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boyfriend of ten and a half months
My boyfriend couldn't be anymore perfect if he tried and it scares me so much because if he hurts me again its going to hurt so much more because it would be over for good.
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Like the others have said, it's not perfect if he's hurt you. How did he hurt you? Why did you forgive him? Have you really forgiven him? I'd say you're not over it if you're worried enough about it to seek advice from old and wise internet strangers.
There are, apparently, some issues that still need to be resolved in your relationship. Mainly trust. Because it seems you do not trust him and you cannot have a happy, successful relationship without trust. Work on this with him if you can. If you cannot, cut your losses, lick your wounds and wait for someone who really is perfect for you.
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i know exactly what youre saying. you feel like your life is too perfect right now right? like you dont wanna go to sleep at night because your life is better than a dream. you just cant believe you found a guy as amazing as him. youre scared youre gonna lose him. honestly, you need to get over this fear because youre not gonna enjoy the relationship while it lasts. most teenage relationships do end sometime and i know its hard, but you have to face it. ive been in your position and its ended but i got over it. it takes time.. but i promise you will get over it. who knows.. maybe you wont break up ever and youll get married! but just in case.. you need to stop worrying!
xoxo
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No offence, kiddo, but am I completely missing the question here?
Listen, like said before me, how can he be so perfect if he hurt you?
Obviously he hurt you pretty bad if it will be over for good if he were to do so again.
If you are feeling such a hurt that you are thinking "next time it's over" then maybe you should seriously reconsider this relationship.
From what you said it sounds as if you are putting this guy on a pedistal. THAT, my dear, is you putting yourself beneath him. I promise, that will never make a happy relationship. You have to put yourself on the same level as you put him, or it will never work.
Plus, you are NEVER beneath anyone or anything! ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT!
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He can't be that perfect if he hurt you.
You should repeat that over and over in your head. Remind yourself of what he did and how awful it was. No matter how special someone is, if they continually hurt you, it's not a good idea to stay with them. You won't meet someone exactly like them again, but you can get into a new relationship with someone just as special that doesn't hurt you. There are tons of people out there that you could be happy with. They may be a different special, but they are still special and they think YOU are as special as you think they are. That puts them above the guy you're with now. If he felt as strongly for you as you do for him, he would never hurt you like he has. Love is a two way street. It can't be love unless he loves you back.
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