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do I wait ? or go for it
So I'm a sophomore now in highschool and my WHOLE freshman year I did a long distance with a guy who's basically across the country. There were other guys at my school who wanted to go out with but I stayed faithful and told them I have a boyfriend. I got teased a lot because how now days there's so many catfish scams. Anyways we planned for him to visit this summer but it didn't happen because his parents wanted him to stay with us because they trust my family but my family said no. Then in May I asked for a break because I finally realized that we'll never be together and I asked for a break because it seemed the easiest way to break up without hurting each other. But then all of June we talked as if we were still together but we werent officially together but finally one night his supposed cousin who he has never mentioned or said was staying witj them and texted me acting as him. Basically what he said were very out of line things only the guy I was kind of with would know. Then magically he wakes up 30mins later and apologizes for his cousins actions. I never believed it though. Plus I saw proof he has been cheating even when we were together... anyways now I have finally and officially ended things with him. Thank goodness. But now I met this guy who goes to my friends school not mine and we've been talking for a week nonstop. We even went to the movies Tuesday. We both just said we like each other but unsure if we could even do anything about it. Anyways my question is, is it too soon? Because I don't want this guy to fall as rebound or anything I genuinly like him. So I'm not sure how to handle it. Do I proceed with my feelings with this guy. Or stop and stay clear of any relationship for awhile. Any advice welcomed ! Thanks :)
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Any break up you go through will be difficult. Even if it was with someone you never met or was able to spend a great amount of time with.
So I'd just take things slow with this guy. It's good that you don't want this to be a rebound. I wouldn't totally push him off. But let him know you just got out of a relationship and you'd like to take things slow.
If this guy does really like you, he won't mind.
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Hey there!
I've also been in a long distance relationship. Actually, I went through pretty much everything you said. He wanted to visit me this summer, but we broke up a month ago after the constant arguing. (We've been ldr for about a year.)
Anywho, I understand how it sucks after you break up with someone who was always there, maybe not physically but emotionally. So if you find someone who gives you those butterflies and makes you happy then why not give it a chance? But before you do anything, you should tell him. Let him know that you got out of a relationship recently and that you're still a bit reluctant to start a new one for fear that it could be a rebound one.
If you take things slow with this guy, and not fret about putting a label on it you should be fine. Hang out as friends and let him woo you. If he's willing to. If he says no, he wants something serious then let it go. Right now isn't the time for something serious.
Best of luck!
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