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forgiving others .
The last time i wrote on was April, its October. I think i have matured and have became more wiser. My life has change oh so much. The main problem i have is is forgiving my family. Such as my mom and my cousin and nephew. I say my mom, because i really cant look at her the same way . We were in NY , my moms boyfriend and i gotten into a huge agrument. He called every curse word and she did NOTHING BUT tell him to shut up . Thats it ! I told her how i felt and she hasnt done anything at all life back to the same way. I was never very fund of him anyway. Shes changed so much. My cousin and nephew because they betrayed me they had the audcity to sit and both talk about me on the phone. I trusted them and thought theywould be the last ones to talk about me and TRASH talk about me, i was in tears when i heard about it. I havent talk to them since 2 months.
Forgiveness? Its so hard you forgive when youve been hurt by the same person & its notthe forst time. Any advice.
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The best revenge is forgiveness.
It makes you look like the adult.
Plus your not preoccupying your mind with your nephews and cousins words. You release it's hold over you.
With your Mom, she may not just drop him because she has interests with him. I got in political debates with my mothers boyfriend and she never defended me. I can take crap and give it back too. Honestly this probably wont be the first time you get in a fight, you just gotta be strong. Again don't let words bring you down.
But keep in mind you learned from them what not to do. They provided you a life lesson.
Last but least, we are all human. Chances are they might look back on it and feel they were wrong. Hasn't that ever happened to you?
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"Through out life people will make you mad, disrespect and treat you bad let God deal with the things they do cause hate in your heart will consume you too." - Will Smith
Forgiveness is probably one of the hardest things to do. Letting go of something whether you were right or wrong is hard. It's better to let it go instead of containing that anger. I'm not saying you should forget it but don't hold the grudge. Family is family.
With your mother, she is your mother at the end of the day and she has chosen to be with this man. Maybe you don't like the way she is acting when she is with him but you need to accept that. If she's happy she's happy. Forget about him and worry about the relationship with your mother.
As for your cousin and nephew, if they want to talk behind your back let them. It only makes them look bad. Maybe try not to be so close to them now since you know this. Be aware of them and maybe don't give out any information that you don't want them gossiping about.
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I do agree with you fogiveness is really hard even if they did something bad to you. I would listen to my heart if Iwas you and you always have a gut feeling that tells you what and what not to do so listen to that. If you really think that you should give them another chance then do that but if you dont think they deserve another chance then dont give them another chance. You just have to remember that they are part of your family(your mom and you cousins), but if you are really not that fond of your moms boyfriend that is ok too! Everyone has there own oppinion but you have to remember that if your mom is happy with him in her life then you should really be happy for her even though you really dont like him.
Hope I helped and just remember they are part of your family and you should give them another chance. I know for a fact even though that you might decide not to give them another chance deep down inside I know that you love them and will love them for the rest of your life.
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