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Could you tell me how to get cursors for your desktop. I mean not for my advicenators website or my xanga one or anything like that but just for my desktop instead of the boring original arrow? Please help!! I will rate a 5 if anyone could help me!

Try going to www.cursormania.com. It's cool, but I think it brings Spyware, cuz we tried that, and we got Spyware. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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my bf broke up with me about a week and a half ago, but then we got back together a couple days ago. i was never able to figure out why he broke up with me in the first place, he just said he was confused. when he asked me out again, he said he was being stupid and he was really sorry for doing that to me. i want to find out why he broke up with me. i also need 2 ask him if things we talked about doing, are still things he wants 2 do....but i dont no how to bring up the question....please help...

Try emailing him about everything you want to know. It'll be a lot easier that way. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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okay so i have this best friend ..well sort of, okay me and him 2 months ago, had a huge fight about how i felt, i stopped feeling as if he loved me like he said he did, and he got extremley mad at me and blocked me online, and got a new sn , pretty much just completley made me get away from him, weve had fights like this before, and hes the type of guy that is always right and can never be wrong...so... i talked to a bunch of my friends, and he really did treat me bad...i was like his dog..and so yeah, i know i deserve better and like my friend says "its not that i miss him, i just miss what we once had* and it was an AMAZING frienship..ive never been so close to soemoen in my life...so yeah, my question is, should i try to call him and say merry christmas? I mean its been 2 months...dont you htink he'd be over it by now...and my sister says he seems as if its totally over, and i shouldnt try,i sent him a x-mas card and didnt hear anything back from him, so :/ I dont know what to do...and this whole thing ended because of one chick that his life revolved around...help me :(

I'm sorry, that sux. I think you should try and call him and wish him a merry christmas. Tell him how much you missed him and how much you want to be friends again. Even though his friends say he's over it, he might be faking it. But if you call, and he's still holding a grudge, I'd forget about it, and get new friends. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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Well lets c where to start...I met this girl at camp and we became friends kinda talked time to time..she ended up going to the same school as my best friend and she like(d) him.. and he liked her but my best friend alrdy ahs a g/f so he is chaeting anways...he brought her over to my house and shit and Like I have liekd her and my friend likes her...well she stayed the nite and so now he thinks she likes me becuz when she stayed the night we went for 2 walks and she like constantly kissed me and then took me into someone elses yard to make out 3 different times for like 10 minutes...so he starts to get mad cuz she is hangin out with me and me nd her were layin in the same bed and held hands and rubbed on each other and shit while my friend was on the computer in the next room over, well he kinda saw us hold hands and then he whispered to me that he wants to dump his g/f and go out with Taylor so I was like wow as soon as im getting somewhere he wants to go out with her so I told him to go ahead cuz he was kinda going for her 1st and then he went upstairs while we were makin out then he came abck down and told me to help hmi think up of a reason to break up with his g/f..he knows I like her but he told me he wants her over his g/f so he is gunna go for her..any advice?

I don't think it's right for either one of you to go out with her because whoever gets her, the other one's gonna be mad right? If you don't think you'll mind, let him have her, it shows you're a good friend. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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I have had my navel pierced since last july and right now it is so infected that it hurts to touch any where near it. any advice?

You might be allergic to it. Like, some people are alergic to nickel. I would take it out, and go to the doctor and find out what's up. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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my sister broke up with her bf last night becasue all he did was talk abotu ho upset he was abotu things. tom orrow is christmas and i dont want her to be upset @ christmas usualy she tells me things but right now she won t talk to me what can i do to cheer her up.

Just do nice things for her. Make her dinner, give her a nice card, a hug, anything. There's lots of things you can do! Good luck and hope your sister gets better!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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Okay, well, I'm 13, and two days ago I went to the bathroom and saw some blood in my...well, underwear...and I didn't talk to my mom about it I just waited to see what happened in a little while after I changed. The next day I didn't get any more blood, I just got big amounts of discharge, and this has never ever happened to me before. My face also broke out, and I was craving chocolate and I was really tired. Does this mean I'm going to get my period soon?

I think you got your period. My first one was abnormal, too. It only lasted a day. Breaking out also means you're going to get your period. You normally break out the most when you're about to get your period. Craving chocolate is good, because it help stop the cramps if you have any. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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I don't eat. Is that retarded? No. It's not. I'm happy all of the time at school, and then I'm sad and "depressed" at home. I get mad at my parents a lot, I don't smile. At school, I'm happy all the time, people tell me I laugh a lot, and then i just smile all the time. I'm really sensitive: ex) I once saw a homeless man in front of the subway station. I gave him 5 bucks, and he said happy holidays. I turned around and said happy holdidays to you too. then i went into the subway station, saw one of my friends, and started crying into his shoulders. After like, 6 stops, I stopped, and he asked me what was the matter, and I told him everything. Then I said i was sad cause the guy WASN'T going to have a happy holiday. The next day, i went back with my friend and he held my hand and everything, and we gave the homeless man 10 dollars with a post it attached that gave him the address of a nearby soup kitchen. He said bless you. And then I started crying all over again. How messed up am I?

You're not messed up at all. You're very kind and generous. That's so cool of you to help that guy! About the depression at home, talk to your parents about. I have that same problem. I'm happy at school (i know, weird), but later on, at home, I get mad at my parents a lot, and I don't smile or laugh or anything. So I know how you feel. The best thing to do is to talk to your parents about it. Also, not eating is bad for your health. It doesn't mean you're retarded, you just have a problem. Just eat. If you think you need to lose some weight, go on a diet and exercise. Other than that, you're fine. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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Hey, I'm 13, and my bf wants to take it to the next level. I'm not sure what to say, I want to, but my parents would kill me. Pleaz help....

I think you're too young. It also sounds like you have some doubt, otherwise you wouldn't have asked! I wouldn't do it. Wait until you're older. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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I've got only a few real actual *zits*, but I've got red marks all over my face, kinda like zits that have no 3rd dimension. I think those are called blemishes. Also, I have huge pores on either side of my nose, on the inside of my cheeks. Anyone have these problems/know how to maintain them? I'm tired of wearing foundation, it's bad for you plus it can make it worse.

Use an everyday face wash, and after a while, they'll go away. Also, wash your face once a day, and don't touch your face with dirty hands. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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gosh i really hate reading and i have to take these tests and read books before the end of the quarter at skool and i have none!!! is there a way i can be encouraged to read!!!
indeed2

Think to yourself: "Hey, if I don't read, I'm gonna get F's on all my tests! Then I'll get grounded. Then I'll have no social life. Everyone will leave me and I'll have no friends. I'll make poor choices because I have no one to tell me not to do them. I'll never marry because no girl wants to be with a guy who makes poor choices. I won't get a job because I got bad grades on those tests and couldn't go to college. Eventually, everything will suck, and I'll end up homeless. Then I'll die." Well, that should motivate you to do those tests! Haha. Don't worry, you'll do good! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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ok, i like this guy. lets call him joe. i've liked joe for a few months. and we've become really good friends. and, my friend...lets call her betty...betty and i love to do 3 way calling. so we usually call joe and other people when we do that. but lately, like last night, he just seemed really annoyed or moody or somethin'. but i don't know if it was cuz of me and betty or not. and, lately, joe's been kinda...bleh. and when i was online one night i said hi and he never said anything. i don't know. i'm not sure if its me or not. i mean, is it just a guy thing? or is it me?

thx in advance!

I don't think it's you or your friend. It's probably a personal problem that he's having. Try talking to him and ask what's wrong. Even if he doesn't say anything, tell him you're there for him. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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my mom died a long time ago and i usually find out about this kind of stuff through friends but i'm kind of shy to ask them about this because i don't want to seem stupid since they all seem to know. i don't want to ask my dad either because that would be really uncomfortable. if you know what an orgasm is, can you please tell me.

It's the highest point in intercourse or if you masturbate for a while.
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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On tuesday, my boyfriend broke up with me. I was really upset and then today I met up with some friends and he was there. We all decided to go back to my house and my ex and I were flirting quite alot. Then, one of our friends said: "Look, you both obviously fancy each other, go back out." So my ex asked me out and I said yes. The thing is, do you think it is worth giving it another try? The reason he broke up with me was because we didn't really talk enough or anything but can that be fixed? Should I bother trying again?

I think it's worth it. You can definitely work on talking more. Don't worry, you'll fix this. Good luck to you and him!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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My name is Rachel and iam 15 and this boy named Chad ,he keeps asking me out even though i tell him i don't like him in that way we are just friends and even if i did iam not allowed to date until iam 16.

You need to tell him that what he's doing is really annoying. And it's only making you like him even less. If he doesn't stop, get a bunch of your friends to tell him to stop, too, and hopefully he'll get the hint. And if nothing works, you might have to tell a parent, teacher, or the principal. Good luck! Hope things work out! Any more questions, leave em'!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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My mouse is obese. I don't know what to do--I put her in an exercise ball and she just sat there (I don't think she knew what to do). I don't want to give her less food because I'm afraid she'll starve. What can I do to make my mouse lose weight? note--I've tried gerbil wheels on other mice, but they sometimes get caught and die so I'm afraid to use it.

Well, if you have the money, take it to a vet. But, if you can't, try and see if there are any weightloss foods at the pet store (like they have weightloss formulas for cats and dogs). Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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hey, well i am a 16 yr old girl. 2 years ago i was in a bad car accident and fell into a coma. i was in it for 2 years and i woke up a week ago. well, i am kinda out, and well i was wondering, what kind of stuff is in? stores, music, fashion, hair and stuff like that. i am kinda confused! thx!

Omg, wow, that's awful. I hope you're feeling better! Well the stores that are in are like, Aeropostale, Pac Sun, American Eagle Outfitters, Delias, Hollister, Rave, Rue 21, and Wet Seal. That's all I could of right now. For music, go to www.at40.com. They have a countdown of the hottest music in America. For fashion, if you go to any of the stores I mentioned above, you can find out. And hair, I think brunettes are making a comeback. I lot of people are straightening their hair, too. Well, I hope you get better!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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I babysit my 3 year old niece and she gets on my nerves and i don't get paid for it and my sister makes me babysit .
What should i do?

Talk to your sister about it. Tell her that you don't along well with her daughter. She'll understand and find someone else. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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Ok, well, right now, i'm in 7th grade. Well, a couple of weeks ago, i got bored and well, i fingered myself...i kno pretty desprit, eh? Well, anyway, me and my boyfriend r ready to go to the next step, and he wants to finger me. Well, see the only thing that's stopping me is that I don't know if there is any transmitted disease i can get. Id there any transmitted disease i can get or can i get hurt in any kind of way?


thnx for the help>> roxy

I don't think so. The only thing I can think of is if he has like, a cut on his finger, but I don't know. Sorry. Good luck!
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Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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Hi all well im babysitting 3 girls after xmas can anyone give me some ideas on how to keep them busy so its a bit easyer for me
roxie
ps ill rate any good ideas
have a great xmas everyone

It would be awesome if there was snow! You could take them sledding. If not, then there are board games, video games, and movies you could watch! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~*Erin*~

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