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14/F.

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i like this boy, he liked me befor and i liked him tobut then he got a girl friend cause i was scared to date last year.

well now i [REALLLY] like him and im not scared of dateing how do i tell him i like him?

i dont want to make our friendship weird.

btw how can you tell fi a guy likes you?

http://www.wikihow.com/Tell-a-Guy-You-Like-Him
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You

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whats the difference between loving someone and being in love with them?

The meaning of these words are different to many poeple. This is how I see it:

love= Immense bond that can NEVER be broken. If you have once loved someone, you always will. Whether it be a romantic partner, a family member, or a friend, love doesn't end.

in love= Being romantically in puppy dog love with a person. You're so caught up in how amazing a person is you fall in love with them. Being in love with someone can turn into love, however, if it doesn't, it can be broken.

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So, I am 14 years old, and I want to be prepared.
this is what is happening.
1)a lot of discharge
2) i am flipping out at EVERYBODY
My sister got her period when she was 14 and a half or a little more, and i was just wondering, is it coming for the first time?

Most likely your period will be coming soon. There is no exact amount of time, but it probably will start pretty soon. Discharge is a sign of your period coming. The flipping out if due to hormones. It doesn't nessicarily mean your period is going to start, however, many girls do feel emotional before their period. Personally, the day before my period I get annoyed extremely easily. Be prepared with pads wherever you go, as you really should be already.

EDIT: In response to your feedback, not nessicarily. Not all girls get cramps, and most don't get them before their first period. They may be a warning sign later to come.

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OMG! when i was walking home, I had made a note to my crush, (typed it, and anonymous ~ god i'm such a chicken) I went to his mail box droped it in and ran a little ways (so no one saw me, or i chickened out) now i'm afraid he'll know it's me! i even typed "pudding is yummy" as a hint (when ever say "pudding" he laughs, thinks it's a funny word) I'm not sure if he likes me though, i looked at every "does he like me" website on the computer he does all the things! (sometimes) other times he kind of ignores me (especially if his sister ~my friend~ isn't home) sometimes i wonder if he uses his sis as an excuse to talk to me, usually i'll end up sitting on his bed, in his room, just talking to him. he is so funny, sweet, and cute. i really don't know what to do the next time i see him! plzzzzz help! and hrry!

Tell him you like him. You don't nessicarily have to live up to the note because that may be awkward. Casually say after he tells a joke "You know, you're really funny. I've always kinda liked you." If he likes you too, he'll tell you. If he doesn't don't frek out. Continue on like everything is normal. If he asks if you wrote the note, say yes, but if he doesn't don't bring it up yourself. It may make things uncomfortable.

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i get so horny sometimes i don't know what to do.
i seriously, just dont know what to do.
ideas? not too dirty, but something?
i need help, fast?
and if its possible something i can do without another person.
thanks a bunch.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=masturbation
Try that when you are horny.

To keep your mind off of these things, try joining a club, a sports team, or some other activity that will occupy your time. It's natural to have these thoughts at a young age. However, you can't let it control your life.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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hi! i'm new to this whole shopping business. need to get some christmas shopping done :)

do i need to be early at stores like best buy/comp usa/circuit city to get the best deals? or can i go anytime? is there a limit to how much the stores will sell? whats going on?

Get there early. Very, very early. You want to beat the crowds. If you get there late, all the good stuff is gone. My aunt goes at 4 ot 5 and then picks me up around 7 because I don't care as much. It really all depends on how bad you want the stuff.

Later then 9-10ish, nothing will be there.

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In your answer to this question http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=520573 you said "I also think rape is acceptable if the mother's life is at risk."

Did you mean to say abortion or did I read it incorrectly. I know what you meant by the answer if the body can't physically have it then abortion is okay), but it was just the way I read it, it sounded like you worded it incorrectly.

I know the question was asked about a week ago, but I thought I'd say something [even if I'm wrong and you're right].

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S_C

Oh lord! I did mean to say abortion. Rape is never acceptable. Thanks for pointing this out, I'll fix it right away.

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hey ; i have a few questions but they're all related -- should i have made them each seperate questions? sorry; please just answer what you can

1 )are there any foods that would make your breasts larger? i have small breasts but they're still growing. i want them to be larger but NATURALLY -- no pills, surgeries. i just want to know is there any food that will give me a "boost" ?

2 ) i'm currently an A32 cup -- pretty small. do breasts have "growth spurts" like your height does? if so about what age does this occur between averagely?

3 )is there anything else that will NATURALLY give me larger breasts? i know that you are born with what you get; but like is there a kind of excercise? i could always use a push-up bra or something as well i know; so please don't suggest that(=

4 ) what is the average breast size (cup) once the breasts have fully developed?

thank you(=

1) I've been told pinapples and milk, but it doesn't really work. There's no harm in trying, but don't be depressed if there's no result.

2) Yes, breats do have growth spurts. There really isn't and age this generally occurs between because it happens more than once, and every girl's body is different. Ther eisn't really a specific age. And they don't grow like 3 cups sizes at a time, just slightly.

3) There are no excercises that will give you big boobs. As you said, you're born with what you get.

4) I believe the average is 34B or C. However, this really means nothing. If you want to know how big your breasts are going to be, look at your mom's.

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Ok, dont think im crazy, or weird, but i have a problem. What do you think the point in life is???
I asked one of my friends, and they said to serve god. and i go to church and believe in god, but im not very religious (ok, well i am, just im 14, and to afraid to tell my parents i dont believe what they and the church (roman catholics) believe.)
I think i have an issue (like...mental, not LITTERALLY, but like depression ,or someting....my friends, even my bf said im bipolar, b/c i am happy, then all of a sudden depressed for no reason)

ANYWAYS, what do you think the point in life is?
thank you, and sorry this is a long Q. im just trying to explain myself!

The point of life is to affect someone else's.

I believe in God. I believe we're here for a reason. I believe that the reason is to change each other. I think we're all here to make someone's life a little bit better. He's trying to show us that there is good and that the one place you can find it is within yourself and others.

I may be too optimistic, but I think if we all just took a step back from our own little worlds, we could really see that all God wants is for us to be able to look back on our life and realize we made an impact in someone else's.

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well me and this one girl, have known each other for about 3 years or so. and we've went out, lasted pretty long. but then we get in a fight or somethin, or her parents get involved and we break up. but i still love her. but... she got a new boyfriend and is suppose to love him and got over me. well the other day i found a neckless i had bought her but never gave to her, so i just gave it to her the next day. so i gave it to her, she said she loved it, wore it all day. and we're kinda talkin now. but i wanna know how i get her back, or do i just need to move on.
-thanks

You need to just move on.

Think for a second. Your with a girl who you're starting to fall in love with. Then her ex comes along and steals her away. How would you feel? Crappy.

This is exactly how the other guy would feel. If she's in love, let her be. Don't make a move until they break up because morally, it's wrong to try to break them up.

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I got these brown COACH shoes :

http://www.coach.com/content/product.aspx?product_no=9475&category_id=159


I know that i can't wear them all the time because somethings just dont match. What color besides the colors in the shoes can i wear with them? I know black and brown dont match but i mean i tried it on together and i really like it. So can i wear black ? I need more ideas

Personally, I would stray away from black unless it was a plain black shirt paired with jeans and then those shoes. Be careful with that though, it may look bad. Use your best judgement.

You can really wear any other color with those because brown is a neutral and matches with just about everything. I would wear something bright colored so I wouldn't be a walking neutral tone.

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Prom. It's glorious, it's fun, it's a chance to be beautiful. I am 13, have light skin, blue eyes, and dark brown hair. I love to dress up, but I don't know. I can pick a dress myself, and everything, and I know I can't wait for prom, but I think no one will ask me. Do guys usually ask girls to 8th grade proms? It's a small event, but still, it's my first pretty and frilly dance. I am so scared that I'll have no one who'll go with me. That I'll be all by myself, with fat ugly people who no one would dream of dancing with. I don't have a boyfriend, and haven't since 1st grade. (Sad, I know) I am not fat, not ugly, but I am... unique-looking. Let me compare it like this: most of the girls I know are those girls with the tanned skin, HCO or AEO written on their shirts, the kind you would see on "Sports Illustrated". I am that girl with pale skin, bug eyes, am tall, and would be more likely be seen as a high fashion model. I just do not see anyone wanting to go with me to the prom. Help?

Don't freak out. Yes, you may get asked, but you may not. It's really not a big deal. Some guys do ask girls to go, however, most people would rather just go with their friends so they are free to dance with whoever they want. I didn't have a date to the 8th Grade Prom, but I did dance with one or two of my guy friends. The world won't end if you don't have a date. Chances are, you'll actually have a lot more fun because you won't be tied down to one person.

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OKAY.. so heres the question:

how can you really tell if a guy likes you more than a friend?

im friends with this guy, and im starting to like him, how can i tell if he likes me too without actually asking him?

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_tell_if_a_guy_likes_you

For other websites:

only search advicenators.com

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what does 'BAMF' mean?


alot of people say it on MySpace, and i have no idea what it means?
thanks!

Bad Ass Mother Fucker.

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like if once someone has a crush on you but youre not sure whether they do anymore..? because if someone liked you in the first place then didnt would it be possible for them to like you again? there must have been something there that they liked?

Yes, it's possible to like someone again. It's happened to me before.

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Lately my school has been talking to us about abortion. They think it's wrong and I'm not sure about it. I'm NOT pregnant, but there are girls in my school who are and each of them has said they wish they would have had an abortion. I think it's wrong, but it could also be for the best if one was to have an abortion.

Please voice your opinions on abortion. I would love to hear everything you have to say about it.

I personally wouldn't have an abortion, however, there are some cases in which I find it acceptable.

If a girl is raped, she should be able to decide if she wants to abort the baby or not. The baby would be a reminder every day of her life that she was forced to have sex against her will. Futhermore, she could have attracted diseases that could be passed down the the child.

I also think abortion is acceptable if the mother's life is at risk. If her body isn't strong enough to have the baby, she shouldn't be forced to have it. If she dies during delivery the baby would die also. It's best to save at least one life.

Any other time, I am completely against abortion. If you make a mistake, you need to live with it.

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i gave my boyfriend a blow job, can i still get pregnant if i swollowed the cum or whatever it's called?

No, you can't get pregnant from swallowing cum.

To be honest here, you shouldn't be doing things of a sexual nature if you do not know the consequences. Please, read up on sex facts before doing anything else.

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One of my teachers told us that we should be saving our work from every year. Do you think we should? Why? & For what grades? Like, does middle school work even matter? Thanks :)

There's no need to save every piece of information. Take out key things or things you just find interesting. It is good to save some things though. Espically in areas such as math or a foriegn language because it's easy to forget formulas or phrases in other languages over the summer.

Yes, middle school work does matter. Actually, I saved my entire binder from 8th grade social studies because we learned some pretty cool stuff :].

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my mom will usually get on to me for picking out high inch heels, and no strappless shirts, i keep telling her no, im in the 6th grade, but i cant get through to her that i am not 2 anymore. what should i do?

Your mother' rules are rules. I advise you to follow them. I used to try to break my mom's fashion rules, but it's a lot easier not to.

Furthermore, you are in the sixth grade. A little young for strapless shirts and high heels. Maybe all your friends are doing it, but honestly it looks a little trashy, espically on someone so young. You may think you're old enough, but you really aren't.

Moreover, you don't want to give boys the wrong idea. Wearing strapless shirts may make you look easy, again, espically at a young age. Your mom realizes you are maturing, but she's trying to protect you. You don't want a boy to force you to go farther and end up with a baby. Wearing revealing clothing shows that you are willing to go farther.

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So Halloween is tomorrow and I STILL don't know what to be. I can't really go out and buy a costume tonight so what are some ideas for a costume that I can just get out of my closet?
Thanks! :)

Hah, I had this problem too. You didn't say if you were a boy or a girl, so I'll try to give mostly costumes that are for generic.

-If you go to public school, be a private school kid. Wear a button up shirt, a tie, a skirt if you're a girl, dress pants if a guy, shined shoes, ect.
-Be a "mad flasher." Wear a trench coat with either a skin colored leotard or just a cool shirt underneath, and randomly open the jacket at times.
-A hippy. Tie dye shirt or shirt with a popular band name from the '60s on it. Regular jeans. Bandana around forehead or a thin head band around forehead/head area.
-Emo kid. Self-explanitory.
-Country girl/boy. Jeans, boots, a white shirt, cowboy hat.
-The Spanish Inquisition. Carry around a big piece of paper with a ? on it and miracas. No one will get it, but you'd still be awesome in my book.
-Wedgie. Seld-explanitory.
-Mime. White make-up, stripped shirt, black pants.
-An advicenator! Wear a blue shirt with a piece of paper in the shape of an A taped on it. Then wear a cape, or fashion a blanket into a cape.

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