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Crappy father..
i'm 15 years old, and my father has never really been a BIG part of my life. he actually didn't even start talking to me and my older sister until I was 12 and she was 15 she's now 18 soo, we've really only had a father figure in our lives for 3 years. well my mom and dad NEVER got along when they were together. he never talked to her, he was gone all the time, and he took no responsibility for his family. they ended up getting a divorce when I was 12, my dad started talking and hanging out with me and my sister more often so I got pretty close to him because I was excited to finally be able to hangout with my dad.
so me and my sister ended up moving in with him, long story short he met this girl, she moved in (after two weeks of knowing him), she didn't like me and my sister because we wanted time with my dad too, and since she didnt understand she got my dad to kick us out. so me and my sister ended up moving in with my mom, well him and his girlfriend moved out of the house we all were living in and they went and got a 1 bedroom apartment in pearland the reason they moved to pearland is because she knew that I wouldn't leave my school and all my friends to move there with them. well after two months of them living in that apartment she ended up leaving my dad, he called me apologizing to me telling me that he would never put his girlfriend before me again so I believed him, well like a week after him breaking up with his girlfriend he ended up getting a job in iraq where he would make 100,000 dollars that year. I talked to my dad everday that he was in iraq because I knew that any second something could happen to him. well when he was in iraq he promised that when he came home he would get a really nice house, and start cooking for us, doing all the things that a father should do and he promised that he would give the world to me and my sister. He ends up coming back from iraq 2 months early and me and my sister end up moving BACK in with him. my dad met this new girl and I loooove his new girlfriend to death she has a kid and she's really nice! she's a vice president of a company and her kid comes first to her before anyone infact she wouldn't let my dad meet her son until she knew forsure she liked him because she didnt want her son to get attached to my dad until she knew him really good and she didnt want to meet me and my sister also until she knew my dad better because she didnt want us to get attached to her either and then them breaking up, I didn't have a problem about that I actually respect her for doing that because my dads other girlfriend spent the night the first night they met she was drunk, and then moved in with us 2 weeks later so him actually having a girlfriend that is taking thing slow made me feel better about living with my dad. Well after my sister moved out he stopped cooking because in he thinks theres noo point in cooking for 1 person so I was fourced to go to my moms every night or I wouldnt get fed that night I was seriously losing weight living with my dad. He works 6 days a week and the days he does get off he goes to his new girlfriends house he works on saturdays but as soon as he gets off he goes over there and doesnt come home until like 7 oclock sunday. The bad thing is he doesn't even really like this girl, because she doesn't drink, she doesn't smoke, she actually has a good head on her shoulders he's just using her for sex and it makes me mad because his new girlfriend deserves better than that when he's home he get's on those dating websites and talks to like 457568568 other girls. and he's soooo fake around her my dad is naturally a slob that doesn't cook or anything he's just flat out lazy well the 2 times that she's actually been over to my house he goes out and cooks this really nice dinner, he hides his cigarettes and his beer, and he cleans the whole entire house I told him that I should start inviting her over more often because he's the perfect dad when she's around and shows a side of himself i've never seen before. but again he's putting this girl before me like I don't mind him seeing her but he doesn't include me in anything they do. he goes over there and tells me he wants "alone time with her" thats why I can't go with him and then the next night makes me go to my moms so he can have a stripper over. like how messed up is that? I tried sitting down and talking to him telling him, that I want to be included more often when it comes to there relationship and he needs to step up and be a dad too. like this weekend he's going over there on saturday he's just told me about this today too so I had no time to make plans with my friends or anything so again I have to go to my moms house, but she's going out too.
what should I say to my dad to make hime realize that I should come first to him before anything?
i'm his daughter!
he doesn't take my feelings into consideration at all, what should I do?
should I just move back in with my mom? or should i just stay with my dad and try to make things work?
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Try and straighten the situation out with your father he makes mistakes we all do he isn't perfect he's human he deserves a chance even though he's done all those things you don't agree with or like he's still your father and not a stranger try telling him that as your daughter you'd like for him to take you seriously and not to take what you say as a joke you'd like to be included in the activites he does you want to spend more time with him you truely miss not being with him and that it hurts you when you can't be also that you'd like to be close with him and to not have a bad father daughter relationship say something along those lines if you still can't get through to him and you become fed up with his behavior you should probably move back in with your mom choose where will make you most happiest(:
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