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Is Lusting a really bad thing..
Hi, I'm a 32 y/o woman and have been married to my husband for about 5 years now. I love him dearly, but he just got an obession with porn. It seems like everyday when I leave to go to work he will be on the computer pulling up porn sites. I don't really want to confront him with it, because he can get very violent at times. Plus this is not the first time that I have noticed he was doing it, and I confronted him about it before, he told me he was going to stop. I guess he just could'nt do it! So what should I do?
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You've got way bigger problems than porn if you're afraid to talk to him about something because he is violent.
Methinks you should rethinks this marriage.
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It seems as though porn is not your husbands only issue. But, let's start with the main priority.
Let us define lust. To lust after something or someone is to have an intense sexual desire for said object/person.
Watching porn is absolutly a lustful act. Whatever your husband is watching he is lusting after. Whether it be the people he is watching or the things they are doing, he is lusting after it.
It's possible that your husband is not content with his sex life and porn his only option. In an attempt to stay faithful to their partners a lot of people who are unhappy with their sexlives, and who cannot repress their sexual desires, become porn addicts.
Obviously you are not comfortable with this if you had asked him to stop. Sometimes, just asking someone to stop watching porn is not the solution. Maybe you need a better undersanding of why your husband watches porn.
I have no idea what sort of relationship you have with your husband, but if it's a relationship where you are both open and loving with one another, try enjoying porn with him.
Or, try becoming his sexual outlet so that he will no longer need porn. The only way to do this is to find out what he likes and wants.
On a side note, if you are in the kind of relationship where you are scared to confront your partner about an intimate issue such as this becuase he might get violent, you need to realize that he is not paying attention to your concerns. Aside from the fact that nobody should be in a violent relationship, the fact that he is also ignoring your concerns is something you ought to try and put a stop to.
Keep in mind, relationships often wither with time. If there are any unresolved issues in your relationship they must be solved in order for you two to progress as partners.
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I knew someone who was in a simular situation, If your husband is looking at porn on countless occassions then you should try and talk to him again. Tell him it's gone too far and it needs to stop. If you are paying for the internet connection then you have the right to cancel it to and always remember that. Your husband is married to YOU not the porn site. Yes, It is normal for a guy to like porn and look at it on occassions but it is NOT okay for them to let it control there marriage. Depending on how bad his addiction is it could eventually distroy your marriage as an addiction half of the time is something that seems to take over many people. If he is violent then you need to tell someone, No woman/wife should feel intimidated in anyway by someone they care about.
-BahaiMa22
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