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ok, so your going to think i'm maybe ugly, or dumb for not knowing any of this but. im 17 & a junior. I'm not ugly i just haven't had that much experience with guys. Many guys think i have but i haven't. I'm really starting to like this guy but we mostly talk through texts, we don't really talk in person only seomtimes. Hes really experienced and hes hooked up with one of my really close friends he fingered her. He told me that he wants to kiss me and what not but honestly i havent kissed anyone, and i haven't gotton fingered by anyone and its not that im not into i am but i havent had a relationship or fwb or anything. and no im not anti social or anything i do talk to guys but i dont know. im nervous on what to do i might be going over his house this weekend and were going to be home alone, what do you do when a guy french kisses you? people tell me its instinct but im not really sure, i don't want to screw up on anything. or on what to do if he tries fingering me im just lost & i dont know what to think of it because i worry about things to much.
help? if theres a possible way?
i understand if you can't explain anything because there probably isnt much to explain or its hard. but thanks. (link)
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One, you need to relax. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being inexperienced at your age. In fact, I salute you. most girls are so concerned with thier image that they become sexual at much younger ages. But, there's something you lose when you become sexual at a time in your life that you aren't ready for it. You lose the experience of gaining experience with someone who loves you and whom you love.
There is no rule book of kissing. One guy might think you are a fantastic kisser, while another will think the opposite. Usually, if there is a connection between two people the kissing is in sync and all goes well.
Before you make this step, ask yoruself if you are certain about this guy and his intentions towards you. Not to scare you, but there are a lot of guys, especially your age, who are only interested in sex.
But, if you feel that you are certain, the only thing you must keep in mind is if you do go through with it and things are not going smoothly, it's probably becuase you two are not connected. If things do go smoothly, you will not be wondering what to do, I promise. You'll only be enjoying yourself.
Good luck. And for your own sake, do not do anything you are not comfortable doing.
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Hi, I'm a 32 y/o woman and have been married to my husband for about 5 years now. I love him dearly, but he just got an obession with porn. It seems like everyday when I leave to go to work he will be on the computer pulling up porn sites. I don't really want to confront him with it, because he can get very violent at times. Plus this is not the first time that I have noticed he was doing it, and I confronted him about it before, he told me he was going to stop. I guess he just could'nt do it! So what should I do? (link)
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It seems as though porn is not your husbands only issue. But, let's start with the main priority.
Let us define lust. To lust after something or someone is to have an intense sexual desire for said object/person.
Watching porn is absolutly a lustful act. Whatever your husband is watching he is lusting after. Whether it be the people he is watching or the things they are doing, he is lusting after it.
It's possible that your husband is not content with his sex life and porn his only option. In an attempt to stay faithful to their partners a lot of people who are unhappy with their sexlives, and who cannot repress their sexual desires, become porn addicts.
Obviously you are not comfortable with this if you had asked him to stop. Sometimes, just asking someone to stop watching porn is not the solution. Maybe you need a better undersanding of why your husband watches porn.
I have no idea what sort of relationship you have with your husband, but if it's a relationship where you are both open and loving with one another, try enjoying porn with him.
Or, try becoming his sexual outlet so that he will no longer need porn. The only way to do this is to find out what he likes and wants.
On a side note, if you are in the kind of relationship where you are scared to confront your partner about an intimate issue such as this becuase he might get violent, you need to realize that he is not paying attention to your concerns. Aside from the fact that nobody should be in a violent relationship, the fact that he is also ignoring your concerns is something you ought to try and put a stop to.
Keep in mind, relationships often wither with time. If there are any unresolved issues in your relationship they must be solved in order for you two to progress as partners.
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