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why did he break up with me if...?
me and my bf is having a complicated problem is going on, and he ask me if i want to have break/cool off and he said"to see if we're gonna miss each other but im missing you already". So he said to set the date and i was like "no you" but he wanted me to set a date how long we're gonna take in our relationship so i said 2 and a half week (but we have a winter break so its gonna be 4 week and a half) and he said "okay..thats too long" and "make it shorter" but i said no its 2 weeks and a half and then next day he came up to me saying the cool off wont work and i was like "you planned it" and he was like"but its too long because of the winter break" and i said "why are you changing your mind? you planned it" and he was like "but can we talk just after class?" and i said no and he was like "are you serious?" and i said "yes" and we said bye and we left. next day i thought we were on the break but then he keep asking me if i was mad at him and i was like"im just doing the break like you told me to" and he was all"do you wanna break up?" and i was like i dont know and he was like" what if we get used to this break and its too long" and i was yeah and i think he was waiting for me to say and i just said "its not working out" i was just trying to make him break up with him and then he said "i think we should break up" and i was like okay and he said"man i dont wanna do this" and i was like"well you did" and he was all "i still like you" and i was like okay and he said"lets still be friends okay?" and i said okay and we hug and i told him good luck but we were still keep hugging each other like 4 times what do you think about this?
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He thought a break would be a good idea, you set the time, but make it for over a month. If you don't see each other over your winter break, a month is what it is.
You could have changed it to take place over winter break, but you chose to keep it at taking a 1 month long break.
He told you that was too long, but you wouldn't change it.
Ok I'll tell you what it sounds like from my point of view:
From what you state above, it sounds like you both agreed to try this break, but you both didn't agree on the length.
It sounds like you didn't want to discuss it with him, considering you set it for what works out to be too long and wouldn't budge from that, even though he didn't agree.
Sounds like you ARE mad at him. Even if you aren't, you come off that way.
So, sounds like he then just broke up thinking that is what you wanted. Even though it seems HE didn't want to break up, you can't stay in a relationship with someone who does.
So that's what I think.
ygs-29/f
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i think that this is just a ball of confusion. I think that he thought that his idea of a break was really gonna give you guys a chance to see the test of love. But then you said two weeks and it was all fine until the winter break came up right? So he wanted to date you still and make the break shorter, but you wanted to test it all to see if it really was true. But then he got scared that you might not come back to liking him. And then he didnt want to be dumped by you (not saying that you were to dump him) so he dumped you before you could get the chance to do it to him. So in the long run he looked like the bigshot, but didnt realize what he did until after he did it. He probably was regreting his decision which accounts for the hugs. He is probably thinking about how much he is an idiot for breaking it off with you. I say you two should talk, like really talk, with no one around. Then try to figure out what happened. And i know it might be frustrating but like before you talk promise not to get mad and start yelling. Be sure there is no one there or something there that is a distraction.
xoxo
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