Hey everyone!
I'm usually that friend everyone goes to for advice. (I'm also the one who gives good advice but doesn't apply it to herself, lol.) Whether I've been in your shoes, or know little of your situation I'll answer honestly and truthfully. I'm here to help.
Some background info for you guys: My parents are divorced. My mother's remarried. I have two older sisters, one with two boys. I'm a Senior in High School.
So go ahead, ask away!
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hey, am a girl and am 17 its my senior year and i like to open my self a bit, beacuse am not much of comfy person to talk to am too strict, but i would like it if i have a boy best friend but i haven't been lucky so far, so i just wanted to start by chatting online if you know any normal websites like that please suggest it to me( p.s anything without facebook) (link)
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Hey there!
A lot of people would say to try to make friends in person, because it's safer and whatnot. But, because I'm 17 and also in my senior year I say go for it.
There's a ton of websites to meet people. Unfortunately, not all of them are safe. There's a lot of disgusting and perverted people, along with some hilarious and kind people.
There's pg-13 websites like Zwinky.com which is a virtual world website. I met most of my online friends there. There's also websites like teenchat.com or omegle. But as I said, most of these websites are not really safe so you have to be careful.
There's also social media websites like Twitter and Instagram. And even some mobile phone apps like Meowchat.
I think it's great that you're starting online because it gives you a chance to meet people without having to face rejection directly, if that's something you fear. I also think you should try talking to people you've seen from school.
Try looking them up on any of the above mentioned websites and say hey. What's the worst they can do? Ignore you? Big whoop. Try connecting with people you haven't talked to at school and if things go well, make plans to have lunch together or stuff like that so you can be remembered as the friendly girl.
All of these things won't give you a best guy friend, but it will help you get closer. If a guy sees your friendly and not afraid of being social, then it makes you look a bit more approachable.
Best of luck!
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I havnent been able to sleep very well for the past week, and when I do it's maybe 5 hours a night with me waking up every 45 minutes in that time span. What should I do to get some sleep? (link)
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Hey there!
First of all, you're a champ if you can survive the day with that little sleep!
I think you should probably do some excercise or anything that can tire you out, then just take a warm bath and when you're most relaxed drink some Chamomile Tea. It's known for it's anti-anxiety effects and for most people, it can make them sleepy.
So tire yourself out, then relax, sit back, have some tea and hopefully you'll be able to get a good night's rest.
Best of luck!
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I have two children. My husband walked out on us a year ago. He does not paid child support I did file. I work a full time job. Making okay money. My oldest has some disabilities. I have a boyfriend that I am not in love with. I was blessed to be able to live with family for a while. It was very crowded and pretty stressful for everyone involved. I moved out into a house close to my dad's. He takes me to work because I still haven't been able to afford a car. My kids have their own rooms now. We are walking distance from the school. I am absolutely miserable living with my boyfriend. I feel my attitude ttowards him comes off as hateful even though I don't mean to be. I don't like when he puts his arm around me and normally I love that He works he's very sarcastic I'm not judge mental on looks but I feel there has to be some kind of connection and it's just not there at all. We've talked about it I don't think I could afford to live here on my own and if I did it would be a very tight on bills. I'm just unsure of what I should do (link)
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Hey there.
I know the stress of being a single mom is pretty awful. My sister is a single mother of two handsome boys, (3 and 5), and it's stressful on her two. I understand you can't afford living on your own but being in a relationship just because you can't afford to dump the person is not a good thing.
So, tell him the truth. Ask him if he'd let you stay at his place for about a month or two and try looking for a job with a good pay. It's really not healthy for the kids to be around that kind attitude between adults.
Move out whenever you can and start doing things on your own. That's what being a mom is.
Best of luck!
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This guy has been asking me for sex since Sophomore year. He's been asking me stuff like sex, and stuff related to that I see him a lot bc I'm a lacrosse manager and i became one in 10th grade and he plays. He asked me and I was like watch the game bc he was talking to me and this was during our junior year. And he was like is that a no. I didn't say anything. He asked me again and he was like are u in the middle like yes and no and i nodded my head. Also he snap chatted me after and was like i know you want to have sex with me, he's serious. I snap chatted him saying "ok ill admit it, I want too. happpppy?" and he didn't snap chat back. And then we planned on hooking up after one game but I sorta faked because we were going to his car or mine and Im very unsure about myself he's been bugging me since 10th grade. He showed interest too in 9th grade like its weird!
But all of that is over! We never did anything and he has a gf. So our summer started this year, he contacts me in the very beginning of summer and it was just a awkward but he still wanted to do stuff with me.
We are rising seniors now, do you think he's still trying to get my pants, once lacrosse season starts again or maybe during the school year? I want him so bad..
I snap chatted him saying "I guess.. you'll never f*ck me" and he didn't snap chat back, but he always views my stories all the time. What is he thinking now?? Maybe bc its summer? Please answer my question right here! (link)
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Why would you want to have sex with someone who's not in a relationship with you?
Sex is something intimate. It's something to be shared with someone who cares about you. Not someone who just wants some because why not. It shouldn't be like that. And now he has a girlfriend, so you're obviously not going anywhere with this guy.
I suggest you find someone else. Waiting for the right time isn't that hard once you realize how personal and intimate of an act sex really is.
Best of luck.
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Hey there.. I write here today seeking answers. My boyfriend and I had a bit of a scuffle. I had an issue with a certain friend of his whom he had taken for lunch. I personally hate to be the one to find out things,and then the fact that he was taking a friend out to lunch also got me abit jealous. We talked over the phone and he assured me it was just friendly,and she was going through a rough patch in her life.
Hours later,it was Saturday evening and we usually talk about sleepovers or night outs. When I called,his phone was off and it remained like that all night.
Sunday morning,he said he had put it off specifically for me because he knew I would call about that issue. He made it seem like my reaction had not gone well with him,which is fine. I like to talk about our issues. He wasn't hearing it,and he started saying things like he is busy and we will talk later..basically just avoiding talking. He has been quiet for the rest of Sunday now,and I don't know how this week will go.
It's hurtful when I'm consumed inside but I don't have him to talk to. What do I do now? He is not taking my calls and isn't talking to me. Would I be wrong to assume it's over between us?
I'm open to your advice. (link)
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Hey there sweetie!
I think you might've upset him by implying you don't trust him. A little jealousy is fine, but some people don't like it.
Personally, I think you should just let him cool down. Let him come to you, and then tell him you understand that he was upset but if you don't talk about then you won't be able to get past it. Read a book, talk to your family, do whatever you want to keep busy while he cools down.
If he's upset, and you keep bothering him you'll probably just make it worse. If he truly loves you, you guys will get through this bump. I don't think just because you got jealous he'll break up with you.
Best of luck!
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Because I can insert a tampon but it always feels a little odd. Not necessarily uncomfortable, but I can tell it's there. I'm just wondering if I'm still doing it correctly or if I need to push it in farther. (link)
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Hey there!
I've been using tampons for over a year and I've always been able to feel it. I'm guessing it has something to do with the fact that I'm a virgin, so that make me more tight and that could be why I feel it. You're right, it's not uncomfortable but I can just tell it's there.
Make sure you sort of squat when inserting, it's much easier and it's comfortable that way.
Best of luck!
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ok, so thats me, the one with the girl hating my guts. I couldnt log into my account, so i had to reset amd i just used a quick account, but, the girl (L) will crumple up my notes when i send them to her, and shes been pissed now for about 4 months. And is anerexsia really that serious? She needs professional help? :0 (link)
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Anorexia is an eating disorder characterized by extreme weight loss and lack of eating. Anorexics may also exercise obsessively. It is a very serious condition and can result in death if it is not treated properly. (found this info at mirror-mirror.org)
Anywho, it's sort of a mix with mental and medical complications. The person sees themselves as fat, and they do anything they possibly can to loose weight.
Saying, "Oh stop it you look fine," doesn't really work in this case because they most definitely see themselves fat. They will most likely think you're lying to make them feel better. So it is best if you leave this girl alone.
If you want to help her just talk to her parents, and if they don't respond just go to any other adult you think may be able to help her.
Best of luck!
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So I met this girl in school and I've known her now for a year, and I really like her but she has a boyfriend. Now I'm friends with her on Facebook and I looked at her boyfriend and he looks like a low life, degenerate, douchebag. And I've called this girl sweet names before like sweet heart and stuff like that and she said that's one thing she likes about me because her boyfriend doesn't call her sweet names and I would take time out of my day to talk to her when her boyfriend wouldn't even talk to her when he's watching TV. But I went on one of those sites where you can look up people's info from there email and username and I found out her boyfriend has been on dating site and I know they didn't meet on one because they met in school together. But I'm not sure how I should tell or even if I should tell her at all. I was going to do it anonomysly through a fake email, because she already knows I like her, so I didn't want to tell her straight out because I know how girls think and she will probably think I'm a nut job or a psycho to go that far to get dirt on him and I don't want her thinkin I did I to break them up so me and her could be together. So I need someones opinion on what I should do.
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She's 15
He's either 16-18 I don't know because he can drive and I'm not sure if he lied about his age on Facebook (link)
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Hey there!
I don't think you should mention anything about that dating site to her. He could've been on that before they were dating, or maybe she knows about that. And even if she doesn't, it's not your place to tell her. The keyword in your question is "could", so if it turns out he's not cheating then you'd end up being the nosey guy.
Besides, if she's comparing you to her boyfriend then I'm sure she's thought about being with you instead of him. So just coax her a little more and tell her your honest opinion of the guy, and that he doesn't appreciate her. Ask her for a chance to woo her, maybe she'll take a break from her boyfriend to try things with you if things are as bad as you mentioned above.
Best of luck!
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2 friends (females and I'm also a female we are all 11) tease me, but not involving weight, looks, religion, stuff like that, it's more like saying no to something, then doing it anyway, and sometimes they'll just separate themselves unless I come to them and then there was this:
Friend: I once met Bethany Mota, I hugged her.
Me: wasn't she freaked out?
Friend: no, she's used to it, everyone hugs her, and she's not cracky and rude like you!
I don't think of myself as cracky and rude, if I'm anything in that category it's stubborn and short tempered. And those friends aren't perfect, one is insecure and and immature, the other hates almost everything, and sees Miley Cyrus as a role model, which speaks for itself. I tease them too. (link)
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Hey there!
I didn't find the question in there, nor do I see any reason why you'd need advice. You guys are 11, so you're bound to do argue or tease or just be annoying.
If you don't like your friends, then find new ones. Simple, easy.
Best of luck!
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Recently, I have come to the conclusion that being quiet is the best thing that I can do to ease my social probems. Socially, I am tolerated at my small highschool, and at home, I have to deal the luxury of having a non understanding mother to deal with not to mention my pest of a brother (age 9). My freshman year I tried everything to try to be liked and accepted by my peers. Mainly because I felt if I was being tolerated at school maybe its due to a problem that I have. By everything I mean everything ex: Carrying peoples bookbags, as well as mine to each class going out of my way to be kind despite their nasty demeaning attitudes. That failed. Now I am approaching my sophmore year and I see the same delima knocking on my door trying to make my situation work has only resulted in getting spit in my face. So my pivotal question would be how do I fly under the radar unnoticed? How can I approach my situation in the most quiet way possible. I am willing to do whatever it takes. It has taken me a very long time to see that some people just arent liked, and socially something in my character is the funk to any social success that I could get at school and at home. At this point all of my interest in making friends at my school has vanished I give up this has been going on for over 3 years now.(I am not completley friendless but many of my friends are outside of school) I just know that the transition from being sociable to suddenly nonsociable is a drastic one. I need step by step help on how to approach this goal. (link)
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Hey there!
You realize you're giving these people power over you? You need to have some YOU time. Stop trying to talk to people, or being nice. Get ready in the morning, have breakfast, go to school, get to class, talk only when talked to, eat, be silent, go home, do your chores and homework and try not to cause any problems. That's basically my routine.
Somewhere along the way, people noticed how quiet i was and approached me. I made friends, and now my routine includes talking to my friends once in awhile.
So, don't go all depressed on me but being quiet isn't something you can force upon yourself. You can force yourself to focus on your classes and your health. Make sure you're feeling good, physically and mentally. Forget about other people, just worry about you. Do your thing and let people approach you for once.
I hope someone realizes the potential in you.
Best of luck!
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okay.. so .. theres this guy at my work.. i really like.. but he is shy, and i cant tell if hes interested or just.. idk hes confusing to read. and well whenever me make eye contact we usually stare at each other for a while then smile and i usually laugh and go on with my night at work.. he tends to flirt with me.. but those are the only true signa he could be "interested" and i have asked him to hang before..an he said yes.. he didnt ask but made a suggestion for me to come over once.. but never happend.. and when i ask him to hang now.. he ALWAYS says he might .. but never does.. im so confused..idk what to think or do..help.
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Hey there!
Well if he's as shy as you say then you might need to be a bit more aggresive. As in, maybe next time you see him you could invite him somewhere. Make solid plans so he has no other option but to say yes or no.
Maybe you could tell him: "Hey there's this movie I want to see coming up *insert day here*, how about we meet up at *insert time here* at the movies?"
He's probably nervous about making plans or most likely unsure of how you feel towards him. So make a date and invite him.
Best of luck!
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Im the kind of girl that has more guy friends then girl friends because i feel that make less drama and overall are more fun to hang out with. You dont get judged and you rarely have to worry about them talking crap behind your back. The downside is that out of all the guy friends i have they try there very hardest to make me jealous. Its not in my nature to be jealous hearted. Whenever someone (whether its my friends or anyone) has accomplished something or is doing great in life i will be the first one to be happy for them. But i have noticed that some of them of them try to change that. I overheard that they "swap ideas" like dating other girls just so i can be jealous and eventually be with them or begin to like them. It hurts. It Really it does. The worst part is that i cant do anything about it. They make sly remarks like for instance that i didnt seem thrilled when they told me that one of them were dating my best friend. Not to mentioned i was over joyed and hugged them both and glad because my friend had just gotten over a terrible heartbreak. One that i was helping her through. One even asked me if they want them to break up with there girlfriend and im just taken aback by it. Im just wondering if this some kind of sick joke. It seems like i have to constantly prove that i dont want more than a friendship with some of them. Im worried about acting in a certain way just so they wont take it as if im not happy for them. Im just frustrated and dont know what to do :( (link)
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Hey there!
I'm one of the girls who have equal guy and girl friends because it's the norm. Not every girl wants to talk behind your back and not every guy is drama-free. To be honest, I've always thought girls like yourself just like the attention of "hanging with the boys". If that's the case, then I'm glad you now realize that it's not all pink and cupcakes.
Guys will be guys. They love to joke around and they usually take the jokes way too far. Between guys, it's okay because they all get it but if a girl is in the circle she'll get offended and they won't really feel in the liberty of being themselves.
I think you should just find some actual girl friends or hey, be a loner! Guys aren't very mature when it comes to this stuff, and they probably think this is all a joke. So, if you can't handle it just move on. Here you are, looking for advice when they probably are having a good time elsewhere. Don't worry about it, give it time and distance. If they contact you, just tell them that you're tired of them trying to get you to be jealous or envious of them. Tell them to chill out and that should help.
Best of luck.
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I left my phone (iphone 4s) in the car when it was hot out, by mistake...when I returned, the screen was black and said that the phone had overheated and could not be used till it returned to normal temperature.
It is fine now, but can I receive texts that may have been sent when the phone was overheated/deactivated because of heat? (link)
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I have an iPhone 5s and it overheats all the time. You can't receive them while it's overheated, but once it goes back to normal temp the texts are supposed to come in.
Best of luck!
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I am 25 years old and I am a female and I had oral sex for thefirst time ever I have ner fone anything sexual before nowb in my life and I am a virgin . I knowbyou proble dodon't get a lot of women who are old as I am who are virgins asking about stds on this site but iam terrified that I might have aids when I didn't even have intercourse. We were both naked and he ate me out and I sucked his dick and he gingered me could I get aids from letting this guy that I have known since I was 16 do this to me . I know this may make .e sound like a whore but we was only dating a week before he wanted to have sex and I said didn't want to have sex so we decided on oral sex . I am so scared because the other day I was in the shower and I noticed 3 little bumps inside my vagiana and I also have a boil that's kind of grey looking sorry if this is to grafic but I wanted to give you complete detail of what's going on with me so you could answer my question properly. I talked to my cousin about my situation and she said that I needed to go see a gbyon and get tested for aids and other stds . I am so scared. Please help . I made an appointment gor the 10th of my next month and iam absolutely terrified because I don't know what to they are going to do. How do they check for aids is it s blood test or do they actually have to check down there ? Will they tell anyone if I have aids . Please help me. Thank you so much. (link)
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Alright. Hey there sweetie!
Congratulations on holding off so long, I think it's admirable that you waited to have sex. And tecnically, you're still a virgin.
So, yes you can get an std while practicing oral sex. I don't know why people would think otherwise. There's a quite a few std's that can be transmitted orally like: human papillomavirus (HPV), HIV, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV, and viral hepatitis. So it could be any of that. The fact that you've known this guy since you were 16 has nothing to do with the actual situation. He could've had sex in that time, and you would never know. And the fact that you waited a week to do anything sexual with him doesn't make you a whore, or anything of the like. I'm not really here to judge you, only to help.
Oral sex is not safe sex. It's safer than intercourse, but like everything there's some risks.
Now, I know you might feeling scared so here's something that might help you calm down: those bumps that you described aren't necessarily caused by std's. Cysts are common and can occur anywhere on the body. In the vulva (the area near the vagina) they often arise from a blocked skin gland. They often look like pimples or lumps under the skin. If fairly large or uncomfortable, it can be incised and drained by a doctor. (If you think this could be it, there's two types, just look it up on google.)
Genital herpes is an STD. It usually causes itchy, burning and painful lesions that often start as a sore spot resembling a bug bite, but progresses over a few days to a blister or group of blisters and then an open ulcer. Treatment includes antiviral medications and pain meds.
Papilloma virus (HPV) can cause genital warts. These "bumps" have a cauliflower like appearance. They are rough to the touch and can spread. Treatment includes applications of medications to freeze off the lesions or improve the immune system to fight the virus.
Molluscum contagiosum. This viral infection causes small, fleshy bumps on the vulva with a central indentation. They have a pearly color to them. They usually go away without treatment.
Skin tags are fleshy irregular shaped growths of normal skin that can occur on the vulva or elsewhere on the body.
(I found this information at: healthcentral.com)
I just thought you should look into all the things that could cause what you're describing. I'm not a doctor, so I can't diagnose you with anything but I hope I could help with that bit of information. I think you should totally go to your doctor and know for sure what's going on with your body so you can work with it. No one is going to tell anyone if you have an std. There's something called Confidentiality and it sets out the principles of confidentiality and respect for patients' privacy that doctors are expected to understand and follow. So basically, your doctor will not share this kind of information with anyone but you.
Because your problem is mostly with your vagina, then you'll most likely be referred to your gynecologist. Your gynecologist will have to check your vagina to be sure if it's an std or not. Most of the std's I mentioned leave a physical trace that your gynecologist will be able to recognize. If they don't find anything then they'll probably run a blood test just to be sure everything's good.
But again, I'm not a doctor. Just hoped I could help clear up any doubts you may have. Stay calm and be safe!
Best of luck!
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I'm a freshman , and I've been searching online for good colleges and i just need someone who attended or have seen CUNY : Brooklyn College to tell me is it good or bad ? , and does it have Computer Science ?
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Hey there!
Well, I've also been researching colleges and luckily I did do a search on Brooklyn College.
First of all, if you're into the city then I think you'll like it. It's pretty much in the middle of everything so if you'd prefer a smaller, quiet College then this is not for you. I think you, as a student, make the College good or bad.
I haven't been to CUNY or actually seen it, other than pictures, but just knowing it's in a very busy area should be enough to answer your questions. And it does have a Computer and Information Science Department, and it is actually one of the largest in metropolitan New York.
Keep a list of pros and cons of each College you're interested in so you can be organized!
Best of luck!
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My boyfriend has a 9 year old little sister. I would love to speak to her on the phone someday but I dont know what I would say to her. Any advice? (link)
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Hey there!
I went through something similar. My ex-boyfriend wanted me to talk to his 7 year old niece. So just start with a simple, "hi"
and then ask how she is. How's summer going for her, what she'd like to do. Maybe ask her if she'd like to go to the beach or the pool with you and your boyfriend. Or you could ask her what's her favorite place to go in the summer and then say if she'd like to go sometime.
I think getting along with your partner's siblings is a very important thing and if you can get this little girl on your side, you'll have the family's seal of approval. So just be nice, and you should be fine.
Best of luck!
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Basically, I had these 3friends in 8th grade and I was on a trip. My day was going really horrible. And I saw one of my "friends " was making fun of one of my favorite bands. So, I got really mad because she knew what they meant to me. They had helped me to try to stop cutting and to try to better myself. I was going through such a rough patch at that point of my life. I had no dad growing up and it was being constanly brought up. So, I started getting angry at my friend for saying all that bad stuff about the band. I told her off really bad. I told her "well your dad isn't any better he cheated on your mom. So he must not be content with you. With she replied by saying something among the lines "well at least he didn't leave me. You're pathetic " and so forth. Then, she made fun of my sexuality and about my cutting. That's when I completely snapped becausr she knew I was getting a lot about that at home with family(sexuality ). So I don't know what even caused me to say this but, I said "you're so pathetic maybe if you would be a better daughter your dad wouldn't have cheated on your mom to have other kids" . Then a couple of our friends heard the argument and started siding with her. And we're like attacking me verbally. Saying all this "well don't go home and try to kill yourself you lesbian bitch." to wich i replied "She should be the one that kills herself she's stupid and irrelevant. She is just as bad as me . I am a bitch but so is she . She always brought the bad things in my life. I had enouhht"And I got so angry and this fight carried on for about another hour or so. I just kept at it with them. And it turns out they might be going to a friend's party in 2weeks. I haven't seen them in about 10months. I'm scared about what's going to happen when I do see them again at the party. (link)
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How old are you?
If you're in a good mood, go to the party. Look amazing, dress amazing, feel amazing and just chit chat with your current friends but don't approach them. Ignore them unless they make some kind of effort to talk to you.
If they start insulting you again, just say, "It's sad that you guys are still holding a grudge after almost a year, grow up." and walk away. Don't stay for a fight, or a discussion. As soon as they start insulting or talking to you in a mean way, just say that and walk away.
If you're feeling a bit reluctant then I'm sure there will be other things to do than go to that party. If you're not ready to face them, or don't feel like facing them then don't. You really don't have to do anything about it. The friendship ended and that's that.
Whatever you do, please don't approach them. You don't know how they will react and if they're as immature as they sound then they will probably be holding that grudge pretty tightly. So just go with the flow and don't stress out!
Best of luck!
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When I was 12 years old,I met a young man about 13.We met in church.We hanged out alot and we were close.He left the church with his dad who was singing there at the time.
I am 24 now and he is 25
I moved to another state,and he is still in California
3 years ago we got back in touch through Facebook.At first we were texting and talking always,and throughout this period we had times of seperation due to personal problems,not neccesarily with eachother. The times that we kept texting we just kept getting closer and closer.And we love eachother.
We are planning to see eachother in September.Ive saved money and Im happy.
The problem is is that I have beliefs.I am not Jewish,but I kep Shabbat and Bibical Feasts.And the Bible clearly states that I cant be un-evenly yoked with a non-believer.He does not believe in any of this stuff,whereas,I havent talked much about it.Hes very serious about me and wants to marry me.My mom is very strict about our Bibical beliefs and she won't have a heathen with her daughter.I also don't want to go to hell and lose the beautifullness I have with this man that I love.I feel torn.Should I stay or tell him goodbye and be with someone who shares in what I believe? I dont want to let him,even thinking has left me crying for hours at a time.Please,what do I do?? (link)
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Hey sweetie!
I don't know if you came to the right person for help with the belief-stuff, since I'm an atheist. But I'll help you anyway.
Firstly, I think it is so sweet that you guys found each other after so much time! So I assume you guys are just friends (with feelings for each other), but not in a long distance relationship.
I respect your beliefs but you love this man. It's a difficult situation: religion/love. Whether you go against your religion or not is completely your choice but if it were me, I would re-consider my religion.
This man loves you, and is willing to marry you and maybe one day, you'll have his children. You could have the happily-ever-after. It's something very rare; not everyone finds this opportunity.
I understand your Mom is strict, but you're 24, not 12. You rule your life, you make your own decisions and ultimately, if you choose your loverboy then it is you who will marry him. So forget about your mother, and think about you and your feelings.
"I also don't want to go to hell..." Here's where me being an atheist is a bit complicated. I, personally, think that heaven and hell were made for people who are scared of death. Basically, everyone. If good people were good then they go to a happy place (heaven), if they are bad or know of someone bad that person will go to a bad place (hell). Really it's simple, people would rather live their lives a certain way, follow rules, be obedient to other people just to assure a good place after death, if there is such a thing.
Sorry about my religion rant, onto your problem. I don't think you'll go to hell for pursuing a relationship with this man. Do you think it's fair to go to hell for being in a loving, happy, healthy and successful relationship? I don't.
Why do you think there's so many religions in the world? People have problems with their religons all the time. So they either change to a religion they find acceptable, or they just abandon religon alltogether.
So with all that said, I apologize if I drifted a bit off the topic. The whole religion thing really infuriates me. I hope I could help you in any way possible and I truly wish you all the happiness in the world.
Stop trying to make everyone happy, and make yourself happy.
Best of luck!
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I just got out of high school, but for five years up until almost the end of my senior year, me and this girl Carrie were best friends. We never hung out at each other's houses, we were just best friends at school and almost always had all of our classes together. She had a lot of problems with many old boyfriends since she was very young, and a tough home life. She was basically on her own since she was 13, her parents weren't too supportive. We stopped being friends because she did something to me, and then thought I was talking bad about her which I never would have done. She didn't believe me so I decided I didn't need someone like her in my life. The friendship was basically one sided anyways, she would tell me her problems and I would listen and give advice. I would give her rides everywhere because her parents wouldn't let her have her license. Anywho, after we stopped being friends I was pretty happy, but I would always see her staring at me and I've heard her talking about me multiple times. She hated me. And after this I started to not like her too. We worked in the same place, and she would take every chance to make me do dirty work or just try and take advantage of me. I quit that job because of my own problems at home and continued on with my life. I started talking to a boy, I had been friends with him ever since grade school, but we never talked much until now and realized we had so much in common. We started dating and I then found out that he had dated Carrie years ago before me and her were best friends. I was alright with that, things happen. I know that he is in love with me, and she has had about four boyfriends since him and is currently with someone, so she would have no reason to still talk to him. Well he has always given her rides to school since they live kind of close, not too often though. He started doing it less and less now that we started dating. He never asked what happened between me and her, but I would talk to him crying about what she did to me at school that day. He knows she hates me and that I don't like her. My boyfriend and Carrie both have jobs, and the buildings are near each other. Today I was visiting my boyfriend during his break and we were looking at funny pictures on his phone. A text pops up at the top and it's from Carrie. He seems to ignore it and starts laughing at the funny pictures. I however got instantly sick to my stomach seeing her name on his phone. I got silent. I didn't know that they were talking to each other. I know the message wasn't dirty or anything, but that was only one text, and the point is they are talking to each other. I pretended like nothing was wrong. I drove home crying, because I'm on my period and I'm super emotional. I was thinking if stuff I wish I could have said when I saw that text. "oh aren't you going to respond to her?" "That's weird I didn't know you guys were that close"
Now, I tell him everything. And I feel like he keeps information from me about his past. I am a virgin and I have told him that, but he hasn't told me if he was or not, and that was his only other girlfriend. Me and him have been together for five months. I just don't know what to do, knowing that they talk to each other.
Me and him are always sending funny pictures to each other. When I got home I send him a picture that said "when you see someone else text bae" and there was a series of crying faces, which could be comical, but not to me since I felt that and had been crying. He texted back and said "lol I hate the word bae" I responded "ok sorry." And he hasn't texted back since.
I'm pretty sad, I just need some advice about this. (link)
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Hey there!
I feel like I can relate to everything you typed just perfectly. I was best friends with a girl since 4th grade. In 9th grade she was dating someone and so was I. She started hanging out with other girls, and I just hung out with her when I could and with my partner. That was when she started talking about me and about my relationship. She'd say her relationship was better, and that I had no spark with my boyfriend.
I ignored it but it kept getting worse until I just burst out and got in a really big fight with her and stopped talking to her. She moved away and after a few days I was with my boyfriend and he was showing me some status on facebook when I see a message pop up with her name.
I mean, before she started hanging out with other people we were all friends but I didn't expect them to keep in touch. Anyways, the message was "how are things going with x____?" So I was very angry.
I ended things with him because I cannot trust someone who would have a friendship with someone who disrespects me so much. Someone who talked badly about me and dissed our relationship.
I'm not saying you should dump him, but you should totally come out and say "Hey, I saw that message from Carrie and I think it's really disrespectful of you to talk to her after everything she's done to me."
Tell him that if roles were reversed you'd avoid speaking to that person. And if he denies it or says she's his friend then just tell him that he needs to choose his friends a little better.
Best of luck!
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So I'm a sophomore now in highschool and my WHOLE freshman year I did a long distance with a guy who's basically across the country. There were other guys at my school who wanted to go out with but I stayed faithful and told them I have a boyfriend. I got teased a lot because how now days there's so many catfish scams. Anyways we planned for him to visit this summer but it didn't happen because his parents wanted him to stay with us because they trust my family but my family said no. Then in May I asked for a break because I finally realized that we'll never be together and I asked for a break because it seemed the easiest way to break up without hurting each other. But then all of June we talked as if we were still together but we werent officially together but finally one night his supposed cousin who he has never mentioned or said was staying witj them and texted me acting as him. Basically what he said were very out of line things only the guy I was kind of with would know. Then magically he wakes up 30mins later and apologizes for his cousins actions. I never believed it though. Plus I saw proof he has been cheating even when we were together... anyways now I have finally and officially ended things with him. Thank goodness. But now I met this guy who goes to my friends school not mine and we've been talking for a week nonstop. We even went to the movies Tuesday. We both just said we like each other but unsure if we could even do anything about it. Anyways my question is, is it too soon? Because I don't want this guy to fall as rebound or anything I genuinly like him. So I'm not sure how to handle it. Do I proceed with my feelings with this guy. Or stop and stay clear of any relationship for awhile. Any advice welcomed ! Thanks :) (link)
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Hey there!
I've also been in a long distance relationship. Actually, I went through pretty much everything you said. He wanted to visit me this summer, but we broke up a month ago after the constant arguing. (We've been ldr for about a year.)
Anywho, I understand how it sucks after you break up with someone who was always there, maybe not physically but emotionally. So if you find someone who gives you those butterflies and makes you happy then why not give it a chance? But before you do anything, you should tell him. Let him know that you got out of a relationship recently and that you're still a bit reluctant to start a new one for fear that it could be a rebound one.
If you take things slow with this guy, and not fret about putting a label on it you should be fine. Hang out as friends and let him woo you. If he's willing to. If he says no, he wants something serious then let it go. Right now isn't the time for something serious.
Best of luck!
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