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18/m
My girlfriend had to break up with me, cause school has been hard for her, plus work, several other issues unrelated to me..
The thing is, we both still love each other, she says she'd like to get back together one day, when things are easier. I dont know what Im supposed to do...
Do I get over her? Do I just hang in there, be the best friend I can, and hope one day we might get together again? I really love her, it hurts so bad, knowing eveytime i see her, i can't kiss her, hold her like i used to, but can just be a friend.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated. :) (link)
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It sounds like you guys have something really special. She's probably overwhelmed.. the best thing you can do is stay by her side. Show her how much you love her and help her as much as possible. This way, the love you guys share won't die. Try not to think about the negative, positive is always better. Smile because she's there and I know things will work themselves out!
Good luck!
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I have a bad problem with my temper- specifically towards my mom. She doesn't trust me because of some trouble I got into over a year ago. I've worked hard to stay squeaky clean since, but I understand why she could still have doubts.
Still, it drives me crazy. She asks me so many questions about my personal life that I get flustered and can't even think of the truth. When I ask her for my privacy, she gets angry. Eventually, we both end up very, very mad. We've tried talking it out but it hasn't worked- my dad tried helping and that failed too. I don't want to hate my mom, but at this point I get so annoyed with her endless questions and suspicions that I avoid all contact with her. What should I do? (link)
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You should give it some time. This can't be fixed in a day and I totally understand that's it's soooo very hard. But some parents don't understand that teenagers and kids both need privacy and that's just a part of life.
Don't avoid her but try your hardest to stay calm. I know what you mean when you try and make something better after you did something your parents didn't like. My parents still bring up stuff too.
But let her know how it makes you feel when she constantly bothers you about it. It's in the past and there's nothing you can do to make it go away so she's going to have to get past it.
:) i wish you good luck, kid.
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Okay here it goes. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21. I really care about him a lot so the issue is this... He's not a virgin and I am. I just feel that he'll end up dumping me because I want to take it really slow. It's not that I'm waiting for marriage, I just want my first time to be with someone that can say I love you and actually mean it. Can you all give me advice on how to explain that to him without him getting the idea that I don't like him or something? (link)
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That's very important and if you aren't comfortable with doing that then he shouldn't be the one to push you. The best advice i have for you is to stand your ground and only do it if you really really love him. Your first time is something extremely special and you'll want it to be with someone that deserves you and all you have to offer.
You really shouldn't have to explain to him, but I understand that you need to explain... i just dont know how..opps. :\
my baddd..
I wish you good luck darling.
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i have 3weeks - a month
to loose 10 lbs!
I gained 17 lbs, in the last 2 weeks , so i want to loose around 10.
PLEASE HELP!
I had jr high graduation coming up , and class trip!!
I need to fit into things!
My dress is to tight now , and it was alot of money and my mom said she isnt going to buy another one , and we cant return it .
Plus i need to be seen in a bathing suit.
Please help, what are good diets, and things to do when i am bored.
oxox !
PS . I need responses, quick! (link)
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yeah.
alright;
excerise..
okay so you need to eat, b/c if you dont eat at all then after you loose the weight it will all come back and possibly more.
So the best thing to do is eat alot of fruit and veggies, lean meat. But at the same time dont cut out all your fats. its good to have fatty foods in moderation.
Try not to constantly weigh yourself either.
Hope it helps.
=))
Abby/16
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How do you know when a girl gets horny or not (link)
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Nice one.
It might just depend on the girl.
I know people that lick their lips and get really naughty..haha.
I know that sounds weird.
But they get prevoked to do something and I'm sure you'll know.
Hope that helped.
=))
Abby
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Im ready to just give up.
Nothing ever seems to work for me.
Im a failure when it comes to guys, im a jelous person and i get angry so much. im not happy i feel like im having sucidal thoughts..
is ther anyone that can help me (link)
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Don't give up.
You have a whole life infront of you.
I'm so sure its hard sometimes, but it's worth it.
You'll find someone.
The only reason you can't find someone right now is because there's someone else better waiting.
You may be depressed.
I say go and get some help.
Everyone is different.
Keep your head up.
Abby
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Ok I'm female, and I have this guy friend I really love to talk on the computer to, but when I talk to other people I just don't feel comfortable and it's a really big drag because I really don't know how to communicate with them and it's really weird and awkward. I love talking to him because he can communitcate with me and keep a conversation. I also feel really good when I do talk to him, and it's confusing me what I feel. What do I feel? (link)
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Oh man.
That sounds fimilar.
Yeah, I understand completely.
I can't tell you how you feel on a count of i don't personaly know you.
Maybe you like the boy.
I wish I could be of more help.
Sorry kid.
And I'm positive you'll figure it out.
Give it time.
Abby/16
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i have like 2 or 3 warts on my knee and i was wondering what the fastest wayy to get rid of them is
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um.
i had that happen to me.
i used the liquid wart remover.
you can get almost anywhere.
it depends on the warts size, but mine went away farely quickly.
and i agree, dont pick at them.
hope i helped.
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17 f
So there's this boy who I use to have a huuuuge crush on and I still do but its just not as huge anyways I hadn't seen him in over three months until monday morning when I found out he goes to the same highschool as me now this is where the situation gets akward.....you see I really messed up ......instead of approaching him and saying "hiii!!!!!! How you been? You go to my school??" like I normally would I decided to be a little girl about it and just walk right by him like I didn't see him and now everytime we see each other we sortve just act like we don't know each other and he gives me dirty faces I feel so akward now because I realllly want to talk to him but I can't now because he thinks I'm mad at him when I'm not! How do I talk to him without making myself look stupid for not saying hi before? How do I talk to him? And most importantly how can I rebuild our friendship? (link)
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you know sometimes people don't mean to give dirty looks, but they do.
maybe he smells something stinky.lol. jk
im sure you itll be fine
try talking to him. it wont hurt anything.
just walk up to him and say hi. thats all you have to do.
it probably wont be that easy.
abby
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hey, i neeed some helllp. hahah obv. :) but like i'm 13; 14 in a week; and [1]i was just wondering what the average weight for me is, becuase i'm 107 lbs. i'm 5 foot 2 and a half. and i'm female. i'm not skinny; but i'm not heavy; i'm not slow; but i'm not super fast. i'm average. haha i wanna get fit! [2]and i also have a not so small buttt? and it doesnt go good with my body structure. it looks like its fit for a girlw with a not so flat stomach. buti have a kinda flat stomach... that needs to get fit too. ahah so is there a way to get a better butt? hahaha. i'll accept websites to if anyone responds to this.
[3]i also play soccer and other sports but compared to my other friends it seems like my body build is different.[4] like my waist/butt is always a little bigger, even my thighs they are mostly muscle but i cant seem to stop noticing. and also.. [5]my arms/shoulders. is there anyway to get smaller?!?!? lol; sorry theres so many questoins. i'll lable them for you and pleaaaaaasse try to answer them, i;ll love you forever :D (link)
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okay,
you kinda freaking out!
geeze..okay so you know your body wont
be the same as anyone else's b/c we werent made to all look alike. try not to worry so much about your body type.
If you have a semi big butt then thats what you got.
Plus you still have a really long time to grow.
Most females dont stop growing until they're in their early 20's.
Try to just eat healther, work out, but if your trying to flatten"get abs" when you should do some cardio then crunchs or what not.
hope all goes well
16/f
Abby
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I'm a 16 year old female, and i have Ibs. I got my first symptom 2 years ago in the end of 9th grade.. which i had thought was a virus so i just let it pass. When 10th grade came along the first week of school i was sitting in my 8th period class and my ibs kicked in (when i had no idea it was ibs) and i got some really really loud noises.. and when i meen loud i meen you could hear it through closed doors. Along with the noises i got uncomfortable feelings in my stomach...
That day was the worst day for my because i had no idea hwat this was i wasnt hungry and i was annoyed i couldnt control it. I was embaressed although who actually knows if anyone heard it.. but i didnt care I heard it and I didnt like it. Ever since that day i got these problems every day in 8th period class. I would walk in the class really nervous sit down couldnt focus couldnt sit still waiting and waiting for the ibs symptoms to come again and they never let me down they alwaysssss happened.. Now this whole cycle started in another class and another class and whenever this happened once in a location i feared that location forever more. Of course when i found out it was ibs i tried googling it and talking to people asking for cures.. yet no cure. I've tried metamucil and changing my food diet.. nothing helped and i tried them for a while. I also have asked for testing privaleges such as taking tests in a seperate room. that was great until they couldnt do it much longer the seperate rooms started getting filled with others who wanted a seperate room as well. I know a lot of people suffer this and my dad has given me multiple deep talks telling me that i can overcome this anxiety fear caused by something so simple that if someone else heard of it they wouldnt understnad why i get so worked up about it. I think its a little comforting that other people go throught this my age... but its not going to make this problem go away for me. I have a problem thinking positively and clearing my mind so that also never helped..
Anyway my main purpose for posting this is because ive already missed 3 days of school and it just started.. im home from school right now. i just cant go to school its becoming a problem.... and i really dont want to have to go through another full year of suffering like i did last year.. i would cut class not go to school avoid any fearful situations possible.. sometimes althoguh i would force myself to sit in class someitmes there was also no way out and it would be horrible i couldnt focus at all it was so bad.i dont know what to
I just had 5 days off from school and i was so relaxed and so happy i loved it.. and ive come to realize that when i go to school i become sad and crazy.. i know the proper thing to do is overcome my fears and go to school but honestly i dont think i can .. and i jsut want to be happy and not worry and not have to spend this whole school year trying to overcome a problem when i should really be focusing on school and my grades for college.
What i extremely want to do is be homeschooled for this year and maybe next.. i think my life will be so much more clear and happy. Ive asked my parents and they wont do it but i just want to so bad (link)
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i might not be much help b/c i dont know much about IBS.
But your young and you should be as happy as possible.
I know it might be really hard to overcome.
Try and focus on the better things in life.
I'm sure the only reason that your parents won't homeschool you is b/c they know you can be strong.
I understand that you feel uncomfortable, and im sorry.
School is rough enought with out having problems like your's and I really hope it gets better.
I personaly think that most of your anxiety comes from worrying about it all the time, b/c from what ive read thats the only thing on your mind.
try not to think about it.
my best friend has acid reflex and she always worrys about it and then when she forgets it calms down and doesnt act up as much.
I read that fiber helps with most IBS suffers.
And that you also need to find a way to handle your stress.
I have really mild anxiety myself and my doctor told me to excercise b/c my medicine didnt help so trying walking in the evenings or like riding your bike.
It really helped me to relax.
I hope things get better!
16/f Abby
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im making a video of my friends and i over the years and im adding music, i have a few songs but i need a few more, i want something to describe us, were funny and crazy, but i want it to also have nice lyrics...maybe
i love country but the others dont really so im think no country... and no like emo music either
thanksssss (link)
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there's this one band thing called Toy Box and they're songs are pretty happy and up beat!
There also really fun to listen too. They're on myspace if you have one. They have a really cute song called bestfriends it seems like it would fit you. Hope i helped
Abby/16
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I think I'm depressed or going through depression. I eat a lot more than I used to, cry a lot more than I used to, and I'm just over all not happy most of the time when I have a lot to be happy about. I mean I have a boyfriend I've been with for almost eleven months and things are going okay with my family. Better than normal I would say. I'm getting decent grades in school compared to what I got last year. I've realized that I've been only paying attention to the bad things. I stress on the bad things. For example, my boyfriend cheated on me a while back after four months of going out and I forgave him for that. At least I thought I did I still think about that all the time and don't trust him as much as I used to because of it. If I'm still doing that I guess I never really forgave him. I just get so confused. My best friends haven't really been there for me either. My best friend doesn't like my boyfriend so I can never really talk to her about him and he's become a big part of my life so her not liking him has become a problem. I don't know what to do... today I've just felt so sad. (link)
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I've been in your shoes and i know how you feel.
Tell your parents if it gets any worse. I know it might be hard to tell them but they can get you to the doctor to get it checked out.
Some doctors will just pass it off as a phase, but if it lasts for a large amount of time then you really need to see a doctor.
Don't be afraid to get help, and if it is just a phase try and be happy. Think about the better things in life. Make the best out of what you have and never forget that you have a family and friends to turn to.
About your boyfriend.. I'm sure its going to hurt and take awhile even if you feel like you should be over it. everyone has a different forgiving and forgetting stage. If its really bothering you and he's the type of boyfriend you can talk to about it then talk to him. Which im sure he is because you guys have been together for awhile. Try to not worry about stuff. It may seem rather hard but just step back and take a minute to think. My mom told me i can only allow so much time to worry, give yourself 5 mins to worry and then forget about it.
Your friend will have to come around. She cant dislike him forever. Dont let that stop you from liking him, b/c if you do it'll will make it harder on you. Try and talk to her and tell her how your feeling. If she's doesnt try and help then she may not be that great of a friend after all, but these are only my thoughts.
I hope things get better kid!
Abby/16
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hi. im 17 and im tiny, im 5 feet an only 91 pounds but im doing well. the baby is fine...
im 15 weeks pregnant. and i could swear i felt the baby kick last night and the night before. its a different type of feeling than ive ever had before. it was like, something poked up against me inside.. like a ghost put a few nuckles through me an nudged me. it was weird. since ive never experianced it before i gasped and was like "whoaa". i dont beleive its gas at all, because for that ive had totally different feelings, nothing like this. some things say its too early, but for my size, would i actually b feeling my baby? sorry its so long, but i would LOVe some responses.. thank you. (link)
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its possible.
i honestly think that you can tell and if you say it wasnt gas then it probably wasnt.
lol.
i hope everything goes great!
goodluck!
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I love this guy so much. He had surgury the other day and we've been through the whole breakup makeup thing ever since. But for some reason I can eat or sleep and i'm just exahusted. I've tried sleeping pills and music even sleeping somewhere different. As far as eating goes I can't eat anything without getting sick after. I know that its cause of him cause i've been to the doctor about it and she said that there's nothing medicaly wrong with me. Plz help me. (link)
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okay.
all that you really can do is not worry about it
i know it sounds soo impossible, but hun you gotta eat and you have to sleep.
just try really hard not to think about it when your trying to go to sleep.
thats all you really can do, even if you only get a few hours of sleep it will be better then not sleeping at all.
hopefully things will get better!
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alright, well im thinking of getting my hair cutt, to look "emo"
im not much for labeling ppl, but i guess that would be what the cut would be called.
my hairs pretty long. [probally doesnt hit my boob, a little above it]
i want like the shaggy layers in the front, but every picture i find with that cut, has bangss.
im deff. not getting bangs, i dont think they would look right on me.
but, i want to see what the hair cut would look like without bangs, before i gett it.
links for pictures would be greatt. C:
thanksss. (link)
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okay..dont worry about the bang part
im sure the bangs will look really cute on you
plus theres not many people that cant pull of bangs..
so if thats all thats holding you back then ask the person cutting your hair if they could possibly not include the bangs.
but id try it, if you do it then ask the woman/man to cut your bangs kinda sorta long. about to your chin. and if you like it maybe cut them a bit smaller..
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my best friend and i are so fucked up. 13/f. punk goth scene emo wtf i dont even know anymore. but weve been dealing with things since forever and none of it was good exept when we became bestfriends this year. we are helping eachother through the cutting and everything. but i think im bipolar and she does to we took online tests and outa 25 i had all but 1 and she had all but 3. i do not get along with my parents she kinda does. were always together. we dont know how to ask our parents and our parents dont get along as in mine to hers but they were together and were talking about us and later on she told me IF I EVER BECOME A DEPRESSED LITTLE BITCH ID BE IN SO MUCH TROUBLE AND IN THEREPY FASTER THAN ANYTHING. but wtf is she blind. and i yelled it and thers always yelling. one time she said theirs something wrong with me i said MAYBE THERE IS and she said you little bitch dont say that. i just dont know what to do and how to ask to go to the doctor for bipolar. i need an ecuse for whats wrong with me. but my bestfriend says i have it worse but her parents are always fighting and are drunk and tried to beat her a few times. were in this together and us as friends is what kept us alive. no therepist or phsyatrist NO just help me! please... (link)
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well ive been there done that
i thought i was biplorar and the doctor tried to convence me im not
tell your parents
i use to be the same way, cutting, all that
i talked to my mom, and at the time i didnt get along with her very well but she listened..took me to the doctor and he said "its just a phase" bullshit if you've been like that for over a year your depressed and you really honestly need to get help or the rest of your life will be all crappy
so about your friend
i know its going to be hard but maybe you should let her just be angry with you for awhile, if she's depressed too then its just apart of it.
im sure youll get angry too, so just dont stop talking to her, you need each other and if you stop being her friend over these then youll regret it alot! so try and help her..im sure you have been but just give it time
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Sorry if this sort of long.
So my friend asked me to come to her vaca house but i didn't want to so i said i couldn't my mom said i should have plans with her, so she called me and asked me to come over to her house for most of the day tomorrow, i don't want to hurt hr feelings, or blow her off, but everytime we have plans it's soooo boring, it's fun to be with her when your in a group of people but alone it's awkward and no fun!!! What do i do????????
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personally when it gets boring with my friends we each do stupid stuff like start dancing or bake something, play cards(b/c we are crazy)and all these other thigs so try and do some of those things.. itll get better but if it doesnt get better try and get out of the house together, go on walks(i know how stupid that seems but still) or something. talk to her and make her laugh but if worse comes to worse i would tell her eventually..
hope i helped
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Hey, So I have Long Dark Brown hair an its curly like naturally an I was wanting to try something new. School is starting in a few weeks and I need a new style and maybe even a new color but I dont want any blonde like my friend told me a lighter shade of brown would look cute streeked into my hair. So yeah I was wondring is their any like type of treatment I can get done to my hair where it can cause it to be not as thick because my hair is extremly thick and I heard about an relaxer or something idk I dont wanna do it unless I have known someone thats done it before or can have some answers to what it will do like I dont wanna end up getting something to cause it to be not as thick then lose all my curls because um my mom would definetly kill me an I get payed tommorow an I rather do it without telling her an it look good rather then doing it an it looking terrible. So I need some CUTE hairstyles with how to do it steps, An different like stuff to use in thick hair or if an hair professional can do a treatment so it wont be as thick.
-Thank you so much-
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well you shoud love your hair but if you really want to change it you should make it look naturalish but yet make it fit you
my friend got a hair relaxer and it works for awhile but when it came out it looks 10x's worse..
personally i would thin it
try not to straighten your hair to much or else your curls will go flat.
also keep your hair hydrated, freeze serum works really well.
hope i helped some
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me and my friend double date with these two guys. we have gone once but it was really hard to do. her mom doesnt like me so she couldnt tell her she was going with me. and she also couldnt tell her she was going with guys cause shes wouldnt let her. so i told her to come over and then we'd go without telling her, but recently her mom said she couldnt come over to my house anymore because we went and hung out with this guy whos 16 (were 14) but we didnt do anything with him. her mom is blaming it all on me and she isnt sticking up for me and im kinda of mad about it cause were best friends. anyways, we ended up having to go with her mom but see different movies and met the guys in there theatre. then had to go back out without them. it was stupid and not fun at all. well we want to all get together again, but go eat and do other things.
so i need help with two things.
what can i do about her mom hating me for no reasonable reason (truthfully, im a good kid, and i dont do bad things and most moms know that) and how can we get together with those guys again! (link)
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well i think you should tell her mom
that your a good kid
show her how responsible you are
thats what i did with my best friends mom and now she likes me more..but dont be mad at your friend.
its not a smart idea going behind her mom's back again so i would plan on doing it anytime soon
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