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recently at a party..my brothers friend was like flirting with all my friends. he is like a total player and just wants a girl pretty much. especially when he is drunk haha. well i got a little drunk that night, and he was helping my up the stairs and stuff, then he slept in the same bed as me..we didnt do anything, but like major cuddling and stuff..and he tried to kiss me, and i backed off, im pretty sure, but i was a little buzzed at that point so idk if i did back, but i dont think so. anyways, i kept telling him to leave, and when he didnt i had to walk him to somewhere else to sleep. i feel awkward now, and i am really nervous for when my brother brings him over again. ok so what should i do..like just act normal? avoid him? its gonna be so weird! please help, and please dont give advice if your gonna say im horrible for doing that, because all i did was no more than kiss, if that even happened. and if not, it was just cuddling and stuff. alright thanks! im almost 17 if it helps by the way!

okay, you guys was like buzzed, so really its not a big deal. I mean like if hes comes over, dont ignore him, just act natural. He could have been so drunk he thought it was a dream, or even better he didnt remember it. But either way just act casual, nothing too big to get up tight about...
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I recently got Diagnosed (sp?) with an std that I wont ever be able to get rid of. I was wondering if you guys new of any sites online where people can talk about these things.

Sense I found out I have felt completely hopeless and I just feel like giving up but I cant do that to my parents.

So it would be really helpfull if you guys could give me a couple sites..

Please and thanks

i rate high!

Sorry to hear about the STD!! Dont worry it will be okay!! :)

http://www.herpesonline.org/chat.html

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Usually you cry when your in pain, sad and sometimes your when your angry

Is this kind of person weird

When angry say talks to him/herself on what him/her feels
When sad gets absent minded
And cry when she/he get annoyed but rarely cry when sad or angry

its normal! its just his or her way of coping with their feelings. For example when i get hurt i laugh, but then i start to cry and laugh at the same time. It just depends on your personality and your way of coping with feelings.
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people say different things about the shampoo mayne and tail
does it actually make your hair grow?
is it bad for your hair like give you split ends?

no it dont make your hair grow, it just gives you stronger healthier hair....they generally use it on horses but people use it too. So like how a horses mane and tail are really shiny and strong,,,,thats what you get...
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Hi I would like to know I am i'm involved with a guy and we had sexual activities like mutual masturbation, but no anal penetration.

I wanna know if its possile to get an STI by simply getting seamen on your penis or in your urethra.

Please help

it is absolutely possible! make sure he doesnt test positive from an STI... a STI can be spread just by skin contact...
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My guy friend kept joking around with me, saying "So when are we gonna make out?" Then actually lip-kissed me!
I always thought he was only joking. That guy has a gf he's not serious about. They've only kissed a bit so far and danced, and have been together for like 2 months. He was completely honest with me when he said things like "Dance with me then" and "I love you cuz you're crazy awesome" and "i like your smile too, when you actually do smile". he always smiled at me alot, stared whenever i talked and never looked away, he hugged me every time we parted for class at school, put his head on my head when i put it on his shoulder, complimented sometimes, etc. I want to go out with him for a while, and i wanted to call him to explain things about this one event that caused me breaking up with my bf (but im giving him time to cool off, i don't really regret it, he was too into me), but im scared, so im giving him a note just before winter break. he's a senior, 17, and im a sophomore, 15. my ex bf is 18, but held back as a senior. What should i do? Im not going to let go of both of them.

I say that if the guy friend still has his gf that he should break it off before you either consider him. But you know. A person online cant really awnser the what to do question. You just gotta block out the real world and listen to your heart. It will always lead you in the right direction.
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me and my bf is having a complicated problem is going on, and he ask me if i want to have break/cool off and he said"to see if we're gonna miss each other but im missing you already". So he said to set the date and i was like "no you" but he wanted me to set a date how long we're gonna take in our relationship so i said 2 and a half week (but we have a winter break so its gonna be 4 week and a half) and he said "okay..thats too long" and "make it shorter" but i said no its 2 weeks and a half and then next day he came up to me saying the cool off wont work and i was like "you planned it" and he was like"but its too long because of the winter break" and i said "why are you changing your mind? you planned it" and he was like "but can we talk just after class?" and i said no and he was like "are you serious?" and i said "yes" and we said bye and we left. next day i thought we were on the break but then he keep asking me if i was mad at him and i was like"im just doing the break like you told me to" and he was all"do you wanna break up?" and i was like i dont know and he was like" what if we get used to this break and its too long" and i was yeah and i think he was waiting for me to say and i just said "its not working out" i was just trying to make him break up with him and then he said "i think we should break up" and i was like okay and he said"man i dont wanna do this" and i was like"well you did" and he was all "i still like you" and i was like okay and he said"lets still be friends okay?" and i said okay and we hug and i told him good luck but we were still keep hugging each other like 4 times what do you think about this?

i think that this is just a ball of confusion. I think that he thought that his idea of a break was really gonna give you guys a chance to see the test of love. But then you said two weeks and it was all fine until the winter break came up right? So he wanted to date you still and make the break shorter, but you wanted to test it all to see if it really was true. But then he got scared that you might not come back to liking him. And then he didnt want to be dumped by you (not saying that you were to dump him) so he dumped you before you could get the chance to do it to him. So in the long run he looked like the bigshot, but didnt realize what he did until after he did it. He probably was regreting his decision which accounts for the hugs. He is probably thinking about how much he is an idiot for breaking it off with you. I say you two should talk, like really talk, with no one around. Then try to figure out what happened. And i know it might be frustrating but like before you talk promise not to get mad and start yelling. Be sure there is no one there or something there that is a distraction.
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Okay so I'm going out on Tuesday and I've never really worn foundation before. Can someone please tell me how to put it on, especially toning it in with your neck and getting rid of the line.

Just a step by step would be good, I could search the internet but I want real advice from real people who do it often :P Thanking you!

well make sure that you get a tone suited for your skin. Not too dark not too light.
Then you use a little bit.
you blend it in. Some like to use a sponge but i would rather use my finger.
then you just rub in circles all across your face.


PS sometimes the reason for the line is because it was too dark or too light of a shade.

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my best friend has changed a lot since we started high school well more about a year ago when she started going out with this kid who i dont like but whatever, my other best friend plays softball and is always at practice or hanging out with her team so that kinda leaves me with one other person dont get me wrong i love my friends but i want to find other friends, branch out so i know i will always have some where to go on weekends, but since im in high school most people are already in groups (my school isnt very catty like typical high schoools, were all get along for the most part) i just dont know how to break into the groups without people talking about it saying (oh look shes trying to be friends with them) im not like loserish or anything either

everyone becomes who they are in highschool. It like the law. Pretty much, you just need to put aside the talking and just branch out. If you ignore the talking and show everyone the real you, they should respect you more.
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does having sex hurt?
and how much does it bleed the firt time you have it?

oh and does it hurt to be fingered

well if your cherry pops it should start to bleed right away and for about 5-15 minutes.
And yes if it is your first time for sex or for fingering, and even sometimes after the first time, it will hurt. But once you get used to it, then it shouldnt hurt anymore.
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well theres this kid aj, and we both said we liked eachother a couple weeks ago, and then we stopped talking for a little and i talked to him today for kinda a while but still it was weird. and i still like him alot, so how do you think i can find out if he still likes me?

actually he probably likes you still, just now that he knows that you like him, he is probably under even more pressure to not screw up, therefore he is afraid he will screw up. Maybe he dont want to screw it up and he is just scared. He is just human. I say talk to him!

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Does it work?
& if it does, how long does it take?

i hear it works wonders. And i would say generally it would take around 2 or 3 days. Not too long.
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Sophmore/f

I know this sounds really dumb, but when you guys ask people to hang out for the first time, what do you say? How friendly do you prefer to be with someone before you ask them, please give examples (e.g. friendly enough to talk about personal stuff, friendly enough to have inside jokes, only talk in class sometimes, etc.) What kinds of things would you ask them to do? Would you want to go in a group or just you and that person?
Thanx

Like be friends with them first. Just talk with them in and out of class. Get to know them. And ask like one or two or maybe even three people to like go to the movies, or skating rink, or to the mall to "rate" guys on cuteness. Just little things like that...
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14.f

i have not had my first kiss yet, but many boys like me and i have a feeling i will get it soon.

but.. many people tell me i intimidate guys because of my beauty. i cause guys to think, "i don't have a chance with her, she's too good for me" because of my looks. everyone GASPS when they find out i haven't had my first kiss yet. but honestly, i don't want to rush it. i want it to be with someone special.

because of this, i have no idea how to kiss a guy. i tried googling and watching videos and such, but i just don't know. i've heard that you just have to let it flow, go with it ... but i'm afraid a really attractive guy will come along and like me and i'll go to kiss him and mess it up.

can someone make me feel better? i've read somewhere that girls have asked their guyfriends to teach them how to kiss. is that socially acceptable?

honey in this world anything is acceptable. i wouldnt do it but some girls practice on their best friends, even if they are girls.

But really you just have to let it flow. First kisses are always scary and are always bound determined to screw up and be embarrasing. But thats life. One night just get up your confidence and go for it. You not him. It gives it a twist dont you think?? if your scared and hes scared then that leaves it up to you!
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Im a 17 and i have a really abusive brother. How can i deal with him without callin the cops? should i tell my bf and gf or Friends?

well it depends on abusive type. does he rape you, does he emotionally hurt you, does he physically hurt you? If i was you i would call the authorities. Matter of fact tell someone you trust. If you dont want to call the cops i say you tell your mom or dad, or aunt or uncle, or even a grandma or grandpa. Tell your friends too. Just make sure they are trustworthy. Thats what you want to go for- trust. But if he is raping you or beating you, you need to get some strong force involved.
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Hey =)

I have short black hair and its all pretty much the same length since my layers have grew out. It's also pretty flat cos i straighten it all the time. I have naturally curly hair but can never really wear it curly because its too short and even when it goes curly as my curls are tight ones.

I was wondering what people advise me to do with it style wise to make it a bit more exciting as well as making it look nicer?

I know its not a very important question but it bothers me that it's always soo boring as my friends all have gorgeous hair and im working on my self-esteem at the moment

Thanks in advance =)
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you could like tip it red or pink or purple. Then maybe some bangs like to the side that are long.then get some short layers on top. Have fun and remember it is just hair, it can grow back.
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I plan on being a virgin until I'm married. I am currently a fifteen year old female. I've been confused lately about whether or not I should be dating and in relationships. Can I be in relationships and still manage to stay true to the no sex thing?
[By no sex, it includes everything, not just intercourse. No oral, fingering, touching someone below the waist, nudity, cybersex, phone sex, etc.
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And no, these aren't rules set by my parents or anybody else. My parents have set no boundaries on me or even talked about it. This is something I decided on my own.

I say that is a good thing that you set these boundaries yourself. And yes it is very possible to have relationships with no sexual actions other than kissing. It just depends on how much self control you have.

It would also depend on how much the guy respects you. You need to make sure that he knows where the sex thing stands. Sometimes you can get so caught up in a moment and in a relationship, you get swept up and forget. But once again like i said, it depends on the amount of self control you have.

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Someone likes me. My friend told me that he only likes me because he probably thinks im easy. -- What makes a girl easy anyways? And how can he tell?

Well there are two awnsers to the easy thing:
1) your friend could be jealous because maybe they like the same one that likes you...
2)they really do like you because your "easy" (not saying that you are...)

But mainly what makes a girl easy is that they give it up easy. For example, if there were to be a rumor that a girl dated a guy, and he got her to have sex with him, that would be considered easy.

Which leads me to my next thing. A guy could think you were easy, either because of a past reputation or because of rumor.

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what should I do my girlfriend is so mad at me that doesn't want to talk to me or see me I haven't seen her over a month?

Ok if she dont talk to you or see you, then why do you still want her to stick around? Depending on the girl you should either talk to her or give her time. Some girls want guys to take control, but others feel suffacated. I dont know what happened. But if she has not talked to you for a month, you need to tell her, that either she can make up with you or you guys can just take some time apart.
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What does god want from me? I am 13 and been a christian for 7 years but last month I realized that I need to have a better relationship with god all help is valued. I will take all advice and try to use it..
Allie

God wants everyone to be happy. You should never use his name in vain. You should never curse. You should pray. You should ask for forgiveness. Dont lie. dont cheat. dont steal. Dont kill. Be nice to everyone. Never be something your not.

thats the way i see it. I dont know if you have ever seen these...((which you probably have)) but one of my favorite things from the bible is Luke 1:37 For with God nothing shall be impossible.....


And also the poem footprints. I dont know what it is about it but everytime i read it i just seem to let go of all my worries and fears, and bad feelings. I just know that God will be with me. It really touches me.

Just never forget that even when you dont think he has a care in the world, he is always there, carrying you along the way...

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