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I bought a Maxiglide straightener about a year and a half ago, and for the past month Ive been using it daily. Last night when I set it up, the light would not stop blinking and the top plate was barely even hot. The steam doesnt even work (it lets out tiny droplets of water instead) because it wont heat up. Is there anything I can do!? I have thick, curly hair and this is the only straightener that works for me. Is there anyway I can fix it or get it fixed? Im only 15, so its not like I can go out tomorrow and pick one up. Also, If it cannot be fixed is there a way I can get my money back? I paid $150 for this and for something that expensive, It should not just break. PLEASE HELP!

It probably came with a warranty. Hopefully it was for longer than you've had it. The only catch is that you'll need to still have the receipt. If you don't have the receipt, you can try to get it replaced, but don't get your hopes up. If the warranty is still in effect, definitely try though. If you don't have any of the paperwork that came with it and have no idea how long the warranty was for, just call the company anyway. They'll be able to tell you what your options are. My guess is that unless you get really lucky, you're going to have to just buy a new one. :(

http://www.maxiusbeauty.com/contact.php
Good luck.

15/F [SORRY IF IT'S LONG]

Last year in the beginning of the year, I met this guy. Let's name is Bob. Well, I'm pretty shy. But Bob would talk to me. And I started to like him. Towards the middle of the year, we stopped talking. But I still liked him. I found out he was doing drugs. So, I started liking someone else. And during the summer he was all I can think about. And now this year, I don't have any clases with him [we had one together last year] And I really don't see him around campus. But when I do see him, memories come back. And I admit, I still like him. How can I stop liking him? I don't want to like him. He's really not a good person. And we really don't talk anymore. I like other guys. Like this year, I like this guy. Let him be Oswald. I don't talk to him. But he's really nice. And I want to talk to him. What can I do? But even if I do like Oswald, I prefer Bob. But I don't want to prefer Bob. I want to prefer Oswald. Help me, please!

Thanks in advance.

The thing is you DON'T like Bob. You don't like the choices he has made in his life and you don't think he's a good person. You can control whether or not you like someone. What you can't control is whether or not you are attracted to them. Don't try to control things that you can't. It'll only frustrate you. There's nothing that can help you other than time. Eventually the attraction will go away. There's nothing wrong with that though. Being attracted to him means nothing unless you make it mean something. All through your life you will be attracted to people that you don't like. Everybody is. You, at least, have the ability to tell the difference. Just because you're attracted to him doesn't mean that you should be with him. You can and do prefer Oswald. You may not feel as attracted to him right now, but if you give him a chance, your attraction for him will grow. Think of Bob as just an annoyance, trying to mess up your mind. If you don't let your attraction for him affect the choices that you make, that's when you've taken control. Take control of this situation where control is actually an option!!! Good luck. :)

My family and I are planning on going to Aruba over Feb. vacation and I wanna know when is the latest we should think about booking a flight and getting passports? Also, how much does a passport usually cost?

Passports can take up to 8 weeks to process so get them as soon in case there are any problems. If you are under 16, passports cost $97 and are valid for 5 years. If you are 16 or older, they cost $82 and are valid for 10 years. You should book your flight very soon too. I would imagine that a lot of people would want to go to Aruba in the wintertime. I would say that you should take care of everything by the end of October/beginning of November. I hope you have a great trip!

This website will answer any more questions you have about passports. http://travel.state.gov/passport/fri/faq/faq_1741.html

I need a new cellphone mine's broken and my mom said I can't get a new one enless I pay for it and I don't have a job. I really need a new one cause she's gonna yell when she pays the bill and i didn't use barely any minutes. My warrenty is also expired so I can't get a new one without paying. Does anyone know where a 15 year old can work ?

Like a REAL job.
Only answer if your this age and have a job.

If she's not going to pay for you to get a new phone, she has no right to complain about you not using your minutes. No right at all. It would be extremely ridiculous if she did and I don't think your mom is that ridiculous. It's her choice to pay for your phone bill in the first place. It's her fault and her fault alone that she's paying. If she doesn't wanna pay, she can cancel the service altogether. If she was really concerned about you not using your minutes, she would get you a new phone, so don't worry about that.

Getting a job is going to be really hard since you're 15. It can be hard anyway. It'll be much easier for you to do chores around the house for your mom, grandparents, or other family members. Not only will they give you more than minimum wage (yay), your mom will appreciate you helping out at home and may just purchase a new phone for you herself since she would see you being responsible.

Try looking for phones on eBay. You can get them there for a lot cheaper than you can from the store when you're out of warranty. From the store it's going to cost about $300, while you can get the same phone on eBay for less than $150. I hope you get your new phone soon! Good luck! :)

i had braces for 3+ years. In that time, I drank soda and it was hard to brush my teeth with the brackets on. So yeah, it's been 2 years without braces and i can't smile with confidence. I have stained teeth. I can bleach my teeth with tubes and strips.. but the top of my teeth is still stained? It's like orange. Not bright, but stained yellow/orange. I hate my smile because of it.

I don't know what to do. I dont have much money... I would really like to smile with confidence. It doesn't matter how many strips I use or how many times I brush.. :/

Help?

Ask your dental hygienist for suggestions the next time you go in. There could be a cheap product out there that will do the trick. Good luck. :)

what's so different about college as opposed to high school besides going away and living on your own?

You get to choose your own classes, within bounds and you will have classes at all different times during the day. The work you do in college can actually be easier than the work that you did in high school. Professors tend to be more easygoing than high school teachers and you'll have more papers than homework assignments and worksheets. You get out of it what you put into it. Classes can last a lot longer and be held only once a week. The ridiculous high school drama will continue to occur in college. If you don't like someone, you can avoid them a lot easier though, as long as they don't know where you live, of course. Friends can end up being very fake. Other than that, most of the other differences have to do with living on your own and leaving home.

if you're going out with someone, not blind dates but the date that you go because you like each other, do you automatically become boyfriend and girlfriend? or does that depend on the couple?

Probably if you keep going out together and acting like boyfriend/girlfriend, whether you are or not will come up in conversation. "Hey, are we boyfriend/girlfriend?" Just ask. Most likely you'll both decide that you are. :)

Hi! You seem really good with advice and I saw you have experience with this stuff so...

Now my bgf wants to act like my bf! In study hall he was kept holding my hand and starting hugging me a lot and stuff. I don't think he should do this if he can't make a committment to me. If he's going to think he can be my bf without even talking about it with me and not committing to me he's crazy. I just don't know what to do. I told him to think about it and he said he will talk to me tom. but what should I do about it? I respect waiting but not if he's going to try abnd act like he's dating me without the committment. If anything a I just want to talk t him about it. I asked him if he thought it was ok to act like this and if he was really keeping his word to his job and that's what he's suppossed to be thinking about. My 1 friend says try it so i will know if i like the reltu=ionship and everyone says we're the perfect couple but my other friend said no, wait until there is a committment. I like him and stuff but all these complications are making me want to tell him I am not going to be anything more than a friend! Unless we can figure something out fast I feel like I have to just stop! It's all too complicated! Please help! Thanks so much! :D

Ok, I'm guessing it's going to be really hard for him. I think that since it's so close to his 16th birthday that he should ask if he can have a girlfriend. Who knows, maybe when he asks they will say yes. Even if the answer is no, in asking, he could get some spiritual guidance about the situation. Since he's obviously very religious this could be just what he needs. You're right, it's not okay that he's trying to be intimate with you, but won't date you. If you two are going to be together and remain friends the intimacy just can't be there until he turns 16. Hopefully after talking to some people in his church he will get the strength to do that. I wish you the best of luck and I'm so sorry that you're stuck in the middle of this! Remember that it's really not complicated. The both of you want to be together and there is a barrier in between you. It's not his fault and anything he's doing because of it is out of pain that he can't be with you. Cut him some slack, especially during this hard time. He sounds like such a great guy and you should definitely wait for him if he can't be with you now.

I'm seventeen years old and a senior in high school. I absolutely hate it. I'm a somewhat intelligent kid, but I have a 1.8 GPA and it's because I'm not equipped to handle all the social stress and the environment of high school. I've honestly reached my breaking point. I can't go to school anymore without sobbing uncontrollably either the night before or the morning before. My family has been having a lot of problems lately and I don't want to bother them with mine; I always intended on having a talk with them about possibly homeschooling me but I put it off because they were depressed or in a bad mood. Unfortunately, my mom caught me attempting to skip school the other day, and understandably, I got in a load of trouble. I honestly didn't mind, but I just wanted them to listen to me and consider homeschool. They're completely against it. I know I only have a year left of high school but I can't take it anymore and I honestly believe homeschooling would remove so much stress from my life. I've offered to get a job and take on more responsibilities, but because of my past not-so-stellar grades, they refuse to listen. How can I possibly convince them that homeschool really WOULD make me motivate myself to do well?

I'm sorry this was long but thank you to anyone that read it.

You will have these problems all your life. Learn to deal with them now instead of running away from them. Social stress is a part of life. What do you plan on doing with your life? Do you plan on getting a job? Going to college? There will be the same amount of social stress in those places as you are experiencing in high school. Homeschooling will fix your problem for now, but don't you want to fix it for your future? Experiencing a time where there is little social stress in your life will only make it worse when you have to face it again. You can get through it. You're not a wimpy, fragile person. You seem like a very strong willed, outgoing person to me. Only the weak need to give up on social interaction. You don't need to. You can take on this challenge. It's only for a year and what about your family? You say there's a lot of problems at home, wouldn't you being homeschooled put even more stress on your family? The thing with social stress is that it only bothers you as much as you let it. I had a lot of crap go on my senior year that stressed me out, but after I let it stop bothering me, I was fine. All the he said, she said, gossip, and garbage doesn't have to affect you. If you feel like you have few friends, well you'll have no friends after this year anyway and will have to start completely over because high school is over and everyone will move on to different places.

Hi,

It's my junior year and I'm getting ready to narrow down my college search. Right now, Boston University, Oberlin (in Oberlin, Ohio), and USC (University of Southern California, located in downtown Los Angeles) are my top 3 choices, in reverse order.

My cumulative GPA is like 3.6, but since I'm taking 2 classes that count for AP credit this year, my guess is that my cum. will go up to a 3.8 or 3.9, weighted. I know that puts me in the bottom GPA range for these schools, though, but I think that my extracurriculars, incredibly strong leadership, and community involvement make up for that. At least that's what the USC rep told me at a college fair yesterday. My P-SAT scores were all between 540 and 600, also a liiiiittle low, but those can easily be raised. I have yet to take the ACT or SAT II, but I plan on taking both.

Are there any ways to really make myself stand out? I mean, I know that there ARE, but do they actually work?

How do I decide where I REALLY want to go?

Also, any other college advice would be greatly appreciated. I live in Southern California (Burbank), if that makes any difference. I want to major in Political Science or Music Education, seeing as I either want to practice law or teach vocal music (Particularly showchoir. We win nationals a lot, so I figure I can take that and create a successful showchoir).

Stories are appreciated, too.

If you answer, "I don't know, ask your college counselor lolzzzz," I will rate you poorly, probably a 1 or 2, depending on how you say it. Just so you know.

My advice is to focus on writing a good application essay. Don't just write about what you've done, accomplished, achieved, whatever. What colleges are looking for is a peek at the inner you. Are you a good person? Are you in tune with yourself? Do you have good character? What skills do you have other than getting A's? That sort of thing. Incorporate that into your accomplishments. For example, you could write about a community service activity that you were involved in that really changed your life or taught you something. Touch on community service and leadership (which they love) and open your heart up to them (which they love even more). Other than writing a good essay, whenever possible go in for an interview. If you don't see it anywhere as an option, call and ask for one! Making an effort to get to know someone and make a connection with someone there that plays a part in the admissions process puts you way above the kids that just send in their application. They can put a face with a name. You won't just be another piece of paper. An interview will also let them get to know more about you and not just your academics. Colleges want good people that will do good things for them and the community, not just people that have a 4.0. You do have good grades though, so with the interview and the good essay you would be WAY above most other students and would most likely get in. Remember too, that if you don't get into the college that you want, it's easier to get in as a transfer. If you do well at another college, you can easily transfer to the college of your choice. Doing well in college looks better than doing well in high school. They know you will succeed rather than being pretty sure that you will. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that you get accepted into all the colleges that you apply to! :)

There's an artistic creation at the front of my church, like the outline of a human-looking creature (that I suspect is supposed to represent Jesus) raising his hands. Around the art-work, there's hundreds of stone-looking shapes surrounding this "man". It sort of looks like a shattered plate, that someone's tried to put together again, or like bricks surrounding this creature, if that makes sense?

And its inspired me, and I'd love to write something about it, for a class or just for myself, I don't know.. just kinda put it into a story, and maybe show it to the artist?

The problem is my lack in fantasy, where do I start this story? Do I start by explaining why he's holding up his hands (not that I know..) ? Or do I try to explain what the brick-looking shapes are supposed to be? Do I make it realistic? Or should I be writing is at if it's Jesus, holding up his hands to bless the people who walk in the Church?

I just don't know. I really want tow rite something great for once. And I want THIS to be what I write about.

So do you have any ideas? Thank you.

The art-piece is obviously very symbolic. What you want to do to make your writing good is tie in what the artwork symbolizes with your story. So, basically come up with a story or use a story that's already in the Bible, explain how the artwork got on the front of your church, and explain the symbolism involved. Then, throw in a modern day story of how it helped someone. Here's a quick example so you know what the heck I'm talking about. A mother and her child were going to church one Sunday. The child asked the mother what the artwork was, what it was a picture of, what it meant. The mother answered that it was just for decorative purposes and was a picture of Jesus to show people that they were in God's presence when they were in the church. The child would then go on to say "oh, I thought it meant something else". The mother would ask the child what they thought it meant and the child would explain how the figure in the middle was God and the broken pieces around Him were the shattered world, shattered lives, broken people. God was raising His hands in pain to see everything he created and loved be so broken. It represents Him calling all true believers to heaven near the beginning of Revelation to save them before all the bad stuff starts happening. The problem is, that nobody in the picture is whole and no believers were coming to God because they were ashamed and didn't think that God wanted them. The picture means that even if you are shattered and broken, God still loves you and wants you to join Him in the afterlife. The time to believe is now because Revelation is coming and God is the only one that can save you from that and give you eternal life and happiness. You can pass the test before you even take it if you believe. The artwork is almost like a warning, a sign of things to come so you can be ready and a sign of God's love and how much He loves you and wants to give you everything. God Himself put it on the church when it was built. The child would go into great detail about it and at the end the mother would realize how much better of a person she could be and at that moment she was reborn and became a true believer. The mother hadn't noticed because she was so wrapped up in it, but it had taken the child so long to tell the story that the church service was over and the people began coming out. They found the mother crying on the steps of the church and the child hugging her and telling her that God would take care of her now. After so many years of going to church every Sunday, but never having truly known God, she finally came to know Him through a child and the whole church witnessed it. The people from the church went home and thought about what they had seen and reevaluated their own lives too. The power of even one small child is amazing. It might be even more powerful if it was the grandma. The child was living with grandma because the parents had died. Making it the grandmother would show that it's never too late to know God and anybody at any age might not yet even if they've gone to church all their lives. Now, I haven't seen the artwork, so I don't know if this fits it or anything and it would be best if you came up with a story of your own. You said you thought it was Jesus in the middle, so you could write a story about Him and something that He did or will do, like His return. Make sure that you capitalize He, Him, His, etc. when you're talking about God or Jesus! Having a child tell the story like I did, gives you room for error. I don't know everything about my religion, I'm no expert on Revelation or what it means and I'm guessing you're the same way. By having a child talk about it in my story though, it's okay if I put something incorrect because it's not me making the mistake, it's the child, which children will do. Who's to say I didn't do that on purpose to show the innocent ignorance of the child. I wish you the very best of luck and I know your story will come out really well. Send it to me when you're finished! :)

Ok, I really like my BGF (or thought i did...idk) but anyway he can't date until he's 16 because he's a leader at the Teen Help Center run by a christian couple. Anyway he just got a promotion and is really important there and loves working there except that rule.
Well we have liked each other on and off for the last year and tonight we were at our church's youth group together and flirting and stuff like we do. We are best friends and really understand each other and he is 1 of the ONLY people that understand me and i love that. Anyway i want to go to Homecoming with him and he knows it, but isn't sure if he can or not. We were talking about it and my really good friend who doesn't want to go because she doesn't have a date and he took me by the hand and told my friend to wait for me and took me outside on the patio.
We sat together on a couch and then he said he was torn between being a leader and taking me to the dance. He said he likes me more than he ever has before and really wants to take me. I really don't want to pressure him so I was aying if its not right dont go. He's 15 by the way 16 in late spring. Then my dad called so i said ok I have to go. So we hugged and then he kissed me! Just a little peck (Thank goodness) but i had always thought i would be so happy if we kissed but immediatly felt wrong. I didn't talk to him after that just called my friend and we went to the car. He txted me t see if i was ok because i know i was being kinda weird with him. I told him i wasn't sure and tomorrow I'm gonna talk to him because I wasn't allowed to call him since tom. is school. Anyway I am just not sure what to do or say! I feel really weird. Like I am pretty sure I still like hima lot but I am dissapointed with our kiss and wish God wasn't telling me to back off. I am a distraction to him, a test. A hard test. And I realized it tonight. But I want him to do what's right and me as well. Please any help and/or advice will help!!! :D

I think that you should both go to the dance and just not go together. You can dance a lot and have a good time, but if you don't go together and dance with other people too, it's not a date. It's just two good friends hanging out at a dance and having an amazing time. If you don't go to the dance, you'll really be missing out. You'll never be able to go back in time and have a great experience with him there. You're falling for each other NOW. Enjoy it now. You can't stop it from happening and you shouldn't try. Your situation reminds me of a line from a song that I really like. "You can't fence time and you can't stop love" (Sara Evans, "Suds In The Bucket"). This applies because no matter what you do, you can't stop feelings from happening and life doesn't conform to such strict rules about age. You two are falling for each other now. Enjoy it. His rule isn't that he can't fall in love or feel a certain way. That goes against everything Christian. Love is a wonderful, celebrated thing. The leaders of his group should be very happy and proud of him for finding and connecting with someone like you. They're not trying to stop him from liking you. They are trying to protect him from making bad decisions and feel that at age 16 he is ready to be mature about relationships and the situations that dating and one on one time with a girl will put him in. You shouldn't actually date until he's 16, but you can still spend a lot of time together and get really close. You can still celebrate your feelings, just not in a relationship. The way you do it is, never go someplace just the two of you. Always have at least two other people go with you. Two other people that aren't dating. That way, it's not a date at all, it's just a group of friends going out and having a good time. You'll get to spend time with him, but won't jeopardize his job or his beliefs. He should want to be with you and experience the love that he is feeling. It's going to be a little hard because you two will really want to start a relationship with each other and bring things to the next level, but holding off will only bring you even closer together and be even happier when the time does come. So, basically, no one on one time and you two are more than allowed to spend time together. If he, for some reason, decides that you shouldn't hang out with each other until the spring, respect his decision. Try to convince him otherwise, but if he firmly stands behind that, let him know that it's okay and that you understand. He seems like he's worth waiting for if that's what he wants. It's just that you really can spend time together and have it not mean anything. Refusing to face that challenge is cowardly. It only proves that he's not mature enough to handle himself. If he can't trust himself not to do things he knows he shouldn't than the rule is justified. Being able to be around you and not take it to the next level proves that he is very mature and definitely ready for any obstacles life may throw at him. It proves that he's mature and ready for relationships. The rule is bogus and both of you know it. Be adults about it and follow it while still having what you want with each other. It's more than possible. It's not that hard if you think about it. If he thinks about giving up take that kind of approach in trying to convince him otherwise. Giving up isn't something valued in Christianity. His challenge isn't resisting being physical with you, his challenge is being able to satisfy two things that seem to conflict, but really don't. Resisting being physical is easy, very easy. He'd be taking the easy road if he chose that path. Good luck. :)

This might sound wierd but hey...who cares :-D
Do you know any tips for masturbating...like sorts of ways to do it to make it good?
Im a girl by the way before you start giving me guy techniques lol.
shan xx

This website should help.

http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation_howto.htm

i want to know if i can move from my moms in ny state into pa with my dad. i feel that it is a better environment and my dad treats me good well my mom does but do we have to go to court or can i move my dad is the one who pays for everything mom doesnt do anything help im 17

I believe that you would have to go to court if your mom contested it since you are still a minor. My advice for you is to wait it out for one more year. Once you turn 18, you are legally and adult and your mom can't stop you from going to live with your dad. It's really not worth all the court fees, lawyers, time, pain, etc. when you're only a year away from being able to move in with your dad hassle free. Good luck! :)

I have this feather duster in my room right and I have a clear-glass computer table so it's always so dusty and i always have to dust it.

But when I dust it, dust just flys up into the room all around, it doesn't go anywhere =/

Help?

The dust goes back up in the air and pretty much settles right back on your table. Feather dusters are pretty pointless. You should get a good surface cleaning spray. The spray will wet the dust down a little bit so that when you wipe it off with a rag or paper towel it will stick and not go back up into the air. Plus, the spray can make your room smell really nice and clean. :)

Where can i find some factual information on vampires? I know they are fictional characters, but any information from people that THINK they have come across a vampire? (online preferably)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vampire

It is believed that in the past when people thought they saw vampires that they actually saw people that had rabies. Back then, there wasn't a shot or anything that could get rid of rabies and probably most people, if not everyone, had no idea what rabies was. A severe case of rabies in a human would make them act like the typical vampire.

My boyfriend couldn't be anymore perfect if he tried and it scares me so much because if he hurts me again its going to hurt so much more because it would be over for good.

He can't be that perfect if he hurt you.

You should repeat that over and over in your head. Remind yourself of what he did and how awful it was. No matter how special someone is, if they continually hurt you, it's not a good idea to stay with them. You won't meet someone exactly like them again, but you can get into a new relationship with someone just as special that doesn't hurt you. There are tons of people out there that you could be happy with. They may be a different special, but they are still special and they think YOU are as special as you think they are. That puts them above the guy you're with now. If he felt as strongly for you as you do for him, he would never hurt you like he has. Love is a two way street. It can't be love unless he loves you back.

Ok, this is a question about guys. WHAT would make a guy think that it was okay to tell a girl he's currently dating who he would go out with if he wasn't with her? my boyfriend told me that about a week ago. it's been driving me nuts anytime i think about it, even worse if i see them together. i want to talk to him about it, but i'm afraid if i do, then it will end our relationship. we've been together five months. this is the first time i've really been this upset with him. i'm not sure if this is worth ending a relationship over. but all i keep thinking about is that if he's already considering other girls for a relationship, then how can we keep it together?

I think that you should talk to him about it since it is bothering you, but think about it for a minute first before you get angry or upset with him for what he is, not just what he said. Everybody always has a plan B. Don't you? Who would you want to date if you weren't dating your boyfriend? There is someone. Or a few someones. Pretending that there isn't is silly and immature. It's alright for him to think like that, just like it's okay for you to think about things like that sometimes. It's good that he's being honest and open with you, however, there is a point where a line needs to be drawn with openness. He shouldn't have said that to you. Plain and simple. He's allowed to think it and it's fine if he does, but there was no reason to say it. All it did was hurt you. He should have kept that one to himself. He may have felt compelled to tell you though. It probably made him feel a little confused or guilty that he was thinking that and that keeping it from you was like cheating. That's why you should talk to him about it. Let him know that it's okay if he wants to think about things like that, but sometimes some things can cause more trouble than they're worth. He should think about how saying those kids of things to you will make you feel. It'll make you feel jealous and insecure about the relationship. He needs to start putting himself in your shoes before letting things out like that. He has to learn how to think to himself, what if she said that to me? Letting him know how you feel and getting it all out will help you. He's not a bad guy, he's just inexperienced with relationships and isn't sure how to handle himself in one yet. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that you two can get this sorted out.

my dad drinks alot. he thinks its stupid i want to go to college and study every night.

my mom is busy keeping this family alive working and such

and my brother only has time for his gf.

my sister is only 12. and she gets in trouble alot. she takes after my dad.

is there like some kind of phone number or something that i can call?..i just want to talk to someone. but i cant do that here.

Here's a few hotlines. I hope that helps. Good luck! :)

Al-Anon/Alateen Hotline
Hope & Help for young people who are the relatives & friends of a problem drinker.
1-800-344-2666

National Association for Children of Alcoholics
1-888-55-4COAS (1-888-554-2627)

Teen Helpline
1-800-400-0900

TeenLine
1-800-522-8336

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ok so me and this guy hooked up for like a week mabye 2 right after me and this other guy ( who i really really really liked ) stop talking to each other. so obviously i was a little depressed and everything and a few days ago the new guy kept asking me like what do you want out of this and im like give me time and hes like ill wait as long as it takes blah blah blah he tells everyone he really likes me.well yesterday i found out hes calling me a slut and he found out that the last boy was an asshole to me so he was like mabye if i treat her like an ass hole shell like me more. so i comfronted him about it last night and hes like i dont want to deal with your drama and walked away. i cried for like a minute and then i was just really mad at him for thinking he could get away with what he said. what should i do? and do you think im sad about loosing him or just mad at him??

No offense, but you really deserve everything you get from him for treating him so terribly. You used him and kept him hanging it probably hurt him really bad. What you should do is tell him that what happened was a mistake and that you don't want to date him. If you did want to date him you would have already so don't tell me that you still haven't made up your mind. Stop "hooking up" with guys and you won't have these problems. He was actually very warranted in calling you a slut. Stop acting like one and people won't call you one. What you're feeling is guilt because you know he's right. You really need to rethink your life and how you're running it or you're going to create a really bad rep for yourself that's going to stick with you forever. Think about what you do before you do it. You're not the only person involved in your decisions.

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