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So, I met this guy at a party a little over a month ago. His name's Adam. Anyways, he was really sweet & he treated me better than any other guy I've known. Well, he got my phone number and we talked a lot for the next week or so, then he stopped calling. So this past Friday night I was just thinking about him, and my friend called me. Turns out Adam was with him. We talked for a few minutes and we kinda made plans to hang out the next night since he was here, but when I called the guy he was supposed to be with the next day, he said Adam was at his cousin's house. I called over there, and his older brother was there, but his cousin told me Adam went home. I was kinda bummed because I really wanted to hang out with him.
I have his mom's cell phone number but when I called a few days ago, she said he wasn't there. I also have one of his friend's numbers, but he told me he wasn't around him. & I've asked his cousin about letting me know how to get in touch with him, but he won't tell me.
Does anyone know how else I can try to get in touch with him?
Its real hard cause one night he'll be in one place, then the next day in another. lol. I was thinking about calling his mom back & asking how to get in touch with him..
But any help is appreciated! Thanks! (link)
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Honestly?
It sounds like Adam is trying to avoid you...
If he really liked you, don't you think he'd make an effort to get in touch with you, let you know whats going on, where he's at, and why you guys can't hangout?
It almost sounds like he's trying to get away with you.
It almost sounds like he was being a sweetheart and stuff like that to you, because he thought he was going to get something out of it, if you get what I mean
Alot of guys are like that though, they act differently around girls to "get what they want", thats why it takes alot of patience in relationships and dating to see how people can really be..
Hope I helped..
Tyler~
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I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and 19 days and I'm totally happy when it's just me and him but his best friend is a girl. He stays the night at her house all the time knowing that it makes me mad. My friends say that him and his friend have a "thing" and I'm starting to believe it. I've asked him if he has cheated on me and he gets all mad says no then tells his friend. How do I know if he is really cheating on me? (link)
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You have 2 things to consider here..
The 5 months and 19 days you've spent together are amazing to your boyfriend, and he would never violate the trust you have, or should have for hihm.
Or,
The 5 months and 19 days you've spent together have almost worn your boyfriend out, and he wants to try something new..
It all depends on how much you trust your boyfriend, how many feelings you share together..
Talk to him about it, explain to him that by him doing this and knowingly hurting you it shows no compassion on his side, tell him that if he truly loved you he'd put your feelings into consideration..
Or you could also befriend this best friend of his, get to know her enough that you know she wouldn't violate the friendship to get your boyfridn to cheat on you..
Just my thoughts..
Hope I helped.
~Tyler
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i went out with this boy named kevin 4 like 3 dayz and then he broke up with me and said it was not working out i was mortified i felt like i was going 2 cry in 6th period but then in a snap i was over it i dont kno how but i did it without shedding 1 single tear but i did it . that happed on a friday afternoon at lunch but then around 3 O clock sunday he called me even though the whole while we were going out he had my number but never called but the day after he breaks up with me he calls asking me what i was doing and why he broke up with me and who he likes now i was really out of it after we hung up^^^^^^^^^^ but on monday wen we went 2 skool at gym he ignored me competely but at lunch we i looked up and he was staring at me and we had contact eye 2 eye . but when i got on the bus becuase my bus was broken and i had 2 ride HIS bus he asked me why was i on that bus i told him because i have 2 but then he started 2 flirt with one of my friends i was just disgusted
but my questions are
1.does that mean he still likes me
2. wut am i suppose 2 do i really feel like cursing him out but i have more self control than that (link)
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@1: It seems that kevin knows that he has alot of control over your feelings right now, he's doing this for the sole purpose to be able to tell himself that he has complete control over your emotions, which makes Kevin feel like a bigger person..
@2: Kevin obviously does not care how you feel about things or he would not be doing those kind of things infront of you, in order to stop thinking about kevin and to cease his rule over your emotional life, you need to completely take him out of your life, no looking at him, talking to him, letting him call you or anything..
But if you really want to get your anger and feelings out, write him a letter, it's always good for venting, get him the letter somehow, and just try your hardest to forget, a jerk like that ever existed..
Good luck! =)
Tyler~
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so my ex and i broke up the end of august and well we still loved each other after we broke up.We were each others first loves.And well the problem was that we lived too far away from each other so that was a huge factor in our relationship,but my problem is that he said he loved me and still had feelings for me after we were done and then around the end of september he tells me he likes his best friend,and they go out a week later which kind of upsets me because 2 weeks before he texted me and told me he missed me and i thought about me all day so it hurt me.I mean isnt that kinda soon? he said i still mean alot to him as much as his best friend and that ill always be special to him and he still has feelings for me just not as much.And like im trying to move on too but im not completely over him and its hard because i have this great guy who wants to have a relationship with me and i mean i like him but im not completely over my ex and i dont think i ever will and i hate how it effects me like im comparing other guys to my ex.And i just dont understand how my ex has been going out with his best friend for like 2 weeks already i mean if he still loved me he wouldnt be like with someone that fast you know? sorry this was really long..so what do you guys think about all this ? (link)
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Personally?
As a guy, if my girlfriend broke up with me, and I found out that some other girl was starting to like me..
I'd probably go to her instantly.
Why?
My girlfriend is my first love as well, and having that, and then suddenly im not able to hold her, to kiss her, to tell her I love her, i'd feel naked..
I'd need somebody to do that with, wether I had genuine feelings or not for that person, i'd need somebody to be there for me. I wouldn't be able to stand being alone, knowing that what i've had for so long has dissapeared..
I think, your boyfriend is just as effected by the breakup as you are, it's just that he's expressing it in a totally different way.
By him dating his best friend, he chose the person he was closest with so maybe, just maybe being with his best friend would almost imitate the things that you and him had...
Talk to him about it, even though it's hard, it usually always helps...
I wish you luck. =)
Tyler~
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ive posted before about how i liked my cousins friend. hes 20 and im 17 ( which sounds bad because the limit is 18 in my state but if you think about it, its not so bad and no one really minds around here) he started showing interest in me when we would hangout with everyone, so i IMED him online and we talked for a bit. one night when we were all out we kissed and then the next night i went to my cousins friends house with all of her guy friends (he invited me) the next weekend we hookedup (had sex )and we talked all week online (he goes to college like 30 minutes away) friday he didnt call or IM me online when he got home so i figured he didnt want to hang (hence his away was going out with john call me with plans) early in the night he called and asked what i was doing and i told him i was going to a nice restaraunt in boston (15 mins away) and i said id call him on the train home so maybe we could meet up. he called me pretty drunk and i was like whatever maybe ill see ya later. i ended up going to his friends house with my cousin and everyone and he was all over me and stuff but i left early because i was just tired. he called me wondering why i left and i was trying to get out of him if he liekd me or not, when talking on aim. i felt weird coming straight forward but i was like ohh your usingg me huh (joking around) and he was like im tryingg to see youu but if you want to hookup then w.e ( i wasnt sure if he ment like see ( date) or see, like meet up becaus ehe was talkin about that earlier) i dont know what to do, like i cant come straight out and ask if he liikes me, help what do i do!? p.s hes coming home like tues or wed (link)
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Quite the dilemma
One of the biggest problems with crushes today is we aren't able to talk about how we feel, and we are afraid of telling the person we are crushing on how we feel, because the other person might not feel the same...
You need to come straight out and see if he likes you, think of it this way...
If you don't ask him, and he does like you, by you not asking he might think that you are not intrested.
If you ask him, and he does like you, then something great might become out of you confronting him with your feelings..
Let's say he doesn't share the feelings that you do.
In that case, this helped you because now you know that he is not worth getting your feelings hurt over...
Hope I helped. =)
Wishing the Best
Tyler~
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Hey, you recently answered my question about convo starters, they really helped, do you have anymore? (maybe ones for in-person)thanks so much, you know exactly what i want! (link)
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Good conversation starters always seem to be started so simply. For example..
Me: God I hate our english teacher, he's boring and he just goes on and on...
Other Person: Yeah...(Blah Blah Blah)
You get my point..
Things that give conversations the zest that they need is humour, throw something funny out there that you know will make the other person laugh. Tell them a joke you heard, or something really hilarious you saw a friend do..
Get them to laugh, and they'll get you to laugh, ending up in one great conversation..
I wish you the best of luck..
Tyler~
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