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okay so on friday me and my boyfriend had sex kinda it was like only a couple of minutes haha of course we used a condom (YAY safetey) and it was my first time that a guy ever put his penis all the way in. ya it hurt like a bitch but not to much so an hour later when i came home i used the bathroom and i started bleeding like a little bit it wasnt tons of it but you know and iknew it wasnt my period becuase it didnt look like that kind of blood ( i just ended my period the day before though) and im still kind of sore now and its sunday but only when i wipe. just wondering if thats normal.? and i want to do it again on friday like till we finish or he does idk if it will feel good for me or will it hurt still or less? will i bleed again? when will it start to feel good? (link)
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Hello, Thank you for the question!
More than likely you are bleeding because you had sex for the first time, Sometimes when two people have sex there is a chance the male can rip the females hymen.
Here is a link to what I mean
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen
Also known for "popping your cherry"
It is common to bleed lightly a few days after, When I had sex for the first time I went through the same thing. It should heal within a few days. If you have sex again, It might hurt a little but it won't hurt as bad because you've already "popped your cherry" and he's already broke through the skin. You can also look into buying some lubricant which sometimes helps the penis to slide in more comfortably and helps with pain or lubricated condoms.
-BahaiMa22
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okay so my best friend and i have sorta split up ever since her old bestfriend has been coming back into her life again. it really hurts and i dont know what to do anymore. for the past month we have fought alot and its so stressful for me. im just not sure whether i should let it go. work it out. or just move on. please help me! (link)
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Sometimes people tend to forget that is okay to have more than one best friend. You could try talking to her and her friend and let them both know how it makes you feel maybe they just need a reminder. You could also try doing things as a group. You never know, you could all turn out to be the best of friends.
BahaiMa22
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i am a 14/f and i was wondering what are some things to do or say when people make fun of you or crack stupid jokes or try to make you feel bad?? like something that will make it seem like i dont care or can laugh along with it rather then something that will make me sound or look bitchy or like a total idiot (link)
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People who crack jokes on other people, Tease, or even make fun of others are just usually doing it because it makes them feel better or they think it makes them look good. The most popular reason people tend to pick on people is because they choose what they think is a "weak" target. They like someone who is going to show a reaction. If someone cracks a joke, teases you or makes fun of you the best thing you can do is walk away or ignore it. If you continue to walk away and ignore it eventually they will get tired of it because it will become pointless because you aren't showing a reaction and they will get bored and move on. It might not happen overnight but eventually they will stop. If you show a reaction they will only get what they want and do it even more.
BahaiMa22
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Does anyone know of any teen sites that are for texting and meeting people your age?? (Like 14-16)
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The safest way to meet people your age would probably be facebook. However, Please be safe and do not give out your number, address etc to people you do not know.
BahaiMa22
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when doing laundry, are you supposed to turn everything inside out? (link)
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Turning clothing inside out is optional, Some people do it to avoid any lint or stains getting on there clothing. You do not have to turn your clothing inside out when you do laundry.
BahaiMa22
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is black hair considered to be brunette (link)
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No, Black hair is black hair.
Brunette is a dark brown color.
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when cooking instant noodles, why does it matter if you wait until the water is boiling to add both the flavoring and noodles in? (link)
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Many direction packages that are "Instant" will tell you to wait until the water is boiled to make sure it's fully cooked. I just wait until my noodles are tender and just add the flavoring to it. :)
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So now that im in high school, people and some of my friends are loosing their virginity or something, like getting fingered. Nothing like that has happend for me yet though.. But besides that when it does happen Im scared that i will scare them or something because I have razor burn scars down there! Like I have this big one, than some smaller.. Im scared that i would turn them off or gross them out!! I mean not everygirl has that, but me of course.
Anything i can do!? Do you guys think it would scare a guy? And i dont want people to think i have a disease!
thanks , xox (link)
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Aloe, Will help with razor burns. The next time you attempt to shave I would suggest non-cut razors which will help avoid any razor burns/cuts. You can also find woman's shaving cream for about 9 dollars at Walmart or any CVS/Walgreens or Rite aide.
Here is a picture of a razor I am talking about, I use it and I never had any razor burns or cuts it works very well.
http://beths-stockpile.com/images/Intuition-Plus-Razor-Dry.jpg
-BahaiMa22
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Ok i'm a very pale chick and for as long as i can remember after shaving down there its always pink. Today all day the lips of my vagina and the triangle of skin just above it have been itching like crazy but theres nothing visibly seen. Just normal. i shaved the night before and sometimes it itches afterwards but never the entire day afterwards and i got my period today too if that matters for anything. what do you think is going on? i could really use some advice i'm starting to feel paranoid even though i'ma total virgin and never have done anything down there with another person. (link)
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Like the person below me said, Vaginia's do get extra sensitive during the time of your period. Also, It is very common for females who shave to become itchy yet alone have little bumps on the lip of the vaginia after shaving. If this continues and the itching continues after your period and several days after shaving I would recommend seeing a gynocologist just to be safe.
Bahaima22
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I have been on ortho tricyclin(sp?) for the last 4 months. I go to planned parenthood to get it because I'm sexually active and dont want my mom to find out.
The problem is that I'm sick of going there, I have to wait for and hour and a half just to pick it up and I have to pay. I've decided that I want to tell my mom that I want to go to the gynocologist just to get a check up. Is it possible that I could ask the doctor to put me on the same form of birth control but she could tell my mom its for my period? And how long does it usually take to get an appointment? I don't want to ask my mom, findout I have an appointment a week from now and then not be able to take the birth control because it would screw up my current month (that sounds confusing but it makes sense haha) I want to stop taking it at the end of my last pack so that I wouldn't be off it too long until I can get perscribed more.
My last random question is if I go off birth control, will I lose the weight in my boobs that I've gained? haha. BC has made my figure more curvey and I would hate to lose that because I didn't really have one to begin with =/ Thanks so much, 17/f (link)
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Well,
I don't know much about ortho tricyclin but I will tell you that if you go off the birth control you will probably gain weight before you begin to loose only because your body is adjusting. Seeing you are under the age of 18, If the gynocologist provides any sort of birth control that is a perscription more than likely your mother will find out only because you are a minor and the doctors need your parents permission. Therefore, You might want to use condoms which I am sure you probably already do so. Your best bet will to probably try and comfront your mother about it even though the situation is uncomfortable for both you and her. It's better to tell her early and get it over with than to possibly make a mistake and have her find out the hard way. Also, If you switch between birth controls and you are sexually active it increases the chances of becoming pregnant than if you were already on the birth control.
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What is a really good moisturizer? My skin is super dry, flaky, scaley (whatever) and rough and i want it back to my baby soft skin. it is really dry from vacation (really hot/humid and tons of sun exposure) and my new acne medicine so i need some great moisturizer (link)
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Here is a list of some great lotion I used.
Aveeno (Probably the best)
Baby lotion
Cocoa Butter
Cucumber Melon
-BahaiMa22
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I didnt think there was anything wrong with my self-confidence, but two nights in a row ive had dreams that leave me feeling insecure.
First, i was at a pool at night, & i was talking to these girls, & i realized my ex was next to us flirting with Rihanna & after a while i decided i didnt rly wna be there so i got up & in my head i said "dont worry, you dont need to be dating chris brown. Its not a competition who can flirt with the cuter person" because i was feeling that way. & everywhere i went at the party i was judging who to talk to by how pretty they were, because i wanted to beat my ex by talking to cooler people. Im emberassed for thinking this way, but its how it was in the dream. & then i found my rly close friend who i always have so much fun with, but i was too preocupied with my ex to have fun with her. & then later, i wasnt there but i knew what wa shappeneding, in the other room my family came into this room with a bed & a red blanket, & they looked & saw i was gone,& found a gun & ropes & things in the bed, & they didnt seem alll that concerned. & they called the police.
& then my other dream, i came back to school ( i missed 4 days for a family vacation) & i saw my best friend & ran to give her a hug, but she didnt give me the biggest hug. & in my head i said "you know somtimes shes sort of cold, its just her personailty" & so we were walkinng, & ended up on these 2 chairs, & my best friend wa ssitting on this girls lap who is always trying to steal my friends away from me, & i was sitting with 2 girls who dont even go 2 my school but i thot they did, & i totally forgot about the other girls,
What does it mean? (link)
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Taking a guess...
I could mean that you are feeling intimated by other females. You feel like it's always a competiton of who gets who. You may also be intimidated by your friend and you may not be aware of it.
The only way to know what it really means is to look for the clues, Ask yourself.
1. What do you think it means?
2. Why was Rhianna and Chris Brown in your dream? What did it mean to you?
You can also try this link, I hope it is a help to you. :)
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/
BahaiMa22
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where can i watch the degrassi halloween specail "the curse of degrassi" online, prefferably in full, and for free? (link)
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http://www.hulu.com/
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So i thought this was the right category. Well my boyfriend is 17 and bi-polor. One minute he will be happy and the next we will be fighting but then fine again. I don't think he takes anything and i don't think he wants too. but how do i deal with this? anything will be helpful, except dumping him, because thats not gonna happen. THANKS! (link)
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Here is a link, I hope it is helpful
http://ezinearticles.com/?Ways-To-Cope-With-Bipolar-Disorder&id=135296
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They sell condoms on like a regular isle in Target right? Can anyone just walk in and buy them? (link)
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Yes of course you can buy them. Afterall, They are for anyone! You would normally find condoms behind the check out line or in a pharmacy department. :) 3 packs are about 3.99 and the big packs range between 10-25 bucks usually.
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OK so im dating this guy well kinda i think i am and we met online its a long distance thing im 14 and he is 16 but i cant talk on the phone with guys yet and we used to talk on the phone all the time till my mom said i can't.he said we can talk on aim till she cools down and we talk once on aim ever since he hates typing for some reason but i dont know if its ganna work between me and him but i really like him we were talking for about 2 months and he told me he loves me what should i do?please help me. (link)
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Alright,
Lets go over the basics,
1. How far away does he live?
2. Have you ever met him face to face?
Most long distance relationships do not work out, Here is why, When you have a long distant relationship it is much harder to take time and see each other yet alone you never know just how commited they really are. Honestly, If he said he loved you and you "didn't" meet him face to face then I really wouldn't take his word for it. "Love" is a really strong word he might just be exsperiencing a crush on you and he may like you. I would say I think you are much better off meeting a guy that is close to you and that you've met face to face before only because I think it would benifit your happiness and you know that he would be more committed rather than if you met someone offline who lives a good miles away. Not only that but I think you'd find yourself alot happier.
xx
BahaiMa22
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so im 15/f and i have never had not even 1 boyfriend!! im kinda shy which probbaly explains a bit. wondering how i can i guess get out of being shy? im only shy at skool but at home im jokeing and haveing fun!! i don't really no y? any thoughs about y? (link)
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Relax,
In school there is alot of pressure, judgement, stress, peer pressure and I could go on forever. At home you just might feel more comfortable and you know nobody is going to judge you and that you are safe being yourself. When you are at school you need to realize you are who you are. Just be yourself and enjoy it. Who cares if other people don't like what they see your personality is what makes you unique. Shyness will only make you stand out more. Gain your confidence and start smiling and talking more even if it just means you say "Hello" to someone who walks by. If you like any sports than start going to after school events. Get involved more
Just be yourself
xxx
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Hi, I'm 21 f, he's 23 m.
The basics: We dated for a few months almost three years ago, but broke up because he was having depression issues and couldn't handle our relationship on top of all that. We...didn't have the best time when we were together. Neither of us were really ourselves for various reasons. He was a little emotionally abusive, and I was insecure, borderline anorexic...etc...
So, we remained friends and hung out a lot over the past few years, growing together, having fun just doing nothing...We both had some trials and leaned on each other for support, and the one thing that hasn't changed is that we love each other. His family hates me, and that has stopped us from really being together, as we were both a little afraid of what they would do to him if we were to get back together. Recently, he had a conversation with them in which he admitted exactly how he felt about me, and they said they would accept me.
So, after both of us dating around a little and coming to the conclusion that we wanted to be with each other and no one else, we've decided to make it official again.
Whew. All right, so here's my problem: I'm so used to not being able to tell him how I feel about him, and not being able to show it that I feel like I don't know how to do either of those things anymore.
He voiced earlier today that he almost feels like I'm taking him for granted, and I'm definitely not. He could have anyone he wanted and he picked me. (Of course, I was in the same boat, and I made the same decision.) I mean, it feels like kind of a given to me that I have him...because I do, even after three years, both of us having met other people and hung out with them. I don't feel like he's about to walk away at any point, and I don't think I should feel that way.
But after three years of battles and holding back and pretending I can finally be honest and show him just how much I love him, and I don't know how to do it...which is odd, because I'm a writer. You'd think I'd be able to write him a love letter or something, but I'm not sure I know how to express it in words.
I'm also aware that our relationship is gonna be more difficult than normal because we didn't have the best past. We fought a lot, but we fought THROUGH things and made up every time. We're also not getting to know each other any more really, we've kind of been together, but we haven't. I feel like there's a lot of pressure for this to work, and I really want it to. We can't really afford relationship counseling, otherwise I might run it by him.
Any ideas, anyone? Any suggestions? I really want things to be good with us this time.
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Okay,
There is a saying and it goes something like this.
( If you pour your heart, You've given your blood.)
Basically, If you two were to concider marriage down the line than you wouldn't only be marrying him you'd be marrying his family. Therefore it is important that his family excepts you and they gain your trust.
No relationship that has a rusty past is going to be easy, You will have to work on exspressing yourself more even if it's not exactly in the best ways. If it is difficult for you than thinking romanticly might help a little.
For example: A card that says "I love you"
Or even doing nice things for him, Go for a walk have a nice conversation, Beach go for a picnic as the weather will soon be getting nicer. He might be feeling you are taking him for granted only because there is a gap in emotions. It could also be that you two just need to communicate more. If a relationship doesn't have good communication than you can bet on it, It might be a little rusty. If you two can't afford relationship counseling then you two are going to have to work on it together afterall communcation is the golden key in every relationship and a relationship should be 50/50.
BahaiMa22
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i had sex about a month ago and i was desperaetly waiting for my period well i got it but light can you get your period after havin sex about a month earlier and then still be pregnant?
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Yes indeed, It is possible.
You might want to concider a pregnancy test, If you are uncomfortable taking a free one at a doctors office you can purchase one at any pharmacy for about 13.99
BahaiMa22
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Okay, so a lot of my friends like this guy that I live by and I have a little crush on him too. Last week, one of my friends was texting him and he asked her what my number was. We started texting and it really seemed like he liked me. But then one day, we texted for two hours straight and he started giving short answers and replying slow. I asked him if he liked me and he told me kinda and I said I kinda liked him too. Things have been awkward since then and I really don't want to like him, but I can't help it.
So I guess my question is, does he still like me and if not, how do I get over him? (link)
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Well,
If he said "kinda" then it just might be that he likes you but he could have girlfriend. I'm just taking a wild guess. Maybe you should try approaching him and talking to him in person
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