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I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and 19 days and I'm totally happy when it's just me and him but his best friend is a girl. He stays the night at her house all the time knowing that it makes me mad. My friends say that him and his friend have a "thing" and I'm starting to believe it. I've asked him if he has cheated on me and he gets all mad says no then tells his friend. How do I know if he is really cheating on me?
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My best friend actually went through this. She and her boyfriend/ex-bf(kinda back together) are still working things out. I guess I would actually make sure if he's doing this to make you mad... I'd also ask if he is doing it to make you mad, then why? Did you have an argument beforehand? Does he do it to make you jealous? You do have to realize, she is his best friend. Is his best friend the type of person to steal away boyfriends? As for your friends, take what they say with a grain of salt. They mean well, but sometimes they can do a lot of damage. It could just be gossip. If you doubt your boyfriend in a relationship, then you'll doubt him for the rest of it (which will probably be very short and rocky). Relationships are based on trust and if you can't trust him then why are you in a relationship. Maybe if you talked (not asked... because sometimes he might take it as an accusation) and say why it bothers you and that you honestly just wanna know the truth. Try to make him understand where you're coming from and why you feel the way you do. If he still has problem with that and he can't see your side, you have some choices to make. if he's worth it try harder for him to understand... if not, kick him to the curb.
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Well, would your parents let you sleepover there? i mean you could be like.. "Hey, me you, and so&so should all have a sleepover!" and see what he says. and like dont act jealous anymore. act like everythings cool. and if u have any guy friends, i'd do it right back to him. see how it reacts. if he gets all mad then hes probably doing something with that girl. but if he doesnt, and says like oh really? cool.. what are you guys doing, or something, then he sees no harm in having the opposite sex as your best friend.
but, i remember when me and this one kid, were like total besties, i mean, we always hung out, and when he got a girlfriend, she'd like flip out on me all the time. and i was always like chill out, me and him are just super tight. so i mean i don't know. i wouldnt act jealous or anything, because that usually drives guys INSANE.
i hope it works outt.
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You have 2 things to consider here..
The 5 months and 19 days you've spent together are amazing to your boyfriend, and he would never violate the trust you have, or should have for hihm.
Or,
The 5 months and 19 days you've spent together have almost worn your boyfriend out, and he wants to try something new..
It all depends on how much you trust your boyfriend, how many feelings you share together..
Talk to him about it, explain to him that by him doing this and knowingly hurting you it shows no compassion on his side, tell him that if he truly loved you he'd put your feelings into consideration..
Or you could also befriend this best friend of his, get to know her enough that you know she wouldn't violate the friendship to get your boyfridn to cheat on you..
Just my thoughts..
Hope I helped.
~Tyler
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