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I don't know what to do with an old friendship that didn't end so great.
Basically, I had these 3friends in 8th grade and I was on a trip. My day was going really horrible. And I saw one of my "friends " was making fun of one of my favorite bands. So, I got really mad because she knew what they meant to me. They had helped me to try to stop cutting and to try to better myself. I was going through such a rough patch at that point of my life. I had no dad growing up and it was being constanly brought up. So, I started getting angry at my friend for saying all that bad stuff about the band. I told her off really bad. I told her "well your dad isn't any better he cheated on your mom. So he must not be content with you. With she replied by saying something among the lines "well at least he didn't leave me. You're pathetic " and so forth. Then, she made fun of my sexuality and about my cutting. That's when I completely snapped becausr she knew I was getting a lot about that at home with family(sexuality ). So I don't know what even caused me to say this but, I said "you're so pathetic maybe if you would be a better daughter your dad wouldn't have cheated on your mom to have other kids" . Then a couple of our friends heard the argument and started siding with her. And we're like attacking me verbally. Saying all this "well don't go home and try to kill yourself you lesbian bitch." to wich i replied "She should be the one that kills herself she's stupid and irrelevant. She is just as bad as me . I am a bitch but so is she . She always brought the bad things in my life. I had enouhht"And I got so angry and this fight carried on for about another hour or so. I just kept at it with them. And it turns out they might be going to a friend's party in 2weeks. I haven't seen them in about 10months. I'm scared about what's going to happen when I do see them again at the party.
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You don't want this to turn into another pointless altercation. Showing up in the same place as them could do just that. It's clear that you didn't mean what you said and that you reacted that way out of stress over your own life. You were pushed, couldn't take it, and ended up in an argument over something that you didn't even believe in. The best thing to do is to test the waters. Send a message to the girl that you got in the fight with explaining what happened and apologizing. Let her know that you were wrong, you're sorry, you want to try to work things out, and that you miss her friendship. If she's a friend worth having, she'll respond positively and over time, all will be forgiven on both sides. Maybe she feels just as bad as you do about what she did. Be the one to break the ice. If she responds negatively, DO NOT respond back no matter what. It's not worth it and will make things worse. Think about it. If you send her this nice message and she's mean back, later on, she may look at what she did and feel bad about it to the point where she messages you back and apologizes. You don't want to get in an angry messaging war. It will get you nowhere. Until both people are ready to make amends, nothing is going to get accomplished and trying to force it can set you back even farther. Try to talk to her BEFORE the party. If things go well, go to the party. If they don't go well, it's probably best to tell the host that you can't make it. It's fair to her and it's not the right thing to do to attend a party knowing that there could be drama. Just stand in your own truth and know that as a human, you did make a mistake, but no matter what happens, you can feel good in knowing that you did the right thing in the end. This girl has her own issues to deal with and just because you're ready to make amends, doesn't mean that she is. Her not being ready has nothing to do with you. Maybe she is though, so it's worth a quick, heartfelt, honest try. Good luck!
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Go strut your stuff sister!! Don't talk to them1
There is a chance they won't even be there at all!!
In any case,keep your head up and be happy!!
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How old are you?
If you're in a good mood, go to the party. Look amazing, dress amazing, feel amazing and just chit chat with your current friends but don't approach them. Ignore them unless they make some kind of effort to talk to you.
If they start insulting you again, just say, "It's sad that you guys are still holding a grudge after almost a year, grow up." and walk away. Don't stay for a fight, or a discussion. As soon as they start insulting or talking to you in a mean way, just say that and walk away.
If you're feeling a bit reluctant then I'm sure there will be other things to do than go to that party. If you're not ready to face them, or don't feel like facing them then don't. You really don't have to do anything about it. The friendship ended and that's that.
Whatever you do, please don't approach them. You don't know how they will react and if they're as immature as they sound then they will probably be holding that grudge pretty tightly. So just go with the flow and don't stress out!
Best of luck!
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