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I went through this huge fiasco with this guy and if was really strange. We were sort of going out when we weren't, and when we actually were going out, we weren't. I realized that I didn't like him anymore when he asked me out. My best friend likes him too (she has since she met him, like, 3 1/2 years ago) and she always has. We had a huge fight about that last year. And now I haven't been with him for about 2 1/2 months and I'm starting to question whether I like him still or not. When I broke up with him, I pretty much hated him. Then he got all cocky and whatnot so I REALLY started to hate him. Not, we're back to normal and I might like him again. And my friend still likes him a lot. But I kind of don't want them to go out, her and my ex, it seems so weird. I'm not quite sure what I'm asking, but I do need some help. Can you see something here? (link)
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These kind of situations are tough - very tough. Any situation that involves a 'love triangle' is tricky business. You need to question yourself if you really like him or not. But the most important question is if he's worth losing a friend (and not just a friend, you're best friend). Honestly, i think the BOTH of you should let this guy go. No guy is worth losing a friendship (esp. this kinda friendship). I have these 'rules' when it comes to friends & guys, I don't go after ANY guy that my friends have dated, went out with, or hooked up. BUT if the inevitable happens then I'd make SURE that it's okay with this friend that I go after him & if there is any hesitancy with that friend even if its the smallest thing I know thats a 'no go'. The question is,are you ready for your best friend to go after him? Are you strong enough to handle it & let it go? Cause if you're not, you should let your best friend know (and you should also tell her you're sorry for putting her through the same situation when you had went out with him). If you are truly a friend of hers, then you need to make a decision - A) be the bigger person and let her have her chance, B) let her know how you feel & the BOTH of you back off, or C) screw over your best friend and go out with him. I don't recommend C. Like I said, NO GUY is worth losing your best friend over.
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Ok so here is the problem: I am really scared to put anything in my vagina. I just turned 13 and in 7th grade. Don't worry i'm not plannin' to have sex anytime soon but I really want to use tampons. But the thought of putting anything inside of me just makes me shiver and I get uncomfortable just thinking about it. Like, when I read questions on here about people fingering I think to myself wouldn't that hurt more than feel good. And also I'm really scared about that first time when I put something up there and it hurts and I bleed! Yeah and also I tried to look to see what whole it goes in for when I do work up the courage, but even after reading all articles on periods I STILL can't tell where it goes! Any advice!!??!?! (link)
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Just relax. Once you stop thinking about how 'weird' it is to put things up there, it's not that bad. Yes, there are times putting a tampon hurts, but that's because you either put it in wrong or you have the wrong absorbancy. Maybe try some Slim Fits from Playtex (I think they're catered to teens). You should try to lightest absorbancy (it says it on the packaging on whether it is light, medium, or heavy). I guess its almost like trial and error in the beginning until you get used to it then itll come to you easily. As for having sex and all that other stuff, the right time will come. I'm not gonna lie it does hurt the first time, but if ur with the right person (that treats you right) he'll do whatever he can to make easier for you. Make sure when you put in a tampon though you are actually menstruating, because if you're not that will DEFINITELY HURT!!! the worst thing you can do is put anything (tampon or whatever) when its dry up there.
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15/f
I'm so sick of feeling like I'm just wasting my life away. Everyday I come home after school and do homework for a few hours and then do whatever and go to bed. Sometimes on Fridays I'll hang out with my friends, and like rarely Saturdays. The thing is I don't have a lot of friends, atleast not one's who I actually hang out with. I have two best friends who I basically only hang out with except for occasional times where there's others. I'm really shy, so that's the reason for that, and I have a hard time making new friends. My freshman year is just about over, but definitely next year I'll do a sport and join some clubs hopefully to meet new people. But right now, even my 2 best friends aren't always there. My one best friend has an extremely overprotective mom who makes no sense, who won't let her go to the mall or a recent carnival, yet she'll let her go to on a plane to Florida on a band trip. And a lot of the time she's busy, either with sports or she's with her family. My other best friend is more like me, her mom gives her more freedom and she's available more often, but I guess she doesn't like hanging out with just me or something, since most of the time the other one can't. And she like NEVER calls or texts me, only IMs. AND WE'RE BEST FRIENDS! I'm just sooo sick of it, I know I need new friends but it just doesn't happen that easily. And it's hard to not be shy around people. I don't know what to do anymore! What do I do? How do I make new friends and not be shy? How can I make my friends realize that like, we're best friends! And we should seriously act like we are, not just in school! I don't want to waste my weekends away, I'm 15, I feel like I have no life! And don't even get me started on this summer, if it goes any way how this school year has been, I'll like become depressed. I know what I want, I just don't know where to start. Please help. Sorry for the length & thank you so much! (link)
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Don't dump your friends. If your best friends obviously there's reasons why you became such good friends. One of them might actually need you soon, because sometimes overly protective mothers can cause a lot of grief. She'll need a friend - she'll need you. With your other friend, bring it up with her over IM. Talk it out & see what she says. She might have a valid reason or she might've been blinded by how she was acting. Stay friends because you ARE friends. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't make new friends. By all means, you should! I know it can be tough sometimes, but you'll find out if you take a chance you might surprise yourself. Just tell yourself you're worth being someone's friend. List off all the good qualities you have (in your head though not aloud) and keep encouraging yourself that you have a lot to offer. & jump in... you'll find out that you actually have a lot in common with other people. So give it a shot. *Don't worry! It's gets better. I'm 21 & I made it through high school* =0)
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I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and 19 days and I'm totally happy when it's just me and him but his best friend is a girl. He stays the night at her house all the time knowing that it makes me mad. My friends say that him and his friend have a "thing" and I'm starting to believe it. I've asked him if he has cheated on me and he gets all mad says no then tells his friend. How do I know if he is really cheating on me? (link)
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My best friend actually went through this. She and her boyfriend/ex-bf(kinda back together) are still working things out. I guess I would actually make sure if he's doing this to make you mad... I'd also ask if he is doing it to make you mad, then why? Did you have an argument beforehand? Does he do it to make you jealous? You do have to realize, she is his best friend. Is his best friend the type of person to steal away boyfriends? As for your friends, take what they say with a grain of salt. They mean well, but sometimes they can do a lot of damage. It could just be gossip. If you doubt your boyfriend in a relationship, then you'll doubt him for the rest of it (which will probably be very short and rocky). Relationships are based on trust and if you can't trust him then why are you in a relationship. Maybe if you talked (not asked... because sometimes he might take it as an accusation) and say why it bothers you and that you honestly just wanna know the truth. Try to make him understand where you're coming from and why you feel the way you do. If he still has problem with that and he can't see your side, you have some choices to make. if he's worth it try harder for him to understand... if not, kick him to the curb.
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i like my boyfriend alot
we get along well
and everything
issue.
he is shy when we are at school. i'll ask if he wants to sit next to me he will mummble sure
and won't say a word to me or look at me.
i talk to him because i try to make him talk
but he won't say much.
then his guy friend will sit next to him and he will turn around and start talking to him.
and people think we don't go out because he never talks to me.
like face to face.
its sorta annoying but our phone conversations ARE GREAT.
we hang out at the movies and stuff
its like we are best friend except for at school =/
its annoying.
sorta.
help? (link)
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Guys can be strange sometimes. They can have easy conversations with other guys and its seems like pulling teeth when it comes to talking girls (or the girl he likes). You can look at it 2 ways: negatively or positively. You can tell yourself its very immature of him & that he should stop acting like you have 'cooties' OR you can think of it as a compliment that you have the 'power' to have a guy act awkwardly around you because he likes you. If it really bothers though, you should bring it up over these phone conversation. It's obvious that you two can connect. Tell him how you feel - the best way to keep you guys on the same page is through communication. If something bothers you, hurts you - let him know. Talk it over. See what he has to say. If he's your boyfriend, I'm pretty sure he doesn't intend on making you feel like this.=0)
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16/f...hes 17
*LONG...SORRY...BUT NEED HELP*
okay so i feel like no one...no guy in this world will ever like me enough to actually try for me...to actually take their time and give some to me to show me that they actually like me and want to be with me...i always feel like im bothering someone or im not good enough for them...i know i dont try too hard but i know its not that im not trying enough...i definitly try...
i feel ike if i dont text first or call first or instant message first...then nothing will go ANYWHERE...i know this guy likes me because we got sort of "set up" from my friend tim who is also dating my best friend jen...you see...tim used to be best friends with this kid dave
and it staretd out with me dating dave and tim dating jen and it was so awesome cuase me and jen were best friends and tim and dave were best friends and it was just so awesome....then dave suddenly changed to just went through all this stuff in his life and lost me, his girlriend, tim, his longlonglong time best friend and a lot more...but i had some hang ups about him...i felt as though he never just "tried" hard enough...i mean i know its a joint effort but i feel like im doing all the work all the time!...while tim started out crushing on jen and then me and dave met through that...timjust showed jen so much more. he would text her all the time and IM her and little things like that which showed her he really liked and was interested in her while dave was a little slow with that....well a lot slow...but now were over but this other guy is a friend of tim's also and he is just SUCH a good guy...a way bvetter guy than dave and i really feel ike i had to go through all the pain with dave just to get me to him because this other guy is really sweet...
i knew him a little becuase hes been friends with tim and dave for a long time but i never really got to know him until last sunday and we hit it off great and kissed and he is just such a genuine sweet guy
then we hung out friday, saturday, and sunday this weekend and were making out and holding hands and getting close and being cute and flirting and he called me a lot during this past week before the weekend...tim and jen tell me he likes me and is def interested in me....and i know he wouldnt lead me on...and he, including me, is not the kind of person to rush into a relationship...but i def want one with him....i know he was talking to another girl before me but stopped like the weekend before we started talking...he said it wasnt that things didnt work out...just that they stopped talking and stuff cause he was just really busy and had a lot going on and didnt see her and stuff...i know hje doesnt like her like that anymore and stuff but im just scared that that will happen to us. we dotn go to the same school but he does drive...and he doesnt go to school...hes done with high school and is starteing college in the fall......
i saw him sunday then texted him monday and he didnt answer then i IMED him sying..where are you! i miss you! and i came back later and saw that he answered later on saying awww....but i was away...then i came back and said HEY! and he never answered and it didnt say he was idle or away or anything which is always says....then when i comment him on myspace he doesnt comment back but hell comment someone else back...
i just want to feel worthy enough for someone...i want to be able to sit back just even for ONE day and have someone try for ME and take time out of their day for ME...
i dont get it...i know hes not the type to "play" girls and stuff....and i heard from tim whos like his bets rfiend that he does like me and its evident when we're together...i just dont get the whole thing....if he was really crushing on me wouldnt he text me and do those cute little things like text goodm orning or say sometrhing cute when im in school or leave me cute IMS or SOMETHING?
why do i have to do it first?
and now yesterday he didnt even answer me....
and it sucks a lot this time cause i REALLY REALLY like him....i cant even explain how much i do...more than any guy ive ever liked...and i dated dave for 6 months and i feel like this new guy knows more about me and i know more about him than when dating dave....i just know hes a really good guy and im a great person too...
HELP!
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Ok. Never say that a guy will not ever like you enough to try for you. The moment you start believing that, it's almost giving a guy a reason/excuse not to. You gotta believe you're worth the effort and worth having. You're worth trying for - don't ever think you're not!
About this situation though: I cheered for you when you let dave go! he didn't deserve you. This new guy though he seems like a good guy. I know it's annoying that guys don't do the little things that girls do (trust me I know how annoying) & its frustrating. Guys sometimes don't understand the sentimental value but i learned that these things don't really matter if he does them or not. It only matters if he treats you right and he makes you happy & feel good about yourself. If you told him how you felt about him and your fears & if he completely blew you off... then thats completely different. He's probably just busy, but if he likes you he'll make time. Just don't freak out if he doesn't answer back straight away. There's no point in being paranoid & overanalyzing everything. Just enjoy this, enjoy him, be yourself, be happy together, and see where it goes! =0)
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