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I don't know if I still like him
I went through this huge fiasco with this guy and if was really strange. We were sort of going out when we weren't, and when we actually were going out, we weren't. I realized that I didn't like him anymore when he asked me out. My best friend likes him too (she has since she met him, like, 3 1/2 years ago) and she always has. We had a huge fight about that last year. And now I haven't been with him for about 2 1/2 months and I'm starting to question whether I like him still or not. When I broke up with him, I pretty much hated him. Then he got all cocky and whatnot so I REALLY started to hate him. Not, we're back to normal and I might like him again. And my friend still likes him a lot. But I kind of don't want them to go out, her and my ex, it seems so weird. I'm not quite sure what I'm asking, but I do need some help. Can you see something here?
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These kind of situations are tough - very tough. Any situation that involves a 'love triangle' is tricky business. You need to question yourself if you really like him or not. But the most important question is if he's worth losing a friend (and not just a friend, you're best friend). Honestly, i think the BOTH of you should let this guy go. No guy is worth losing a friendship (esp. this kinda friendship). I have these 'rules' when it comes to friends & guys, I don't go after ANY guy that my friends have dated, went out with, or hooked up. BUT if the inevitable happens then I'd make SURE that it's okay with this friend that I go after him & if there is any hesitancy with that friend even if its the smallest thing I know thats a 'no go'. The question is,are you ready for your best friend to go after him? Are you strong enough to handle it & let it go? Cause if you're not, you should let your best friend know (and you should also tell her you're sorry for putting her through the same situation when you had went out with him). If you are truly a friend of hers, then you need to make a decision - A) be the bigger person and let her have her chance, B) let her know how you feel & the BOTH of you back off, or C) screw over your best friend and go out with him. I don't recommend C. Like I said, NO GUY is worth losing your best friend over.
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All's free in love and he IS YOUR EX.
You obviously had a love/hate relationship with him and this is toxic for you. Let it go.
Hanging onto him (in this perverse way) is a signal of you being afraid to move on and find another boyfriend and being insecure with yourself.
Don't transfer your insecurities onto your friend who has liked him for 3 1/2 years. She is obviously the girl for him if he feels the same about her because that's along time to like someone.
You had your shot(s) and blew it, or it didn't work out cause it wasn't right.
Let them have each other with no ill feelings toward them, and let nature take its course.
Move on dearie, and replace the toxic with the healthy love relationship-- a new guy.
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