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I think I'm depressed
I think I'm depressed or going through depression. I eat a lot more than I used to, cry a lot more than I used to, and I'm just over all not happy most of the time when I have a lot to be happy about. I mean I have a boyfriend I've been with for almost eleven months and things are going okay with my family. Better than normal I would say. I'm getting decent grades in school compared to what I got last year. I've realized that I've been only paying attention to the bad things. I stress on the bad things. For example, my boyfriend cheated on me a while back after four months of going out and I forgave him for that. At least I thought I did I still think about that all the time and don't trust him as much as I used to because of it. If I'm still doing that I guess I never really forgave him. I just get so confused. My best friends haven't really been there for me either. My best friend doesn't like my boyfriend so I can never really talk to her about him and he's become a big part of my life so her not liking him has become a problem. I don't know what to do... today I've just felt so sad.
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I've been in your shoes and i know how you feel.
Tell your parents if it gets any worse. I know it might be hard to tell them but they can get you to the doctor to get it checked out.
Some doctors will just pass it off as a phase, but if it lasts for a large amount of time then you really need to see a doctor.
Don't be afraid to get help, and if it is just a phase try and be happy. Think about the better things in life. Make the best out of what you have and never forget that you have a family and friends to turn to.
About your boyfriend.. I'm sure its going to hurt and take awhile even if you feel like you should be over it. everyone has a different forgiving and forgetting stage. If its really bothering you and he's the type of boyfriend you can talk to about it then talk to him. Which im sure he is because you guys have been together for awhile. Try to not worry about stuff. It may seem rather hard but just step back and take a minute to think. My mom told me i can only allow so much time to worry, give yourself 5 mins to worry and then forget about it.
Your friend will have to come around. She cant dislike him forever. Dont let that stop you from liking him, b/c if you do it'll will make it harder on you. Try and talk to her and tell her how your feeling. If she's doesnt try and help then she may not be that great of a friend after all, but these are only my thoughts.
I hope things get better kid!
Abby/16
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Well, you may be going through some depression, but I can't tell you for certain because I'm not a therapist or anything.
I can tell you that teens having depressed moments is common. Of course, if it gets out of hand and you feel the urge to harm or kill yourself (or others), you must seek immediate medical attention.
As for the whole trust/forgiveness/cheating issue:
The guy cheated on you. He broke your trust. It is easier to forgive than forget, by far. This is perfectly normal. There is nothing wrong with your feelings of mistrust.
Don't worry- if you truly love one another, the old saying rings true "time heals all wounds." He will again regain your trust, in due time, unless he gives you further reason not to trust him. (If that happens, end it for your own good.)
As for your best friend, you need to sit down and tell her how you feel about the whole situation of her not liking your boyfriend. Neither of you should let him come between your friendship. She needs to understand that you are with him, like it or not, and you have to accept that she doesn't like him.
However, just because she doesn't like him doesn't mean she can't at least TRY to be helpful to you. Since she is your best friend, you should be able to go to her with any problems and trust that she will help out in a manner that is best for YOU and not criticize based on her personal opinion of the guy, and vise-versa.
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