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Dad interfering in relationship??
I'm 19, my boyfriend is 21. I still live at my parents house, as I attend a local college. My boy & I are in a long distance relationship, & haven't met yet, but are scheduled to in mid-march.
I just told my dad about it today, because I planned on buying my plane ticket tmrw. He freaked out horribly, told me I'm banned from talking to this boy, end it now, blah blah blah. But, I'm terrified that if I don't do what he says, I will be kicked out of the house, & I'm not finanically able to live on my own yet.
My boyfriend lives in the UK, I in America, and I'm going to have to tll him we have to break up. This is killing me, I'm going to be severely depressed, I can already tell. And I know he will too. I need advice on what to say to him?? I do love him, but I can't go against my dads wishes. Btw, my dad has his mind firmly made up, & there is no way I could continue on with my boyfriend. I mean, maybe years down the line, when I am financially independent, and can make my own decisions. :/ But I don't see that happening, after I break this news to him. :(
Please help!! :(
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Tell him that you can't disobey your father and go aganist his wishes and that he has his mind made up
already and there's no negotiating with him but if it was up to you you two would be together and wouldn't have to break up say that you do love him but your father is making the situation tough and making it impossible you don't want to risk getting kicked out so sadly your only option is to end it things weren't meant to be there's plenty of other boys out there that's if you choose to date i think right now you staying in your parents house is way more important then the relationship(:
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Did you actually, seriously, want to be with this guy? Because your actions here make me feel like you were probably ready to end this relationship anyways...
You just told your overbearing father today, that you are in a relationship with someone online and, apparently without feeling the need to mention this before, you had made plans to buy a plane ticket, travel across the planet, alone, to meet this guy.
At 19, I'm sure you are not an idiot. You knew how your father was going to react to this revelation. You knew it wasn't going to go well. You did know you weren't going to get his blessing right?
No matter how much your father might have over reacted on this, if you were my 18 year old living at home, I would also be telling you that you may peruse that course of action over my dead body.
So, my question to you, is if you really wanted to be with this guy, why didn't you make a plan to visit him that might have actually had a chance in hell of working?! Like warming up your Father to the idea over several months? Like getting a friend or group of friends together who might want to go? Like investigating a semester at a school near him?
Be honest with this guy: You can't be in a relationship with him. Deep down, I'd bet you didn't even want to be with him before you spoke to your father, but your father's anger gives you the perfect out. End it as honestly as you are able too, and move on with your life.
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