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Ok everyone lets keep this simple. My name is Chris, I am an 18 year old guy. I am also a senior in HS. I am a good listener and even better at giving advice because I have had to deal with a lot of adversity. Anyway, so here is my advice column...
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One of my old friends' never talked about guys. Like, we would be on the fone, and i would be talking about the guy i liked, and shed kinda just, "push away" the subject. She always said she never likes anyone, and she dosent think that anyone is "cute" or "Hot". I think thats kind of weird. Then one day, we were talking online, and she told me she was a lesbian. It was really awkward, and i really started to believe her, and then when i saw her the next day at school, she was like "omg that was hilarous last night! i was joking!"....I dont know but this kind of looks strange to me..Any ideas on why she might not like to talk about guys? oh by the way..i dont want to talk or ask her about this. thanks!
This must be a very touchy thing for you to deal with. I can understand why you would be stuck. I don't want to jump to conclusions but I think she probably is a lesbian. She probably told you (and maybe others) online that she was and got the wrong reaction from other people so she wanted to cover her tracks and recanted it all as a joke. I think the best thing for you to do is to take it like she said, "as it was just a joke". Don't try to pry it open or go accusing her or anything like that. Just let it pass for now and try to let her know that you are her friend no matter what. Eventually, if she is a lesbian it will come out and you need to be there for her as a friend. Good luck.
Is it possible to be in love when your 13? Im turning 14 in July but still....his mom wont let him date until like a 'year down the road" (thats what she told me) and we are both willing to wait until his mom 'allows' him to date....ive never liked somebody so much in my life! And hes not even the hottest thing in the world hes the sweetest, funniest, adorablest guy in the world....and ive NEVER felt this way about ANYBODY....i LoVe him....but still is it possible to fall in love when your 13?
I think that it’s possible to fall in love at any age. However, I think since you said, "I have never felt this way about a guy before." you may not be "in love" yet. You have really strong romantic feelings for him, but I am just not positive if it's love yet. I am not saying that its not possible or anything because it certainly is! My advice for you to do is to try to get to know this guy better by hanging out with him. If you two start hanging out his Mom may even feel that he is responsible enough to date you. Besides, if you two hangout and become better friends first any relationship you will have will be even stronger and last longer. Best of luck! Feel free to AIM me to keep me posted.
A week ago today, I accidently poked myself in the eye with mascara in the morning. Since then, the bit which I poked has been red and blood shot. My Mum said it was like a bruise and would probably go soon but it's been a week now and it seems to be getting worse. What is wrong with it? What should I do?
It’s probably not something to get all worried about, but you should defiantly go see an optometrist to have it checked out. Don't put anything like drops or medicine in it until you get it checked out. Self-medicating without a proper diagnosis is never a good idea. It’s not good advice to have you put anything in your eyes without having an optometrist check it first. Good luck! Keep me posted.
I think this guy is really hot. He's in 11th grade and very preppy, I'm in 9th and well... average. We've never spoken or acknowledged each other, but I figured that it would be cool to become friends with him or make an attempt. Should I try to approach him to be FRIENDS ONLY (I don't want to date him. I mean he's really hot but it's no way possible.) but I'm not sure if he may be creeped out. If I should try to approach him, how should I do it? All of my friends say go and talk to him and become friends, so does my little sister, but I'm really shy and I'm scared that someone as hot as him might not want to be friends with someone as average as me. So I'll be "rejected" in a sense. Advice? Realise we've never talked, we have made eye contact before in the band-room so I can't say he doesn't know I exist haha. But yeah.
My advice to you is to go up and try to meet him. I know that no one likes to be rejected but it is a part of life and will happen to you in the future. However you don't know what will happen unless you try. He maybe very friendly and receptive to you and who knows what will happen. You have to get up the courage and try. I know I am just one guy and it’s just my opinion. But I personally like girls who are confident and if one came up to meet me to try to be friends I would defiantly give her a chance. You can do it! Just give it a chance. Good luck! Keep me posted about how it goes, you can AIM me anytime (even if it’s just to chat.)
Ok, problem here dudes.
At my school, Im a freshie, 14/m. I have good looks, but I never thought I was something to die over. Every day I have these indirect confessions from people I do or do not know that they like me, but I can't say the feeling is mutual. I'd like to know how to break this to them in a nice way, because some of them are a little over the edge if you know what I mean....
I noticed that someone gave advice that you should flirt with a guy that you do like. You said you are a 14/m and you had "Girl Trouble". I think someone should read your post more carefully next time. Sorry… Anyways! I don't think ignoring them or trying to flirt with someone else is a good idea at all. It’s mean and usually comes out badly. The best thing to do would be to be direct but kind. You could tell them something like this: (you don't need to use this, its just an generic answer).
"Oh... Well I always saw us as good friends. I don't want to mess our friendship up by complicating things."
It’s direct, but its still being kind. Letting someone down is never easy and its never "not painful" for them. Best thing to do is to be direct, but kind and won't hurt them as much.
what are some good questions to ask when you play the game 20 questions?
Depends on who you are playing with really. If its just friends (guy or girl) then you should try to ask personal questions that you are curious about. LOL That's the point of 20 questions, because I bet that they are going to ask you personal questions right back. If its a crush then you should try to ask questions about what and whom they like romantically. 20 Questions is a great game for finding out interesting things about all the cool (or not so cool) people in your life. Good luck! Sorry I couldn't think of anything really specific for you!
(13/f)
I was talking to this girl from my class on the phone today and I realized that she is pretty cool and I want to be friends with her. The thing is that she is not very popular and I'm afraid that if I start hanging out with her, my other friends won't want to hang with me and might diss me. Am I being shallow or stupid? And what should I do?
Your not being shallow hun, its a perfectly reasonable thing to be concerned about. But if your friends are going to diss you for being friends with someone who you think is nice and a good person just because she isn't popular. Well then that means they aren't your true friends. True friends don't diss other friends (no matter who the other friend is friends with.) Am I confusing you? I am confusing myself. What I mean is.. Be friends with this girl, and if your other friends are shallow jerks and diss you then you just dismiss them. I will be willing to bet a good amount of money that this girl who isn't popular will make a better friend then those other girls would be if they are that shallow. Good luck! Keep me posted about this, and if you need to chat feel free to AIM me. :)
My room is always messy and when I clean it up it just gets messy again! Im try to keep organized but it just never seems to work! What are some tips or things I can put in my room that will help me?
The key to getting your room (or anything else for that matter) organized is to make a system that you can stick to. There is no point in organizing your room in such a complicated system that you don't know where anything is, the important thing is to make your system work for you. I used to have a messy room (I am a messy person) but now its clean because I did a major clean of the room and made a system that works for me. Now I can find where everything is and now my parents are off my back about it. Good luck, if you need help don't be afraid to AIM me!
I just bought an incense stick holder and a bunch of incense sticks, but I don't know how to burn them right. It cost 11.00 all together for the holder and the 14 sticks, and I am only 13 so that's a lot of wasted money for me. Does anyone know how to burn them, because when I did, it just smelled like smoke/charcoal instead of lavendar like it was supposed to be. I know you have to smolder them, not burn them, and I did. My mom is being really negative about it and its really annoying, so can someone please tell me how to do it?
P.S. Otherwise I just wasted a little over 2 weeks allowance, and I have to buy other stuff, too!
Light the tip of the incense on fire, let it burn for a few seconds (about 3-5) and then blow it out. It should be smoldering now and still be orange embers. Set it in the tray and let it burn. Make sure that the ashes don't get on paper or anything because it could cause a fire if you’re not careful. To be safe, always do it with an adult present, at least until you know what you’re doing. Good luck, hopefully your Mom will warm up to the idea.
My husband and I were talking the other day and he said that if he died he would not want a funeral. I was shocked. Of course he should have a funeral, it's a great way for family and friends to say goodbye. I feel it is more for the family of the deceased anyway. He disagrees, and is shocked that I would not respect his wishes. Who is right here? And if he did die, what are we as a family suppose to do? I would like the love and support of my faamily.
The best idea is to respect his wishes. Some people, who don't want funerals, instead want themselves to be cremated and only immediate family comes to spread the ashes. It’s not a big ceremony and yet it lets the family members say goodbye. Ask him if he wouldn't mind doing that, he may even have an idea where he would want his ashes spread. Many people choose a place of inspiration or where they have had a special memory. Good luck, I hope the topic doesn't bring about any sour feelings amongst you two.
I live in an apartment building. I wanted to do laundry last night, but all 6 of the washers were being used. Two were no longer running so I decided to come back 20 minutes later.
When I did, the machines were still full of clothes. A little mad I decided I would come back in a while. When I came back, all the machines were off, but full of clothes, including the same two that had been off for almost an hour. And the dryers were open, so it is not like they couldn't use them. I got so fustrated, I just decided to not to do the laundry. This has happend before as well.
Is it acceptable to just remove other peoples clothes from the machines? And if so how long should I wait before removing them? I know it's kinda rude, but so is hogging the washing machine.
“Proper Laundry Room Etiquette” would be that if the persons did not come back to claim the laundry then you are well within your rights to take it out of the washer. Before you do that be sure to check by asking anyone in the room if it is there laundry. Assuming that the person has left, then you may take their laundry and set it on top of the washer (or folding table if there is one). It would be nice if you put a little note on it saying what washer it was in (assuming you put it on the folding table) but its not necessary. You can stay (if you want to watch your own laundry to make sure you don't leave your laundry in the washer for someone else to deal with) but you don't need to babysit someone else's laundry. This is what would happen at any privately run Laundromat so don't feel guilty about it. Good luck with your laundry troubles!
I'm not a sloppy eater- it's just I drop stuff a lot. I have this dinner at our country club and it's very formal. I'm wearing this pretty dress along with all the other girls going and the guys wear suits and stuff. So, is there any way that I can try to eat neatly so I won't get junk all over my dress or embaress myself?
Aww, I am sorry. This must be a tough thing to deal with. Well hopefully these tips will help you out.
1. Sit Close To the Table - Sit as close to the table as comfortably possible so to avoid dropping food on your lap.
2. Put Your Napkin In Your Lap - Spread it out over your lap so that it covers as much of your lap as possible so just incase you drop any food in it.
3. Make Sure You Cut Up Your Food Well And Make Sure Your Food Is On Your Utensil - Eating smaller bites will help reduce the chance that the food will fall off the utensil.
4. Hold Your Head Over Your Plate - Make sure that your head is close enough over the plate that if it falls it will land on your plate and not on you.
5. Concentrate On What Your Doing - Don't talk, laugh or wave around your arms/hands when your eating or else you will lose concentration and then you will have a problem. If you want to talk or something then put down your utensil and then talk or do whatever.
Good luck! Practice makes perfect, try it at home in private before you go out in public so you can perfect your dining technique.
I have found myself snapping at people calling them complete morons and other such insults. I do it when I am frustrated or even slightly annoyed. I have no patience for anyone it seems. Later on I regret saying such things. I've said these things to friends and family, and even my boyfriend ,whom I adore. But when the moment hits me it seems I can't prevent the waspish comments from bursting out. How do I explain to these people why I say such things? I've hurt their feeling and it really upsets me. I don't mean to be mean. It seems i just can't help it.
I can understand where you’re coming from. I have the same problem, I lose my patience easily and sometimes I just blurt out thoughts that I didn't necessarily mean. The trouble is that there is really no "set" way to fix it. You just have to try and practice biting your tongue (not literally of course.) Although, I sometimes I did gently bite my tongue to help me from blurting things out. (LOL) My advice to you is to try to take deep breaths and try to keep your cool when you feel your losing your patience. It's one of those things "Practice makes perfect". Good luck! If you ever need to talk, feel free to AIM me!
Hey. I'm 13 years old and in 8th grade at the moment. Right now I'm registering for high school classes for next year. I'm definitely taking Latin 1. Since there aren't very many honors classes for freshmans, I think I want to take Spanish 1 also (it's not a honors class. I want to take it because I think I can use it a lot in the real world or w/e). My question is, do you think I should take 2 languages?
Thanks.
Let me just start off with this note. Don't take any class "just because its Honors" its the worst idea that there is. 99 times out of 100 you will hate a class if that’s the only reason why you take it. If you want to take both languages do it because you have a passion for both and are interesting in learning both. I took Latin and let me just say that it was EXTEREMLY helpful for the SAT's and by using what I learned from Latin I am able to make an educated guess about the meanings of words I don't know. However, I decided that Latin wasn’t for me so I stopped taking it. I ended up taking Japanese (which I love and am really passionate about but that’s not the point.) Taking two languages isn't easy (but isn’t impossible) and it isn't for everyone, but if you like both languages and are willing to work hard. I say that you take it. (I have a friend who takes 2 and studies other languages on her own. So it’s definitely doable.) On a side note, Latin will be really helpful with not only English but your Spanish too, because a lot of words are derived from Latin roots. Best of luck with your choice!
I am a 13-year-old shy girl looking for ways to get money. My question is, does anyone know of a website for tips and ideas on how to make money for my age?
~passionate
PS. Thanks ahead of time.
I don't know of any websites. It's really difficult to find an official place of employment for someone your age. Best thing to do is to go to small stores/shops around where you live and to ask. You might get lucky and find a place. Your best chance is to try to babysit for neighbors and family friends. Babysitting is probably the quickest way to make money at your age. Good luck!
My stomach growls everyday during school and its SO embarrasing. is there anything i can do to stop this? like any specific food that i can snack on or anything really that'll prevent it from happeneing. thanks all so much!
~Nataie
Hi Nataie,
I can understand your problem. I sometimes have the same issue when I am in school or have a very busy day. Thats why I always pack an apple or a small pack of crackers and some water to snack on during the day. If your watching your weight then I suggest packing an apple, stawberries, mini-carrots, or celery sticks (all of which are low/no calorie foods which when you digest them actually cause you to burn more calories then you consume.) If your not watching your weight pack a mini-bag of chips/crackers/pretzels. And don't forget the water (you could have juice or soda, but water is better for you.) I hope this helps you! Good luck.
My friend Bethany likes the guy that I'm absolutley head over heels in love with..I cant keep my mind off the kid and I just Love him.. Should I get with him? or should I just try to forget him?
Please I need help
Confused*
Well as a guy who has been on both sides of this situation (being the one liked and liking someone else) I think its something you should think about very carefully. I think that before you "make your move" you should talk with Bethany. You don't want to lose a friend over a guy, no matter how much you like him now. However, it’s not fair to you that just because your friend likes him that you should have to ignore your feelings. Talk with Bethany about it and hopefully you both will be able to be mature enough to pursue this guy (if you both choose to) and not let it ruin your friendship. Before you "make your move" it’s a good idea to become better friends with this guy and instead of planning a "move". You may find that you and this guy may become more then friends on your own without any pre-planning. Good luck! Keep me posted on how everything turns out.
My friends and I are trying to get this one boy from my classical music class to start to appreciate rock music and rap music, pop music etc. He isn't responding to most of it and is giving answers to rap music like, "You don't know what he's saying!!" Is there an easy way to introduce him to this type of music?
I don't think that there really is an "easy" way to introduce a person to new music. It's good that you’re trying to help introduce someone to new types of music. The fact is though, he may not ever be receptive to new music and he may never be into the same music you like. The best thing to do is to keep trying to show him different types of music and artists (as long as he agrees to it) and he may find a few that he likes. Good luck!
I'm a shy girl (13/f) and I always feel lonely. I was wondering what's an easy way to make new friends?
Well let me just say that 13 is a very difficult age (to say the least). Making friends is a really difficult thing for some people especially if you are the "shy" type. The best thing I can recommend is to look for clubs and sports at your school that you can join. If you go to church this is also a good way to meet people your age. Just remember, try to take steps to help overcome your shyness and people will notice. It all starts with baby steps. Good luck! And if you want someone to chat with about anything don't be afraid to AIM me.