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Hurting for a while, is this normal?
Me and the boy I was dating broke up almost a month and a halff ago and we dated for two years. I'm 20 and this was not my first love. We were in a long distance relationahip and problems with trust came up. It was never involving girls or anything, he lied about drugsso it was a very off and on again relationahip but very passionate. He hit rock bottom in may and finally has been clean and in college. The only problem was we broke up cause there were trust issues and I was extremely unhappy. Now thay the time has passed and I've talked to other guys, I can't stop thinking of him and how I'm never gonna find someone like him or that makes me feel like him. I'm busy at college amd I go and have fun but hes always in the back of my head. None of my family or close friends think I should be with him and I can understand why but I can't stop myself from playing the what if game and praying that he comes back one day. Well yesterday he commented on a wallpost and I messaged him on fb cause I felt like it opened the doorway. He always kept the convo going and it was nice talking.to.him but it made my hopes get so high up only to realize hes probably just catching up :/ I really want him to want me back but.its hard to tell his intentions. and plus in my head I.know its too soon and the distance is more than 6 hours. But then I think of new years and valentines day and things like that and I really dont want him to celebrate them with another girl but I know its.inevitable. I want to get over this but im not sure if me thinking of him this much is a sign that we are meant to be. in the future. But I dont know how to move on without.l thinking of him so much. Plus the second.he.gets a gf its gonna crush.me! I really dont know what to do :/
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its had to be in love with some one and break up but sometimes you just have to let go of him because if u don't he is just gonna hurt you more..you will find someone who makes you happy and who loves you not to hurt you ..
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Break ups are hard no one sad they were easy. You mentioned though how you were unhappy and there was a problem with trust in the relationship. Those are two reasons that you guys aren't together. You may just be thinking of him and wondering how he's doing because you care about him. I'm no longer in contact with my ex and from time to time he pops up in my head. I care about him but we both changed and he's a different person than who he was when I dated him. The thing that helped me move on was to pick out all the things that weren't working in the relationship. I asked myself what were the good things and the bad things. I weighed out both the pros and cons. Think about what you really want. I believe you also said at one point he was involved with drugs, are you sure you want to be associated with that?
Relationships are nice all but its a lot of work. You need to start thinking of you and what you want and whats going to make you happy. Good luck!
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