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im 16 and my bf and are thinking about having sex
both our first time im nervous i hear it can hurt a lot a friend told me it doesnt hurt as much if the guy has a small penis is that true? my boyfiends penis is about average.

hey there,
everyone is different =)
it can hurt for some girls,but others it might not hurt at all.
the reason it does is because of a flap of skin called the hymen and it breaks for the first time during sex,but sometimes a girls could already be broken like from a bike believe it or not.
but you have nothing to worry about the more tense you are the more likely it is that it will hurt so just make sure you are completely relaxed. =)
make sure your boyfriend is slow and gentle.
make your you are 100% you want to do it first and that your ready because theres no going back,
stay safe too!
hope I helped =)
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my boyfriend broke up with me because he feels like i don't trust him cause i don't know how to like express what i'm thinking i guess ...i don't really know how to put what i'm thinking into words cause i only trust him and my dad so i don't really know how to open up =/ i do trust him so much though and i told him that...what are some ways i can prove it to him? or maybe something i can give him thats reallyy important to me...but then again would it be weird? cause technically we're not together anymore =/

hey there, =]
okay firsty your definately not the only one to feel like this. everyone does once and a while and some people have alot more trouble opening up then others.
you sat your boyfriend down and you explained that you do trust him but its hard for you,he should respect that and instead of dumping you he should have done his best to help you work through it and open up to him!,by just dumping you like that its made things alot harder,what you need to do first is figure out do you really want to get back with him?do you think he will be paitent when you find it difficult to open up? and understanding
if you really want to make it work then call him up maybe and ask him to talk things out explain how you do really really trust him and your prepared to try really hard if you two get back and if he agrees,to start working at this you need to just relax figure out whats stopping you from saying what your thinking,mostly its fear for some reason but you can over come it.
giving him something important to you is a great way of showing your trust and commitment the only way you can proove it to him is by doing your best to just talk to him and open up more and he needs to see it for it to work too.
if your stil having problems about it maybe talk to a counsellor or someone who can help you figure out why exactly you feel the need to bottle up etc.
I hope I helped in anyway :)
good luck
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thanks so much for helping me...but my plan got a little messed up...so we just talked on the phone about some stuff and he said he still has feelings for me, but he isn't ready for a relationship because he kinda just wants to have fun and he thinks its hard work. he then said that if he went to a party with me he wouldn't trust himself because the good feelings would come back. he also said that he's been only thinking about the good times we had together and none of the bad. i asked him to go on vacation with me because i thought the time was right and he said he definetly wanted to but he has to make sure his dad will have left by then (he's a soilder in iraq and comes home for like a month). but he made it clear he definetly wanted to go.... so how can i make him see that he can have fun AND be in a relationship (not fun as in have sex with other girls, but like not have to have relationship stress on his shoulders) i miss him tonssssss =/

its not problem.. =)
okay so everything he said was great,he still has feelings for you thats what you wanted and you got him thinking of all the good times which is what you set out for and having fun remember just concentrating on that and not the relaitionship end of things?
you cant make him see,he will figure it out for himself trust me youve done all you can do at this stage and its worked out really well.
you cant pressure him into the relationship again you just have to respect what hes saying and let him realise that he really wants to be with you again.
Just make it clear to him that your not out to be taken for a ride..meaning your not gonna be a "friend with benefits" type if you get me.
I dont think theese are his intentions hes just still confused but if they ever become his intentions set him straight right away.
its great he wants to go on the vacations and hopefully he can.
if he does keep on hanging out having fun but bring it up descretly say that being in a relationship doesnt have to be stressful if its what you both want,and that he can't just ignore good feelings. =)

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I've moved into my first apartment with a friend of mine. She was more financially prepared to move than I was. She ended up paying the rent and security deposit and agreed that it was alright that I paid her back when I get the money. I owe her $512. I get paid once per month, roughly $1200 after I pay rent, my cell phone bill and my car payment I'm left with $545 or so. I was going to pay her back in payments of $170 for the next three months. Then I got to thinking, that leaves me with $375 to last the whole month. I still have groceries to buy and utilities to pay. I want to drop my payments to her down to $100, keeping that extra $71 in my pocket, granted it will take me a bit longer to pay her back, but its not like she isn't getting her money. I just don't know how to approach her about it. I don't want things to become uncomfortable, I just don't think she realizes that only getting paid monthly is really hard.

I feel stuck.

Hey there,
I can relate to this a little bit, my sister was in the same situation with her friend in college last year,her friends family is very well off and she has a job and everything etc.
my sister felt really pressurised to pay her back and still afford her own nesesicites.
but what she did,and what you have to do is to sit her down and explain the situation,say you have every intention of paying her back but its just a little harder for you as you only get paid monthly,ask her would it be okay if you could pay her back in installments,it looks to me like she doesnt need it all straight away anyway.
it shouldnt be a problem and she should understand if shes your friend,she probably doesnt even realise that things are that bit more difficult for you.
Just make her aware of it.If she suddenly starts demanding all her money at once and putting pressure on you then id say she isnt much of an understanding friend. but I doubt it will come to this.
Im sure you both can work something out =)
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My boy bestfriend and I made out . I never thought he saw me that way , he has a girlfriend , and i have a boy im talking to seriously , Ive always been very confused what Ive felt for him , and I think maby he feels the same but im scared to ask if he has feelings for me Should I or just let fate run its course ?

hey there,
okay you both made out,which obviously sugests you both have feelings for each other?
you need to talk to him about it though seeing as he has a girlfriend. you two need to sort this out before the confusion gets worse and things complicate further,avoiding it wont help.
fate doesnt always run its course so ive learned anyway.
dont be scared to ask,how will you ever no for sure if he feels the same way or not?
its worth a shot youve got nothing to loose,and alot to gain.
if he doesnt feel the same and regrets making out then you deserve to know right?but i doubt this is the case from what i can see you both are feeling confused about what happend and your feelings and definately need to talk things over and see where the other stands,its for the best =]
I hope this helps and that things work out for you
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My hair is really dry and dull looking and tends to be unmanagable. what can i do to make it more moisturized and shiny?

hey there,
okay first you should let your hair relax,take a break from harsh treatments like over straightening it etc.
the next time you wash it deep condition it,leave the conditioner in for 30minutes then wash out and rinse well.
sometimes it helps to wash your hair with cold water to avoid further heat damage.
if you do need to straighten it,id sugest getting a heat protection spray =]
also a really good method for re nourishing hair and making it shiny is (i know it might sound disgusting) but washing your hair with an egg,then conditioning it obviously) but my friend did it and her hair was really shiny..they say rain water helps too.
maybe get a shampoo for dry damaged hair?i use the dove one and its really good. not too expensive either =]
if you find none of this works maybe talk to your hairdresser? they could be able to recomend a nourishing treatment or regime.
hope I helped =]
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iv took guitar lessons and my boyfriend has tried to teach me guitar but its still hopeless. i realllllly wana learn its ben two years and i still suck is there anything else a musically challenged kid can do? lol

hey there =]
Okay so the biggest key here is,self belief.
seriously if you keep telling yourself your hopeless whenever your can't get a cord or something goes wrong then your never going to get anywhere are you?
keep telling yourself i can do this,and dont give up either keep trying and youl get it trust me =]
if its not working with your boyfriend why dont try get gitar lessons from someone else?
(just make sure not to offend your bf lol )
everyone learns at different rates too. so just relax concentrate and try and youl get it.
i used to play gitar when i was 12 but gave up because it got to hard..i really regret that now!
wed never get anywhere in life if thats all we do.
if you find yourself getting frustrated just stop relax take a breather and do something to calm yourself and get back in the mood listen to music etc to motivate yourself.
hope this helps=]
please keep going at it
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where can my bff and i, and our bfs go for a double date other than our houses or movies or mall?? and where would be a sweet place for just me and my bf of almost a year to go?

hey there =]
aw double dates are fun..why dont you guys maybe go bowling..?or paint balling if you have that around you,ice skating swimming stuff like that?
the beach?if the weathers nice..a road trip somewhere if you guys drive?the park?
just go fun places :)
or like if your all hanging out at up excite it up abit have a water fight or something lol
or maybe all go out to dinner some night or cook dinner at home =]
or why not go camping for a night or something i did that once with my friend and her bf and my ex it was great,theres just some ideas im thrashing out hope some help,
as for you and your bf have you anywhere special to just the two of you?like a special place you go to anything like that?
or maybe go for dinner or a picnic or something lie out under the stars at night..i think thats the cutest thing ever,old school but so cute lol =]
anyways theres just some things i came up with hope they help in some way
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i live in missouri by st louis which is a big city, but i dont live in it. my parents hate the city so much and my moms even scared to go down there. but my favorite band in the world is having a concert there in two weeks and i was gona go with my two best friends who used to live in the city. but my mom still wont let me go but she let my brother drive around down there yesterday and hes still not home. how can i convince her to let me go iv ben looking forward to this since the beginning of the year and if i dont go then neither of my friends can go either :(

Hey there =]
awh I know how annoying it can be when parents to this kinda thing!
believe it or not (hate hearing it myself,but it cos they care) anyway.
the first thing you should do is not whine or complain and beg her to let you go.
you need to show her your mature so she will consider letting you go,by doing that its showing the complete opposite.
have you sat her down try talking to her about it calmly? reassure her that your capable of looking after yourselves and your not gonna be on your own,tell her youl have your cell fone on you at all times to maybe text her or call her when you get there,and when you leave to let her know your okay?
tell her youl get your brother or one of your friends older brothers sisters or maybe even an older cousin to drop you off and collect you and make sure you get there and back okay?
you know like that sort of thing,shes probably just worried.
I used to have the same sorta problems with my mom but once i started doing this and making plans and meeting her half way i got alot more freedom and trust etc =)
it might be annoying having your mom keep tracks on you like that,but its better then not being able to go or do anything.
she will let up give her time,i hope this helps and works out for you!
parents dont get that by stopping us from going to theese plays it makes us rebel more hopefully she will see that too!
good luck I hope you get to go!
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ok so i don't know if this question should be in health or what but i need help now! me and my friend(lets call her "stacy") have been friends for a long time. But ever since she joined the track team, she's been OBSESSED with her weight! she's lost a ton of weight in only like a month or two of track. whenever we hang out she always complains about being fat even though she looks skinnier than she should be. she hardly ever eats much and complains the entire time about how much calories are in them. she once told me that she was skipping periods and i know thats because she's exercising sooo much and not eating enough. she exercises day in and day out and whenever i see her, she always tries to talk me into going for a jog or exercising in some way. her mom has once told her that shes worried about her and all of her friends think the same thing. what i'm trying to say is, what should i do?

hey there=]
okay theese are all definately strong signs of your friend devoloping an eating disorder.
and youve already taken the first step by being a good friend and noticing,and worrying about her.
have you tried to talk to her and let her know that your worried? and that what shes doing is not healthy.
I think you need to sit down with her and her mom and explain to her that shes going to make herself seriously sick if she doesnt want to get help.
you can't push her to eithr,all you can do is talk to her be the best friend you can be by being there for her through all this and helping her.
I think you should talk to her mom first,about maybe getting her some medical help because something needs to be done about this before it escalates beyond control.
also reasurance is the key in this,your friend is obviously not in a good mental health state and is doubting her appearance and thinking she is fat,she looks in the mirror and sees something completely different to what everyone else sees.
you have to keep telling her and trying to make her see that she IS beautiful and fine how she is,and that by starving herself and over exercising shes making things a whole lot worse.
if you and her mom and other friends cant make her see this then the only other way and i hate to say it is to litteraly get her mom to make her get some help by professionals in eating disorders etc. I know the thought of it might seem horrible but its going to benefit her in the long run and she will soon see that its to help her,and its for the best.
I hope everything works out for her and your already being the best friend you can be so keep it up and remind her your there. =)
also talk to her mom about maybe getting her some counselling. with all this help she will start to over come it,its a long hard process but keep reminding her she can do it also.
hope I helped in anyway
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its no problem, thanks though, i just texted him then went to his house the next day and we talked, it went really well, we listened to music and shot some hoops, then i had to leave cause i had to run an errand for my sister and i had a game in the morning and he wanted to come with me and sleepover and go to my game but his mom said no cause she doesn't like him sleeping over girls houses, he pretty much begged her and got into an argument over it though, good sign? (: then we hung out 2 days ago, we pretty much went on a double date to see a movie and he kept putting his head on my shoulder to hide his eyes, cause we saw bruno and lots of gayness if you get me haha. but no i haven't asked him about the vacation or getting back together, i'm going to ask him really soon though, im thinking either monday or tuesday of next week, do you think thats too late or good? we're going aug 7. and i plan on asking him about the whole relationship thing during vacation when the time is right, so i don't spring everything on him all at once, what do ya thinkk?

oh and p.s. the day we broke up he said he still wanted to be my best friend...so this is the only thing i'm afraid of =/

heyy =]
okay this sounds really really good..looks like you two are getting on great,like the way it used to be.
and very good sign that shows how much he wanted to stay over with you :)
haha yea i went to see bruno with my friend the other night,funny an disturbing though..anyways!..
this all seems to be working out and youve got it figured out well =) i think your plan is great I wouldnt change anything about it,dont be afraid though by the sounds of things it seems to me like its gonna work out good best of luck!

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hello againnnn :)

okay so i've been having dreams about my ex...alot of them were sex dreams and we've been hanging out alot like good friends and i slipped telling him i had sex dreams about him so he made me tell him the whole story haha. but these past few nights i've been having nightmares about him dying and getting hurt...i wake up in the middle of the night and i want to call/text him because i can't figure out if it really happened because they always take place at night and i go to bed in my dream, so i wake up and don't know if it happened...i really want to call him to make sure he's okay but i feel bad for waking him up..but i think if i call him at night and talk to him about it they might go away....i just feel bad about waking him up (when we were dating he said he doesn't care if i wake him up but idk now since we're not =/) should i? i think it might help but i don't want to ruin anything and i still love him alot.
thank you
-shay

Heyy there =)
sorry its taken me so long to answer I was on holidays :) lol
okay this always happens me in dreams when I wake up and i worry if they are real or not,your dreams are really a strong sign that your still really in love with him and care alot.
however calling him late every night just to make sure hes okay because of a dream is a bit irrational. you mean well but it might start to get on his nerves just take a few minutes to calm yourself down and reassure yourself it was just a dream if your really that worried then call him. but just dont make a habbit out of it,
have you told him how you feel yet..hows the vacation thing going..?=)
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Kay, so my boyfriend openly talks about girls he thinks are hot, and it sort of makes me feel awkward.

I wouldn't mind if he put it another way (e.g. 'I think *this girl* is pretty' or 'I think this girl is attractive) but he says it along the lines of "*THIS GIRL* IS SO GOD DAMN HOT" and it makes me feel awkward. He'll just bring it up too when it had nothing to do with the conversation...

e.g. I mentioned to him how I was always scared to bring home boyfriends because of my sister's good looks. He then said something along the lines of 'Oh she sounds hot' when he asked for a description of her. He also randomly went on about how "god damn hot" his friend's sister is... and just before I mentioned I lost my keys and he went on about how Alicia Keys is 'hot'...

Am I being out of line? I don't mind if he thinks other girls are attractive, just because he's with me doesn't mean feelings for others change. But I think he could either just discuss it with friends, or word it better when discussing it with me.

I'm sort of sensitive to this stuff, because my ex boyfriend did this, but ten times worse (he would constantly bring how much he wanted sex with other girls and that sort of stuff into it as well) so I feel as if I may be scarred from that experience, but it's taught me to deal with this stuff early on.

Hey there =)
I know how you feel,almost every guy does this without even realising it.
sometimes us girls do it too,and its perfectly okay and normal to a certain extent,to think someone is hot etc it doesnt mean your boyfriend thinks of you as any less attractive.
he probably doesnt even notice that this is making you feel awkward,what you need to do is just explain exactly to him what you have here,that your not trying to over react or be out of line but sometimes when he constantly mentions how he thinks other girls are hot it makes you feel like your not as..hot etc.
its not nice and discouraging to hear your bf go on about other girls celebrities etc constantly where as its easy to over look and have a laugh about if its just rarely you know,but it seems like your bf does bring it up alot so your best bet is to just tell him how it makes you feel.
ask him to re word,or just talk about it with his friends its probably completely harmless though and something he should come to stop doing eventually and be more sensitive towards youre feelings.
hes a guy after all it takes them a while to realise this stuff lol =)
good luck anyway I hope I helped
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16/f
So, me and my ex boyfriend broke up after a 3 month relationship. I know thats not a very long time but we ended up loving eachother. The reason why we broke up was because of some of the things he did. He kept stuff from me and lied a bit. He was a lot of drama. So, we have been broken up for alomost 2 months now. During this time, i havent found anybody i like. I have been on one date since then and i dont like the guy. A lot of guys have told me they like me but i still liked my ex.

We didnt talk or text for quite a while. Then one night he texted me and said he missed me and was depressed because we havent talked in a long time and he really still loved me. I told him we should just be friends and then see what happens. Well, i heard that he hung out with some girl, and i dont know why, but it made me really jealous. I was crushed. So i knew i still liked him.

I told him i still liked him. Now, he is getting all these ideas about dating again and all this other stuff. He said he has changed and matured and realized how much he lost since the break up. He still loves me.

So, now that we are texting again, im not sure what to do. He said he dosent like anyone else. I dont like anyone else. The thing is, my parents hate him. They wouldnt like it much if we dated again. I dont even know how i would tell them.

Now that i have him and we know that we like eachother again, i dont feel the spark i once felt. Yeah, i would get jealous again if hing out with another girl. I still do like him. There is just something different about "us" this time. Im not really sure on what to do. Please Help. Thanks.

hey there :)
I can kind of relate to what your saying because of a situation with my friend,it sounds exactly like yours!
she broke up with her bf,then when she found she wasnt with him she missed him and would get jealous if he was with someone else or talking to someone and realised she liked him wanted him back,so they would get back then shed feel like there was no spark,and theyd break up again etc.
it was a constant cycle and almost two years later now its STILL going on.
so judging from this,i know your situation could be completely different,but if the only reason you want him back is for the "idea"of him and because you get jealous easily and feel no spark,then don't do it. it will more then likely cause more confusin etc and trust me you do not want to be in this constant cycle that my friend is in,she fell too hard and she still cant seem to make herself get over him compares every guy to him. (I personally hate him,he uses her when he needs a fall back she knows this but cant seem to break away dont let yourself be that girl)
My advice would be to just stay freinds with him if this is the case and be hard on yourself and move on. as hard as that is.
on the other hand if you truely feel this time its different and that it could work and you want to give it another go then do just be careful.
stay texting and talking,hanging out as friends go with the flow and see what happens don't over annaylise anything and just have fun etc,if its meant to be again it will be =)
the decision is totally up to you if it feels right go with it,if it doesnt dont. trust your instincts.
and as for your parents they are looking out for you,if they dont like him is it saying something about is character?consider their view on him too before you do anything.
anyway I hope I helped even in the slightest.
good luck
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alright soooo my problem is my hair, its the worse.
it wont stay straight I straighten it every day.
because it's so frizzie.
and my hair breaks, if that makes any sence.
and when i wash my hair i lose alot of hair..
and i wash my hair alot.
i know it isn't good but i can't help it.
some one help my get better healthy hair pleaseee?

I'm going crazy it almost makes me wanna shave it all off:(

hey there
okay the first thing you need to do is let your hair relax.
all that straitening isnt doing it any good.
try blow drying it with cold hair,also next time you wash it leave the conditioner in for about 30minutes this will help rehydrate your hair.
you should try out some smoothing serums,ask your hairdresser or in your chemist they arent dear and you usually put a small bit in before and after your straighten your hair,
also id sugest heat protection spray if you feel you constantly have to straighten your hair give it a little break and a chance to repair itself before you start doing it again then use the spray.
you can get loads of different brands.
also maybe try shampoo for frizzy damaged hair.
instead of straightening it all the time why not try moosing it while wet then blowdrying it?this keeps well if your hair naturaly tends to frizz or curl it keeps it under control and creates nice waves and curls :)
anyway I hope I helped, best to talk to a hairdresser to get a second opinion
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Hey guys. Today is my birthday and I turn 18. While there are girls dying to get older im not. I just wish I could turn back time. Like I still feel like such a kid. And I love it. So growing up is being very difficult for me. I currently feel depressed. Everyone is like oh ur old now or ur a young lady. I don't know. I just wish I was still 16 or 15. I mean I feel like I am. Its so unreal to me. So I guess there's nothing to ask for advice about. I just felt like writing my thoughts. But if you have advice or anything feel free. Thanks a lot. Btw...I really do hate growing up and CHANGE. *sigh*

hey there, =)
I know what you mean,and your definately not alone in feeling like this many people do.
they find it hard to deal with getting older and change.
but honestly the best advice I can give you is to just not let it get you down.
don't spend your life wishing you were 15/16 again your still really young,live it to the full without worrying about being older and growing up you still have the memories of all those times to look back on and so much more to make.
think of all the time youve got ahead.
it just something we all have to bring ourselves to accept and it will get easier once you start to do that.
just try to forget about it and have fun.
nothing ever stays the same and things change all the time sometimes its great,sometimes it sucks but it happens whether we like it or not,just try think how boring would life be if everything remained exactly the same and you stayed the same age forever for example,youd never get older and have new expieriences.
you just need to look at it in a different perspective :)
I hope I helped in someway and that you start feeling better about this
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ive been with my boyfrend on and off 10 months and im done he's done but i'm just not over him and me not being over him shows there's a chance we'll get back together which i do not want is there anyways to get my mind off him to move on please help!

Hey there, =)
getting over someone is always really hard.
but the trick is time,and keeping yourself busy.
dont allow yourself to think of him,
go out with your girl friends shop etc,and do things you love doing listen to music maybe try a new hobbie or something along those lines.
every time you feel yourself starting to think of him,push him out of your mind call a friend or just do something to distract yourself.
your already after making the first step by realising you don't want to get back which is probably the best if you know that in your heart.
honestly just spend time with friends and family and doing fun stuff its summer now so if the weathers good where you are go to the beach movies stay at friends all that stuff =)
soon youl find yourself thinking of him less and less until you really are over him and can look at him and feel nothing at all like I said though it does take time and you can have some really crap days but just dont allow yourself to stay down or him to keep you down!
anyway I hope I helped :)
good luck
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17/f
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half months, met briefly through mutual friends in September and were sort of reintroduced in early February. I've been through my first love but I deffinately feel stronger about this boyfriend. From the first day we started dating I've known that I can trust him 100% and he's just overall a really good guy. My parents like him, he even met my ex and thinks he's a cool guy. I lost my virginity to him. He tells me all the time how much I mean to him and how I helped him change for the better. (He used to smoke pot and drink a lot and now he's totally quit both). His best friends tell me it's the happiest they've ever seen him and I consider comments like that from his friends to be the best.
On to my question.
When we met in September he was really drunk and high and I wasn't impressed so we didn't talk. Our mutual friend's convinced me to give him a second chance so that's when we met in February. Four months is not a lot of time compared to most of my friend's that I've known most of my life although I feel like I've known my boyfriend for years. I want to do something with him that will build our bond and help create a solid relationship. We're pretty good as it is (rare small arguments that are discussed and solved within an hour or so) but I want to take us to the next level I guess. I can honestly picture spending my life with this guy and we'll both be going to college in August/September and I just want to make sure we're solid before then. Anything to help this? Games, activities, dates?

Thanks

Hey there. =)
Aw,well it seems to me like you and your boyfriend already have a great really strong bond and relationship.
your seriously very lucky not many of us get that.
I don't really think you need to do anything just continue being how you are like you said your fights are solved very quickly which are small in the first place he quit smoking and drinking which shows how big of a comitment he made to you,AND you lost your virginity to him,to me it doesnt get much stronger then that,besides like marriage but Thats not even an option just yet obviously,with college and your ages and all lol
I think the trick in this case is time honestly just keep going the way things are do the things you normally do,hang out as much as possible and have a really great summer together like doin all the fun stuff,parties,beach movies hanging with fiends camp out one night maybe just make really good memories if that makes sense because then youl be closer then ever before college.
maybe you two could get something like (sorry if it sounds gay) but you know promise rings?
or if he has a class ring or something he could give you,and you give him something in return?something sweet and special like that :)
totally up to you though,good Luck and I hope I helped in any way :)
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Michael Jackson died today and he was only 50 years old. It really took me by surprise, but it wasn't as if I didn't expect it sometime fairly soon. There have been rumors flying around for some time now about his health problems. As a matter of fact, when Michael was on trial, one day he was late because of health problems. Obviously, the judge didn't feel that Michael's health was all that important because he threatened to have Michael Jackson jailed unless he made an appearance in the courtroom. Michael showed up in his pajamas. Does anyone else remember that?

People made it out to seem as if he was faking. Some people even made it seem like he was crazy and would do ANYTHING as he was suddenly "extremely unpredictable" and all. I guess he wasn't kidding or faking about having health problems, huh?

I'm going to miss Michael Jackson. He was a man who set out to hurt no one, but the world seemed hell-bent upon hurting him. Michael Jackson was seriously the King of Pop in so many ways. Maybe he's better off wherever he is since we trashed his good name without even giving him a chance to speak. I choose to believe that he is now seated up in Heaven, seeing God for the first time.

Does anyone feel like me about Michael Jackson or am I alone in this? When I was growing up Michael Jackson was such a big role model. Sure, he was a little weird but he seemed to care and love. I'm really hurt that Michael Jackson is dead :( almost like a large portion of my childhood has been abandoned.

Hey there,
your definately not alone In how you feel about this.
When michael was top of his career back in the 70s 80s everyone loved him.
and it was so sad to see how his personal life got in the way of his career in the end but the man had so much to deal with in his life and I believe how his father treated him as a child affected him in the long run and had alot to do with many of the things that went wrong for him.
I was so saddend to hear it too,I hadnt thought much about it but now whenever I hear a song I think about him and feel so sorry for him and his family he was deeply troubled in the last years of his life and I wish he could have gotten help sooner to deal with things.
he was ultimitaley a true legend in the music industry it never ceases to amaze me when I watch his videos and listen to his music,espically thriller.
to think people would want to extort him for money like those child abuse cases is ridiculous,and utterly sickening he was a gentle caring man and a kid himself at heart considering his childhood was robbed from him.
those people took advantage of that and saw it as an oppurtunity to make money of it that god jordy who first came forward back in the 90s but never went to court is now rolling in it,its funny how his father suddenly dropped charges when the issue of money came into it if his son had really been molested it money would not make up for it.
anyway im rambling now but I can relate to how you feel,as im sure many do.

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thanks for answering my question and yes you were right, it's about something is telling that it's something I should keep it to myself can you tell me more about why we feel this way? it feels like I was ready to tell my friend about my secret but i wasnt I keep stopping and hesitate a lot why do I have a hard
time? I really want to tell my friend about this.

Hey,your welcome happy to help or at least try to :)
ah I see okay well in this case it seems to me like its definately a case of fear to trust really. and its common
you really want to share this with your friend but there are doubts in your mind stopping you and you find yourself weighing out the possibiliys of "what if" she tells etc.
what you need to do is think to yourself,how long has this person been your friend? has he/she told you big secrets before and do they trust you?
what you need to do is to try open up a bit but not to everyone what you have holding you back can actually be a good thing it means you don't go spilling your guts to everyone which alot of people do,and then stuff gets told etc and trouble starts.
Just think to yourself all you need is one person to confide in thats all just one and you should find it easier to tell,is it just with this one secret or with everything?
if its with one paticular secret that you feel you can't tell its probably best kept to yourself your friend should understand there are limits to what we tell and what we dont.
if its really weighing you down and you find you still can't tell your friend write it out on a piece of paper then rip it up. itl feel like youve told someone and gotten it off your chest.
if youve known this friend for a really long time and are very close then im sure he or she is not going to tell.
but go with your gut instinct if you really want to tell it will come out eventually,even if you cant talk to him or her about it write it down fort them.
your not the only one trust me this happens in different ways to everyone,it is something youl learn to overcome

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