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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

advice

alright.

well...

my boyfriend is a christian and all, but idk if i really like him.

i reallyyy liked him, but now whenever i see him i dont really wanna be around him, but when i'm not around him, i like him ALOTTTT


so i am really confused on what to do.

i have been known to push myself away from people because they are getting too close and he knows a lot about me and i dont know if i am just pushing myself away, also i have really bad anxiety.
so i think that my anxiety might be part of this whole situation.


yet another thing is that ive never had anyone like me to like me back, well rarely ever. so it just all seems surreal to me.


pleaseee help me :]

hmm.
i've done that before. when i get nervous, because i don't want to be hurt by someone, who i care about, i push away, and will tend to even ignore them. and act like i dont like them.

thats somethings thats super hard to get over. it takes awhile.you kinda gotta just let it happen. and hope for the best.

take it slow with him. dont rush into anything. it seems like you just kinda like the fact that he likes you, type tihng, yano? like you dont really like who he is, just the whole feeling of someone liking you.

like im not sure if that made much sense, but hopefully it did.

i hope that helpd. (:

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Ok so last year my ex broke up with me. While we were together he lied,cheated, the whole 9. Every since we broke up which was a year ago he tells me he is so sorry for what he did, that he loves me, he misses me, and all kinds of other stuff. I know he has had a few girlfriends since then, and currently has one that on his myspace page he calls her his wife. So why won't he stop the games?? And what can I do to get him to stop??

hahah i like the beginning of what the girl below me said. arrested for harrasment. haha.

yeah, i think it may be a little bit more simplyer for you though, i think his feelings are just all messed up. hes not really sure, who he likes completely. im kinda in that stage. i like, like 4 different guys. give him space. tell him, that youve seen his myspace and about that girl, and all that, and say like [well if you want to] that you'll give him another chance,but first he has to figure out who he really likes, because you want to be the one and only. and tell him to take his time, to figure out who he really likes.

and see what happens.

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I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and 19 days and I'm totally happy when it's just me and him but his best friend is a girl. He stays the night at her house all the time knowing that it makes me mad. My friends say that him and his friend have a "thing" and I'm starting to believe it. I've asked him if he has cheated on me and he gets all mad says no then tells his friend. How do I know if he is really cheating on me?

Well, would your parents let you sleepover there? i mean you could be like.. "Hey, me you, and so&so should all have a sleepover!" and see what he says. and like dont act jealous anymore. act like everythings cool. and if u have any guy friends, i'd do it right back to him. see how it reacts. if he gets all mad then hes probably doing something with that girl. but if he doesnt, and says like oh really? cool.. what are you guys doing, or something, then he sees no harm in having the opposite sex as your best friend.

but, i remember when me and this one kid, were like total besties, i mean, we always hung out, and when he got a girlfriend, she'd like flip out on me all the time. and i was always like chill out, me and him are just super tight. so i mean i don't know. i wouldnt act jealous or anything, because that usually drives guys INSANE.

i hope it works outt.

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i wear and a and im 15. all my friends wear a c-d and alot of them are 12-13 years old. someone please tell me how to make my boobs grow!

push up bra will you make you look hugeee. (:

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im 17/f. i dont ever feel happy anymore. i feel like im faking it all the time. i have absolutely no friends. i never go out with people. i talk to people in school but never hang out. i feel jealous of other girls who have best friends they hang out with and can count on. i dont have a boyfriend. im slightly buliimic but still feel fat everyday. i feel like such a failure. people tell me im pretty and no one would ever guess any of this is true about me. i lie all the time about having friends and stuff like that. how can i be happy and enjoy my life?

You gotta just be a little more laid back. Try making friends. When I switched to a new school, it was way hard for me to make friends at first. But, then I'd get there screenames, I'd IM them, everytime there on, when I'd see them in school, i'd be super friendly. Thats basically what you gotta do. If you wanna make friends, you kinda have to be like demanding ish. Like really push for it. And not all guys just will want to have sex with yyou, I'm sure theres a few nice ones in school.

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my friend dated this guy in november, they lasted till around january. then she was like yuck, and got anoyed by him or something
Well me and him were really close through out like december-marchish/april
and like we were all Best friends for life and like always calling eachother, IMing eachother, hanigng out, talking to eachother- everything
Well then he like stopped talking to me as much, and he usaly was the one who talked to me.
Well idk like he will talk to me like twice a week and thats like it.
WEll anyways back to this.
That guy, and my friend are like flirting none stop now ,and i think thats why he like stopped talking to me, and hes so caught up in her, and shes so caught up in him. And she like trys to show off in front of him.
i dont know, its just really anoying me

HELP
on how to get him to talk to me again
and stuff
xox thankss

Usually, [atleast with me and most of my friends] when you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, whatever, you tend to get really caught up in only them. you stop thinking about anything else important. so, basically if i were you, i'd just give them there space.

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well i'm a teenage girl who is dating this amazing guy again (2nd date this weekend) and well, it's just that i've never really had a real relationship like this before and I'm not sure what i'm doing. After this weekend when I kiss him for the first time on our date, do I wait and see if he calls me? Or should I call him? (he says he'd call me about this weekend but he hasn't yet- even though i was the one who first asked him)


helppp me

If he said he'll call, he probably will. And if he doesn't, maybe try calling him once. Just once. if he doesn't answer leave a message, if he never calls back, then you know he lost his interest.

you lose some, you gain some.

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me and my boyfriend dry hump kind of a lot, and one time we did and he had boxers and athletic shorts on and i had just my underwear and stuff.. I have 3 days until it'll be a month since my last period. I almost always get my period 4-8 days before its scheduled on the exact day (i.e. the 6th), and we're kind of freaking out. i was wet down there and obviously he was a little bit too. i dont think it is, but is it possible to get pregnant from that? (under MY circumstances i mean)

As long as he didn't actually go in you, then nope. the sperm die in the air anyways. so even if he wasnt wearing any boxers or anything, but you still were, you still wouldn't.

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so with summer coming around the corner, i`m finding it hard to loose some of the extra weight i gained over the winter. what good diet pills could i take to help move the process along faster?

I strongly, very strongly, don't reccomend diet pills. Many of my friends that have tried countless diet pills, or that stuff on tv, does not work. It actually made them gain weight. I know, everyones body is different. But, its not worth the risk. Anh honestly, who knows what they really put in that stuff.

If you wanna lose some weight, take a really long walk. don't run, you burn more calories walking. drink alot of water, like 12 cups of it. Don't eat snacks, eat breakfast, and you'll see some majorr weightloss. oh and only eat when your like really hungry. like when your stomach is growling. it will also help you lose weight. (:

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17/f. I have shoulder-length, thick wavy hair (dyed pink, red, and black currently) that I want to cut in a cool and punky way without paying a fortune. Ideally, i'd like it to be down to my ears and a little shaggy on the sides and in the front (where I can straighten it), and short enough to spike in the back. Are there any websites that have instructions on how to cut your own hair? Or any tips you'd like to offer? thanks a lot!

K

If I were you, I'd let a professional do it, but, haha, I tried cutting just my bangs once, YEAH. didn't work out. But, if you've ever cut someons hair before, or are pretty confident about it, then try googling it. its probably hard to find a website for a hairstyle like that, and if you've never like cut someones hair or your own hair before, then ehh I'd go and get it done, because that seems like a pretty tricky haircut.

And you can find cheap places anywhere, like I spend maybe 50 dollars of the cheapest? on my hair. But, then yet.. my mom takes my brothers to this little cheap place, and it only cost 5 dollars of the most.

So,yeah. I hope that helped.

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Okay, two things. First of all, I'm a very religous person -- or I try to be. But I have an issue with one of the commandments. Is it wrong for me to "want to have sex with" another woman's husband? He's middle-aged and I'm only 13/f! Which kind of scares me... but he's famous and everything and is like... 41 so yeah. Anyways, my other problem is this...
I'm Catholic and I've always strongly believed in God and Jesus and Mary and Guardian Angels and Heaven etc. ever since I was a little girl. Like first--second grade. And I'm proud. I used to always pray and buy products and prayer products etc. because of it. But lately I've lost faith. I've been thinking, "what if the bible is some book someone wrote and someone missunderstood it?" which i KNOW is not true! or something like that
please helppp

At some point, everyone thinks that. I've wondered if it was just some book a bunch of guys wrote because they were bored. But, I've realized that in my heart, I know thats not true, and there is a God.

And when your talking about that guy that you want to have sex with or whatever, is he like a famous singer, or actor? Like, I mean as long as you don't act upon it, i'm pretty sure your ok. That is one of the commandments though, so hmm. just don't do it. and try to think about other things.

I hoped that helped

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im 13/f and ive had sex with 14 different guys. i know how slutty that it. i was kind of neglected buy my family so i needed a way to be loved. i know regret all of it. i realize how lucky i am to still be not pregnant and std-free. ive been going to church every other day and confessing. what can i do to get my life back together????

fourteennn. thats alot.
but, atleast you realize its wrong.
start focusing more on school, or hanging out with friends or something. and try not to like focus to much on boys, well i mean, don't go out with them and stuff so to speak.

i bet you could go to counseling for something like that.

if your parents know that you did that, then tell them you want to fix it, by going to counseling. and you'll probably gain some respect from them too.

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14/m me and my gf were fooling around and i put my penis against her panties, i think most of my precum got wiped off when i took it out of my pants but its there any chance of her being pregnet?

If you never actually went inside of her then no.

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13/f

One day, I was coming home from school, and told me that I'm getting older, and she'll let me have sex(protected) next year when I turn 15.

I'm scared, I have a great b/f, but i don't like him that way!!!

what do i do???

Whoa whoa whoa. who told you this? DID YOUR MOM TELL YOU THAT? Well, whoever told you that isn't a very good role model for you.

Don't do anything you don't want to or arn't ready to. you'll regret it then. when your ready to do that type of thing, even if your like 20, wait for it. because its not special or anything, if you just do it with anyone.

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16/f

Alright, straight to the point.. I'm a virgin and all.. but like.. sexually active in a way that doesn't involve a dick inside of me.. so this guy I know, wants to pop me.. (I know. blah blah blah. wait for marriage, wait until he's right. blah blah. dont care)

So, we wanted to know.. when he does 'pop' me.. will blood get on his dick?

thanks :)

Yeah. you will, no big deal.
make sure you use a condom though.
because if you don't he could end up being the father of your baby. (:

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15/F

There's this guy, and for some reason I can't get over him. I've liked him for over a year, even though I have no reason to, and he's given me a lot reason not to.

He's a total jerk, and can be sexist at times.

My friend told him I liked him and he started rumors that I was stalking him.

He's extremely conceited.

I've only talked to him a couple times. We don't hang out with the same people, but we do have some of the same friends. He's not in any of my classes, and I haven't talked to him in months.

Yet... Whenever he walks past me in the hall I get so excited, and my heart starts beating all fast. And then I can't stop smiling for the next couple of minutes.

I know where he hangs out in the morning before school and at lunch and that's the first place I look every time I walk past that area.

I get so excited every time someone mentions his name. (And then immediately feel like a retard for it.)

What's wrong with me. I'm not saying he's totally horrible, but his cons outnumber his pros. If that even makes sense. When will I get over him? We've only talked a couple of times, before my friend told him that I liked him.

I should hate him, yet I don't as you can tell. I want to hate him, but I can't.

What should I do?

I can't really tell you, to stop liking him, you kinda have to do that yourself.

Don't like try to just stop thinking about him completely, because thats way too hard, and you'll find yourself thinking about him and not even realizing it. Try to like someone else. I'm sure there plenty of cute boys in your school. Find one and start liking him. And eventually, you'll forget about the other kid.

I don't think that other kid likes you too much, and usually guys don't really like it, when your friend goes and tells them that you like them. it kinda makes you look bad, like you can't say it for yourself, and then there not sure if you really do or your kidding. it just basically sends alot of mix signals.

i hope that helpedd. (:

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Alright, so I really want to get to 120 by next month. I weighed myself in the morning and I was 124. So then I ran & walked for about 4 hours, and when I got back I still weighed 124.

Does it take a while for the pounds to go away? Or did that just do nothing?

Oh & what should I do to lose lovehandles/lower back fat? I've ran at least a mile all this week & done crunches & basic stuff & and yeah, the pounds are shedding, but they seem to just stay there.. :[ I really don't want to go below 120 just so they can be gone.

don't run, first of all.
walk, you lose more calories, and i personally think its easier, and i can go farther.

drink 12 glasses of water. which is actually really hard. but, try to. eat breakfast. it will boost up ur metablism. and i bet you'll lose some serious weight pretty quick.

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ok im 13/f and i dont want you to think that im a freak but lately i have been having these really weird dreams and they are about girls making out and having sex.


last night was the seconds time that this has happned. i dont like girls. i like guys. what is wrong with me?

Alot of people have different opinions on why people have dreams. some will say, that you have nothing to do with it, and its tottaly random. others may tell you, its things that you think about in the back of your mind. or things you want or something like that.

basically, i think if you know, that thats like tottaly weird, and ur not gay, then i wouldn't worry about it. usually my dreams are really weird, not like that though. its usually a huge mix of like, what i want [like boys] things i've thought about, and then it will be at like a grocery store, when im suppose to be in school or something. haha, so yeah, don't worry about it, its just a bad dream. (:

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I would like some advice, if its weird or not:
Since ive been about 16 I have been getting these really strong feelings, about how I really want to become a mom. I mean is that weird, is there something wrong with me?

nahh. whenever i went to the mall, and we'd be buying clothes for my brothers or something, the baby department was right next store. and i'd always think.. awww. i wish i had a baby. so eventually, i got a puppy. and there just like babies. only a little less work. if you can get a puppy, you can get a puppy at the pound for like 50 dollars? mines a purebred so she was like 700 or 800 dollars. but if you cant afford that, just get a mixed dog.

they keep you up at night.
you have to clean up where they go potty
you have to watch there every move
you have to feed them

all that fun stuff. (:

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Hello...

I have a teen daugter she is 13 and she goes to the mall all the time which I don't mind.But she always brings home clothes and says their her friends or something like that and I found 1 price tag in her room...she has a history of shoplifting but do you think shes at it again ?

Signed,
Questioned

Sounds like it.
What did you do the first time when she shoplifted?

If my mom caught me shoplifting, i'd never get to go to the mall again.

maybe try 'catching her in the act' like, when you drive her up to the mall or something, stay there. and like hide behind clothing racks or something, haha.

honestly though, if she did it once. i think you should just say.. "i've found price tags or whatever in your room, and ya know it looks like you've been shoplifting again, your not going to the mall anymore. inless im with you. infact, your not going anywhere, without me."

she'll probably scream and yell at you and tell you she hates you for that, and say that your so unfair, and that she doesnt even do that anymore, and that you just dont trust her, and want her to be miserable.

yeah, thats basically what most teenage girls say to there moms, when there mad. dont take it personal. shes gotta learn.

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