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Sick of this
15/f
I'm so sick of feeling like I'm just wasting my life away. Everyday I come home after school and do homework for a few hours and then do whatever and go to bed. Sometimes on Fridays I'll hang out with my friends, and like rarely Saturdays. The thing is I don't have a lot of friends, atleast not one's who I actually hang out with. I have two best friends who I basically only hang out with except for occasional times where there's others. I'm really shy, so that's the reason for that, and I have a hard time making new friends. My freshman year is just about over, but definitely next year I'll do a sport and join some clubs hopefully to meet new people. But right now, even my 2 best friends aren't always there. My one best friend has an extremely overprotective mom who makes no sense, who won't let her go to the mall or a recent carnival, yet she'll let her go to on a plane to Florida on a band trip. And a lot of the time she's busy, either with sports or she's with her family. My other best friend is more like me, her mom gives her more freedom and she's available more often, but I guess she doesn't like hanging out with just me or something, since most of the time the other one can't. And she like NEVER calls or texts me, only IMs. AND WE'RE BEST FRIENDS! I'm just sooo sick of it, I know I need new friends but it just doesn't happen that easily. And it's hard to not be shy around people. I don't know what to do anymore! What do I do? How do I make new friends and not be shy? How can I make my friends realize that like, we're best friends! And we should seriously act like we are, not just in school! I don't want to waste my weekends away, I'm 15, I feel like I have no life! And don't even get me started on this summer, if it goes any way how this school year has been, I'll like become depressed. I know what I want, I just don't know where to start. Please help. Sorry for the length & thank you so much!
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Well, you are 15 so I'm going to assume that many of your friends don't drive. Here's the thing: There isn't many things to do until you and your friends can drive, that's how it was for me for sure. Now, I have a friend that moved here a year and a half ago and before I met her she was the shyest person I have ever known. Now she is outgoing and has made a lot of friends. Honestly, you just have to put yourself out there and talk to people, introduce yourself. Of course you won't be one of those loud, really outgoing people because that just isn't your personality. But just sitting in a room where there's people around and not talking to them because you don't know them is something you will have to overcome. They as well don't know you and they will continue to not know you until you put yourself in that position to get to know them. Try doing those things and as you get older I promise there will be more things to do and more places to go.
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Don't dump your friends. If your best friends obviously there's reasons why you became such good friends. One of them might actually need you soon, because sometimes overly protective mothers can cause a lot of grief. She'll need a friend - she'll need you. With your other friend, bring it up with her over IM. Talk it out & see what she says. She might have a valid reason or she might've been blinded by how she was acting. Stay friends because you ARE friends. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't make new friends. By all means, you should! I know it can be tough sometimes, but you'll find out if you take a chance you might surprise yourself. Just tell yourself you're worth being someone's friend. List off all the good qualities you have (in your head though not aloud) and keep encouraging yourself that you have a lot to offer. & jump in... you'll find out that you actually have a lot in common with other people. So give it a shot. *Don't worry! It's gets better. I'm 21 & I made it through high school* =0)
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