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My Life
Over the past year I have felt some changes. I notice that I wasn't interested in guys anymore. And after talking to my family and shrink about it, we came to the conclusion.. I'm a lesbian. After admitting this very tough situation to my friends, I sort of lost them. It seems they don't want to be friends b/c they are afraid of the situation, and they don't want to be friends with me. I thought admitting this to my friends was the right thing to do. What should I do.
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well what i would do is beat the shit out of them for being homophobic. and well you should get some friends who you can relate to. who are lez too. im lez also. i never really had this problem. well what the hell am i say my hole school is homophobic some how it just got out. so if you need some one to talk to you can e-mail me at salem_22_@hotmail.com and dont worry you'll find a nice girl to love you back. ;)
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I say to try and make new friends that will accept you for who you are. They weren't true friends if they could drop you like that. You need friends that will understand you. Maybe find some gay guys or other lesbians that will understand what your going through with the friends situation or just find some new friends (strait or not) that will understand. anyways, I'm here for you. Leave one in my Inbox if you need anything else or just want someone to talk to.
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Remember that everyone in their younger years has identity crises, so it may just be a phase, if it isn't, go find new friends. Friends who don't tolerate people of diverse qualities aren't worth keeping, and it may be hard, but it shows that you are strong when you can admit truths to yourself and be comfortable with them. I say meet new people, go into the dating scene and all, and you'll find new friends who accept you for who you are! Good luck.
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Just talk to them. Tell them that this doesn't change who you are. You are still their friend.
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They may be awkward with it at first but I think any true friends will get over it. If they don't then you are probably better off anyway. You don't mention your age but younger people may just be uncomfortable and not really know how to react. Give them a little time and if they don't come around you'll make new friends. Just be yourself and don't let their reactions upset you. :)
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hey!
i think that you should talk to your friends about it and say you guys liked me before but now you dont cause im a lesbian and say guys that not right. its like being racist. you guys should love me no matter what i am. you did before. and if they still dont wanna be your friend its there problem not yours. there just being stubborn and rude.
good luck
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so im straight but my friend just came out too and told me shes a lesbian. Your friends are probably just stunned because they didnt know. But hey they will get over it and if they dont then they arent worth it! Try making a different group of friends and in all honesty people might act different around you but its ok to be different so live your life to the fullest and dont let other people affect you! think of yourself as unique i dont know if you believe in god but he made you the way he wanted you to be. so know that even though you might be different then other people in the way you prefer your sex partner your still a normal person! good luck with everything!
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It's totally ok to be lesbian, I'm not but I mean if they can't except you for who you are, then they aren't friends and will never be. Get true friends, ones that will get your back when you need it. I've been in doubt that mine would, but after some time I reealized that it's the little things.
Hope I helped!
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Make more friends- acsepting your new sexuality, because some people aren't used to the idea of their striaght friends turning gay, because most people are gay from birth.
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A true friend stands beside you regardless of your sexual orientation.
If you haven't already, visit PFLAG at www.pflag.org. It's a wonderful information source for gays, lesbians, bisexuals, their families and friends. It gives tips on coming out, how to deal with someone coming out, common questions, and resources and groups to help you and them understand the decision you've made.
I admire your courage at being completely open with your friends. It's wonderful that your family is supportive of you. So many parents these days turn their backs on their kids because of their sexual orientation.
Good luck and I wish you all the best.
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don't be afriad of what they say because if they gossip then they aren't friends true friends wont care if you're gay bi striaght they will just like you for you and will help you with ne other problem jus like the people who answered this
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It was the right thing to do,the fact that they have ditched you, means they wernt friends anyway.
Get out there and embrace who you are,this is the first day of a whole new life .You will soon find that rather than being an outcast,more and more girls are choosing to live this way .If you dont know where to start ,try online ,there are many chat sites and dating sites to get you going .
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if they are going to be like that and not love you for who YOU are they are not friend you want to be associated with.. and if you still want to be associated with them.. you need to talk to them about it .. and let them no that even no you are a lesbian.. it doesn't change anything between you and your friends.. let them know that it's not like your going to be all over them and that stuff because i k now that's what there fearing.. they are fearing that you will start to like them and stuff and they would feel uncomfortable around them ... you know? how i helped and if you need anythign else let me no..
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k, just so you know there is absolutly NOTHING wrong wtih being lesbian! ok, and your friends dont really have a say in how you feel. tell your friends that you cant help this and you dont want to be treated any diffrently. tell them that you like to be there friends and your stilll the same person youve always been. hope i helped out and feel free to ask anything else.
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