word to me all day. Did I do something wrong... Is he mad at me? What's going on?


I care about him a lot. I don't care how much I go through to get his trust (he says I already have it) but I don't know what to do.
I'm really sorry for the length...please consider helping me if you can in anyway.

hmm i really don't know what his deal is...besides just talking about it i dont think theres a way to tell.
ask him again... call him?
if its still weird and he ignores you, it's just not meant to be..

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just wondering. at what ages did you guys have your first kiss? and where was it?

i'm just wondering because i'm 15. i'll be 16 in september and i still haven't had my first kiss.

15 and a half.
i know people that are 19 and still havent so really, no worries.

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i really want to get a smaller waiste size. Right now my measurements are 31.5 26 33.5. I want to get a corset to push in my ribs and eventually give me a tiny frame. the corsets at victorias secret are suppose to be sexy not frame building. does anyone know where i can get one?

my grandma used to wear those from the time she was around 12... she has always had a big waist. they dig into your sides and hurt a lot... and they're just not healthy. you are already really thin! 26 is like perfect already but you can work out.. corsets are not the way to go..

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does anyone know where i can find volcum merchandise besides pacsun?

zumiez

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lately there's been a lot of pressure to get into drinking/getting high. im wondering if when you're high, can you control yourself in any way, like around parents? im basically asking if there's anyway to hide either of these, or if i'll just have to do it and sleepover at a friends that night.

don't give in to peer pressure. if you want to do those things well then fine but if you're just doing it to be cool... you're gonna hate it.
now i'm not supporting these things but i'll just tell you what i know.
high - you can get by the parents. spending the night at someone else's house is probably best but its not hard to cover up. eyedrops and a light spray will do the trick.
drunk - depends how much you drink. sleeping over is best so theres no driving or irresponsible drivers.. it really depends how active your parents are in your life. if they ask 384903284 questions whenever you get home... stay somewhere but if they dont, go to your room and sleep it off.
if you need anything, let me know...

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So...I'm a girl 15/f. I've got a slight hairy problem. I have like female sideburns and they're not that bad but in side pictures they show badly. I have a prom to go to in a while (few weeks) and well...I'm fretting about them. What do I have to do to them? WAX? Shave....something that works because I don't want to look like a hairy dude in my friend's prom pixx!

BLEACH IT!
get sally hansen facial bleach... it works wonders!

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My daughter has just been given a leading role in a play that requires her to use an Ohio accent from the 1930's.

I have tried googling but it's not been very successful. Any assistance would be appreciated. If it helps, we're English.

Thank you.

you're english... hmm..
I'm a total Ohio-an and besides having an American English accent, there's not much to it. just adding an "r" to washing [warshing] and saying "please?" instead of "excuse me" when you don't understand something. there's not southern drawl. if you need anything else lemmeknow!

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I hate my family!
Everyone always takes my little sisters side because she is handicap and 8 and im 15.
"oh kelsey your so immature for fighting with her"
" can you just learn how to learn to shutup"
"leave her alone"

they always catch me doing something.
they never catch her and she is soo annoying.
she pisses me off so much.

and when i hit her its just a tap and she crys and crys and crys!
like i punched her in the face (i wish)

you know everyone feels to sorry for her because she cant walk.
other then not walking she is perfectly normal, like she can talk fine, just like a normal person.

!!
no one sees that, and its pissing me off.
because i cant tell her dad off without my mom yelling at me and my mom knows im right.

the only person in this family that i CAN trust is my older sister because she's already been through problems with my mom's bf. she she actually had the balls to punch him and got charged with simple battery.

please tell me what to do because im about to go crazy.

just don't fight with her. if she starts getting on your nerves, go in your room and get away. it's immature to fight with younger kids.. be the mature one and don't continue the fight. even if she wasn't handicap, it's still immature to fight over stupid things. find ways to get out of the house, lock your door, live with your sister...

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14 f

my boyfriendd really wants to finger me. neither of us have before .. ive givenn a hj hes gotten one and then hooking up and all that junkk.. but i don't know what to expectt on this one. like what am i supposed to do? how much is it going to hurt? what happenss if/when like he pops my cherry or something lol idk i feel raelly stupid asking this but i dont knoww anything about this. im kinda scared but i lovee him and im ready to move onn . help! xo

Have him start out with one finger... this way, it won't hurt, he won't pop your cherry and it will probably make you more comfortable. have him to slow and smoothe so it doesn't hurt. you should probably talk to him about it and DO tell him if he's getting to rough...& by the way, you're still a virgin if your cherry is popped.

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okay so the band HIM.
how do you say it?
is it like all one word like him
or is it each letter?
thanks!

HIM = "him"

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alright, well i'm almost 16 years old and i have never done anything with a guy. i've never had a boyfriend and i just kind of feel out of place. people in my school are really... "physical" and i think that they are crazy for half of the things they do. i guess my question is how far do people really go at my age? is it weird that i haven't done anything? i mean its not that i don't want to, but i was just wondering.

well it really depends... some 13 year olds do more that most 16 year olds i know. average i would say maybe up to a blowjob. most girls don't get eaten out but do give (from what i've seen). then there's a lot that haven't done anything.. trust me, you are NOT alone.

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Not too long ago, I got really, really, really piss ass drunk. I don't remember what ahppened but I got alcohol poisoning. The next morning, my entire body went numb and I started shaking and I couldn't eat or drink water or else i would puke. I'm fine now though. Anyways, my point is that I drank way too much and I havne't drank since then, till now

Now, I just had a beer and I have a headache and my face feels like it's about to come off. I'm not drunk though. however, 1 beer isn't anything for me, i couldn't even get tipy off of one beer when i was 12. I was wondering why I would feel like this now and whether my previous experience from a few weeks ago had anything to do with what i'm feeling now.

alcohol poisoning will do that to you... most people can drink after about a month after and for some it takes longer. you're probably gonna have to wait a while before you can drink more than like half a beer and yes it has everything to do with the experience you had not to long ago. yes, it sucks but life goes on. good luck!

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I need your help deciding what the ideal menu for a public dinner would be.

Not knowing what would be the best dishes to serve is making this an impossible task.

If you will tell me your favorite foods, or point me to your favorite recipes, it would really help a lot.

You can list as many things as you like. They don't have to be fancy things at all. I am all about the comfort food baby! :)

This will be a mixed group of people so I would like to have something for everyone.

Cooking for a banquet is not as hard as trying to figure out WHAT to cook!

Everyone will receive feedback.

Thank you!

P.S. If all that was a lot to digest, pun intended, here is a summary: Please list all your favorite foods.

chicken fingers
grilled cheese
fries
cheeseburgers
chicken noodle soup
ceasar salad
fettucini alfredo (penne pasta)
mac and cheese
breadsticks
popcorn shrimp
ice cream!
shakes
fried rice
bbq anything
salibury steak
beans
cake
brownies
chili
smoothies
coffee
pizza
ham cheese and mayo sandwich
that's all i can think of now... i'm hungry!

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I use drugs often,and it's usually for things like clearing my head so that I can think and for expanding my creativity.It seems really hard to work things out or be creative without them,so what I want to know is;how can I attain the same level of thinking without drugs?How can I bring that type of behavior into my every day life?

go out in nature, run around, listen to music with head phones... close your eyes (i recommend 70s music), burn incense or candles.

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