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Disturbing mother-son bond..
Is it just me or is it weird that my husband who is 31 years old sits on his mothers lap when we go to visit, or cuddles up next to her on the couch?
Maybe its just me, but i find it odd that a 31 year old would even want to do that. I mean I feel like maybe he does this because of unresolved issues from his childhood.
Unless I'm wrong, and this is completely normal and I just have no feelings.
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I think it's kind of strange, because he's a grown man.
Maybe he is just really close to his mother and just has a really hard time dealing with the fact that he's an adult?
-Laura (17-f)
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I think that's odd. I can't even imagine what that would be like.
I agree that there's some sort of weird bond between them.
I mean, I guess it's good that he loves his mother?
--Jack
(17/m)
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There is obviously psychological issues that need to be talked about. i know 5 years that dont' even sit on their mother's laps. Maybe you should be the one to tell him how it is.
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He's 31 ...? yeah, that does seem a tad bit strange. I agree with the advice below me, definetly talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel, and he'll probably tell you why he does it. It might just be a habit from when he was younger ... old habits die hard, sometimes :]
good luck, xxo.
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Well personally, I don't think it's the most normal thing I have ever heard and sounds a bit strange, however, maybe it's just because he's a momma's boy. Does seem very odd though, maybe you should talk to him and ask him why he does it, and see if there is a specific reason.
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Unless there is something else, something deeper and much more substantial causing you to question this man's relationship with his mother, then you ought to let this go.
Although the modern mental health movement has been great for thousands of people, it also has us looking for the 'deep psychological reasons' in things that are simply weird or uncommon, not unhealthy.
So, if there is something else nagging at you, something specific about their pattern of interacting, or something you feel this man is not dealing with in a healthy way, bring it up and an open, questioning way (not an 'I think you are fucked and and mentally sick' way). But if now shrug your shoulders and file it under weird, not unhealthy.
You need a great deal more information then you have here to even start psychoanalyzing him (and really, it's never kind to for a layman to go off psychoanalyzing a friend or partner). So don't.
HOWEVER, as his wife you are certainly well within your rights too tell him it makes you a bit uncomfortable. Not to tell him you think he's unhealthy, and not to tell him to stop it, but certainly to tell him that you find it awkward.
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