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im 17/f. i dont ever feel happy anymore. i feel like im faking it all the time. i have absolutely no friends. i never go out with people. i talk to people in school but never hang out. i feel jealous of other girls who have best friends they hang out with and can count on. i dont have a boyfriend. im slightly buliimic but still feel fat everyday. i feel like such a failure. people tell me im pretty and no one would ever guess any of this is true about me. i lie all the time about having friends and stuff like that. how can i be happy and enjoy my life?
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You need to see a counselor. These problems you've got will NOT get better on their own. See a doctor so you can eliminate your eating disorder & so you can get your life back.
Talk to your friends about things. You may think you're being a burden to them, but that's what they're there for. They WANT to help you. And remember, if a guy is only interested in sex, he isn't worth your time & you need to ditch him.
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You gotta just be a little more laid back. Try making friends. When I switched to a new school, it was way hard for me to make friends at first. But, then I'd get there screenames, I'd IM them, everytime there on, when I'd see them in school, i'd be super friendly. Thats basically what you gotta do. If you wanna make friends, you kinda have to be like demanding ish. Like really push for it. And not all guys just will want to have sex with yyou, I'm sure theres a few nice ones in school.
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Hi.
Not having a bf is no big deal at all so dont worry about that at all - things like that come when they come so dont worry. :) As for everything else like not having friends - talk to and get to know some of the people at your school. Maybe try a part time job somewhere which will give you a chance to get out and meet people and make new friends. I think all you need to do is have some confidence in yourself. Don't put yourself down so much because it's not doing yoou any good on the inside at all. Ive no doubt that your an awesome person and would be a great friend but its just a matter of letting your guard down a little. If people invite you to hang out then by all means go for it. Its true a lot of guys are only after sex especially in their teens years but not all are and even if it ever comes down to that you can tell them to get lost (or no if you prefer, hehe). Someone once said to fear love is to fear life and those who fear life are already 3 parts dead.
I'll tell you something about myself no one knows - I didn't start to live until a lot later into my teen years (later than you even). I was exactly the same as you in some ways so believe me to an extent I can relate. Take it one step at a time and make it happen for yourself. You don't need to be jealous of all those other girls with best friends because you can have that yourself too. Talk to people at school (girls to start with if you feel more comfortable) and from there you'll make friends in no time youll be hanging out with and such. Its the way it happens with everyone.
Bulimia is a dangerous problem - are you seeking professional help to deal with it at all? If not I think it might be a good idea to. I've no doubt that you do look pretty and fine just how you are but being bulimic does make you think otherwise no matter how much you hear to the contrary and the last thing I'd want as well as you making yourself ill becuase of it so please, if you haven't already then please try seeking some cousil with that problem (there should be help lines that you can call where you don't haveto give any of your personal details as well as web addresses with a lot of information and tips - if you'd like me to look some up for you jsut give me a shout and let me know).
Hope I was some help and Ihope you'll be okay. Don't worry though things will be fine, just give yourself a chance and youll see. :]
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