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I'm engaged to an amazing man. He's truly every girls dream. He's attentive, caring, sweet, thoughtful, gorgeous. We've been together since I was 20, I am 23 now, he's 26. Our relationship is good, we fight, no more than any other couple. We aren't too stressed about the economoy, we aren't rich by any means, but we have food on our table, and a roof over our heads. We can't complain. Sex lifes fine.
Only problem is, I'm not truly happy with him. I love him with all my heart, but I'm not in love. And, I just can't see myself marrying someone I'm not in love with. Call me old fashioned, but I want to be deeply in love with the man I'm going to marry. And, it's just not my current fiance.
I need some advice on how to break the news to him without hurting him too much. I know, I know, there is no way to do this without hurting him. Which isn't what I'm setting out to do at all. That's why I've come here, how I can get through this as gently as possible? If you need anymore information about the situation, please let me know and I'd be glad to provide it. Thank you in advanced for your help.
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People can love and care about someone and not be deeply in love with them. If you are not in love with your fiance then you very well might have fallen out of love. You need to tell him, Remember marriage is a long term commitment and you don't want to make a mistake that will be hell to fix. Follow your heart, You need to sit down with him and talk to him. Tell him exactly what you've said above. I give you a ton of credit to realize this now before it was too late. Honestly, there is no gentle way to overcome this no matter what it will be spit fire for the both of you. However, You need to know that you only live life once and you need to listen to yourself only you know what is best for you.
Please send a message if you need any more support or have any more questions. :)
-BahaiMa22
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I am 15 and havent made out with anyone yet. I dont know how. Please tell me how to do it and dont say it comes naturally. I would like steps. thanks! (: (link)
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1. Whatever you do, Make sure your lips are moist if your lips are dry then it's more likely your lips will stick.
2. Make sure your head is angeled in the oppisite direction as your partners.
3. Make sure your eyes are closed, Sometimes when you have your eyes opened and you are looking direction at your partner it becomes a little uncomfortable for them. Also, Closing eyes when kissing is passionate.
Try not to kiss to fast as you don't want to bang teeth! Not only is that awkward but it can sometimes hurt also. ;)
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This is specifically for people who have dyed their hair (preferably at a salon).
I AM A HAIR DYE VIRGIN!!!! who has always wanted to dye her hair
But my boyfriends mom just informed me that her hairdresser (who did hair for contestants in the miss usa pageant!!!!) does her hair for free (she does his taxes or something) and that he could do mine for free also!
So the question is;
Did it KILL your hair? If you only did it once. Like, how does your hair feel? I don't want my hair to be stringy. How long does it take?
Any advice is appreciated! (FROM PEOPLE WHO HAVE DYED THEIR HAIR!) (link)
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If you bleach your hair, Then your hair will come out feeling like straw. However, I wouldn't suggest dying your hair too often (2 or more times a month) because then you will destroy your hair. I would suggest semi-permanent for the first time depending on what brand you use it can last from a week to about a month and a half. If you are looking for a lighter color and you have dark hair you will want to use a hair lightner also try purchasing moisterizing conditioner (To repair hair) and use that once you are finished dying your hair. After dying your hair do not wash it for 24 hours if you do then it's more likely the dye will come out in the shower. Semi-permanent dye will come out little by little in the shower it is normal and eventually it will fade away and you will have to dye it again. Sally's is probably the best hair product to go too, I've been to Walmart, CVS, Rite Aide and Sally's seems to have the longest lasting brand.
-BahaiMa22
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so before i never / rarely got zits!
usually when i break out its just two.
but this time there everywhere! my forehead , my cheeks, im so self consious! I use neutrogina face wash inthe shower and then i use a face cream so my skin doesnt dry on my face.
Is there anything that works really good to get rid of zits, that you use or something?
I have a dance coming up in a week and i don't want to look like this! Is there anything that like makes zits come? I knwo that sounds weird, but like touching my face??
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Proactive is a great product for acne problems. If you have a dance coming up then the best thing I can suggest is to wash your face everyday about 2-5 times to get rid of any sweat, dirt or oil. Try not to use face wash for acne as it drys up your skin and sometimes makes the breakouts worse. Also, Try to go light on the makeup (Blush, eye shadow, etc.)
-BahaiMa22
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Hi, I'm a 32 y/o woman and have been married to my husband for about 5 years now. I love him dearly, but he just got an obession with porn. It seems like everyday when I leave to go to work he will be on the computer pulling up porn sites. I don't really want to confront him with it, because he can get very violent at times. Plus this is not the first time that I have noticed he was doing it, and I confronted him about it before, he told me he was going to stop. I guess he just could'nt do it! So what should I do? (link)
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I knew someone who was in a simular situation, If your husband is looking at porn on countless occassions then you should try and talk to him again. Tell him it's gone too far and it needs to stop. If you are paying for the internet connection then you have the right to cancel it to and always remember that. Your husband is married to YOU not the porn site. Yes, It is normal for a guy to like porn and look at it on occassions but it is NOT okay for them to let it control there marriage. Depending on how bad his addiction is it could eventually distroy your marriage as an addiction half of the time is something that seems to take over many people. If he is violent then you need to tell someone, No woman/wife should feel intimidated in anyway by someone they care about.
-BahaiMa22
(If you need anything eles, Please feel free to ask)
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Is it okay if you are online on myyearbook (which is like a get to know other people type of site) and you tell other people of the opposite sex that they are pretty,hot,sexy,gorgeous,ect when you are in a relationship?
(im not, my boyfriend is and i dont know if im just being over dramatic and jealous or its really not okay)
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If it is a dating site, Then yes I would be concerned. I would question him about, Ask him straight up what is going on. If it makes you jealous then I would let him know how you are feeling and why you feel that way. Honestly, If it is a website of just the opposite sex I don't see why he would be on it in the first place and to me yes that does sound a little bit fishy. I think it is time you and your boyfriend have a serious talk. If it is what you think it is, Then it just might be time to move on.
-BahaiMa22
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what do you do when you have a very very rude violent sibling who gets extra violent coz there on drugs and your mum's a single mother and disabled...I could physically stop him, but abuse gets you know where. && I wouldnt stoop to his level. he is younger, and I would get into trouble...it tears my family apart. and he's only 12
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It's time to tell someone. If he is only 12 years old and you are sure he is on drugs then you should get him help before it's too late. Like the last person said, Go to the police. I know it might be a hard choice for you but it's better than it being too late. Remember, You are his older sister and you are only doing what is best for him.
-BahaiMa22
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Now I know that everyone has their own personal preferencese when it comes to dating. My question though is, is there something wrong with a 17 year old guy going out with a 15 year old girl? I mean do you see anything wrong with it? I know i'm going to get many different answers and that's what i'm hoping for. There's just this guy that I really like, but he said that youngest he would date is 16, and i'm 15, and he's 17. He's a really great guy. We both have a lot in common, and are a lot alike. I'm not saying that because of these things that we belong together or something I just want to know everyones ideas on this. Any and all answers are greatly appreciated, and thank you in advance. (link)
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If you are 17, and he/she is 15. Then no it is not illegal not YET anyway. No, It doesn't matter how mature the person is. It is illegal and it is a law that if someone of the age 18 or older is dating a minor it is clearly wrong. Many people have been arrested for it, gone to court etc. It is one thing that if you were 18 and they were 18 then that would be fine because then they would be of the age to make there own choices and they would legally be an adult. Anyone who is under the age of 18 is still legally a child. If you turn 18 and you continue to date a 15 year old I'm not saying it will happen but you are putting yourself at a huge risk. All it takes sometimes is for one person to see and get the "right" impression.
BahaiMa22
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My ex and I broke up several months ago and it was a messy breakup. We have barely talked since. Now, almost a year later, I have gone through old letters and pictures, and realize I miss him terribly. Our relationship was long and serious, and we had more great times than bad, so it's hard to even justify the breakup. I thought I was over him, but now tears are coming back! Should I just throw all these things away or contact him in any way? I don't know if I should really move on or if something could happen again. (20/F) (link)
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Most of the time when a relationship doesn't work out it wasn't meant to be. If it has been several months then more than likely he might of moved on with his life. I don't understand why you kept the pictures if you two broke up? I don't know the reason why you two broke up but if you think it could happen again you could try. However, I will be honest with you if a relationship didn't work once then it very well might not work the 2nd time. It will be rough only because when two people break up and get back together there are usually alot more second thoughts sometimes if it was a messy breakup like you said there is a little tension and trust problems. It might not be what you want to hear here but I will state my opinion I would throw the pictures away and anything eles that is a reminder and try and move on. Someone eles will come along when the time is right and you will be glad you waited for that person. However, If you disagree with me then like I said you can always try.
-BahaiMa22
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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months and we're ready to have sex, he's 18 I'm 16, blah blah blah....
Anyways, I went to the store and bought a box of condoms to be prepared. I looked at all the different types and I decided to go with Trojan Spermicidal, the lubricated one. Now I already know that I do not realy need the lubricant because I get wet pretty quick but what I was wondering was how good does this kind work. I mean I know many that use it and don't get prego, but they're all on birth control and unfortunately I am not nor do I have access. My mom would flip and I don't live near free clinics.
But besides that, Can anyone maybe tell me how good these are to prevent pragnancy, maybe even what actions to take like pull out or what not? I'm only asking because the box said that they are proven to reduce the number of active sperm but scientists have not been able to figure out what percentage more.
Please help and I'm sorry it's so long. lol (link)
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Okay Girl,
You probably are better off NOT using the lubricated condoms if you get wet easily. Here is why, If you use lubricated condoms when you really don't need the lubricant it is more likely for the condom to come off when you are having sex. (It slips) Also, There have been several occassions where I would find the condom inside me after sex and trust me it's yucky. I would suggest you buy non lubricated condoms they are better and they do not slide off during sex. There are many kinds of condoms you can buy here is a list of a few. ;)
Lubricated (I don't recommend that one though)
Ribbed for her pleasure
Glow in the dark (My personal favorite!)
Flavored (Good kind too ;))
You can find these at any Rite Aide, CVS, Sometimes Walmart but I can't seem to find them there hm...and sometimes you can find them behind a cashier at a Gas station.
Good Luck!
BahaiMa22
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How do you make paper swans?
I really want to learn I just can't ever make it work!
Thank you (: (link)
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Hello!
Here is a link that shows you how to make all sorts of origamis. ;)
http://dev.origami.com/diagram.cfm
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okay i just got my tongue pierced on saturday and it is now thursday. (its been 4 days) it is still swollen, and ive heard it stays swollen for about 5-7 days. but ive been worried because under my tongue ring theres a big hole the size of the ball of my tongue ring and the ring is kind of pushing into it. is this normal?! i think the ring is too small because my tongue is swollen.. and i told my friend and he said that i shouldnt exchange it out for at least a week or two and to just wait till the swelling goes down. anybody with tongue ring experience please tell me if this is normal, and when the swelling is gone, will the big hole heal? because its a hole the size of my tongue ring ball and the ball is sitting in it lyk a crater! (link)
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The swelling is normal, Make sure you wash your mouth out with mouth wash 2-5 times a day to avoid any bacteria that could build up around the peircing and irritate it more. I do not think you have to small of a peircing I think it only feels that way because your tongue is still swollen. To help the swelling suck on ice cubes and try not too eat anything that is heavy. Eat light foods for a few days if this continues go back to the place you got it peirced.
BahaiMa22
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14/F My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months now. In the beginning I was so happy but gradually I started to lose my feelings for him, especially once school started again. Most of the time its a chore to talk on the phone every night and I'm just not happy. The only problem is that he's still completely smitten. He's constantly telling me he loves me and how much I mean to him and how he's so afraid to lose me. He doesn't have very good friends and besides video games not many hobbies. Basically, I'm a huge part of his life. I know I have to do this for myself but its going to hurt me so much to do this to him. I still care about him just not in the same way. We barely see each other outside of school and when we do he comes over my house. I've never even been to his. How can I breakup with him in person and make this as gentle as possible? Also, we have a semi-formal coming up in a few weeks and for Valentines part of my gift to him was a tie that matches my brand new dress I just bought. This may be a little awkward? I don't know please help. :( Thank you so much. (link)
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A relationship is about happiness, If you are not happy then the relationship clearly won't work out. Honestly, I would tell him you do not want to be with him before the dance. Afterall, You don't want to lead him on. Maybe you two can be friends, However when you break up with him you can say it in a way such as "I was thinking about our relationship and I think we should be friends because I'm not ready for a commitment" It's easy and pretty straight foward.
-BahaiMa22
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16 female
ok. um, this is kinda...akward...and scary.
so, me and this guy (we'll call him L) have been going out for the past year. he's one year older than me. L's always been real sweet about the whole sex thing, but lately, he's been...pushing, and i'm kinda scared, cause he's getting kinda angry/violent. i'm scared he's really gonna hurt me, cause he hit me last week when i made him stop, taking of clothes and stuff.
I dont know what to do.
Help?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? (link)
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Like the first person said, You do not need a guy that is going to hit you because he doesn't respect your wishes. If he abused you then you need to tell someone close to you that you trust. Any guy thath its a girl is ABUSIVE. Don't even forgive him, It will only tell him he can get away with it and you never know if he will do it again. He is not even worth it, You deserve someone who is going to respect you and how you feel. The right person will wait patiently for you as long as it takes. Don't let him talk you into doing something you don't want to do. Honestly, If he hit you I think it's time for you to leave him.
BahaiMa22
23/F
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I was dating this guy for a year and we got on so well and it was all going well. About a month ago he dumped me and I am mixed raced and he is white and he said he couldnt be with me eneymore as me being mixed raced is to confusing for him. I have no idea what he meant by it as we dated for a year and he was the first person i had sex with. I now think maybe I am weird. I still love him and dont know what 2 do. (link)
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No you are not weird, There is nothing wrong with you. If he is that low to say something like that to you then he is the one who has a problem. Nobody should judge you by what you look like. If he really cared about you he would love you for who you are. Honestly, It sounds like you might of just been his booty call. I know it hurts to think that but you are better off putting it all behind you and try to move on as any guy who treats a woman like that is simply not worth it. I'm sure you are a beautiful person and you deserve so much better. If he is too judge like that then he's going to have a hell of a time finding real happiness because nobody is perfect. One thing that helps many people get over someone faster is too think of all the bad things and mean things they ever done too you and that is certainly something to put on the top of your list. Remember, You are who you are. A unique person and it's YOU that makes you a beautiful person.
Enjoy being you
xxx
BahaiMa22
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i'm 16. my ex and i went out for 10 month. separated for four and then got back together for two weeks. I foudn out that he had turned into someone totally different/player. So anyway, he texts me again now two weeks after we break up. He was an ass to me. He was being so rude, i don't get it, it gets on my nerves. He said the most hurtful things, for example: I don't care that we aren't together anymore. He was my first real love, so ofcourse its gonna take a while for me to get over him. But wat the hel is his problem. Why does he have to be so freakin rude? what do you guys think? (link)
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It could be that he was over you all along and just dated you because he was lonely and wanted someone to call his "girlfriend" I'm just guessing. If he treats you badly then he isn't worth your time and it's probably the best to move on. I understand it will take some time to get over him but trust me the fastest way to get over someone is to think about all the bad things they did to you etc. Think about what you could have with someone eles.
BahaiMa22
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So my boyfriend lives two hours away and I am trying to think of ways to keep our relationship strong. We talk on the phone twice a week, and text/IM as much as we can, and see each other maybe once a month, at least every other month.
Do you guys have any ideas on how we can get closer even though we live so far away from each other? (link)
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Long distant relationships are very hard to keep strong. However, to maintain a healthy relationship I would suggest trying weekend visits. I had a long distant relationship once it was about the same distance as you and we kept it together for 5 years by doing weekend visits. However, I will be honest with you it's not easy.
BahaiMa22
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Hi i don't really know what category this belongs in but i really need help.
My neighbor is losing her house,car,and she can't pay the bills.Her husband lost his job and they want to move because they don't know what else to do. I really don't want them to leave. Is there anyway i could help them. I'm desperate
any advice is good.
thnks in advance
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Sadly, There is nothing you can really do. These days the economy has caused many people to loose there homes. People are still getting layed off left and right and being let go from there jobs. All you can do is support them and let them know that you care by being there for them if they need to talk. They could try to file for unemployment but the chances are so slim that they would get it right away only because there is a line of people out there these days waiting to get what they can get.
I'm sorry.
-BahaiMa22
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Male, 26
I've been having dreams where I'm having sex with women other than my girlfriend. And in my dream, I'm aware that I have a girlfriend.
I did some dream interpretation research, and it says that I'm having feelings of self-guilt, or non-satisfaction in my love life.
Seriously, can someone explain what this means? (link)
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Try this link, It might answer your questions.
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/s.htm
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well so im 14, turning 15 really soon. i do not look my age at all. i look atleast 17. anyways theres this guy. i met him and he said he was 19, and i really started liking him and stuff, but later on i did find out that he really is 27, he has his reasons to lie about his age but i dont want to get into it. and i just found out his real age the other day, it shocked me to death the first day, second day pretty weird, but today im totally over it and still really like him. and we had a talk last night about us being together and me soon moving in with him when im able to move out. he still doesnt know that i know hes 27, he cant know i know, long story. but is it wrong to be in love with a 27 year old when your only 14 years old? =/ (link)
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Yes, It is very wrong. Infact it is concidered illegal.
If you two ever began to have a relationship and it turned sexual he can very well get arrested. You are a minor and he is twice your age. It'd be classified child rape if you two were ever to become sexual. You do not just have to have a sexual relationship if anyone saw you two together and reported it...you are looking at a big mess.
Don't play with fire
-BahaiMa22
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