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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

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ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

advice

i live in arizona
im 16
what is the legal working age to work without a work permit
does everybody under 18 have to have a work permit to work

You can work at 16 in Arizona. I'm pretty sure you don't need a worker's permit unless you're under 16.


-Laura (17-f)

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i like these 2 guys. aaron and ryan. they are both
soooo sweet and nice to me. but i dont know which one to pick. i need advice on which guy to pick.

Which one do you like more? Which one do you think you would be happier with?


Whoever's name came to mind when you read that is who you should pick.


-Laura (17-f)

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yesterday for some reason i accidentally blocked my friend from posting wall posts on my facebook (i just made my facebook). so when i added her, she tried to post something to me and couldn't obviously. via a picture comment, she said to me, "why can't i post wall posts?"


i figured out how to allow the wall posting feature, and responded to her on her wall: "ok, you can put wall posts on now."

basically, what i am asking is: if you read my message as an outsider "ok, you can put wall posts on now" would you think that was weird for me to say that?

yes, i know this is an idiotic question but just answer it honestly!

I don't think it's weird. It's just Facebook.


-Laura (17-f)

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Okay, let's face it. My boyfriend's family is from certain wealth, and it doesn't help that he has a very high paying job.

He wants to buy me stuff, expencive stuff. Like a new laptop and he wants to pay for the internet connection, things of that nature.

I was not born that way. I've had to earn everything I have and it makes me feel a little uncomfortable having him buy me all of this. I know it's practically pocket change to him, but I still don't like it.

I know it hurts him sometimes to have me argue with him over this, but I'm just confused now. What do you guys think? Should I just try and not argue over this anymore?

I think you shouldn't argue with him, you should sit him down and TALK to him. Explain to him that the two of you had different upbringings, and it's just hard for you to have expensive things handed to you.


Just really let him know that it's hard for you, because it's something you're not used to. I'm sure if you just open up to him about it, he will understand :)


-Laura (17-f)

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16/f

I know this is long, but I feel so miserable about this. And please don't answer unless you read the whole thing. I'll know if you didn't read the whole thing.

My best friend in the whole entire world is a guy. I love him to death and we've been friends since freshman year. (I'm a junior now).
He's had a steady girlfriend for almost a year now, and I've had like on and off boyfriends since 9th grade.
We're so close and he's always been there for me like giving me advice about things when I'm stuck and I listen to him when he's having a problem. And I know this sounds really cliche, but he really gets me. And no, I mean he REALLY understands me. He's the person who calls me out when I'm being selfish or not nice, but does it in a way that makes me want to be a better person because he gives me such great advice in such a kind way. Generally, just an amazing person.


I recently got myself into a relationship with someone who I thought was really nice at first, but it turns out he's a creep and is just looking for sex, which I'm not going to give him. And he's not respectful of me at all and I'm so frustrated and I feel so stupid for getting myself into this.

So I told the above mentioned best friend about this at this get-together the other day and he got upset about it because he really cares about me and looks after me. He was there for me giving me advice and just being so kind to me.
And then he told me that I deserve to have a boyfriend who isn't a creep (not an altogether out there request lol).
And then he said that he wants to help me find someone. And he got like real quiet and said "If you could have anyone, even if they had a girlfriend, who would you have?" And I just looked at him and didn't say anything. And he looked over at his girlfriend who was talking with some friends and got this far off sad look.

Then he mentioned how like we both need to find someone. He told me how his girlfriend cheated on him this year, and how it killed him but he's still with her. When he told me this, my heart broke for him. I just wanted to erase it for him. =\

He tells me he wants someone for me who respects me and loves me. And while we sat there, me listening to all he was telling me about how a relationship should have romance and respect and stuff, I like wanted to cry. Because then I realized that I like him as much more than a friend.

But he has a girlfriend. And even though she cheated on him, he loves her so much. And she doesn't realize what she's got with him. He's so kind and sweet and loving and caring. And it sucks that I just now realized he's everything I'm looking for. And I'm such a terrible person.
I have a boyfriend, though we've only been dating a month, and he has a girlfriend.

I just ugh. I'm so frustrated with myself. Everybody's been saying for like 2 years that we are made for each other, and he admitted that he really liked me freshman year. But I was so stupid and hung up on other people, and now I realize what they're talking about. God, I'm just so frustrated with myself.

I know it's selfish and I know it's wrong of both of us. And I don't know what to do. I love him so much, just now in a different way. And I haven't yet had a relationship that's felt like a "real" relationship. And it's just too bad that this is another thing that I'm just not going to have. And I don't want him to break up with his girlfriend just to make me happy, but for once I want to be happy. Is that wrong?

I don't think either of you are wrong. You're BEST FRIENDS, and would do ANYTHING for each other. When two people are that close, it's almost inevitable that you wonder about taking your relationship to the next level.


That being said, I agree with the person below who said that when your friend asked you about having any guy, that he wanted you to say him.


"I just ugh. I'm so frustrated with myself. Everybody's been saying for like 2 years that we are made for each other, and he admitted that he really liked me freshman year. But I was so stupid and hung up on other people, and now I realize what they're talking about. God, I'm just so frustrated with myself."


I know exactly how you feel, because this happened to me. The reason our situations are different is because I didn't return the feelings for my friend. But you DO, and you should tell your friend. I think what the two of you have sounds really great and you shouldn't let it pass you by.


-Laura (17-f)

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Ok, I'll be turning 16 in March. I know it's a while away, but I already have my permit and I'm planning on getting a hardship. So, I've been kindof thinking about getting a car lately. The thing is, I hardly know anything about cars haha. I know it'll most likely be a used car because 1) It won't be as much of a big deal if I get a dink in it as it would be if it was brand new and 2) I want to help pay for it, but I don't want it to be extremely expensive, for the sake of myself and my parents. So, my question is, what kind of car would you suggest? I'm mostly interested in it's safety features, but I don't want it to be like a minivan or something that's too big for what I'll be using it for. I was thinking about a VMW Beetle, just because I've always loved their unique bodies, but I haven't checked the safety features on it yet. I really don't care about anything like heated seats or sunroofs or whatever. So yeah, suggestions please? Thanks SO much :)

I wouldn't suggest a Beetle. My dad works with cars for a living, and he said they aren't good for those of us who are just starting to drive on our own.


That being said, I suggest a Grand AM. I have one and I LOVE it. It's really easy to get used to and stuff, too :) It also gets decent gas mileage. My best friend also has one, and she raves about it as well. Like somebody said below, used cars are the way to go when you're first starting out (both my best friend and I have used cars).


If you need any more info, send me an inbox!


-Laura (17-f)

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I know having a crush on a teacher is normal, but why would I get one almost a year after I had said teacher? She was a very nice, young and attractive teacher but I never had any crushing feelings when I actually had her. I hated the teacher I had for this subject (math) this year, does that have something to do with it? Is is it some psychological or hormonal thing?

I am not going to act on this crush don't worry, but its making me feel miserable all the time since I can't stop thinking about her and I keep thinking she doesn't like me and I'm horrified at the thought of her completely forgetting me or that I made a fool of myself in her class.

Sometimes, that's just how our hearts and minds work. It's just how we're made and how we operate.


One day, you see somebody and they mean nothing to you; then the next day, they mean everything.


-Laura (17-f)

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f-16 m-18

alright, so its fair week in my town and there are always guys around. i go every night like everyone else and i met this guy tonight that i grew up with. i talked to him and said i knew him and he said that was creepy, but in a flirting way.. and then an hour later and he came back and said how strange i was with a smile. how do i flirt back with him and draw him in to being more interested in me?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=541093


From there:


First of all, I'm going to say the best way to impress somebody is to be yourself. I know that's it's so cliche, but it's honestly, the best tip I or anybody can give.

I mean, you don't want somebody to start liking you for the way you think THEY want you to act or talk or dress. Why would you want somebody to like you when you're not even being yourself?


Secondly, don't be shy! Just go up and talk to that boy/girl. Confidence is key. Strike up a conversation! Start it with something like, "I see you're wearing a Hit The Lights [or whatever band/sport's team, etc] shirt, are they your favorite?" Or, something like, "So I know we've never talked before, but you seem like a really cool person..."


So be yourself, and show that you're comfortable being just that. Be comfortable in your own skin, and chances are, you'll impress everybody.



Also:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548311


From there:


1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.


2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.


3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.


4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.



-Laura (17-f)

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I just got a Facebook, and found some people I haven't seen since third grade on the site (I am 17). Would it be odd if I posted something on their Wall saying "hello" out of nowhere? I found them through others' friend lists.

I'm pretty sure that's the point of Facebook. Why not comment them with a funny memory you have of them? If not, then honestly, just say "hello!" and start chatting with them :)


-Laura (17-f)

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I was reading about people lining up like crazy to watch a really bad movie film called The Room (Wiseau films; written, directed, and stars Tommy Wiseau) and that it was pretty shocking how many people have shown up to see it. It really is being referred to as the worst movie ever made--they THINK it was suppose to be a love story drama. haha They are also considering a sequel to The Room!!! So, I was just wondering something pretty simple...

What's the WORST movie you have ever seen?

I have a number of "worst" movies that I've seen:

Crank
We Own the Night
A Scanner Darkly
Transmorphers

...Yours?

"Be Kind, Rewind" was terrible.
I also didn't like "The Strangers" or "Catch and Release". I actually walked out of the theater for that one.


-Laura (17-f)

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My boyfriend and I are pretty low on money. We haven't done much this summer and I thought it might be nice to make a date weekend with him or something. The only problem is the money! I was hoping that somebody has some neat ideas for activities we could do together? You know, to like, bring us closer together and have fun. Thanks!

Lay on your back and watch cloud shapes.
Look at the stars.
Go for a walk in the park.
Draw with sidewalk chalk.
Have a picnic.
Mini Golf.
Have a movie night.
Make cookies.
Hang out at the mall (Apple Store FTW!)


only search advicenators.com



-Laura (17-f)

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okay im 13 and i kinda like this boy, and he
says hes likes me. he even asked me to the movies
he tells me hes gonna call me, but doesnt, do i text
him to try to start a convo or does it seem like he
doesnt like me idk?

Text him. Go for it.


If he likes you and you like him, why not? And texting him first will show that you're confident enough to start a conversation with him and make the first move.


-Laura (17-f)

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Can i be pregnant if im a virgin and my boyfriend came near my vagina but not in it

You can only get pregnant when you have sex. You did not have sex, as you started your questions with "im a virgin". So, no, you're not pregnant.


-Laura (17-f)

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Do you usually use Maxi Pads or Tampons? And do you know any kinds that work good?

Thanks for inboxing.


I don't really have a preference between pads or tampons, honestly. I'd say that most of my girl friends use tampons because it's easier and it doesn't feel like you're wearing a diaper.


As for good brands, they're all pretty much the same? But if you're just starting out with tampons, try the smallest size so you can get used to it.


Hope it helps!


-Laura (17-f)

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Me and a friend always do a duet every year.. its usually country but could be pop and we are teens. we have sang "when you love someone like that" by reba and leann rhimes and "leave the pieces" by the wreckers. we really like these songs, but we dont want another song about a break up and would reallly like a song that people will like and really be amazed with. Does anyone have any ideas of any good duets we could do?

Anything by Ingrid Michaelson, Colbie Caillat, Adele, Regina Spektor or Lily Allen.


You can just split the song up- each sing a verse but sing the chorus together, you know?


-Laura (17-f)

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I was talking to my exboyfriend on the phone and I mentioned getting back together again,but then this girl "SAMANTHA"showed up and got with her.How can I get him back?

To put it simple: don't.


Forget about this d-bag and find somebody worth your time. This guy sounds like a jerk, seeing as he got with another girl when you TOLD him you were still into him.


Totally NOT cool.


-Laura (17-f)

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Does anyone know where I can find a song simular to My Heart Belongs to You by Hayley Westenra? If you haven't heard of the song here it is..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKzHfz9a_Gw&feature=PlayList&p=DED90BFE75F0B1D7&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=26


I'm looking for a slow, touchy song perferably love songs.

Thanks

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691


From there:


1,2,3,4: Plain White T's.
Alive with the Glory of Love: Say Anything.
Amazing: Josh Kelley.
*At Least We Made It This Far: Relient k.
Baby, It's Fact: Hellogoodbye.
Best of Me: The Starting Line.
The Best Thing: Relient k.
California: Metro Station.
Candle (Sick and Tired): The White Tie Affair.
*Can't Stop: Maroon 5.
Check Yes Juliet: We The Kings.
*Closer to Love: Mat Kearney.
Die Alone: Ingrid Michaelson.
Getting Into You: Relient k.
Gravity: Sara Bareilles.
Hands Down: Dashboard Confessional.
Hanging by a Moment: Lifehouse.
Her Eyes: Pat Monahan.
Here in Your Arms: Hellogoodbye.
Hey Jealousy: Hit the Lights.
*I'm Yours: Jason Mraz.
I Caught Fire: The Used.
I Wanna: All-American Rejects.
It Had to be You: Motion City Soundtrack.
Leave the Light on: A Kidnap in Color.
*Love Story: Taylor Swift.
Lucky: Jason Mraz & Colbie Calliat.
Maps: Yeah Yeah Yeahs.
Must've Done Something Right: Relient k.
*My Beautiful Rescue: This Providence.
No Air: Jordin Sparks and Chris Brown.
No One Can Touch Us: Sing It Loud.
Only One: Yellowcard.
Oxygen: Colbie Calliat.
Realize: School Boy Humor.
Red Balloon: Backseat Goodbye.
Say it Again: Marie Digby.
She Will be Loved: Maroon 5.
So Much Love: The Rocket Summer.
Stolen: Dashboard Confessional.
That's So You: The Rocket Summer.
Thunder: Boys Like Girls.
Undeniable: Mat Kearney.
*Up and Up: Relient k.
*Use Somebody: Kings of Leon.
*The Way I Am: Ingrid Michaelson.
*Walls: All Time Low.
We're Going to be Friends: The White Stripes.
With You: Chris Brown.
Who Needs Air: the Classic Crime.
Why Can't I?: Liz Phair.
You Be The Anchor...: Mayday Parade.
You Belong With Me: Taylor Swift.
You Found Me: The Fray.
Your Guardian Angel: The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Young Love: Gavin Degraw.


-Laura (17-f)

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Hey i still need more advice on some romantic ideas for my bf n me... weve bekn together for 6 mnths n i wanna do somethong fun.but sweet

Go on a picnic!
Watch the sunset.
Lay on your back and watch cloud shapes float by.
Look at the stars at night.
Take a walk in the park.
Have a movie night.
Go out to dinner...in your kitchen XD


:)


-Laura (17-f)

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Is it just me or is it weird that my husband who is 31 years old sits on his mothers lap when we go to visit, or cuddles up next to her on the couch?

Maybe its just me, but i find it odd that a 31 year old would even want to do that. I mean I feel like maybe he does this because of unresolved issues from his childhood.

Unless I'm wrong, and this is completely normal and I just have no feelings.

I think it's kind of strange, because he's a grown man.


Maybe he is just really close to his mother and just has a really hard time dealing with the fact that he's an adult?


-Laura (17-f)

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17/f.

some random boy who looks my age or maybe older, just moved in like 6 houses away from me.. & well the past few days, he will walk by, stare at me the entire time, & then as hes past me, he will keep turning around to look at me more. hes pretty cute, & i want to get to know him. but i don't know how or what to say, next time i see him should i just be like, hey? .. i don't know, what should i say. :)

Just talk to him! Next time you see him outside, walk over and introduce yourself. The fact that he just moved in is a perfect excuse to talk to him. He doesn't know anybody yet, and you live really close to him. I'd say it's pretty much a great reason to talk to him :)


Like I said, start out by introducing yourself. Then, get to know him. Ask where he's from, find out if he has siblings, how old he is, why he moved here, etc. Ask him questions and show him that you're interested!


Good luck :)


-Laura (17-f)

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