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My husband and sister-in-law have the weirdest relationship. they are really affectionate with each other, like REALLY! they are always hugging and kissing each other. and like he'll jump on top of her on the couch to give her a big bear hug, and things like that. at first it just bugged me a bit, but yesterday it just went to far. we had dinner at his parents house, and we were having dessert. and we all finished our desserts, and there was one left. my husband went to take the last one, and came and sat on the couch next to me. my sister-in-law sat in his lap, and what does he do? he starts feeding her from his dessert! :S and shes acting like a child, and saying things like no no i don't want that piece i want THAAAT piece. and it was like i wasn't even there. what kind of husband feeds his sister before his wife? ya and then after they finished like half the dessert he puts some on his fork (which he fed his sister with) and asks me do u want some? i disgustedly told him no. and i don't know how to explain to him that his relationship with his sister grosses me out and kinda creeps me out as well. by the way his sister is my age, 21, and hes 29. its just this weird absurd relationship between the two of them. and shes acting like a child, and the way he treats her i feel should be the way i am treated. not the way he should be treating his sister.
what am i supposed to do?
his sister is getting married soon so i feel like instead of offending him.. i'll just ignore it and deal with it until she gets married and leaves in may.
i really need advice, because everytime i go over to his parents house i end up getting pissed off and annoyed and disgusted.
HEEEEELP!!! (link)
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I agree with the previous advice. His behavior and his sister's is just plain old weird, ridiculous and kinda creepy.
Perhaps they're stuck in a twilight zone of their youth. He is eight years older than her, after all, so he may have babied her when they were younger. They may just be stuck in an old pattern. Strange as hell, but old and perhaps normal for them.
Still, tell him how you feel. I suggest writing it all out first, to organize your thoughts and points, THEN talking to him. Good luck.
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My boyfriend couldn't be anymore perfect if he tried and it scares me so much because if he hurts me again its going to hurt so much more because it would be over for good. (link)
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Like the others have said, it's not perfect if he's hurt you. How did he hurt you? Why did you forgive him? Have you really forgiven him? I'd say you're not over it if you're worried enough about it to seek advice from old and wise internet strangers.
There are, apparently, some issues that still need to be resolved in your relationship. Mainly trust. Because it seems you do not trust him and you cannot have a happy, successful relationship without trust. Work on this with him if you can. If you cannot, cut your losses, lick your wounds and wait for someone who really is perfect for you.
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okay well i have feelings for my guy friend. i dont know if he feels the same way though. he is a sophmore and i am a freshmen. we talk on the phone and on myspace. he usually wants me to call me and stuff and suggested us hanging out just the two of us ,but i got so nervous that i changed the subject. he says he cares about me and he is the nicest guy i have ever met. how do i hint that i like him? Does he fill the same way? (link)
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If your guy friend is asking you to hang - just the two of you - it's probably a casual way of asking you on a date. Think about it. You're friends and he may not want to risk the friendship by bluntly asking you out and facing the rejection if you're not into him.
So yes, I'd say he probably feels the same way. Stop changing the subject and accept an invitation before he decides you're not into him.
Also, I can't tell if you know him from school or only online. If only online, DO NOT MEET HIM ALONE. But if this is someone you've known face-to-face for a while, go for it!
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Ok, this is a question about guys. WHAT would make a guy think that it was okay to tell a girl he's currently dating who he would go out with if he wasn't with her? my boyfriend told me that about a week ago. it's been driving me nuts anytime i think about it, even worse if i see them together. i want to talk to him about it, but i'm afraid if i do, then it will end our relationship. we've been together five months. this is the first time i've really been this upset with him. i'm not sure if this is worth ending a relationship over. but all i keep thinking about is that if he's already considering other girls for a relationship, then how can we keep it together? (link)
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At best, he's an insensitive dick - not a bad guy, just slightly socially retarded. At worst, he's an insensitive dick that wants to sow some more wild oats or whatever it is guys like to call it when they screw around.
However, I wouldn't dwell on it unless he says this sort of thing often, particularly about the same girl. ESPECIALLY if you notice any flirty/touchy-feely behavior between them. Consider how they act around each other, how often he brings her up in conversations where she is not present. If you think about it rationally and see nothing that should bother you other than an offhand remark, let the matter slide. Forgive and forget. If it does happen again, tell him it makes you uncomfortable and how would he feel if you said something like that about another guy he knows.
In short, assess the situation but don't be paranoid.
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