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um...sweet boyfriend goes CRAZY!!!!
16 female
ok. um, this is kinda...akward...and scary.
so, me and this guy (we'll call him L) have been going out for the past year. he's one year older than me. L's always been real sweet about the whole sex thing, but lately, he's been...pushing, and i'm kinda scared, cause he's getting kinda angry/violent. i'm scared he's really gonna hurt me, cause he hit me last week when i made him stop, taking of clothes and stuff.
I dont know what to do.
Help?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
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Tell your parents that he tried to force his way o ntop of you,and has struck you and used violence to try and get his way sexually. They'll take care of it and likely press charges which I encourage you to do for assault both physical and sexual.
If a guy genuinely loves you than he would never do this. It's dangerous sticking with a creep like this. You just never know what else he could be capable of when it comes to force.
Cease all contact with him and move on. Make sure your family, friends, peers and teachers know what he's done. They'll handle him. Focus on your own life and new opportunities and wtach this guy self destruct. He's a time bomb as this will escalate.
Talk in confidence to prior girlfriends and see if he has done this to them and get them to back up your claims. If you know he can seriously hurt you than GET OUT and don't look back forget loving him either as it's not a loving environment.
Do what your gut screams at you to do and tell an adult you trust and ask for help because you're in over your head. Your parents may be angry and upset over what you tell them but they'll know what to do and that anger/upset will be directed towards this punk and not you.
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Anytime a man hits you, regardless of it is just once, you are in an abusive relationship.
You need to get out NOW. Don't wait for him to hit you again because chances are he will.
It is completely understandable for you to be scared to break up with him. Talk to an adult you trust and let them know what has been happening. If he tries to hurt you, they will be there to back you up. It is important for you to get out of this relationship ASAP because he will probably leave a mental scar on you, if he has not already.
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RUN, don't walk away from this relationship.
He is using bullying tactics to get you to be submissive. Date rape is very possibly his next move. At a minimum, he will continue to escalate his violent behavior to meet his own needs.
Also, talk to someone you trust about your fears. if you don't have anyone in your life you want to open up to, call a hotline for abuse.
If he is threatening in ANY way - verbally, physically, go to the police and get a restraining order put on him. I would even consider it now since he has already hit you. When (not if) you break up with him, do it in a public place and have your own ride home.
You are smart to be concerned. Don't allow him to make you a victim. Empower yourself.
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Like the first person said, You do not need a guy that is going to hit you because he doesn't respect your wishes. If he abused you then you need to tell someone close to you that you trust. Any guy thath its a girl is ABUSIVE. Don't even forgive him, It will only tell him he can get away with it and you never know if he will do it again. He is not even worth it, You deserve someone who is going to respect you and how you feel. The right person will wait patiently for you as long as it takes. Don't let him talk you into doing something you don't want to do. Honestly, If he hit you I think it's time for you to leave him.
BahaiMa22
23/F
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Hunny, he's not crazy. For a man to go an entire year without sex... that's an accomplishment. He probably waited as long as he could before his hormones got the best of him. However, that DOES NOT mean that you should have sex with him. DO NOT do anything you aren't ready to do. If he physically assaulted you, you should leave him, and tell a close friend, in case you ever need a witness. If he threatens or hits you again, you should seriously leave him.
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I am 21 years old. I've been through an abusive relationship, I've been through guys not caring when you say you don't want to have sex. You are you and you don't need a guy like this, I'm telling you go to your parents!!! If you feel they wont understand or you will be in trouble than go to a best friends parent who can help you tell your parents or a teacher or cop. It doesn't matter who you tell as long as it's someone who can help you because telling someone is not worse than what he is doing to you. After you tell someone make sure you go press charges so he doesn't do this to someone else. For the safety of yourself stay away from him because only bad things can come from this.
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