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Confused
16/f
So, me and my ex boyfriend broke up after a 3 month relationship. I know thats not a very long time but we ended up loving eachother. The reason why we broke up was because of some of the things he did. He kept stuff from me and lied a bit. He was a lot of drama. So, we have been broken up for alomost 2 months now. During this time, i havent found anybody i like. I have been on one date since then and i dont like the guy. A lot of guys have told me they like me but i still liked my ex.
We didnt talk or text for quite a while. Then one night he texted me and said he missed me and was depressed because we havent talked in a long time and he really still loved me. I told him we should just be friends and then see what happens. Well, i heard that he hung out with some girl, and i dont know why, but it made me really jealous. I was crushed. So i knew i still liked him.
I told him i still liked him. Now, he is getting all these ideas about dating again and all this other stuff. He said he has changed and matured and realized how much he lost since the break up. He still loves me.
So, now that we are texting again, im not sure what to do. He said he dosent like anyone else. I dont like anyone else. The thing is, my parents hate him. They wouldnt like it much if we dated again. I dont even know how i would tell them.
Now that i have him and we know that we like eachother again, i dont feel the spark i once felt. Yeah, i would get jealous again if hing out with another girl. I still do like him. There is just something different about "us" this time. Im not really sure on what to do. Please Help. Thanks.
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if you don't feel the spark that you once had then maybe you like him but in a completely different way, you were right about the being friends because no spark no relationship.
the jealous thing is gonna happen and i'm sure if you asked him about the other guys you dated he felt jealous as well, i think it is just i don't want him to get hurt so i will keep a close eye on her.
your parents don't like him because of the break up i'm sure and that he hurt you and they just don't want you to go through that all over again, if it was me i would talk to him and tell him that being friends is gonna be the option for right now and that you no longer feel the spark.
maybe just maybe he would try to get it back for you, it's a test for him and if he tries to get the spark back he means what he say's if he doesn't he is just that he can't stand being alone and he doesn't want you back.
hoped i helped.
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hey there :)
I can kind of relate to what your saying because of a situation with my friend,it sounds exactly like yours!
she broke up with her bf,then when she found she wasnt with him she missed him and would get jealous if he was with someone else or talking to someone and realised she liked him wanted him back,so they would get back then shed feel like there was no spark,and theyd break up again etc.
it was a constant cycle and almost two years later now its STILL going on.
so judging from this,i know your situation could be completely different,but if the only reason you want him back is for the "idea"of him and because you get jealous easily and feel no spark,then don't do it. it will more then likely cause more confusin etc and trust me you do not want to be in this constant cycle that my friend is in,she fell too hard and she still cant seem to make herself get over him compares every guy to him. (I personally hate him,he uses her when he needs a fall back she knows this but cant seem to break away dont let yourself be that girl)
My advice would be to just stay freinds with him if this is the case and be hard on yourself and move on. as hard as that is.
on the other hand if you truely feel this time its different and that it could work and you want to give it another go then do just be careful.
stay texting and talking,hanging out as friends go with the flow and see what happens don't over annaylise anything and just have fun etc,if its meant to be again it will be =)
the decision is totally up to you if it feels right go with it,if it doesnt dont. trust your instincts.
and as for your parents they are looking out for you,if they dont like him is it saying something about is character?consider their view on him too before you do anything.
anyway I hope I helped even in the slightest.
good luck
Much <3
Jess 15/f
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