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I'm having sex for the first time, ever. All my friends have and they say it hurts A LOT, and sometimes you bleed. ( depending on who you are ) Well, usually do guys just stop once they notice the blood? Or keep going or what? ALSO, what position would be best for me for the first time. I want as less pain as possible! Help?! Thanks!!

Everyone's different. Mine didn't hurt one bit - probably because I was relaxed and totally ready.
Do something simple at first - like missionary (man on top).. go slow and don't be afraid to talk each other through it, or tell him if it feels uncomfortable etc. Maybe even get some lube to make it easier (and of course condoms)
Put a towel down first if you're afraid of bleeding.
Just remember to communicate - and don't expect it to feel amazing in the early stages. Practice makes perfect :)!

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I fell in love with my ex-boyfriend but I didn't realize these strong feelings until after we broke up. I told him of these feelings and he said to give it time and they would go away when I found someone else.
We continue to be friends and speak on occasion. I haven't seen him for 8 months, during this time he found another girlfriend two weeks after breaking up with me.
I have entered into a new relationship myself, but still after 8 months my ex is all I can think about and I am still hopelessly, utterly and completely in love with him and I don't know what to do about it. I do like my current boyfriend a lot but my heart is with my ex.
I have told him again of these feelings that won't go away. My head knows that we can't be anything more than friends but my heart aches for him. This time he didn't say anything except for sorry for screwing up your life.
You know that when you find "the one" you'll just know it. Well I know that he is "the one" he just doesn't know it yet.
How do I get him to realize this? 8 months later and I feel no change in my heart and soul. =(

Hunni, I'm sorry to tell you, but he HAS moved on.
He's even spelt it out to you on more than one occasion.
There is no way to make him change his mind, or grow more feelings for you etc.
Right now, you need to focus on other things. I know it's hard, but you NEED to cut him from your life right now - just to help you get over him. Stop talking to him and stuff and focus more on your friends/work and having fun times.
I PROMISE you will get over this boy in time.. it will take a while, but the feelings will fade away.
If you're in a relationship now and you're still aching for your ex, don't you think you should break it off until you're totally ready to get yourself back into the dating world? It's not exactly fair to have a boyfriend but tell your ex you like him still.
Mr. Right will come along when you least expect it.
I can tell you I've been in a similar situation.. it took a while to get over, but now I'm with someone else and don't think about him, ever.

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So I was Thinking when I have children and I am probable going to get them what is the best way to get rid of them?

Please tell me a bunch of options lol

Definitely bio oil. Massaging it in a few times a day really does work.

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im a 16 yearold girl and i know this may sound really dumb, but can you get pregnant from masturbating? i know it sounds crazy but i just want to know if there is anyway possible. im not an idiot, im just having pregnancy like symptons, and the only thing ive done is masturbate. so im just a little confused. thanks in advance.

You can't get pregnant from masturbation alone.
If semen came into contact with your vagina, then yes - but that's the only way.

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Sasha Katherine-Rose & Elena Ricci-Regine.

I think they both have a special ring to it. ^_^ Both middle names for the girls are named after parents.

Opinions?

Sasha Katherine-Rose is probably the best.
Elena is a nice name, but I'm not too keen on Ricci-Regine. :)

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soo on facebook, my name won't show up when people try to search me! i looked at my setttings, and it says "everyone" when it says look who can search for you. and i know that people cant find me because one time i was working with my friend and she was on hers and i told her to add me so i typed my name into the search and i didnt come up. its quite annoying. anyone know why this could be?

It could just be a glitch, in which case, give it a few days and try again.
Might sound weird, but are you sure you're entering the right name?!
I'm "Lau Ra" on mine and I forgot when I told my friend to add me - so obviously he couldn't find me by entering my full name!
Does it work if you search for you in a different way? Like email?
If still no luck, it could be worth emailing Facebook to find out what's going on.

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This is pretty emmbarassing but im not afraid to speak of it. ive had sex with like 2 poeple only and a total of 15 times. ive done everything ya know ect. ect. but for the first few minutes of intercoarse its pretty good, then nothing. so thru all that time its not pleasurable at all. like theres no pain, just... dull-ness? like i feel nothing afterward then idk when to stop hah omgsh.
i hope that wasnt confusing.
is ther something wrong?
and weve tried ways to kick it up, but nope..

You just haven't found what works for you. Not everyone can climax from intercourse alone, so why don't you try different positions - they feel different.. and if still no luck, try stimulating the clitoris at the same time.
It just takes a bit of practice. Maybe you should spend more time on foreplay too. :)

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Are you a slut?

Yeah. I'm a slut.

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17/F

Would it be dangerous for me, as a female, to masturbate with a vacuum?

If you use objects, they HAVE to be clean.. and considering a vacuum constantly picks up dirt, I guess you ARE doing yourself more harm than good (infections etc) - especially if the vacuum is ON! :|..

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should i spell mii name:
Becca
Bekka
Becka
Beka
Beca
Bekca
Beki
Bekki
Or anything else?
my names is really rebecca but i've went by that for so long, im bored of it..
and suggestions??

I think changing the actual spelling is naff.
If you want to shorten it, go with Becca. Sounds fine to me. :)

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Hey i wasnt sure where to put this question but what does BS question stand for?iv seen it written on the site soemtimes but just cnt figure it out..sorry if this is a dumb question

Bull shit.
To sum it up, it generally means lies.

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At what age should a girl be able to shave her legs?

Depends, to be honest. Most girls start when they start puberty, like early teens.

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ok my boyfriend and i had sex and he never jizzed in me but i am scared i could still be pregnat?? am i?

Just because he didn't cum doesn't mean you can't get pregnant.
Semen can come out without either party knowing.. and pre cum CAN contain sperm.

Wait for your period. and if it doesn't come, take a test.

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Is it possible to get pregnant from the semen that leaks out when you go to the bathroom after anal sex? I have been careful to wash the vaginal and anal area consistently after intercourse and have also been careful not to allow semen to contact the vaginal area. Is it possible that the semen leaking out of the anus can get in contact with the vaginal area while on the toilet?

You would have to be one of the unlucky percentage to have that happen to you, but it's NOT unheard of.
Just use a condom.

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Well as you read i have a problem with my friends. My friends dont like aeropostale and i well pretty much luv it. My friend John says hollister all the way. Shawndeep says ew aeropostale. On the first day of school i wanna wear an aeropostale shirt but am afraid. I dont wanna be like a follower but if i wear it i dont want to not be stylish if they don't like it. I wouldnt want to change my friends and jerpodize my friendships rite now. So should i wear my shirt or just put on a shirt with no aeropostale on it? Oh and p.s. my bff Karina likes aeropostale and i am a 13/f

Girl, if you like it, then freakin' wear it!
As you get older, you will learn to not give a crap what anyone else thinks.
Wear it and keep your head up. x

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he's 16 turning 17 next month.

recently, me and him kinda got into an incident where things happened and our family got upset. but apparently, i say that his father took it way too far.. he punched him in the stomach, and my boyfriend coughed out blood then passed out. he was already tired when that happened, because he was crying and he had marching band the whole day. and ever since, he said he's been throwing up blood... is there a way to stop him from throwing up blood?

Hospital. Now. Go.
That blow to the stomach may have caused internal injuries and if he's bleeding internally, he needs treatment ASAP.

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my boyfriend sent me a text saying, "btw really random but you have the sofest lipes ever created"

... hahaa so is that good ?

Lipes, lol!
and of course it's good :P Wouldn't be nice kissing.. sandpaper lips now, would it? Haha

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Ok!! Well I just broke up with my boyfriend!! And about 5 minutes later after we broke up he called me beggin me to take me back!! And I Love him But im talkin to another guy right now that i've been with before!! I dont know what to do PLEASE HELP ME!!!


If you've been with this other boy before and it didn't work out, what makes you think it will work out this time..? and if you "love" the boy you just broke up with, why did you hurt him..?

Don't be with either of them just yet. Stop, think and follow your heart.

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what if your boyfriend stops calling like he use to when you first started out and hes moody and standoffish and bites your hrad off all the time and he acts like he doesnt want to talk to you or be arond you and he doesnt want you to touch him sometimes an d you think hes cheating because he comes with excuses to not want to be around you or do anything togehter

Maybe.. but it could be other reasons too.

Do you see each other quite often? One of the main reasons for this happening is not having enough space.
I see my boyfriend pretty much all day every day. I love it, but the odd day I feel like I need a few hours to be on my own, just to relax and do whatever I want to do.. and if I don't get time alone, I can get in a mood sometimes snap at him.. but I don't really mean it.

If you don't feel you see each other too much, then I advise you to just talk to him and ask him what's up. He probably has his reasons.. maybe he's a bit stressed at the moment.. maybe he's not entirely happy with how the relationship is turning out.. but if you guys talk sensibly about the situation, you can try and make it better.

Why don't you plan a day together, where you do things you haven't done before and make it romantic, to possibly relight the flame that was once there.

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13/m
ok so im 13 and since sometime last yeaer i have had pubes but its getting really bushy i reckon and i want to trim it but not really shave it all off i dont really want to talk to anyone i know about it cause it would be pretty weird...yea
so would it be normal or ok if i was to trim the pubes with scissors
thanks
ps i know its weird

If you don't like too much hair, then you don't have to have it! So yes, trimming it with scissors is one of your options if you want to do that. :)

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