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One of my old friends' never talked about guys. Like, we would be on the fone, and i would be talking about the guy i liked, and shed kinda just, "push away" the subject. She always said she never likes anyone, and she dosent think that anyone is "cute" or "Hot". I think thats kind of weird. Then one day, we were talking online, and she told me she was a lesbian. It was really awkward, and i really started to believe her, and then when i saw her the next day at school, she was like "omg that was hilarous last night! i was joking!"....I dont know but this kind of looks strange to me..Any ideas on why she might not like to talk about guys? oh by the way..i dont want to talk or ask her about this. thanks!
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There are two options:
a) She is a lesbian and didn't like your reaction so she is afraid of jeopardizing your relationship so she isn't saying much.
b) She is secretive. I am the same way, I don't talk about guys I like to people who I see more than once a month and I never kiss and tell or anything like that. In 3rd grade, I liked a guy and a 'friend' told him. M aybe that happened to your friend. I know that that's why I'm secretive!!
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shes a lezzy
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One reason why she could be holding back is that she's afraid that you'll tell somebody or criticize her, especially at school where friends are known for approaching a guy and telling them that you like them. I know that's how I felt when I was younger, I didn't feel comfortable telling my girl friends anything about boys until after high school.
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when she told you on the internet, she was emotionaly upset, and she really needed to tell someone about it. shes really confused about what shes feeling. then the next day when she said she was joking, she decided it wasnt time to tell anyone yet, that she wasnt positive that it was true.
all of the ^above^ is if she actually is a lesbian. if she isnt then she just hasnt gotten into guys yet, give it time.
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i think that you should talk about one of your guy friends and say i think he has the hots for you or soemthing and see her response, but honestly the best way is to approach her about it, just say it wouldnt matter to me, your still like my best friend through alot of things, or if u dont wanna tell her u wanna set her up with this really hot boy and see her reaction
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She might be a lesbian and confused about her sexuality.. which is normal at a young age.. so if she tells you she'll tell you later.. and if you over react she is going to deny it so be a friend so if she is she'll be comfortable telling you.. okay yea she also might not be interested in boys yet.. i'm not sure how old you guys are but im guessing young so its okay also for her to be like that.. jus continue to be her friend and everything.. she'll eventually start likin guys or tell you whats up for real...much luv dez x0x0
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If you don't want to talk about it with her then there isn't much you'll be able to find out. She may or may not have been joking. Just like her because she's your friend and don't worry about her sex life or lack thereof. There are other thing to talk about besides boys! :)
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I have a friend just like this, you are overreacting with her. Lots of girls don't grow interest in love for a while like most girls do. But we know shes not a lesbian, shes not into dating yet. But now shes had her first boyfriend, and shes getting into it now. So you should wait instead of being curious of her sexuality.
-TheTeenGirl
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maybe she really is a lesbian. try talking to her about how you dont mind if she really is lesbian.
if you talk to her and she is for sure not lesbian then maybe she likes the same guy as you and she is scared to tell you. tell me how it goes!
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some girls just arent open about the subject as much as others, or they just might not feel comfterble telling others how they feel about a certin person because people might mess somthing up.
i hoped that helped.
:)
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This must be a very touchy thing for you to deal with. I can understand why you would be stuck. I don't want to jump to conclusions but I think she probably is a lesbian. She probably told you (and maybe others) online that she was and got the wrong reaction from other people so she wanted to cover her tracks and recanted it all as a joke. I think the best thing for you to do is to take it like she said, "as it was just a joke". Don't try to pry it open or go accusing her or anything like that. Just let it pass for now and try to let her know that you are her friend no matter what. Eventually, if she is a lesbian it will come out and you need to be there for her as a friend. Good luck.
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she was serious. it happened 2 me once,and later that week my friend told me she acually is a lesbian.she said she wanted to see my reaction.and she told me that she's glad she told me.you should bring up the topic when your on the phone and tell her that you dont care if she's a lesbian or not.hoped i helped!
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I think that maybe she was serious... she probably wanted to see what you said, but didnt really want you to know so she said she was kidding.. but then again maybe she jsut wanted to scare you, trick you and kid around. and about hte cute and hot and likign people sutff maybe shes just really liek shy like she duznt like people knowing and stuff like that. some people are those ways.
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She could have been serious when she said she was a lesbian and then realized she didn't want anyone to know not even you and wanted to cover it up by saying she was joking. Or, she really could think that no guys in your school are hot and that the guys you think are hot, she thinks aren't. Maybe her focus isn't on boys, it could be on school or she could have her eye on a guy that you think is cute and she doesn't want you to know about it. Girls are like that. There are a million reasons why she wouldn't want to talk about it. Don't try to push anything on her, or keep the conversation to the boys to a minimum.
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Yeah she just wants you to forget about it. Just because she feels she'll lose your friendship because you would feel weird about her. Just support her, be her friend..and give off hints that you think being lesbian/gay is okay to you. Shes just scared of losing your friendship, so yeah...just dont bring it up anymore..if she doesnt want anyone to know...then keep it a secret and act normal!
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