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ok well I have this friend and she said to give me her im address what does that exactly mean? I have a hotmail account is you email on hotmail your im address? please help if you can? (link)
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I think what your friend is asking you for is your Instant Messenger (IM) address also known as a screen name. There are such programs that have IM such as AIM, Yahoo, MSN Messenger, Skype, etc.
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Me and the boy I was dating broke up almost a month and a halff ago and we dated for two years. I'm 20 and this was not my first love. We were in a long distance relationahip and problems with trust came up. It was never involving girls or anything, he lied about drugsso it was a very off and on again relationahip but very passionate. He hit rock bottom in may and finally has been clean and in college. The only problem was we broke up cause there were trust issues and I was extremely unhappy. Now thay the time has passed and I've talked to other guys, I can't stop thinking of him and how I'm never gonna find someone like him or that makes me feel like him. I'm busy at college amd I go and have fun but hes always in the back of my head. None of my family or close friends think I should be with him and I can understand why but I can't stop myself from playing the what if game and praying that he comes back one day. Well yesterday he commented on a wallpost and I messaged him on fb cause I felt like it opened the doorway. He always kept the convo going and it was nice talking.to.him but it made my hopes get so high up only to realize hes probably just catching up :/ I really want him to want me back but.its hard to tell his intentions. and plus in my head I.know its too soon and the distance is more than 6 hours. But then I think of new years and valentines day and things like that and I really dont want him to celebrate them with another girl but I know its.inevitable. I want to get over this but im not sure if me thinking of him this much is a sign that we are meant to be. in the future. But I dont know how to move on without.l thinking of him so much. Plus the second.he.gets a gf its gonna crush.me! I really dont know what to do :/ (link)
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Break ups are hard no one sad they were easy. You mentioned though how you were unhappy and there was a problem with trust in the relationship. Those are two reasons that you guys aren't together. You may just be thinking of him and wondering how he's doing because you care about him. I'm no longer in contact with my ex and from time to time he pops up in my head. I care about him but we both changed and he's a different person than who he was when I dated him. The thing that helped me move on was to pick out all the things that weren't working in the relationship. I asked myself what were the good things and the bad things. I weighed out both the pros and cons. Think about what you really want. I believe you also said at one point he was involved with drugs, are you sure you want to be associated with that?
Relationships are nice all but its a lot of work. You need to start thinking of you and what you want and whats going to make you happy. Good luck!
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The last time i wrote on was April, its October. I think i have matured and have became more wiser. My life has change oh so much. The main problem i have is is forgiving my family. Such as my mom and my cousin and nephew. I say my mom, because i really cant look at her the same way . We were in NY , my moms boyfriend and i gotten into a huge agrument. He called every curse word and she did NOTHING BUT tell him to shut up . Thats it ! I told her how i felt and she hasnt done anything at all life back to the same way. I was never very fund of him anyway. Shes changed so much. My cousin and nephew because they betrayed me they had the audcity to sit and both talk about me on the phone. I trusted them and thought theywould be the last ones to talk about me and TRASH talk about me, i was in tears when i heard about it. I havent talk to them since 2 months.
Forgiveness? Its so hard you forgive when youve been hurt by the same person & its notthe forst time. Any advice. (link)
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"Through out life people will make you mad, disrespect and treat you bad let God deal with the things they do cause hate in your heart will consume you too." - Will Smith
Forgiveness is probably one of the hardest things to do. Letting go of something whether you were right or wrong is hard. It's better to let it go instead of containing that anger. I'm not saying you should forget it but don't hold the grudge. Family is family.
With your mother, she is your mother at the end of the day and she has chosen to be with this man. Maybe you don't like the way she is acting when she is with him but you need to accept that. If she's happy she's happy. Forget about him and worry about the relationship with your mother.
As for your cousin and nephew, if they want to talk behind your back let them. It only makes them look bad. Maybe try not to be so close to them now since you know this. Be aware of them and maybe don't give out any information that you don't want them gossiping about.
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Hello 16f
I'll try to make this short, and I guess this isn't as big of a deal than I think it is but still..
Well, I met this guy on this one site I was using and we started talking about one of my favorite movies I like, Heathers. Our conversation was simply amazing, and it was the best convo I had with a guy since my ex and I first started dating.
He was afraid to tell me his age, after I told him mine..later on I find out he's 28. It didn't really bother me since I just liked talking to him, nothing more. We talked on MSN, for a lonnnggg time and he told me he doesn't want to talk to me anymore because of his age.. and I hate this because just when I find a guy who I can relate to, he's way older than me.
He's apparently married to.. so ;/ Oh well, I just wondered if there was any POINT of us even talking..and relating like we did? I know we just talked for one day, but I never related to someone so well.. and it's depressing.
I don't want to hear .. oh he's a perv blah blah.. I know he's to old for me and I have no meaning to be with him. I know there is NO chance..but I just want to know what the hell the point was? I just want to find a sweet guy..that's all.
Thanks. ;/ (link)
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I've had many conversations with guys that I've talked to once online and it sucks. I make a connection with them and then I never hear from them again. I guess in a way its just nice to socialize and maybe take away something from the conversation. It's fine if he's married to talk to him as long as there is a boundary. I work with a guy who is married and we talk all the time. I'm in a relationship and my co-worker knows that so its fine. We are friendly and that's it.
Unfortunately if he doesn't want to speak to you because of your age than thats his decision and you should respect that. Keep your head up and don't let this get you down!
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She does not eat all that much and is pooping alotmaybe 4 times a day ?! (link)
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I have a short haired kitten who is 2 months and he poops about 2 to 3 times a day but I feel as though he eats a lot. Has he had his first year shots yet? I would record his eating habits and bathroom habits and make an appointment to visit the vet. Good luck!
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My period is about five days late, and I was planning to take a test if it doesn't come by at least Tuesday. I was wondering, could there be other very early symptoms of pregnancy?
I've noticed I have had a very weak bladder since Tuesday. I use the restroom at least six times a day, and being in high school it's tough for me. I've had frequent cramps and nausea and I also have been extremely exhausted. I go to bed at nine usually and coincidentally my body has been craving so much. I always come home and look for anything fruity or chocolatey and with no success, end up making some calming tea.
My boyfriend doesn't know about this yet, but I'll admit I've been pretty stupid while intimate with him. I feel like if I'm so dumb. I know the risks yet I choose to make this decisions anyway. I'm getting more worried day after day, and I have heard stress could cause a period not to arrive, but my period has never been this late before and I've been through way more stress than worrying about being pregnant... (link)
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Okay first things first:
One: You NEED to relax! Easier said than done but it is definitely something you need to do. Worrying about whether you're going to get your period is going to cause mroe of a delay.
Two: There is no way to tell whether you're pregnant or not. The only way would to get a pregnancy test. I would give yourself til the beginning of next week and if you still don't have your period then you should get a test.
Three: When girls are on their period they are more likely to go to the bathroom. Cramps and nausea are normal as well. Also when you have your period you tend to get weird cravings. Girls also tend to eat a lot so just because you need to go to the bathroom a lot and you have cravings doesn't mean you're pregnant.
Four: I wouldn't tell your boyfriend until you truly know whether you're pregnant or not. There is no sense in telling him and worrying him about it when you don't even know yourself. If you aren't then good. If you are then it's time to talk to your boyfriend about what to do.
Five: This scare should teach you a lesson about how you should start using a condom or even consider taking brith control!
I'm sure everything is fine, worry about it when it happens for now just relax and try to stay calm.
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I was wondering if the following constitutes verbal/emotional abuse when committed by a parent.
- Name calling/yelling often
- Neglect/ Not being spoken to for a while
- Having standards that make the child feel bad
- Manipulation
- Talking badly about the other parent to get pity
- If the child lives in fear of being physically abused
- If the child feels unloved or like the parent simply cannot be pleased
Emotional/verbal abuse/neglect are hard to identify since you can't see the scars. And I was wondering if all of these must be present for it to be abuse.. or just some of them? Does anybody know? Thank you very much. (link)
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I took a family violence class once and it was very interesting about what I found out. I might be able to help out with this question.
- Name calling/yelling often
Name calling is never a good thing to do to anyone let alone your own child so yes this can be considered abusive and harmful. Yelling is on the border. Parents can get angry and yell...do you remember a time where you got angry and yelled at someone? Was what you did abusive?
- Neglect/ Not being spoken to for a while
This is more childish then abusive it's not really harmful. This is what a child would do to their friend this behavior is not considered abusive.
- Having standards that make the child feel bad
I'm not sure what you're talking about here. Are there things that the parent does on purpose to the child?
- Manipulation
This can go under mind games which to someone people can be abusive. There are some people that can manipulate you into doing things but that doesn't necessarily mean they are abusive.
- Talking badly about the other parent to get pity
That's not abusive, that's a parent playing the 'victim' card and wanting for someone to have pity on them or have sympathy for them. Although it is not a good behavior to have it is not abusive.
- If the child lives in fear of being physically abused
Then clearly that is abusive if the child is scared of being physically hurt.
- If the child feels unloved or like the parent simply cannot be pleased
Not so much abusive its more based on their behavior!
- Unavailable with emotional problems. Laughs it off or refuses to discuss things at length or give advice. Won't talk about problems with communication or care that the child feels there is no relationship.
Again that's more of a behavior!
Abuse is a state where you feel threatened and feel degraded by someone. Most of the things you listed were behaviors which don't count as abuse. Someone can be self destructive more so to themselves than to you but if there is a physical and mental abuse involved then clearly there is abuse present in the relationship.
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So, every year my school does a thing for the seniors called senior retreat. For a couple of days we go out of town together and stay at a convent.. and just really get to know each other. We pick out roommates, have little activities, and get letters pre-written by our parents for the event. But one night, everything gets really heavy.
I've heard from every class of seniors before me that people usually cry on the second night. There is a sharing session where you bring something from your past that means something a lot to you- maybe it represents personal growth or a fond memory. I thought I would bring something with a sad memory and something with a happy memory, depending on the mood of the night and what people seem to be sharing most.
So here is my question: If the mood is depressing I want to share my story about my dad being verbally abusive. Trouble is, I don't want to trash him... yet I want to share this part of myself with people to show hope if they struggle with something similar, or know someone who does. I also want a certain teacher to notice, who has always really stood out to me- but I'd never tell him my home situation like that.
I am not currently abused or anything- and I was never physically abused. Nothing illegal or anything. But I used to struggle a lot... So I was wondering if it would be appropriate to share. I'll do it if it feels right.
Things people have shared in the past that is SUPPOSED to remain confidential:
Abortions
Drug addictions
Etc. Gloomy stuff... so I think my story fits in quite nicely. Do you think I'd be sharing it for the wrong reason?
Thanks for bearing with me through the long story. God bless, all advise = appreciated greatly! (link)
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I mean I guess its up to how you truly feel about it. Do you really want everyone to know what has happened to you? You have to be comfortable with it, in a way it could be good because there maybe someone else who is going through the same thing. In another way there are people who may turn this out to be a negative thing or even make rumors. You should think of the consequences that you may face after talking about this.
I remember at the end of my senior year my class got together and we sat in a circle. We talked about a lot of things some happy and a lot of sad things. It was nice to know that we as classmates trusted one another with our stories. There was one girl who had a story and she broke down while telling it...I felt so bad for her and what she went through. It showed how strong she was and how much she had grown as a person though. I had known this girl for four years and in that four years my respect for her grew more and more.
So think about how comfortable you feel among your peers and if you really want them to know your story.
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I am a biology major in college. My grades are usually A's and B's but this semester is really hard for me. It's almost over and I havent had any A's on any exams. Im taking Chemistry and Physics 2, along with Ecology, with a few others. My main concern are my science classes. I might get C's in these courses and I am really worried about my future, medical school wise. I am very stressed all the time and am almost in constant worry. I barely sleep and I don't have any time to myself. What should I do to relieve some stress? (link)
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My advice is to try and give yourself some me time. Whether its taking a 15-20 minute break once in awhile. When I was in college I use to listen to my iPod and draw for a bit or even go out for a walk. For me walking is the best because it clears my head. What I have been recently doing is meditating which has been really nice. Try to make sometime for yourself because if you keep stressing about this its going to make matters worse.
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At school, there's this classmate on mine who teases me and bully me a lot. Often, he would throw the basketball at me and act as it were nothing. Sometimes, he would also tease me when i look at him when he said something weird or done something stupid. What's confusing me is that no matter how hard i ignore or tell the teacher about his bullying, he just keep on doing. Occasionally he would spurt out something stupid like '*Joanna wants to be in the dance' or something when i clearly dread those things.And then, what really trouble me is that he seems to know when i glance at him and will took that opportunity to tease me to the rest of the day.
I don't really get it, I'm the type that is fat and ugly and don't pay much attention to guys ( I avoid them ). One of his friend told me that i was fun to teased. My friend told me to ignore him and sooner or later he'll get bored, but its been almost 10 months now and it's not helping. I tried to confront the person several times before, but he just wont listen.
I wonder if should just go and filed it to the teacher as a minor bully case......
Help anyone? I'm totally confuse what i should do. (link)
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Well if you have tried everything you possibly can there's is nothing more to do than to report it to a teacher. And if the teacher doesn't take action than go to the guidance counselor. If that doesn't help go to the principal. And if not that then go to your parents and tell them. SOmeone has to be aware that you're being bullied. You have asked him to stop and he won't now you have to get the authorities of the school involved. Clearly this kid is not happy with himself or something in his life thats why he's picking on you.
And anything don't put yourself down like that. Be more confident with yourself and keep your head up!
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how long does a hickey last
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I think it really depends. Sometimes a week or two usually. If you are trying to remove it either use cover up. Or what you can do is freeze a spoon and then take it out of the freeze and apply it to the hickey. It might not remove it fast but it helps a little.
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my 4 year old is for lack of a better term a terrible child. he randomly screams loudly for no reason, he tries to steal things when we go ANYWHERE, he abuses our animals, his baby (7 month old) brother and me. my husband and i argue everyday over my son and his bad behavior is getting to be a problem in our marriage. he lies for no reason about things he doesnt have to lie about. he calls me names, curses at me and hits me in the face. he refuses to listen and almost always does the opposite of what is told or asked of him. we have tried everything. he gets verbal warnings, time outs, toys or favorite things taken away, soap in his mouth, even spankings. its embarrassing to take him places and im afraid that if his terrible behavior continues in public and at school CPS will become involved and i love him despite his actions.
P.S. my husband and i dont curse at one other and there is absolutely no abuse in our home where can those things be coming from? (link)
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He maybe acting out for maybe attention or it could be ADHD possibly. I'm not a doctor so I'm not sure. I know a friend of mine had trouble with her daughter and she was trying to find the answers. Maybe the best thing is to go to the doctor and find out his opinion on the matter. It's better to get to the root of the problem now that have these problems as he gets older. You definitely don't want this behavior to continue to his teenage years. So try going to the doctor or maybe a therapist and see if there is a behavioral problem he has or something. Good luck and hang in there!
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Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now. He treats me really good and we hardly ever fight. Weve gotten in a couple arguments and he gets on my nerves sometimes but who dosent ? The problem is for some reason my Bestfriend is always rolling her eyes or annoyed with him and I don't understand why. I think she thinks he's annoying but I love him and I want her to like him too since she's my Bestfriend. I know if I confront her about it all she will say is that she likes him and not to worry. So I don't know what to do. Should I just let it go or what? (link)
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It's normal for couples to fight. It's whether you or not and you you find a solution.
I have a friend who dates this guy. I'm nto a huge fan of him because he didn't treat her well in the beginning and I still don't think he does. I realized though I need to deal with it because if my friend is happy then I should be happy for her. I get along with the guy for her, after all she's the one dating him.
You can't make your friend like him or even love him because you can't force her to do anything she doesn't want to. Now in a perfect world that would be the case but its not. Don't searching for a problem if there isn't one. As that Beatles song says 'Let It Be'. And the phrase 'If it ain't broke don't fix it'. Just leave it alone and live it the now when a problems arises I'm sure your friend will come and talk to you about it.
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So my boyfriend and I have been dating around a year. We always hold and hands and he puts his arm around me, but we didn't kiss for a long time. Once we finally kissed like a month later he tried to French kiss me, I was expecting it so I backed away but the next day I gave in. After that we were sitting together one time and he starts kissing me and then puts his hand on my chest and then he even slipped his hand in my shirt an was messing around. I liked it so I didn't stop him. The very nex day we were watching a movie and e does the same thing but this tine he slipped his hand down my pants.
Now two days ago we were walking an we went under a bridge and started making out and he kept lifting my shirt up and finally I undid my bra and he was touching and kissing me there and he unbuttoned his pants and put my hand down there.
None if this feels wrong because I know I'm not going to actually go all the way, and I love him. But I don't know if he'll stop loving me or feel differently about me. Should I stop doing this stuff? I'm 16 and he's 14 by the way. (link)
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If you're uncomfortable with what he's doing then you need to tell him to stop. He won't stop caring for you because he'll respect your wishes by stopping. At least that's what a real boyfriend would do.
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I really want something just so original and funny for this halloween at highschool. Something that invlolves me carrying a boombox with music that goes with the costume would be nice. Any suggestions? (link)
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Ever seen that music video called "Boombox" by The Lonely Island.
Maybe you could get some inspiration from that video. It's a basic costume too. Jeans, T-Shirt, jacket, sun-glasses, boombox, and finger-less gloves.
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I am with a wonderful man whom I love very much. We are in a long-distance relationship but he is endlessly sweet, thoughtful, and loving to me. We talk every day on Skype. In most ways I feel I could not ask for a better man. But. He has been hurt by many women in the past, and he's told me many times about how for 20 years he put a wall around his heart and did not love anyone, nor allow anyone to love him, for fear of getting hurt again. He tells me that he was miserable before I came along. He also says that if I were ever to leave him, he would put the wall back up around his heart, would be miserable again, and would not even try to love anyone else for the rest of his life. (He is 50, so this is conceivable, and knowing him, I believe it might actually be true.) Although we are close and can talk about most anything, I would not marry him yet, because we just don't know each other well enough. I love him because he is a good soul and there is no one with a kinder heart, and don't plan to break up with him, but I still don't like feeling pressured to stay with this man forever or else always carry the guilt of breaking his heart and ruining his life. Is this normal, or am I being a jerk, or what? (link)
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When someone says something like that it definitely puts up a red flag. I'm not trying to be mean but he sounds like a 'victim'. Love hurts sometimes. Don't get me wrong I love being in love but it can hurt like hell.
It's unusual for a man to be so honest but why is he right away talking about his past relationships and why he has this 'wall' around him. Everyone of us has had a 'wall' it's not about finding someone to knock it down it's up to the person to knock down their own wall.
You're smart to not rush into the relationship wanting to get married away. Just be mindful of whats going on. Just because someone may want you in their life forever or wants to marry you doesn't me its necessarily right for you. Continue to follow your heart but remember to use your mind as well!
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Do you really believe that there is life after death because I've been thinking of ending mine. Than I realised eternity is a long time to spend in the company of the things that made me end it in the first place. (link)
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My advice is worry about the life you are living now and worrying about becoming the best you can be. People will be people. There are many times where people will get on your case but its best to not let them get to you. Think positively! I've been in some tough situations that have made me feel worthless but its not worth beating myself up about it. Sure I've made mistakes but the only regret I've ever had is how I've never stood up for myself as much as I should have.
Have you ever read the book 'Tuck Everlasting'? If not it's a great read! The character Tuck says "Don't fear Death but fear the unlived life". Don't listen to what other people say, people are always going to say what they want. Listen to you, and follow your heart and mind in what you want to do. Don't let people get you down. I also suggest you go speak to someone whether it be your guardians, guidance couselor, friends, or even a therapist. Keep your head up!
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Okay, I'm just going to start off by saying that this will be a little long so please bear with me :) Oh and this might seem totally materialistic and shallow but I can't help it, its really a problem for me.
I'm 14 and I'm seriously depressed. Here's the problem: I'm poor.. Not 'can't eat three meals a day' poor. Just 'can't afford a car' poor. Like middle class. Not that I care much about these things but everyone at my school does. My dad gets like a very normal salary but that's not enough so my mom has to work too. Together they put enough money for me to go this really good school. The thing is, the school fee is REALLY high, for people like me I mean. So only rich kids go there. So my parents own like this little apartment where we live, and they can buy me fancy clothes and stuff (not branded but not that its a problem) and we can eat out once in a while. But we just can't afford a car. And that's why I have no friends at school. Everyone there is rich, and has a car. I'm not and I can't afford one. So all my classmates are really mean to me. They don't talk much about money but that's why they don't like me. Shallow, I know, but what can I do? The guys totally ignore me and when they talk they're really mean. The girls act like they're my friends but they bitch about me all the time and they only call me when they need something done. I try so hard to fit in but I'm afraid I never will.. I can't become rich just to get friends. That wouldn't be real friendship. Is money all that matters? If so, will I always be alone in life? I'm sure I'll never ever get a boyfriend but I reaally want a friend :( And since I'm focusing so much on this my grades are dropping.. I used to top the class but now these mean girls do. I'm afraid I'm letting my parents down now too.. what do I do? Please don't make rude comments, reply to me only if you really want to help. Thanks in advance :) (link)
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Let's get things straight here.
One: You are not poor. Poor would be you can't put food on the table or you have no shelter and you can't provide for you or your family that is poor. Middle class is not poor. People on wealthfare are poor.
Two: You should be thankful for the things you have rather the things you don't. Appreciate what you have now! Your parents are providing you with an education by paying for a good school. They are buying you clothes and you have a home to live in. Some people don't have any of that. Some people can't go to a good school and some people can't afford any clothes nor food.
Three: If the people at your school only care about having a car and having materialistic things why would you want them as friends? Material items don't make friends it's your personality and hwo you treat others that makes friendships last. The people at your school seem shallow if they won't talk to you because you don't have a car.
Four: Money isn't everything. Yes it's needed to pay the bills and to obtain necessities but it isn't everything. You want friends to like you for you not just for money. Money changes people. Maybe instead of trying to find a friend at school try joining a club outside of school or do an activity outside of school where you can meet other people.
You need to not let these girls get to you. You need to stand up for yourself and take back control. Think about what's important. Maybe try speaking to a guidance couselor at school who may point you in the right direction. I'm sure at your school there is someone going through the same thing as you and they are just afraid to speak out about it. Another thing, if you really want a car go get a job and start saving up for a car of your own. Don't leave it up to your parents to buy you one!
Hang in there and if you want to change something then you need to find ways to do it yourself!
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The guy i am in love with says that he loves me too but he never acts like he loves me..he never calls me,never cares about me.only texts me once a day or two days saying that he misses me...i don't understand him..help me plz (link)
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Do you really think someone that loves you would treat you like that?
This guys is playing games with you and its best you start playing one of your own. It's called ignoring him and moving on! You can do better than this jerk.
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Im 13 and i want to dye my hair black and hot pink. But my parents say im not old enough. I think its soooooooooooo unfair. What do you think? (link)
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Whether you like it or not whatever your parents say goes. As long as you live under their house you live by their rules. Of course you think it's unfair now but you'll understand when you get older and have kids of your own someday. When you're 18, in society you are considered an adult then you can do whatever you want then.
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