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Q: Okay. I have a guy friend...And I love him soooo much...he's definitely my best friend. But in the beginning of our relationship, I told him that I have a step father. It was accidental...and now I regret it. Thing is - I DON'T have a step father...but somehow it spilled out. Now he is questioning our relationship and he doesn't think he knows the "real" me. He thinks I'm hiding something...I know it's kind of stupid...But I dunno. ;_;...Should I tell him that I DO have a REAL father? It's runining our friendship...I know, I know...it seems like a stupid reason...but we are supposed to be honest :( Should I tell him the truth?

Communicate with him. Be honest. Because I know all about lying-I've done enough of it in my past- and the truth will come out, if not it already did. So just tell him the real story. Don't risk lying more to cover up other lies, because, one, it will come out, and two, you could lose your friendship/relationship.

Q: they come in like almost every color and they're really comfortable and they have holes in the top of them. does anyone know what they're called and where you can get them? pictures would be nice too :]

They are called Crocs.
Stores that would have them:
-Walmart
-Journey's
-Target
-Meijer's

There's actually more, but unfortunately I can't think of the names. But basically, a lot of the places where you go will usually have them.

Q: My father has had 3 wives, and did not even tell me, I had to find out from my mom. I live with my mom also. How can I get my dad to stop being so secretive? I am his daughter and I only have a faint outline of what his life has been like so far. How can I learn more, without him feeling 'violated'?

I know this a short and common answer, but communication. I think if you have more of that with him, and you open up a little bit more with him, he'll do the same. Now, hey, if he just wants to be secretive, you can't change him. But usually when teenagers open to their parents, the parents will see that you want to talk and such and do the same for you.

Q: okay im 14//f, but i havent gotten my period yet. like i know its usually until 16 that i have to worry about but, ive had like hair down there for 3 years..and its weird how i havent gotten it yet. my breasts have grown too, butn ot completely. Is there something wrong? Will i ever get my period?

What you're experiencing is pretty normal. Yes, some girls get their period late, like 16. If you're that uncomfortable, though, try going to your gyno and talk to her about it. But personally, I wouldn't worry about it.

Q: If I had a tampon in during the day, and kept it in while swimming, would I need to take it out? Or can I keep on going afterwards for another few hours until I need to take it out?
Do tampons fill with water when swimming?

Tampons should be kept in only 4-8 hours. And if you go swimming, you should take it out and replace it with a new one. Never leave it after you go swimming. It's just not a good idea.

Q: ok this is going to sound weird.
but when i get my period, i get chunky bits along with the blood. hahah. well anyways, does anyone else get that? is it normal?

thanks

They're called blood clots, and they're normal.

Q: I'm 15. This boy is 18. But we really like each other. Is it legal to like .. date? Not have sex .. but just date?

I consider that if you're a minor, dating an adult, that it's illegal. But, according to law, I'm not sure about just dating. But if you don't have sex, I don't think there's anything wrong with it, no.

Q: I need to lose 15 lbs. in a month. I hate exercising. I need dieting tips!

What worked for me is 3 meals a day, one small dessert, and one [small] snack. But, I also ran 3 miles every other day. No matter what diet your on (unless you don't eat anything at all, which makes you gain more than you lost in the end) you have to exercise. And exercising in small amounts could help, too. And, exercising also helps long-term; you stay healthy from doing it, and it makes you feel a lot better.

Q: Normally I hate questions like these, but its driving me crazy. I see a lot of people with "Nmw" in their AIM profile. Ex: "bfflnmw" I know the "bffl" means "best friend for life" but whats the nmw? Ha.

Nmw = No Matter What

Q: Is Pep Rally supposed to be capitalized?

I agree with lakewoodjoe. It depends on where you're using the word(s). Or the context, actually.

Q: I dont know if I believe in a God anymore. It just doesnt seem real. How do I figure this out and stop being confused about it all. Also, my friends believe in God.... should I talk to them about it? Do you think they would be upset with me if I didnt believe in a God?

Normally, it's okay to be confused about religion. I'm agnostic, and I used to be Catholic. I was really confused for a while and then I just found it would be easier to not believe in anything. Now, the part that was easiest is that two of my friends, one is agnostic, one's atheist. Hardest part? The third one is Catholic. But if your friends are really your friends, they'll support you in your decision. Try talking to them about it. I think it would help.

Q: Is it better to take a bath or shower ? That might sound dumb but is one better than the other? I notice when I take a shower the water hitting my face like makes my face turn all red and my face itches for some reason but when I take a bath it doesnt.

Hah, it's not a dumb question. I know what you mean. When you take a shower, the pressure of the water may irritate your skin, especially if the water is really hot. When you take a bath, it may still irritate, but it lowers the chance becaue you're soaking in the water and your body is absorbing it easier. I'm the same way. So, to really answer your question, whatever is easier and more comfortable for you. I think it's easier to just take a shower, but that's just me. Whatever works for you.

Q: I was wondering why you're not aloud to just take your medicine and that you always need to eat food before you take your medicine? Like if it's really serious, you don't have time to eat food, you gotta eat your medicine as soon as possible and hope it's working!

One, you need to read the directions. Sometimes you really don't need to eat. Usually they mean it when they say to eat with your medicine, just because you can get bad side effects if you don't eat. Like, for example, my sleeping pill, I have to eat with it (it's really gay, right?),and one time I risked not eating and when I woke up in the morning I had a masive headache all day. All people have different reactions to every medicine. It may not affect someone else, but may affect you. Do you see what I mean? So if you're on the go and can't fully eat a meal, just have something on hand to eat, like a nutri-grain bar or something. But, just for your health's sake, just eat with it.

Q: alright, i know this may sound stupid, but how exactly do you flirt with a guy, especially, if he's a good friend? any tips would also be good

The most common advice: be yourself. Have a sense of humor and be playful. Then, from there on, it will just come naturally.

Q: is there anything i can do or get so my eyeliner stays on all day without reapplying it constantly? btw no liquid eyeliner.

any tips?..
thanks in advance!

I use CoverGirl pencil eyeliner. It's not waterproof, but it stays on unless, one, you get your eyes wet, (and it takes a lot of water), or it comes off also if you're constantly rubbing your eyes. But it's a brilliant eyeliner.

Q: Yeah. I kind of need help!! Me and my best friend r having a huge fight right now and I don't know what to do. We both said things we didnt mean. What should I do? Im so confused? ;0; Please help me. I already apologized but she wont take my apology!!

I peronsally think that you should confront her about the whole thing and apologize, but I know that doesn't always work. So, I think you should call her, and leave her a voicemail telling her you're sorry, and explain to her everything was just a big misunderstanding. Or, write her a letter. (Only if she won't shred it to pieces)Good luck!

Q: i know your not suppose to have myspace trackers and im not planning to get them but i was just wondering if they really work. has anyone used one before?

None of the trackers work. There's only one program that I know of that DOES actually work, but unfortunately I don't remember the name of it because it was so long ago, and you have to pay like ten dollars a month or something. But nope, none of them ever work. :[

Q: Can your body get rid of strep throat naturally, without antibiotics?

It depends on which type of strep it is, or what kind of virus you're infected with. Some viruses antibiotics can't even help. Some can, though. I suggest going to your doctor if possible and they can do a strep culture and let you know.

Q: i swim at the ymca alot. one day i thought it would be funny to play a prank. it was ona saturday and i was at the pool and alot of little kids where in the pool with there parents. when i went in the pool i had a baby ruth bar in my hand so that no one could see it. i was just wadling in the pool and when i swam past/walked the little kids i just let go of the baby ruth bar. the life guard saw it and ordered everyone out of the pool think it was a hazard to health (they thought it was just was just what i wanted them to think it was- a piece of shit). everyone was making a big deal about it. later that day they found out it was a baby ruth bar (when cleaning the pool that it). they said if the person who did it doesnt confess that they will close down the pool for the rest of the hot weather. i dont kno if they will but im not willing to take a chance because i love that pool so much. what should i do..no tell them, tell them , and if i do tell them what should i say? it was just a joke! HELP.

I know you're not gonna wanna hear this, but you should confess. You did it, and you are responsible for it. If you take my advice, then you do. And if you don't, well then, I don't know. Anyways, it's not fair to all the other people who have memeberships to the YMCA, and all you think about is yourself. YOU don't want to have the pool shut down so YOU can still go there. It's not fair, and it probably costed the YMCA money to drain the pool, and if they do re-open it, it will cost more. And, it probably really pissed them off and other people that their health could've been at risk. Plus, someone else shouldn't have to take the blame for something you did. All I'm saying is that every thing somebody does has a consequence, whether it's good, or whether it's bad.

Q: I got the top of my ear pierced a week ago and it had quit hurting, but tonight it started hurting and it's swollen where the back of the earring is. Is it swollen because it could be infected or because of the earring irritating it? What should I do if it's like this I cleaned it with peroxide.

Normally, if your ear is irritated by the earring it should only last 24-48 hours. If it keeps bothering you any more than that, TAKE THE EARRING OUT. How do I know this? Because it happened to me. Most likely it's infected. And don't just think that cleaning it is going to make it go away. Just take it out, and let your ear breathe. If you decide to get it done again, wait about two weeks and then go back and get it done. Also, when you pick out earrings, try earrings with an extended post on the back.

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Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
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I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.

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