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Sex First time
im 16 and my bf and are thinking about having sex
both our first time im nervous i hear it can hurt a lot a friend told me it doesnt hurt as much if the guy has a small penis is that true? my boyfiends penis is about average.
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Don't focus on the pain. Its coming, and theres not really a good way to know how bad its going to be. It might be nothing, it might be pretty bad, but it WILL be over at some point.
A visit to CVS is in order. You want three things.
- Condoms
- Lube (Anything that isn't KY and says "water based" on the label)
- VCF - Vaginal contraceptive film. Small spermicidal contraceptive. Read the instructions, its pretty simple. In case of a condom break, this is a second line of defense. Its quoted at eighty something percent effective in blocking what otherwise would have been a pregnancy.
Get on birth control if you aren't already. If you are adult enough to be sexually active you're adult enough to take responsibility and find a way to get into a gyno's office.
Beyond that, keep one thing in mind. Sex is a skill, and you love this guy. Who better to figure things out with? If you're going to make this choice for yourself do it with that frame of mind. You're sharing something with someone you care about. Keep it in mind when one of you elbows the other in the face, or someone smacks their head into a wall because they weren't paying attention. Then take a few advil, laugh and get back to it.
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it does hurt the first time its like known to but you have to know that every gril is different so it might not hurt as much for you. i dont know about a small penis but average is just enough big im guessing. take it slow if it hurts to much tel him.
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Couple things...
A. The National Average for penis length is like 4". If you're boyfriend is larger than this you can tell him with a smile... ^_^
B. It hurts. Unless ya'll find some new awesome position that won't break your hymen it's going to hurt, and there will be blood and ripping and it's just going to hurt... It took, I think 3 times of having sex before it DIDN'T hurt for about 2 days after, for me. Until the hymen is gone and healed over it's going to hurt... a lot, usually... unless you've managed to break it some other way, like vibrators or gymnast accidents (I've seen it happen!)
C. Think real carefully about this, because when you lose your virginity you're going to form a connection to this boy for a good many years, if not the rest of your life. That's just something psychological that tends to happen. If and when you two break up it's going to be harder because you lost your virginity to him...
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hey there,
everyone is different =)
it can hurt for some girls,but others it might not hurt at all.
the reason it does is because of a flap of skin called the hymen and it breaks for the first time during sex,but sometimes a girls could already be broken like from a bike believe it or not.
but you have nothing to worry about the more tense you are the more likely it is that it will hurt so just make sure you are completely relaxed. =)
make sure your boyfriend is slow and gentle.
make your you are 100% you want to do it first and that your ready because theres no going back,
stay safe too!
hope I helped =)
Much <3
Jess
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