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Boyfriend and Gifts
Okay, let's face it. My boyfriend's family is from certain wealth, and it doesn't help that he has a very high paying job.
He wants to buy me stuff, expencive stuff. Like a new laptop and he wants to pay for the internet connection, things of that nature.
I was not born that way. I've had to earn everything I have and it makes me feel a little uncomfortable having him buy me all of this. I know it's practically pocket change to him, but I still don't like it.
I know it hurts him sometimes to have me argue with him over this, but I'm just confused now. What do you guys think? Should I just try and not argue over this anymore?
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I think you shouldn't argue with him, you should sit him down and TALK to him. Explain to him that the two of you had different upbringings, and it's just hard for you to have expensive things handed to you.
Just really let him know that it's hard for you, because it's something you're not used to. I'm sure if you just open up to him about it, he will understand :)
-Laura (17-f)
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I think him wanting to buy you things is normal for a boyfriend, especially if he has the money to do so. I think he understands that you have to work for the things you have, so he just wants to help. Boyfriends are really stubborn, so convincing him not to would be very difficult. For now, I'd just let him, he just wants to make you happy, and it's really sweet.
Of course the decision is up to you, you could tell him how you feel, but I know you probably don't want to see him hurt. Sometimes you just have to let people do things that makes them happy, and I know you don't want to see him unhappy.
Hope I helped :)
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I see what you mean, but honestly if it makes him happy to buy you all of this, then that's really sweet on his part. It shows that he is very caring and although his family is wealthy, he still has a generous nature. If the situation were different, he would probably still give you many gifts, but probably less expensive ones. Some people just love to give and if he is one of those then I wouldn't fight it. Especially if it makes him sad when you argue about it :(.
I'm sure he doesn't expect extravagant gifts from you and that he understands that your economic situations are different. But anyways, gifts should always come from the heart, and it sounds like his heart is all for giving to the girl he loves :).
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