Hey! I'm Andrea.. my cousin has a column here, DarkChocolate794.
I've been giving advice here for a long long time. I've been through more than you'll know. I've managed to stay normal thanks to Jesus.
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okay i always seem to be the friend never THE girl. i mean its always this way. i'm really funny and i make jokes alot, but i cant seem to stop. i am also really sarcastic some of the time. i'm the girl who is playing football with the guys at parties or shooting hoops or playing some video game with them or seeing who can chug their drink the fastest..i just have more fun hanging out with guys and i can talk to them more than i can girls because there isnt as much *drama* with them. i really want to be THE GIRL for this kid named matt. hes a great soccer player, amazing football player, smart, funny, hott, helpful. just all around what i want, and i want to know how i can change some of the ways i am so he'll like me, or atleast notice i am a girl and i've got the potentional to be a girlfriend. hes never made out with anyone and neither have i but i know i want to be the first person he ever makes out with! can anyone and everyone PLEASE help me?! thanks so much. 5's help! (link)
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I totally relate to you. Always the friend but never the girfriend. The answer is FLIRT. For a tomboy, this is the ultamit signal you like him. Be yourself around other guys, then flirt a little with this guy, then be a tomboy, then ignore him, then flirt again. When you ignore him I don't mean totally ignore his presence, I mean say a couple words, but not a full blown conversation, and don't be too focused, seem a little detached. It works unless he really isnt into you.
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My boyfriend told me to ask his question on advicenators to see what other guys experience. He thinks he has a problem getting TOO many erections. He gets them constantly, about 6 times per hour. Sometimes they last 1 minute, sometimes 20 minutes. He gets them randomly, even when he's not thinking about anything sexualm like when he's just sitting there or playing video games. He says its annoying and he wants to know if it's normal for all guys, and if not, should he see a doctor about it? (link)
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Im a doctors daughter, and its normal, as long as it doesn't last too long, like 4 hours. Ask is he's had any medications lately, then look up side affects if any.
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okay well me and my friend *alexandra have been getting close lately because ive like been giving her massages and shes been like tickling my arm and all of the sudden the other day we were sitting there and we just kissed, and now everytime i seee her we go up in my room and like make out.. the only thing is IM a girl, and im scared.. but i reallly like her and i was wondering if any of you guys know anything i could say like hey you want to play this game and have it be something that we can both enjoy some what sexually? sorry if your grossed out but im scared and i really want to satisfy her. thanks.. (link)
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Buy vibrators and dildos and have lesbian sex.
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me and my bf were messing around..i gave him a handjob and when he was ready to come he turned to his side and cummed in the grass...about 5-10 minutes later he fingered me..i know the chances are slim...but have any of you heard of a story where a girl got pregnent from a guy jacking off, getting some on his hands, and fingering the girl?
how long can the sperm live for...and its not like he jizzed all over his hands (i didnt see if he did but he probably didnt ..correct?) so i shouldnt be worrying right?
thanks to all who help!!! (link)
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Take a pregnancy test if your worried. Sperm swims, and only 1 sperm can fertilize an egg, so your chaces are slim to none.
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well I have been on discharge for like what, since September and I still have not started my period. My mom started in 9th and my two older sisters started when they were in 7th grade. I am going into eighth and still have not. Do you think maybe I am not healthy down there or like something is wrong with me? Please help!!!!! (link)
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Your healthy, chill. Dischare always comes before your period. Some people don't get it untill they are 19!! I was lucky. My mom got hers on the summer before 6th grade, and I got mine on the summer before 6th grade too even though I was 10! The point is people mature at different rates, so nothing is wrong with you.
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I'm thinking about getting side swept bangs. All of you that have them, are there disadvantages? Does it get in your face, and will it take quite a long time to grow out? I also do track, so will it annoy me when I'm running? THanks (link)
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I have them, and they are easy to manage. I don't grow mine out. I just take the hair closest to my forehead and brush it forward. It doesn't bother me at all, even though I like hair in my face. :P
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ok, I am like in love with babysitting. Like if my mom doesn't tell me someone called for me to babysit them I get upset! I just love kids. So, here is the question, will I forget about babysitting after a while? Because all of my sisters and older people said they thought that they would open a daycare but then they hated it once they turned about 16. (link)
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It's all about your opinion. There is no rule thast says you must get bored with babysitting, so do what you wanna do.
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ok this might be kinda confusing and long..I understand the consequences and worries that come around when you have sex& all that. I love my boyfriend with all that I have, and he loves me. We both gave up our virginity to each other, but the thing is, we weren't safe about it, and we both regret that. We both know that we should've used a condom, but I guess we were too caught up in the moment to realize that not using a condom wasn't very smart. okay so here's the question. I was wondering- the first time we had sex, he pulled out right before he ejaculated, and it got all over the place, but I wasn't sure if it had gotten inside of me or not. after that I told him I wanted to make sure I got my period. I took a pregnancy test because he said it would make him feel more comfortable, even though it was too early to be accurate anyways, and like I figured..it came out negative because it was too early. but then a few days later we had sex again but he didn't cum. so if I get my period, that takes care of both times we had sex, right? I know you can't get pregnant if you get your period, but I wasn't sure if I could get my period for the 1st time we had sex, and still get pregnant because of the 2nd time or not. I'm planning on taking the 2nd pregnancy test today or tomorrow since that would make it 4-5 days before my period is supposed to come. please help! thanks in advance!
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1 period takes care of the whole pregnancy thing. I would be worrying about pregnancy though. Hiv, Aids, STDs would be what im worried about, because if you forget to use a condom, how would either of you know what you could possibly have?
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hey, everyone keeps bugging me about this day at summer school when i was playing catch inside and broke the air condittioner. its like 100 degrees here in texas and evryone hates me, what should i do??? (link)
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Confess and tell the maintenece people at your school to fix the ac. Then apologize to the people at school.
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hi im 13 and there is this kid i like that is 15 i keep sending him messages that i like him but i dont know if he understands them. I also think he keeps sending me messages that he likes me but im not sure is there anyway i can find out if he likes me or if he doesnt how can i get him to like me.
Ps. we both are ino the same things and we always talk on the phone ad online (link)
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Talk to him in person and ask if he likes you. If he does tell him you like him. Then hook up. Hope it works!!!
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Me and my bf have gone out for 3 years and I really love him and all but theres a problem...He keeps trying to have sex with me and I don't blame him cause hes probably horny. But hes penis is too big. I tried to give him a blowjob but I couldn't fit the whole thing in my mouth. And he didn't seem to enjoy it. We had sex once and I was hurting really bad cause it was my first time and he kept putting the whole thing in and it hurt.
Does anyone have any tips of how I can pleasure him without hurting myself or having him not like it at all?
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I would've waited untill marrige, because if you break up all the pain was for nothing, so I would suggest not doing it with him again. Tell him to masturbate or somthing. If he can't acsept that, break up.
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I'm Jewish but not religious.I want to become Christian but what exactly does it mean to be Christian.What are their beliefs? Also, does anyone have any words of wisdom to make me feel better when I don't feel that important? (link)
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Judiasm is the base of the Christian religion. Christians believe in 1 God. He goes by 3 names. The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is on earth with us all the time, Jesus stands by the right hand side of God, The Father. All of them are the same 1 person though. The right hand has more blessing, and you can't eat certain things. Pick up a Bible and it will have answers. Then TBN and EWTN are both Christian networks on tv. Many different kinds of Christian religions are out there. Catholic, Pentacostal, Lutheran, Baptist, and so on.
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ok about what age/grade do boys start to get attracted to girls and start to think more about going out or being boyfriend and girlfriend? (link)
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Around mid 7th grade and beginning of 8th grade, since guys go through puberty around this time.
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Over the past year I have felt some changes. I notice that I wasn't interested in guys anymore. And after talking to my family and shrink about it, we came to the conclusion.. I'm a lesbian. After admitting this very tough situation to my friends, I sort of lost them. It seems they don't want to be friends b/c they are afraid of the situation, and they don't want to be friends with me. I thought admitting this to my friends was the right thing to do. What should I do.
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Make more friends- acsepting your new sexuality, because some people aren't used to the idea of their striaght friends turning gay, because most people are gay from birth.
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Hey! I was just wondering if anyone new what "grinding" means? Is it where you get on a guy n kind of dry hump him? Please answer as soon as possible! thanNks (link)
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Grindin is when a girl rubs their butt against a guys dick. So yea, it's basically a guy humping a girls butt. It usually happens when people are dancing, but make sure teachers/adults don't see you doing it.
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my boyfriend and i have been dating for long than a month and couple weeks and he hasnt even kissed me yet. i kissed him once on the cheek but that doesnt matter. what is he doing???? (link)
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He may not be ready, or maybe he's unsure of how to kiss, or unsure of if you want to. Let it happen naturally, so it won't be awkward.
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My friend knows I like this guy and that i hooked up with (she too hooked up with another boy) but the other night she was flirting with the boy I like and have hooked up with! Isnt this against girl code or something? She was standing on a table while he was laying face first on the table trying to act like a stripper..then she started to smack his ass..my other friend who knows i like the boy also joined in..what do i make out of this? do i talk to her or let it go? we never fight really.. (link)
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This isn't really against girl code, because you didn't claim him. Yea, it's an unwritten rule that you don't mess around with your friends crush, but in reality, girl code would only respect your point of view if he was your bf. Yes, its mean to go after your friends crush, wether they like him or not, but its not like he's cheating, but if the guy knows you like him and went on with his behavior, hes not into you, and you need to find someone else.
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Okay..sorry in advance if this is long but i really need some advice. Alrite, well a few days ago me n my boyfriend were talking on the phone and he said what would happen if we broke up and i went out with one of your friends and that right that pissed me off and hes like sorry i was just thinking about something to talk about..since we are both very shy! But then i was talking to my boyfriends brother today and he said he told your friend *stacy that he liked her on the phone last night and i was like WHAT THE HELL! and then i talked to my boyfriend and he was like oh my god shes ugly and 2 years younger than me and all this stuff and he was like i only like and love one person and thats you. But i dont know if I should believe his borther..when i was talking to *stacy she said he said he was gonna tell me all this stuff because stacy wouldnt go out with him (my boyfriends lil brother)so im freaking bawling right now because im so stressed out and i dont know who exactly to believe..also his lil brother told me (about 3 months ago) that my bf was cheating on me and that proved to be true but it seems lately that me and my boyfriend have had the "perfect relationship" i love him so much..also stacy talks to my boyfriend on the phone for like 3 hours but she says they talk about me the whole time? So please help me! Sorry its so long! (link)
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Sit down with him, and have him explain everything. If he fails to do that, dump him, because everything people are saying about your bf if falling on you. You'll know by then if he can't explain all this you have to dump him, because it's not worth it if there is so much confusion. If he can explain, both of you can sort things out.
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well here's how it goes I what to get this guy a gift , I was thinking a cd but don't know what rap singer thats in style.need help guys please speak up (link)
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50 cent, Ludacris, The Game, Olivia, Ying Yang Twins, Boyz in Da Hood, Fatty Koo, Fat Joe, and Bow Wow. For more ideas, go to www.bet.com, or watch Bet on tv.
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me and my b/f have been going out for a month and i never see him...he is always working. he said he will make time for me but he never does....i really like him and dont want to dump him but idont see how we can go on like this!!! (link)
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Dump him. If he can't make time for you, you shouldn't waste your time waiting for him to make time for you.
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