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I hope that if you come to this site, you feel at least some reassurance. Life is messy, life isn't perfect, and I love that there is a place, virtual as it is that can acknowledge this. I don't pretend to be perfect or know everything, but I promise that if you ask me a question, or if I see one and take an interest, I will answer it as best I can.Check out my forum here:
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i want to increase my stamina.
my tennis coach told me to run. ive been doing that, but what else can i do to increase it before november?
Intervals are extremely good for speed... an interval is when you run very fast for a bit and then run really slow for the same/ a longer distance, either that or you just stop running between intervals. Long distance running, you know, running around your neighbourhood for a half hour, is good for endurance. Another thing that also helps endurance is core training. For this you would excersize a different group of muscles everyday to build up core muscles. These are muscles in your abdomen and back - example excersizes are the plank (straight back, support weight on toes and elbows or hands for about a minute or longer if you can), pushups, and situps (there are lots of different kinds for this, including ones where you are on your side, your entire body rises to your knees or just your chest, or you could lie down and rise, touching each knee separately). Other excersizes for leg strength are lunges (take a step and have the leg that you are not stepping on drop to its knees), and squats (back straight and sit down. You could also try the burpee (stand up, jump as if touching the ceiling, fall to your hands and knees, go into plank position, go back onto hands and knees, jump up again. and keep repeating). Well these are just a few. I could keep going if you wanted (there was a whole weight section I was going to get into) but those should get you started =]
is it normal to dream of someone every single night? has this happened to anyone. ever since ive liked my best friend,ive dreamed about him every night for the past 5 months!! why does this happen? and he doesnt like me as more than a friend. he told me that. how do you know if you're falling in love with your best friend?
It's quite normal. When you fall for someone, they're just on your mind a lot more than usual, and this reflects in your dreams. That's what dreams are, combinations of everything you would normally think about in your subconscious brain.
Right now it's certainly obsession. I'm not exactly sure what turns obsession and liking someone and lust into love, but you'll be able to tell when it happens. Even if you don't love him per say, you certainly like this guy a lot =]
Soo, hello.
Well first off I'm 14 and a girl so this may seem like another, '(pre)teen thinks she's in huge dilemma even though it's a simple answer'. Well, I know the answer but I need some more...advice.
Okay so I have this 'major' lust for a guy friend of mine. He's just everything I want in a boyfriend but also some things I don't want. I am planning to make a 'move' on him but there's just a large problem in my way,
The Communication going on between us. Our communication isn’t…. A lot. He’ll talk to me one day and then sort of ignore me the other day. Most times, we only say hi to each other. It wasn’t always like this, we use talk like good friends and joke around too. That’s the person I really fell over for. I need help with this. Before I ask you them, I have talk to him about it but he doesn’t see anything weird about it. I have told him I liked him TWICE and he doesn’t really say anything but an ‘ok’ and ‘that’s cool’. Even if we don’t talk to each other, I always catch him looking at me and I try to wave back but he turns around quickly when he sees that I’ve caught his look. Haha, okay moving on.
Should I really make a move on him and would it be worth it?
Do any of you have suggestions as to why he acts the way he does with his ignoring and looking?
Much appreciated if you’d answer. Thanks a lot!
You should get to know him a bit more before making a "move", either that or when you do make a move be casual about it, like ask if he wants to come with you and a few friends somewhere as opposed to asking him out for dinner and a movie. He seems to be awkward with you confessing your feelings, so I wouldn't go do that just yet. Actually, looking and then quickly looking away is a common sign that someone likes someone. It could be that he likes you and is feeling awkward about it. Or maybe he's just shy in general. Only time will tell. Good luck!
So, i have a boyfriend sean, and he's a really amazing boy, but he's just not for me, and he always claims he's in love with me, but i actually want to break up with him, but i'm not sure how, because i feel HORRIBLE. On top of that, i've known this boy matt forever, and i've liked him for a loonnggg time, but his girlfriend and him have been going out for 7 months, and they aren't going to break up. Trust me. She treats him like SHIT, like seriously, she's horrible to him, and i'm always there for him, and i just don't know what to do..any ideas?
Well, you can feel horrible about not loving your bf, but if you don't like him back, then there's not much you can do about it and it's not fair to him for you to lead him on. You need to communicate honestly with him about how you feel. As for Matt, he has a girlfriend, even if she is mean to him, so I wouldn't advise pursuing him especially as this would make it seem that you are breaking up with Sean for Matt which just causes more awkwardness. If you've liked him for this ong, the most you can do is wait out his relationship. If you really feel that his girlfriend is abusing him, you do have the power, being his friend and all, for your opinion to have a certain weight with him so you should tell him how you feel. Otherwise, be honest with your current bf, and wait out the rest.
14/f
okay there's this guy (17/m) ive liked for a while now, and all the time he's been giving me signs that he likes me more than a friend and i got scared off and he keeps giving me signals but i dont reply because i always felt shy so i tried to keep myself from liking him..and now i heard a lot of girls asked him to prom (he didnt go with any of them and decided not to go to it) and a lot of girls are flirting with him and its NOW that i realized i do like him a lot (it's like infatuation fueled by jealousy trust me, i know how bad that sounds) and now im panicking BECAUSE WHAT IF HE DOESNT LIKE ME ANYMORE? and it's the end of the school year and i want to ask him out and that will look so ..bad, i know. omgg.
i need advice. support. SOMETHING.
and do you think he'll think bad of me for asking him out on the last day of school?
Why on earth would he think badly of you for asking him out the last day of school? I think it's a great alternative to waiting out the entire summer, wondering but never acting on it. If you're worried about him not liking you, be casual about the date, don't make it a big deal. Ask him if he wants to walk around the neighbourhood with you or something of that drift, get to know him casually at first as opposed to having to know exactly how you feel about each other on the first date.
And as for sounding bad, a lot of the time it takes the threat of something being taken away from us to realize what we have. Ask him out now lol! You've waited long enough =]
Quick Question.
I'm not use to the whole "relationship" thing. I'm a better friend than a girlfriend.
So my question is, how can i be a better girlfriend? What can i do, and how do i act? Thankss
What can I do? How can I act? ~be yourself.
Laugh with him. Joke with him. If you love him tell him that. Send him cute emails. Cuddle with him. Tell him "thank you" if he does a random favor. Do spontaneous acts of kindness yourself. It's good you know how to be a good friend. The best relationships are after all like friendships - based on mutual respect and caring for each other. Being a good girlfriend is a lot like being a good friend in this way. There isn't really a list of rules and criteria that I could give you other than respect him and make sure he respects you, communicate, and accept each other for who you are. I wish you luck in this relationship
hey im 15/m and i am trying to choose which girl i want to date.
1. this girl is a skateboarder just like me. She's kind of a hippie and she stands up for like animal right and stuff. shes not an outcast though, she wears abercrombie just like all the other girls. she is always helping people and giving money to charity and she plays guitar and is into the same music as me. shes friends with a lot of guys and shes into video games but she can also be girly. she laughs a lot and likes to party but she doesnt do anything too bad like drugs and heres her picture:
http://i191.photobucket.com/albums/z34/jamesboy0123/milena.jpg
2. this girl is different by a lot. she dates a lot of guys and she likes rap and shes very girly. she knows more people than the first girl but ive heard a lot of rumors about her which i dont think are true. shes rich and hates the outdoors but she has a good sense of humor. she likes to party and she loves cuddling. she does gymnastics and shes very small heres her picture:
http://i191.photobucket.com/albums/z34/jamesboy0123/jaci.jpg
i need advice i dont know who to pick!
Do you really need to "pick" one? If you really liked either of these girls (or were being intelligent about liking either of them) you would not be considering who you liked more based on profile information... you know, on picture, personal characteristics, and so on. No one can tell you who you should like, even if you gave them all of the profile information in the world. Liking someone is a mysterious thing that usually just happens regardless on who you think you have more in common with and it is something beautiful that you have to sort out when it happens. You should date someone based on this as opposed to any other reason (unless you want to get into the whole casual dating without actually liking anyone you get involved with which is immature and slightly desperate). If you really want to get to know these people I advise you to do so first as their friend. Technically if you were only casual dating you could take out both as long as that's what the other girls were into (at your age it may make you look like a bit of a slimeball, and you would be spending twice the amount of money but that's your choice).
Don't date people that you can only choose by asking people on an advice website. If you really cared about them why do you have their pictures posted on the internet? that's just wrong.
So I've read in several articles that there a 3 main factors to what makes a person attractive.. the first one is body language.. the second was something else... and the third one as your VOICE. Google it - you'll see I'm not lying! Appearently the tone of your voice matters A LOT! And that sucks because my coice isn't prticularly pretty... it's not even feminene. What do I do? This has really got me worried! Is there anyway to "change your voice".. like i can fake it and make it pretty but is there any way I can make myself use that voice all the time?
Why would you want to pretend to be someone else everyday just to get a guy? As far as I'm concerned, we're all special the way we are.. I mean, change to get a guy if this change is going to have positive benefits for yourself but honestly, get a guy who likes you for you because no other guy matters.
Hellow every one. i am in a little bit of a deal here. you see this is my freshman year and there is this girl that we have become really close friends but not too close that we are like brother and sister. we are always txting each other and talking on the phone. i am doing all the basics like complimenting her like that is a nice shirt, or wow that is a nice picture of you, or i think you should b a model and knowing her interests for example she likes the beach and dancing and doing stuff at random that is really loud and i am always making her laugh. we have so much in common. in english class we have assigned seats and she will go all the way across the room just to sit nxt to me. and when she doesn't do that, when i look over at her she is giggleing and blushes. and i just want to know 2 things is there any thing i can do to make it more clear that she likes me or not and should we stay just friends or be in a relationship.
when you look over she giggles and blushes? SHE LIKES YOU.
if you are still not clear on this one, more things that could be considered "signs"
she teases you, flirts with you, pokes you ect.
when you catch her eye she quickly looks away
when around you she leans towards you, cocks her head slightly to the side, acts more lightheaded than usual
but yes. From what I read it's still pretty obvious. The only other issue here is do YOU like HER?
Right now you are just friends. For it to be more, both of you have to somehow agree on the fact that you mutually like each other, say by asking her out to the movies, if you do like her. If you don't then you are one of those interesting friendships where one person will just have to live with being an unrequited crush.
Basically, the opportunity is yours, and whether you are gf and bf depends on what you guys decide on.
there's a guy named logan. and last summer, we started hanging out even more and got really close.. most would have even called us "lovers". we both said we liked eachother.. and i waited for him. he never asked me out. 7 months of waiting, i went on to another guy. that didn't work out and i realized i still wanted logan. he and the guy i was dating didn't get along and were both jealous of eachother so i had to confess to both of them. (**he just called me :)**) but yeah logan was upset about it and the other guy didn't mean anything to me... so back in march we were coming home from a party and we ended up telling eachother we loved eachother.. and i believe we do. after almost a year of pretty much being together just not TOGETHER i think most people would be. he pushes my buttons, knows what ticks me off, but still leaves a smile on my face. i just know what its like to be IN love and i'm scared i might be for the first time.. we;ve been hanging out alot more again now and alot of people are thinking we like eachother again. i think we do, and i'm scared cause i don't want to wait for him again.. i just CAN'T do that & i've told him before that i couldn't just wait. most people think we act like a married couple too :) we're cute but i just don't know what to do to not have to wait.. and if i'm in love... HELP!
Don't wait! Ask him out! NOWWWWW lol
Honestly the stigma that says guys must make the first move is okay if your guy is outgoing but if they're shy or shy with relationships it's just stupid. Some of the best boyfriends are too shy to ask anyone out. Or either that or they're a little clueless, and need someone like you who knows how they feel to help them out. This situation sounds promising. Go for it and you'll be glad you did. Because even if it happens to be he doesn't feel the same way (and there is what, a 0.1% chance of that happening?) it's worse to have to wait and wait and wait until the chance is gone forever and you're bitter about what could have been.
ok well basically i have no friends. and i have a major eating problem where i eat and eat and eat until i feel sick then i make myself throw up. i want to cut this out of my life and lose 10 pounds. so what are some things i can do when i feel a binge coming on?
You have something called bulimia... and it actually won't make you lose weight...
Next time you feel a binge coming on, talk to someone you trust.. or tell someone that could really help you stop (I'd say a guidance counselor but those can be distant). You need "help" and I hate to put it like that because it seems so isolating. I think, though, that more of us have gotten "help" at one point or another so, no biggie. It will turn into a big deal though if you keep going. Bulimia has serious negative affects on your body not only physically, but mentally as well.
Only once you feel better about your body and seek this help would I advise the whole eat healthy and excersize route, and only if you actually need to lose weight. By reading your submission I'm not sure you do.
To answer you additional info: go to a camp, talk to random strangers, draw, read, write, get in touch with feelings (why do you do this in the fist place?), listen to music, find your passion. Distracting yourself helps. Try to find something that will make you feel good about who you are that doesn't depend on what you look like/ how skinny you are.
Eating problems are pretty serious so please don't keep this all to yourself! It could be hard telling someone (I'm not you, I don't really know), but it's so much more harder to have to keep that inside or let it take you over when you don't want it to.
i'm in what you could call a love HEXAGON. there's 5 boys and i'm not sure what to do i'm 15 by the way.. guy #1-he's cute sweet blahblahblah he's 19- yeah i know about the age okay? he just turned it this month. but i've called him beofre & 3 times a girl has answered his phone.. & i've chewed him out for it before plenty of times before. i was talking to him the other night & i layed down the law of how screwed up that was & he made this deal that if it happened again he wouldn't blame me for not talking to him anymore. well lastnight we were on the phone & someone sent him a wierd text message from a number he didn't know so he 3 wayed them while i was on the phone. it ended up being a girl & the convo lasted longer than it needed to so i hung up. HE DIDN'T EVEN BOTHER TO CALL ME BACK. so i sent him a text telling him i didn't want to talk to him again and that he was a jerk. he's been at work all day so i'm not sure if he's read yet or not.don't get me wrong, that is screwed up what he does, but he can be sweet.
guy #2- he's the PERFECT guy... in my dad's mind. he plays football, he's tall, goes for auburn, good head on his shoulders, & attractive. i just don't know if he's the perfect guy for me.. hes 16(just turned in may) & drove 20 minutes to see me for like 2 seconds before he got in trouble.. he really likes me and always calls & asks to hang out but i just don't know..
guy#3- he was my little 3 grade boyfran:) hes 15 he's too cute. we get in little fights and he just gets me. we're so alike and have so much fun together. the problem? he moved in 4th grade & we didn't talk until this year we happened to stumble across eachother. the bigger problem, he lives a good 30 min away so we both know we cant have anything.. but i know we would be perfect for eachother if we lived closer..
guy#4 he just turned 18 in may. hes not at the top of my list.. but something always drags me to him. we've been on and off for about 4 months now & i still smile when he calls or texts me. i just don't think he could be ready for a real relationship (hes sort of a manwhore). hes met my parents, first guy to in about 2 years & they liked him and stuff but i just don't know anymore..
lastly, guy#5- wow, he's been around since last summer. hes 16 & been my bestfriend since 6th (we were together in 6thgrade- cute right?) & we've both told eachother we love eachother blahblah but i got tired of waiting for him to ask me out. so i moved on to guy #4 in jan. now hes back & we're hanging out again, but i just don't think i have strong feelings for him anymore..
& let me just say i am NOT a whore. i do not "hookup" with all of these guys... & plus.. ladies is pimps too, right? but i think i'm just ready for one... but.. WHICH ONE?? HELP!
Close your eyes for a second (or just focus lol) and think not on how practical really each guy is, on who you feel you "should" like based on the kinds of things we like to rate in guys ( well he's on the football team and gets good grades and he's funny). I think it's important to have standards and certainly it's important for the guy to be reliable and like you back, but it's about you, right? Which one do you like, and I mean honestly like. Which one send butterflies to your stomach? Which one hooks you every time you look at them?
If you don't feel that way about any of them, then they aren't worth considering them, no matter how nice they are. You don't really need to go out with a guy, and you certainly don't if he's hot funny and likes you when you don't like him back. You can't force it, just do what feels right. Oh and also remember that if you feel like someone is betraying your trust then you're to good to put up with that (see boy #1)
well good luck thinking your way through this =]
At the beginning of my freshman year, I met this guy, who I was instantly drawn too, just completely head over heels. I made my feelings pretty clear, but he didn't feel the same way, so as time went by, we became really really good friends. After 5 months of being best friends, he asked me out. And we are so made for each other. We've been going out for 6 months now, and everything has been great, however, this past month, there's been a reoccuring problem I just CANT get off my back. He's kinda of a flirt and I'm the same way. There was this issue that we had recently with him and my good girlfriend and she is A BIG FLIRT. She's always rubbing up on him and trying to tempt him with baked goods. Then me and him got into this big huge thing about it. He told me I didn't need to worry and that, yeah, she's pretty, but he likes me for so much more than looks. So i realized I was overreacting and it was dropped. But, the part that has really been bugging me is that I waited so long for him to come around at the beginning of the year, I kept waiting and waiting. And i know he was reluctant in asking me out. It wasn't a SURE thing for him. It was just a "maybe it'll work out.", but for me it was automatic. So everytime I doubt him or myself being together, I go back to that feeling. He didn't pick me first, I wasn't his first choice and even when he did start to like me, he still wasn't sure if he was doing the right thing. How do I know those feelings aren't still hanging over his head? I know he loves me now, but does he like me? I never went through that stage where I knew he liked me and we did silly flirty things, because he asked me out over x-mas break. I NEED to trust him, I need to be more confident that he likes me. Some people say I'm overreacting, and some people say it's perfectly natural. It's been driving me insane. It's been 6 months and I still feel like I'm waiting for him to come around. What do I do?
You should stop obsessing so much over the past and worry on the present. And anyway, he was reluctant asking you out... do you know this for a fact? And remember, he still asked you out. He would not have done this if he didn't like you or didn't like you enough to put forth any effort(unless you strongly feel that he was pressured into it, which you have not mentioned so I doubt this is the case). In a way, you're very lucky you were so sure of your feelings, and that he even reciprocated. Most people, even in relationships, aren't very sure about how they feel or know that the relationship will for sure work out for any number of reasons.
What is most important, however, is more how he feels about you now. If the fact that he is a flirt is bothering you, you need to talk to him about this and, if it feels more comfortable, both of you may wish to stop the flirting. If this problem is more about your best friend, tell her how you feel and to knock it off. If your description of what is going on is true, it doesn't seem that she is being very fair to you as a friend so you need to tell her this. Your insecurity about your bf liking you does seem overreactive... is he cold to you or does he generally like you... it could be you have your own security/self esteem issues to deal with.
If you really are worried, look at his behavior. Does he smile a lot at you, want to be with you... Honestly? From reading I got the impression that you were upset about something else, or just feeling down in general, and trying to pinpoint your feelings on your relationship. It's summative season. You're feeling a little insecure and that's normal for your age... and for summative season. Hell I'm procrastinating now and you probably are too. I think you should go study. Just to be ridiculously blunt and hypocritical... yeah I really don't think you should worry.
ok so my two friends like these boys alot, and the boys hang out in the same class as my friends during lunch and stuff, but the problem is , they never talk to eachother my friends and the boys! the boys are really stupid and my best friend like a boy named "john" and we know john likes her only problem is hes a real shallow guy everyone knows it, but yeah he likes to flirt with her and he has told me before he only likes her as a friend but its real obvious he likes her more then that! what can she do, she wont talk to him i think she should give up but she says no, i mean why waste time on a guy who isnt willing to waste time on you!
and mean while my other friend likes "chris" but chris we know dosnt like her, and i dont want to piss her off but she needs to get that through her head , i mean why waste your time on him when you can be trying for someone else who does like you? she is gorgous but dosnt realize it, they both are beautiful girls but the boys they like are stupid.
now today i was talking to my bestfriend, the girl that likes john, and well she was being really depressed and i was like" whats wrong" she was like well lately ive been thinking of killing my self! "omg" i know but umm i was like well why she was like cause i think everyone would be happier my mom said it her self and my sis would like it, but i know her family and they would be devestated. i would be super upset cause i care for her alot she is my bestfriend for life. but i dont know, the thing is, i know for a fact she wont kill her self she is the person who says it but wont do it, and im over 200% sure she wont, but its just the fact she is saying it! that makes me upset., and the thing is, she says its cause of her family and the boy, but she needs to realize tthe bboy definetly isnt worth it! and her family loves her no matter what. this isnt the only time this has happened with a boy she likes, whenever she likes a boy she becomes kindda obsest wit hthem witch isnt good casue then she neevr mingles with other ppl to see wha telse is out there. she stays hooked on one person to long. and i know its not good to do that, becasue if they dont like you wha tcan you do so please help!!!! p.s they are both 15 almost 16 females :) thanks
Well you can tell your friends how you feel about these guys but other than that, there's not much you can do, right? I mean, I don't really know anyone who can decide to like someone or to not like someone. As for this john guy, there are a million reasons why he is in denial, or are too shy to initiate a relationship but it doesn't mean they are bad people or unworthy boyfriends. Though if you feel these boys are stupid, you are probably right(I don't know them =P)
What you have written about the friend who likes john is really serious; I suggest you tell someone about this, or convince her to tell someone/get help. The problem is obviously greater than john not liking her, but often when someone is depressed/suicidal it's difficult to pinpoint inside emotions ect and a lot easier to blame a situation. You cannot help her directly through this but if you keep telling her how gorgeous she is and how much her family cares about her I am sure this would help bundles. Keep being the great friend you are and I hope it all turns out okay :).
15/f
whats an easy way to loose some weight in a week?
i weight about 135
but i still have a little chub and i want to loose it so can some one please give me ideas how to loose it in about a week?
There's not much weight you can healthily lose in a weight, and from your description, it does not seem as if you NEED to lose any.
I am not going to tell you how to lose pounds because I do not believe in this philosophy, but rather how to make you more healthy.
- eat less refined carbs (sugar, white bread, cereal, croissants, white rice - there is whole grain rice that takes longer to cook but is healthier)
-eat less cheese, or get more low fat, veggie cheese
-eat less red meat (hamburgers, steak, ribs)
- eat less instant food/ food with lots of sauce
-eat less sugary, sweet food (this goes in with the refined carbs) cakes, cokes, that kind of thing (with soft drinks, there is a diet alternative)
also, excersize. The best for that is a sports team, because then it's fun as well as good for you, and you can meet lots of people and make friends.
I don't advise starving yourself/eating less as this is unhealthy and as well as it having possible serious consequences (anorexia, for example, which is deadly, will also lower your metabolism which means you burn less calories.
As for whatever is going on in a week that you want to loose weight for, hope you have fun and am sure that you will look fabulous even if our society is over pressureful on the subject of weight and makes perfectly healthy girls like you feel like losing weight...
ok i just turned 13/f, and i live with my dad. i still dont shave my legs. its very awkward to tell him things like tht. i'm his only daughter, and an only child. i dont know what to do. i can not go with any one else. and when all my friends shave their legs, they ask me if i shave my legs and i say no. then they make a big deal out of it, and its really embarrassing. so what do i do? i havn't started my period either.
plz help.
I don't think that your dad would particularly care if you wanted to shave. Next time he goes to the drugstore just go with him and throw some razors in the cart. He may raise an eyebrow but I seriously doubt he would attempt to have an opinion on the subject of a girl's legs. Same goes for periods. Your first time may be a little awkward, but once again, just throw the pads/tampons/ whatevers in the carts and he most likely will understand and not ask questions.
As for the shaving legs thing, it's kind of unfortunate that we all must do this isn't it, just out of peer pressure? Don't if you don't want to, that's my advice, from an unwilling leg shaver. Ah well. I don't really know if I'm going to get at a point, here. The main thing is, it's not a huge deal, and I'm sure if you need any more hair removal advice, your friends would be more than happy to give it to you.
I need some ideas for a unique, teenage girl's name. It's for a novel I'm writing.
Ariel
Veronica
Vanessa
Serena
Anu
Quinn
Ria
Yana
Zara
Lydia
Ailie
Cosmina
Angelet
Ding Liu
Ling Sang
Lee
Tara
Yana
Bahar
Alyssa
all names of people I know (mostly)
oh dear hopefully no one will stalk me now
good luck with the novel :P
ok well i havent frenched anyone before, and i have never made out with anyone before. all my friends have made out with their boyfriends, and well my boyfriend just broke up with me. well i still like him alot, but im sure going to have other boyfriends. i want to know how to make out before it happens. i mean i know it sounds kind of stupid but i do want to know how. i mean (not tryin to be rude) but dont say just let it flow, or it just happens. because i get that from everyone. and i dont go on websites so i have no clue what to do. plzz help me.
You seem to care a lot about making out for someone who doesn't have a boyfriend. Before I give you the how-to: remember, relationships do have an emotional level to them, as well! Make sure you do like this future boy.
Ok, well the kissing. Before you start, you have to remember to get into the right position. Maybe you will be pulling apart from a hug, maybe you are holding his hand. You must also be close to him (duh). Whoever's the most adventurous will make the first move (traditionally the guy but if you were the more outgoing one in the relationship, I'd say go for it). Once you have all the basics, tilt your head so the top of your lips are at the sides/tops ish of his. Approach the kiss with a slightly open mouth and then close while pursing lips.
Making out is basically a longer version - your mouth opens more while kissing over and over again. Frenching - I've seen some "techniques" on the internet but you don't have to really know much to french kiss once you've gotten to the kissing stage. All you really have to do is dart your tongue into your partner's mouth slightly while open mouth kissing and he will get the idea.
Like I said before, make sure you really like the guy you kiss before you do so. Make sure this is someone who will treat you right and that you can treat right. Don't feel you have to kiss because your friends have already... I mean you want kissing to be special, not just something you did one day because you were curious and because everyone else you knew was doing it.
Yup well hope this helped satisfy your curiosity and ummm yes gave you some knowledge for when you get kissed :P
Basically I just need a quick confidence boost from any girls out there that read this. I just want your opinion of me based on my description and tell me if your a girl would you like me or not. I am 5'10" and 150 pounds. The weight is solid muscle not that much body fat. I enjoy playing sports. I am a quarterback in football and play tennis pretty well. I drive a mustang and dress casually yet I guess what you could call preppy. I have black hair, brown eyes, and perfect white teeth. Please I just need a quick confidence boost for when I flirt with girls please send me your comments. Thanks.
You've got an impressive bio, I must say.
What I don't get is why you need a confidence boost when you seem pretty cocky describing yourself ("prefect white teeth").
I'm a girl but no guarantees I would like you; unfortunately me liking you would have a lot more to do with cupid than anything.
But once again... why do you need this confidence boost?
is there any kinds of shampoos without sodium laurel sulfate because i am allergic to it. thanks!
Johnson & Johnson, Jason...
In general, visit the organic section of any loblaws, or any health food store and you should be able to find shelves of them.