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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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when you date a guy, but he doesn't send anything to you or call you or email you or anything on Valentine's day.

Do you just break up with him? Or you call and ask him what's going on?

Yeah my boyfriend didn't get me anything for Valetine's Day either. Its really not that big of a deal. I figure I'd rather spend time with him than get present anyday. Maybe he really just does not know what to get you. He could be nervous. Maybe he thinks the same way I don about this holdiay. Its a made-up one made by the Hallmark Greeting Card company so they can make more money. :) Yeah. I would just let it go. Now if it were like Christmas or your birthday, that would be another story, and I would tell you to break up with him or probaly just go talk to him about it. ^_^

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I've recently just taken up guitar, so I'm a beginner, so what are some good songs that are easy to start out with?

Start out with the classics.
-Smoke on the Water/Deep Purple
-Iron Man/Black Sabbath
-Heart of Gol/Neil Young
-Stairway to Heaven/Led Zepplin

Any song with like 3 chords would be good too. ANy like old country songs are good. Hope I came of some help.

xoxo,
dottie4

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i've been with my boyfriend for almost two years & i'm clueless on what to get him on valentine's day [ i know, i'm horrible ] but i wanted it to be really romantic. we're probably already going out to dinner but i'd like to buy [ or make ] him a gift, too. does anyone know something sweet i could get him? i don't really care how much it would cost. i rate high, thanks a lot.

That is so cute. Maybe give him a nice cologune set. You could also give him a pocket knife. Sounds weird but a lot of guys do like that kind of stuff. Maybe even a nice cross on a chain. Thats what I'm giving my boyfriend. Or make him a nice mixed CD of songs that both of you like. I did that one year for my boyfriend. Maybe even write him a song or poem. This probaly sounds corny but I did this for christmas and my boyfriend really liked it. :) Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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girl,15 -

iv only given someone a hickie/lovebite/nookie once, and it left a mark for a while, but i dont know how i did it :$ iv bin given hickies before, but i dont understand how you give someone one.

i dont exactly want to leave a long lasting mark, but just a little reminder =P

my pulling buddie (not boyfriend, mainly because i dont want a bf atm) has been given a hickie before, and i want to give him one, but i dont want to try and fail, and look stupid.
ill try if im given tips, but i dont want to go ahead with no idea of what im doing.

help would be appreciated, details even more.
thank yooooo.

me xxx

To give a hickey, you suck a lot. You might want to use your teeth a little bit as well. Also suck on his neck for like 5 minutes and it should leave a mark. hope i helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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How do you know if you hve mad cow disease? How long does it take to come down with it?

You get mad cow disease by eating meat that has it in it. Mad cow comes from cows eating other cows. Basically the cows becoming cannibal. But yeah, you get it immediatly even though the symptoms doesn't show for a while.

xoxo,
dottie4

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what do ladies think semen taste like and if you are experenced in the field do you spit or swallow?

Spit it out. Thats nasty. O_o It tastes gross and you could get sick from it.

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this is driving me crazy because everyone i know is giving me different answers, but did they raise minimum wage or not? im in georgia if it makes a difference.

They did. They changed it nationally to $6.50

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i like this guy but ive never hung out with him. weve just talked online. and yes i do know him in person. he has this gf and so i dont really want to like him but i cant help it and last night everything went wrong. me and his gf got in a fight and so now hes mad at me and deleted me as a friend on myspace and so we dont talk anymore. and so my friend sent him a messgae saying some stuff and he requested me but i was really mad at him and didnt approve him. but now i think i made a big mistake. wat should i do now?

I would just apoligize. Maybe even tell him face to face. Request him. If he doesn't approve you, he is not worth it.

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Umm yeah this is kind of embarrassing but yeah she want's to have sex but i don't know because i don't know what to expect, like will she bleed or will she get hurt or i don't know would you be able to tell me a little bit more please?? thank you
~~~>~~

Yeah girls bleed the first time because of a hymen in the vagina. I really dont think you have anything to worry about though. Usually girls end up breaking or tearing it before the age of 15. However if she does bleed, there wont be that much. I suggest maybe putting a towel under her and that will be enough.
Hope I helped.

xoxo
dottie4

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I'm really bored.I like to try new things and start fun projects like combining archietecture,photoghraphy and sculpture into a single art work.I just want to have fun.Please could you think of something fun for me to do.Any suggestions are appreciated.

Sure. You could try like oragami. I have this book that says ways you can fold a dollar bill to look like a frog or even a peacock. Maybe even make a collage. I love making those when Im bored.

Hope I helped.
xoxo dottie4

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is it first or second base?

The bases are: first, making out. Second is feeling up. Third is oral sex and home is sex. The real thing. Hope I helped

xoxo
dottie4

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If people say making out is not something that should be done in public, where is a good place to do it?

I'm still young, and I don't think my mother would like it if I went up to my bedroom with my boyfriend and just closed the door. =/

help?

Yeah. I actually had my mom walk in on me and my boyfriend when we were making out a couple of times and it is embarrasing. If your mom does walk in on you, it shouldnt be that big of a deal. If you need ideas of places, maybe go down to the basement with him. You could even ask your mom if you can go outside with him. Maybe even go to a movie theater with him. Making out really isnt that big of a deal. I see people doing it out in public all the time and it doenst bother me at all. Just make sure you dont go out of your way for your parents to see. Cause that is embarrasing. :)

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Hey if you spray too much body spray on yuorself will your shirt get ruined?

Well you shouldn't put on body spray when you have a shirt on. It could bleach your shirt. Especially if your wearing a dark shirt. So yeah. Before you put on your shirt, let the body spray dry.

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female
im not a lesbian, so dont say that i am. i like guys, i've had boyfriends and kissed guys. i wouldnt ever kiss or do anything sexual with another girl. not that there is anything wrong with being a lesbian. the thing is like whenever i hear the word lesbian,it just like gets stuck in my mind and plays in my mind over and over. its really bothering me and i want to know a way so this echo in my head will go away and. please help.

Look girl. There is nothing wrong with you. Everybody at at least one point in their life becomes curious about the same sex, even if they dont want to admit it. Probaly has to do with what the media is doing drilling it in your head that people who are different are evil and all of them are sinners and they must all die. You are perfectly normal and their is nothing wrong with you. My current boyfriend and I talk about this kind of stuff all the time. Even he told me he's been bicurious before, which doesnt even mean your bi. It just means your curious. Probaly with all the stuff on the news is probaly what the reason why you have this hooked in your head. Maybe kids at your school talk about it, I dont know but one thing I do know is, you are fine and their is nothing wrong. If you start thinking about this kind of stuff again, just remember that everyone goes through it, even if they dont want to admit it. Heck it's a normal human speices way to think of stuff like that. It would be weird if you never had.

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I love singing. But i have a shyness of singing in front of people. I have before and people were shocked. I think im really talented at singing but it just the shyness that is a problem. How do i get over something like that?

You have to be comfortable with yourself first. When I first sung and played guitar for people I was very nervous. You can say your good but you have to know your really good. Make sure you dont lack any confidence. You can work up to that confidence by simply practicing by yourself. It doesnt really help to do it in front of people. You have to know your good. Tape record you singing and than listen to it. Doing this will make you realize your singing ability. People tell me Im good at the guitar all the time. Doesn't mean I believe it! Chances are if you cant sing in front of people yet, your just not read. Not saying your not a singer. Your probaly 100 times better than me.

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my face starts feeling like very oily and sweaty during the day and my makeup starts smearing and coming off and it makes me look pretty gross. People have told me to use mosturizer but that makes it look at shiny and sweaty and I dont see how it helps. Is it my makeup or what?

Yeah. That happens to me all the time. I would make sure the make-up you wear is oil-free. I wear the powder kind. The absorbant sheets work really well and their very cheap. Like if your at school, just go to the bathroom, and wipe all the oil off. Simple as that. Also, make sure you clean your face at least twice a day at the least. Make sure you keep your hands clean when you need to touch your face to. But yeah. Dont use moisturizer. Who ever told you that doesn't know what there talking about and has probaly not went through this. Besides that, nothing more to say.

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i'm learning to play guitar, i'm actually somewhat good by now. but for some reason, i can never seem to get a good grip or hold on to the pick, like it slips out of my fingers. i hold it right, i'm positive.

any tips on what i could do about it?

Yeah. I know exactly what you mean. Especially when Im playing for people I lose grip of the pick all the time. What really helps me is I use nylon picks that are the extra heavy kind. I also recommend getting some heavier strings. With those in combo, you really shouldn't have this problem anymore. With thicker picks you'll be able to have a better grip on the pick and with the heavier strings, you'll have better control of the pick. It takes a while to get use to the heavier picks but after you do, you'll be glad you did. Same with the strings. I play really hard so I like having heavier strings. I break the strings a lot less.

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my boyfriend doesnt seem like the type to be bump and grinded or dance period. or like the kind to make out. we've kissed but not serious kisses just pecks. he lives in another state and i'd like to get a little more serious. but i dont want to bump and grind and for him to feel uncomfortabe. and i dont want to french kiss him and him to feel awkward or not know what to do. but i've never frenched kissed. how can i get him to french kiss me w/out me ask'n him or me making the first move. thanks and sorry for so many questons at once. thanks again!

Well, I think you should just ask him to kiss you. If he doesn't want to, he's probaly just not ready, or he may just be really nervous. Ask him if he is nervous. Tell him you are to but you want to be closer to him. Tell him you like him so much that you want your first time french kissing to be with him. Thats what I did with my first boyfriend and he wanted to do it right away after that. You should be very understanding with him. He may even be afraid that if he does it, he may be feeling like you may regret it later. Maybe he's just afraid he will hurt you. Thats how it is with a lot of guys. Just sit down on the couch next time you see him, and ask him whats up. Listen to his side. He may have a very good reason that you just dont know about yet. He may also feel that you guys haven't been going out long enough to do it.But if you really reallly want to get him to kiss you like make out with you, do little things next time you see him like, be really flirty. Tickle him, giggle a lot. Maybe even lick your lips.

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13/f

This guy in my grade is in love with me. He keeps calling me baby and asked me out 3 times. I said no, i just wanted to be friends. But he keeps telling me how much he wants to kiss me and stuff. I kind of want to kiss him and hook up, but want to remaing friends. How can I hook up and not have him expecting a relationship?

You have probaly heard this a million times, but it is the truth. You have your whole life to worry about guys. Your only 13!! If he likes you a lot, what kind of friend would you be to break his heart like that, by telling him you dont want a relationship but you end up kissing him anyway. That would break his heart. Lets say a guy did that to you. How would you like that? I don't think you would like that just like he wouldn't like it if you did that to him. A lot of guys may like it just being "friends with benefits" but that will hurt you in the long run. Lets say he found someone else that he liked and wanted nothing to do with you anymore. Plus I dont mean to sound mean but you may end up with a reputation and be called a slut or whore at school, and I dont think you wnat that. Sounds like this guy really likes you and you shouldnt want to hurt him.

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Alright. the question is. what do guys like when they are like...grinding with a girl...like at dances. guys...do you like when a girl faces you, or has her back to you?

what are some tips?

Im a girl but I know what guys like. Guys like when dancing, grinding with your back towards them. Make sure your really close to their genital area. Another tip is bend over a lot and swing your hair. Also wear something really tight.

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