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Hello im 19 and my boyfriend who is 21 wants to join the army/military. Not full blown army but like working with computers and such. He asked me what i thought yesterday and it was kind of a shock. He said him and one of his friends were talking about joining and he convinced him to go. He basically is just waiting my "approval" but i want him to do what makes him happy. He said after he goes for basic training he will only have to leave one weekend out of the month for like 2 years. Im not really sure how anything works. He just brought this upon me yesterday. The only downfall is that he will be gone for 10 months touring afghanistan or something. We've been together for about 2 years now and 10 months is a long time and i dont think we can go without seeing each other that long. He is basically only going into the army for the money. We are very serious and he said when he comes back he'll have money so we can plan a wedding and maybe some other big stuff. If he goes i dont know how im going to cope with him being gone we see each other every day! Any ideas or suggestions? I do rate!
-Thanks
Just think that if he goes he'll be doing what he wants and it will be making him happy try and think positively thinking negatively will only make the sitaution worst and you'll make yourself feel worst
keep yourself busy don't sit around if you do you'll think about how much you miss him hang out with your friends and family to take your mind off what's happening normally when people go into the army they find some way to contact their loved ones
if they've got time think about all the good times you two have had together he won't be leaving you forever the best thing you do is be there for him and support him in his decision(:
m/16
ok so i met this girl this past summer she was in a two year relationship with a guy and he cheated on her and she found out and she was completely crushed and heartbroken she loved him so much he was her first and everything but anyway i met her on myspace she friend requested me and i looked at her photos and commented one saying she was pretty and she commented me back saying awww thanks and that's where it all started we were just friends for a while she was talking to my best friend and they dated for about a week and things started to fade for them and i started to like her during all this because we talked pretty much every day and so then one day i told her and she said she was nothing special but i told her you're very special to me and so then we started talking and then i told my best friend we were and he got really mad and we got in this huge fight that lasted for about 2 months but it settled down and we became friends again but back to this... she would thank me every day for helping her and being there for her after her ex and she told me she never wanted to lose me and i definitely didn't want to either that whole summer we talked i sent her goodmorning texts every morning and still do she loves it but that whole summer we never got to see each other which was rough on us she lives 35 minutes away from me but after 4 months of waiting to finally meet her it happened she cheerleads and i showed up to one of her games as a surprise it took me a while to find her she texted me telling me that they won and i replied by telling her i was there she didn't believe but i told her where i was and she found me i don't think i ever smiled so much in my life she was so beautiful even they she disagrees with me on that but she was we did more hugging than talking it was just awesome and from there on out i went to every home game she had everything was just perfect i hadn't been that happy in 2 years as months passed things changed the week before christmas i got to see her and i gave her, her present i got her titanic her favorite movie and we just chilled for a while and then as i had to go we hugged and i went in for a kiss and she turned away so i just kissed her on the cheek later i texted her asking why she wouldn't kiss me and she said she had a lot going on so i just left it alone a couple of days later i asked what was going on and she told me she was thinking about a lot and she said she didn't wanna talk about it so i again i just left it alone and then finally 2 days after christmas i asked her if she still liked me and she told that she thinks its better that we're just friends i didn't know what to do or what to say i had been through this many times before but this time it was different it hit me hard i cried in the shower that night for about 20 minutes eventually i settled down two days later she texts me asking me if i was alright and then she told me that she was sorry and that i was the most amazing boy she had ever met and to stay that way and she said she couldn't imagine life without me so things got a little better but i still feel a little pain i still really like her and have feelings for her and here lately from what i sense and see i think she still has feelings for me or at least i like to think that but she doesn't seem the same ever since she just wanted to be friends we never dated we just talked for a really long time because she wasn't ready for a relationship yet and i told her i'd wait for until she was ready but i just wanna know if she still has feelings i just can't stop thinking about her i wanna know
Yes i do think she has feelings for you considering everything you both have been through i don't think she'd give up on you and abandon you i think she's just going through some rough times the best thing you can do is be there for her like you were in the past be patient wait and see what happens don't jump to conclusions so quickly her feelings may change from wanting to be friends with you to something more you never know talking and getting to know one another better is good that way you guys aren't rushing into anything(:
I'm 19, my boyfriend is 21. I still live at my parents house, as I attend a local college. My boy & I are in a long distance relationship, & haven't met yet, but are scheduled to in mid-march.
I just told my dad about it today, because I planned on buying my plane ticket tmrw. He freaked out horribly, told me I'm banned from talking to this boy, end it now, blah blah blah. But, I'm terrified that if I don't do what he says, I will be kicked out of the house, & I'm not finanically able to live on my own yet.
My boyfriend lives in the UK, I in America, and I'm going to have to tll him we have to break up. This is killing me, I'm going to be severely depressed, I can already tell. And I know he will too. I need advice on what to say to him?? I do love him, but I can't go against my dads wishes. Btw, my dad has his mind firmly made up, & there is no way I could continue on with my boyfriend. I mean, maybe years down the line, when I am financially independent, and can make my own decisions. :/ But I don't see that happening, after I break this news to him. :(
Please help!! :(
Tell him that you can't disobey your father and go aganist his wishes and that he has his mind made up
already and there's no negotiating with him but if it was up to you you two would be together and wouldn't have to break up say that you do love him but your father is making the situation tough and making it impossible you don't want to risk getting kicked out so sadly your only option is to end it things weren't meant to be there's plenty of other boys out there that's if you choose to date i think right now you staying in your parents house is way more important then the relationship(:
Okay Im a 19 year old female. I just moved in with my boyfriend (who still lives with his parents) in july and im pregnant. We live in a small town there is nothing to do and I dont know anybody here but his family. I dont work because there isnt any jobs around here and my boyfriend doesn't want me to because Im pregnant. He does work and his brothers go to school and everybody takes off everyday and im here at home by myself everyday with no car and nothing to do. I've been getting really depressed lately i cry for no reason and I think Im homesick. I miss my family but I don't want to hurt his feelings please help is it something i'll get over or am i depressed I don't want to be and i've heard it's not good for the baby..any advice will help thank you.
Yes i do think it's something you'll get over try and think positively thinking negative will make the situation worst and you'll feel worst too while
your home alone try calling your family that will probably help with you being homesick girls who are pregnant experience mood swings and that could possliblity be making you feel depressed take deep breaths try and calm yourself down go outside and get some fresh air(:
My first son I didnt pack anything to go to the hospital because he came a month earlier. Went to my doctor appt and I was 4 cm already. I am now pregnant with my second child. What are we supose to pack? If I have her vaginally itll be one night and a c section is two nights in the hospital unless there are complications.
You should probably pack clothes for yourself for after you change out of the hospital gown maybe some clothes for your new baby drinks and snacks in case you get hungry or thristy a car seat for the baby digital camera so someone can take pictures of
the baby once it's born slippers a robe socks if you do stay more then one night(:
Hope i helped good luck!
okay this guy likes me back he told me but he also told me he doesnt really want to date right now and he said he was sorry...
whats that supose to mean?
will we ever go out or what?
should i still hang out with him and like him?
or am i waisting ym time with him. i really like him...
I think he meant that he doesn't want a relationship right now i don't think the two of you will go out seeing as it seems like he doesn't want a girlfriend and is confused about what he truely wants i think your wasting your time you should just move on there's plenty of other boys out there
and you've got tons of chances for relationships ultimately it's your choice whether or not you want to continue to hang out with him but i say you shouldn't since it seems like he isn't interested in you..you can't make him like you if he doesn't
So i met a new guy on new year's and we've been talking and things seem to be going good. He texts me everyday and we've hungout maybe 5 times since .We were hooking up the other night (just making out) and he tried to go further with me and i said no and he was fine with it and i told him "im not just a hookup,im actually looking for a relationship" and he said "i really do like you,im not an asshole and im not trying to just hookup" So i gave him the benefit of the doubt but i didnt do more than makeout with him..thank god.Ever since then,we've been fine and he would text me and stuff but i'm just still scared that he's only trying to hookup with me . He's been kissing me in front of people and holding my hand and whatnot but i'm just still worried since that's what happend with my last guy.I guess attraction is the first thing in getting to know someone because i just met him about 2 weeks ago so i have to give it time. I'm also wondering if im being to easy..like when he texts me,i always write back and i haven't blown him off to hangout yet..but i haven't done anything more than makeout with him . I basically just need some advice on whats going on so far.I've never had a boyfriend and this is the closest thing ive had to a relationship since my last guy. Thanks so much : )
I don't think you should worry he wouldn't of said
he's not a asshole and that he wasn't trying to hookup if it wasn't true so yes i think he's telling the truth and isn't lieing to you i don't think your being easy if you two didn't get along or weren't doing the things you are doing then you'd have a reason to worry just because your last boy was like that doesn't exactly mean that the one your with now will be the same every boy is different everything seems to be going good for you so just continue with what your doing it seems to be working(:
i'm really thinking about going down south for college. (i live in ct right now) the reasons for this is because my boyfriend, the love of my life who i've been dating for the past 3 years broke up with me...i've been hurt in my life but this time i was completely broken. what makes it even harder for me is knowing that he's going through depression. he's become suicidal because of his parents getting divorced and his mom cheating. i feel absolutely terrible and i told him i'd always be there for him. however things are hard because he lives a half hour away from me but he knows he can talk to me, and he does. i feel bad saying this but his depression has kind of rubbed of on me. i've been having suicidal dreams lately and i'm not happy where i am. i hate the cold and i hate the life i'm living right now. i'm just not happy. things remind me of him and how we used to be so happy together. i think that maybe if i go to school down south i can start a whole new life and i won't be reminded of me and my ex being together as much. i will still be his friend and i'll still talk to him and be there for him but i need to start something new. i want a new life and i want to be happy. and i love beaches and warm weather. do you think i should go?
Yes i do think you should go if you think it will make you happier then go for it because if you don't you'll end up regretting it and you'll continue feeling sad only you can make changes in your life nobody elese your in control if you don't like something change whatever you don't like until your satisified yes you will start a new life down there and you'll probably meet new friends experience new things so yes i say you should totally go for it(:
Good luck!
I've battled with severe and not so severe streaks of depression for what's going on to be 5 years. It started as small dips of sadness for no apparent reason, then when I found reasons- that's when the suicidal thoughts came. I haven't always been suicidal when I was depressed, it only appened about three times, and eventually I was able to stop thinking suicidal thoughts completely. Last year was my severest case of depression ever. I got addicted to pills, I was closed off, it basically was ruining my life and my relationships with family, friends, boyfriend. But I worked through it. It took a while, but I got alot better. I was truly happy for the first time in my life. But then I ended a serious relationship, I moved away from my closest friends, and basically the perfect catalysts needed to trip off my depression went into action. I need to know if what I have is deeper than just emotional, if the chemicals in my brain aren't normal. Should I seek medical attention?
Yes i do think you should seek medical attention getting addicted to pills and possiblity overdosing and being sucidal isn't healthy it's very serious you want to live your life happy and not constantly be miserable you can't help yourself so let doctors who are licensed and know what they are doing help you yes i think that what's happening to you is deeper then emotional if you get some help you'll probably start to feel better(:
I really love the new season of csi miami but i can only watch it on demand because i dont kno wat number channel its on on TV so what I wanna kno is what channel can i see it on on mondays when new episodes air?
I think the show is on channel CBS which is channel 5 for me but it depends on where you live you could ask one of your family members maybe they'd know or scroll through the channels until you see the CBS logo(:
http://www.cbs.com/primetime/csi_miami/
For more information it would probably be
best if you went there ^
I was just at a dance tonight and I asked my friend, Ben if he was going, he said probably not but after about two hours of convincing, i finally got him to come. So, i was warning people that he was coming and one girl that heard likes him soooo much which doesnt bother me until later that night. she was on him allll night and i felt like i was getting jealous but i shouldn't have been. then at the end of the night a slow song came on, she grabbed him and started dancing, he doesnt feel that way, i know so, he told me, but i got so upset that i just walked away trying to keep my cool until i came home. so i arrived home, texted him and told him how i felt tonight, that i was so upset that i was the reason he came, but i got zero time with him, yes, he apologized like any guy would but things escalated and ended so wrong, we got so mad at eachother that i just started crying so hard. he said he wanted to go to bed but i wanted to keep talking until he said isnt he allowed to leave until i was satisfied with this conversation. so i got so mad i just texted back "BYE!" and he didnt even answer back. so i have 2 questions: some of my friends think he likes me and that i was the reason he went, for me. do you think thats true? and, did i lose him for good, if so how do i get him back? this whole thing was over a stupid girl! i regret ever opening my mouth but i thought i should have told him how i felt seeming as we tell eachother everything and we've been best friends since 3rd grade. any help, please.. im desperate.
I don't think you've lost him give him some space
for a while then once you think your ready try texting him and aplogize yes i do think that he came to the dance for you since he doesn't have any feeling's for the other girl you shouldn't feel jealous she forced him to dance with her he had no choice apologizing would be a start to possiblity getting him back again you could say your sorry for what you said and hope that the two of you could move on and maybe hang out together start over see where the conversation goes give him the benefit of the doubt he deserves another chance(:
is it normal for your vag to hurt and ache during your period?
No i don't think it's normal you should probably see your gynecologist iv'e had pain down below during my period and i went to the doctor and he wanted to send me for a ultra sound to check my ovaries and see why i was having the pain i haven't gone yet though but you should probably see the doctor if it's making you feel uncomfortable and if it's painful
Good luck! (:
hii i'm 18 and a girl. okay so me and my mom dont get along. recently we got in a huge argument. it all started because she says im addicted to texting and bcuz of it im out of it. its true but i mean whats the problem? i dont go out or bring friends over or party im always home so why not text with friends. its stupid and when i ask her to give me a ride to chill with people she never is happy to do it so why does she bitch if i text with friends. so yeah she disconnected my phone and today in the morning she woke me up bitching at me and my lil sis pissed me off so i was a jerk to her then my mom came in the bathroom yelling at me and said that i could leave the house. so then i slamed the door in her face. she opened with the key and starting slapping me i was crying so hard and almost hit her back. i dont feel like apologizing shes been an unfair bitch to me. because my 20 yr old sis always goes out and my 12 yr sis too. she brings people home party's downstairs and goes out way more then me! but at the same time i want my phone back. help! should i apologize even though i dont want to? and if so how? shes not talking to me either. i stay in my room all day. and can the relationship with my mom get any better someday? it seems like we will never understand each other...
Yes i do think you should aplogize to your mother she deserves a apology if you do say sorry it will be one step closer to you possiblity getting your phone back you can't hold a grudge aganist her because you won't feel right that won't help you and your mother's relationship give her some space to calm down then once you think your ready sit her down and say your sorry for how you acted and for slamming the door in her face and for almost hitting her and say you'd like more freedom to do the things you want and to not be in the house you could also help out around the house and maybe if she see's that she'll consider giving you your phone back you should think about getting your license with that you'll have tons of freedom and you'll be able to go where you want yes i do think it's possible for you and mother to get along given time(:
my dad and mom have been together as long as ive been alive. two years ago i caught him in chat rooms, n video sessions with other women. i had a suspicion of him cheating, and walked down on him doing a session with another women. we lost our relaitonshp. its ok now. but im finding more stuff. ive found enough stuff now to make the prediction that he is getting a hooker. like, if i had to guess, i would say 99%. My whole life, people have let me down. My best rfiend gave away his life when he knew i was the only one fighting for him, my first love cheated on me three times.. now my dad is doing this to me. and im the only one who knows. I know what telling my mom will do. My family will end. And im scared if i do nothing, guilt will catch up to him, cause he surely is such a good man. My mom works nights so shes never home to know... hes always out so late, and his job is perfect to find a way to cheat, because he works his own job with his own appointments all over. My heart is being severely torn. im so close to giving in, i just have no clue what i can do. Tell my mom, my dad will hate me, my family will end, and my life will never be the same. Not say anything, my dad will continue to hurt me so badon the inside, and if guilt catches up, he could end his life like two of my other friends fathers have done. This is weird to say, but i had a strong feeling my best friend would end his life... and ive always for years had that about my dad. I have anxiety attacks and severe depression. ive askedmy mom to go back to counseling, but she doesnt seem to trake it seroius and ive asked her three times she hasnt gotten right to it.
please, any advice. anyone thats been in this situation... i have no options left, and my mind is getting into a fix.. its gonna be forever stuck as resentful, hate, sad, pissed, and depressed. It already is, i hate my life. im 18, and i dont even feel like living anymore but i would never end my life.. please... someonee have something reasonable to tell me.
As much as you truely don't want to tell your mother i think you should she has a right to know
seeing as the person is her husband and not some stranger she doesn't deserve to be cheated on i think your causing more damage by keeping it to yourself because your allowing your father to do something that's wrong plus your making yourself depressed and unhappy it's not healthy to live life that way since your 18 you don't have to live in your parents house you can move out because your a adult and your parents can't stop you so there's a option for you(:
Good luck!
Hey so i'm currently living a few thousand miles away from my ex boyfriend. when i moved here we decided to break up because it was so difficult to keep up with school and a relationship. we still ended up talking all the time though and we still liked each other. he asked me if it was okay if he could as this girl out who he'd been liking for a couple months (after we broke up) and who he'd been talking to often. i said it was okay cause im happy hes moved on and is happy, but the biggest part of me is so upset right now and doesn't know how to get over it because i love him so much and now he's with someone else. what do i do to help me get over him :(
Try and keep yourself busy don't sit and do nothing otherwise you'll have time to reflect and think about him things happen for a reason both of you weren't meant to be you can't change that you moved away also that he's dating someone new it's going to be tough to move on but it has to be done or you'll end up making yourself miserable and more upset then you already are there's plenty of other boys out there and many chances for relationships you'll find someone and maybe they'll be better then your ex once you feel ready to date again and you've fully moved on i say go for it(:
I don't know but...
My dad was accused a few weeks ago of harassing someone. He didn't, just to be clear. The woman who accused him is a lazy person who made up this rumor because she was tired of being told what to do by my dad.
My dad is her boss.
See? She's not too bright. I really hate her.
Her story is false too, and doesn't make sense because she claims that he grabbed her arm and forcibly pushed her into her office to get back to work, when what actually happened was he was nowhere near her, he said "Please leave the room, I have work to do. You get back to work." He didn't walk up to her or anything. But she wanted to lash out at him because I don't even know so she claimed he follows her around and calls her names and physically touches her.
Just so you all know, by "physically touches her" I do not mean sexually. And by "harassing" I do not mean sexually.
The company has to do this investigation on it, because they have to take things like this seriously. I'm just asking...how serious is this? Could he lose his job just because some lazy little bitch was bored??
I'm really scared for him, and he's been mopey for the last few weeks because he's scared too.
What do you guys think? And is there anything I can do to comfort him?
It's serious companies won't put up with that type of stuff but i think without any proof or evidence like bruises or marks on the women i don't think the company can do much it's the lady's word aganist your father's he should try and clear his name tell his story and the truth of what really happened try and prove that the women is lieing and he's innocent i think it all depends on the investigation if they don't find anything i don't think your father will be fired spend time with him do some activities together to take his mind off what's happening(:
sorry this is so long and whiney...
I am a 16 year old girl, i'm a 4'11 and i weigh about 125lbs. I feel like my weight rules my life, i think about my weight constantly. I want nothing more than to be thin, i'm so self-concious about my body and i really think that being thin would make me so much happier. Sometimes i feel pretty depressed but i dont take meds or anything like that and i cut myself sometimes. Sometimes after trying so many outfits on i just start to cry because i can't stand to look at myself. When I look at my body naked in the mirror I hate myself. My parents and my two brothers are all great athletes and are very thin and fit. My one brother struggled with his weight when he was younger but is now so fit. I feel embarrassed in front of my own family! I'm not obese or anything but I'm not skinny and I truly hate myself for it. I've been eating healthy and i know if i just ran on the running machine every day i would loose some weight but I just can't motivate myself to do it! I don't know what to do! I feel like ive hated my weight since i was in 5th grade. I'm so worried that if i can never motivate myself and actually loose weight i will end up hating myself for the rest of my life and i dont want that to happen!!! I've already wasted years and i'm scared i'll never loose the weight. I really don't know what to do and i feel completely trapped...
Well everyone has things they don't like about themselves or they'd like to change it's normal to feel that way you could try eating healthly and exercising more but it's not easy to try and loose the weight it's going to be tough if you want something bad enough you'll do whatever it takes to achieve your goal just think of the results you'll see once you do start loosing the weight you'll feel good about yourself and feel like you achieved something if your brother can become fit so can you it's not impossible think positively if you don't want hate yourself for the rest of your life then find someway to get motivated your in control of your life only you can make changes if your unsure of how to get yourself motivated ask your friends & family for help(:
15/f
so, im the new girl at my school. im a freshman in high school.ni went to my old school for 9 years and knew everyone in my grade. we were small, but comfy cozy, i could have stayed there, but i decided to switch. i had lots of friends and lots of guy friends. i was really outgoing, and that was just my personality. everyone knew me so i could act however i wanted without anyone saying anything rude. ive never been a new student before so i really didnt know how to act. somehow, these 2 girls who i thought were my friends, started to hate me, and now i feel awkward around them and whenever i do something, i always get a feeling they'll find out and judge me about it, when at my old school, i didnt have to worry about that stuff. i want to be friends with them, but they are extremely bitchy and i dont know what i should say to them. they think i started stuff with them, when i really didnt. but heres what i really need some help on. im not friends with a lot of guys at my school, and its making me feel like ive lost my outgoinging"ness". lots of my friends are friends with guys, but i never put myself out there anymore because im afraid what people will think. i dont know how to get me out of this. its been worrying me for awhile now. i know it takes time to make friends, but i really want some guy friends. anyone know anything i can do?
Be confident and be yourself boys are into girls who are themselves and don't try to be something they aren't one's who won't act fake believe in yourself everyone gets nervous once in a while but you can't let your nerves get the best of you otherwise you'll become shy and you'll start to doubt yourself as far as those girls are concerned i'd move on you don't people are who going to be bitchy towards you especially since you did nothing to them confidence is key if you don't have that you won't go very far try talking to your mother and say that you feel out of place and sometimes you like it there and other times you don't i'm sure she'll understand talking is totally better then keeping everything your feeling to yourself and not saying anything at all that's unhealthy(:
i'm 15 years old, and my father has never really been a BIG part of my life. he actually didn't even start talking to me and my older sister until I was 12 and she was 15 she's now 18 soo, we've really only had a father figure in our lives for 3 years. well my mom and dad NEVER got along when they were together. he never talked to her, he was gone all the time, and he took no responsibility for his family. they ended up getting a divorce when I was 12, my dad started talking and hanging out with me and my sister more often so I got pretty close to him because I was excited to finally be able to hangout with my dad.
so me and my sister ended up moving in with him, long story short he met this girl, she moved in (after two weeks of knowing him), she didn't like me and my sister because we wanted time with my dad too, and since she didnt understand she got my dad to kick us out. so me and my sister ended up moving in with my mom, well him and his girlfriend moved out of the house we all were living in and they went and got a 1 bedroom apartment in pearland the reason they moved to pearland is because she knew that I wouldn't leave my school and all my friends to move there with them. well after two months of them living in that apartment she ended up leaving my dad, he called me apologizing to me telling me that he would never put his girlfriend before me again so I believed him, well like a week after him breaking up with his girlfriend he ended up getting a job in iraq where he would make 100,000 dollars that year. I talked to my dad everday that he was in iraq because I knew that any second something could happen to him. well when he was in iraq he promised that when he came home he would get a really nice house, and start cooking for us, doing all the things that a father should do and he promised that he would give the world to me and my sister. He ends up coming back from iraq 2 months early and me and my sister end up moving BACK in with him. my dad met this new girl and I loooove his new girlfriend to death she has a kid and she's really nice! she's a vice president of a company and her kid comes first to her before anyone infact she wouldn't let my dad meet her son until she knew forsure she liked him because she didnt want her son to get attached to my dad until she knew him really good and she didnt want to meet me and my sister also until she knew my dad better because she didnt want us to get attached to her either and then them breaking up, I didn't have a problem about that I actually respect her for doing that because my dads other girlfriend spent the night the first night they met she was drunk, and then moved in with us 2 weeks later so him actually having a girlfriend that is taking thing slow made me feel better about living with my dad. Well after my sister moved out he stopped cooking because in he thinks theres noo point in cooking for 1 person so I was fourced to go to my moms every night or I wouldnt get fed that night I was seriously losing weight living with my dad. He works 6 days a week and the days he does get off he goes to his new girlfriends house he works on saturdays but as soon as he gets off he goes over there and doesnt come home until like 7 oclock sunday. The bad thing is he doesn't even really like this girl, because she doesn't drink, she doesn't smoke, she actually has a good head on her shoulders he's just using her for sex and it makes me mad because his new girlfriend deserves better than that when he's home he get's on those dating websites and talks to like 457568568 other girls. and he's soooo fake around her my dad is naturally a slob that doesn't cook or anything he's just flat out lazy well the 2 times that she's actually been over to my house he goes out and cooks this really nice dinner, he hides his cigarettes and his beer, and he cleans the whole entire house I told him that I should start inviting her over more often because he's the perfect dad when she's around and shows a side of himself i've never seen before. but again he's putting this girl before me like I don't mind him seeing her but he doesn't include me in anything they do. he goes over there and tells me he wants "alone time with her" thats why I can't go with him and then the next night makes me go to my moms so he can have a stripper over. like how messed up is that? I tried sitting down and talking to him telling him, that I want to be included more often when it comes to there relationship and he needs to step up and be a dad too. like this weekend he's going over there on saturday he's just told me about this today too so I had no time to make plans with my friends or anything so again I have to go to my moms house, but she's going out too.
what should I say to my dad to make hime realize that I should come first to him before anything?
i'm his daughter!
he doesn't take my feelings into consideration at all, what should I do?
should I just move back in with my mom? or should i just stay with my dad and try to make things work?
Try and straighten the situation out with your father he makes mistakes we all do he isn't perfect he's human he deserves a chance even though he's done all those things you don't agree with or like he's still your father and not a stranger try telling him that as your daughter you'd like for him to take you seriously and not to take what you say as a joke you'd like to be included in the activites he does you want to spend more time with him you truely miss not being with him and that it hurts you when you can't be also that you'd like to be close with him and to not have a bad father daughter relationship say something along those lines if you still can't get through to him and you become fed up with his behavior you should probably move back in with your mom choose where will make you most happiest(:
Good luck!
How Do I get over the drama at work??? Everyday I wake up in the morning, My body is so tense from the nerves because I have to go to work and experience the same drama. I'm actually still in training too so the drama is intense. It's really hard for me to relax too knowing that I have to go through the same phase everyday at work.
Try and ignore the drama that's happening it will probably be tough to do but you don't want to get yourself involved in it just do your job if it's making you feel uncomfortable then talk to your supervisor or boss and tell them what's happening let them straighten the situation out also don't interact with whoever is starting the drama just get yourself through training and try and ignore it as best you can(: